Regarding the "bombshell" study, as a MRA I say wives should "obey husband" exactly as much as husbands should "obey wives"

Bilbo332 · 2026-03-12T10:09:04+00:00

Was there the same study done asking women if husbands should obey wives?

Dizzy_Roll_2411 · 2026-03-12T09:37:21+00:00

the study have biases

AbysmalDescent · 2026-03-12T14:06:32+00:00

It's ironic because I've seen countless men effectively obeying their wives in relationships and I've rarely ever seen any woman, of any age, "obey" her husband. Almost every married guy I know follows the "I have to check with the wife first" or "happy wife, happy life" rule of thinking. Everything they do, how they vote, how they eat, how they spend their free time or how much they work is effectively parsed through the lens and approval of their wives.

Ok-Coyote7550 · 2026-03-12T09:23:25+00:00

No one should "obey" their partners. Obey already implies unquestioning acceptance.

New-Distribution6033 · 2026-03-12T13:35:10+00:00

How was obey defined on the study?

WilliamRobutt · 2026-03-12T15:01:57+00:00

Gen Z is just rejecting the regarded evils of previous generations. Some of it is based, some of it is overreactions/over correcting but nothing will get better until after the collapse.

Alert_Term_8144 · 2026-03-12T09:37:08+00:00

"Obey" sounds kinky
It's also part of traditional wedding vows

SidewaysGiraffe · 2026-03-12T14:38:32+00:00

I'd want to know how "obey" was defined- but then, I'm the kind of perverted weirdo who asks people what they mean when I think I don't understand them, and doesn't automatically assume the worst possible interpretation.

Crazy-Crazy-3593 · 2026-03-12T21:23:01+00:00

Note that media reporting of this study never mentions that 18% of Gen Z women in the same study ALSO say wives should "obey" their husbands compared to 6% of Boomer women.

Mentioning that would have the effect, of course, of making people wonder about the validity of the whole thing ....

RoryTate · 2026-03-12T14:50:57+00:00

The phrase "Happy wife, happy life" is how "obey" is excused/promoted when done in the opposite direction. And how many times a day do you hear that phrase being espoused everywhere? Heck, I hear it fly around all the time in the workplace. Yes, that supposed bastion of inclusion that claims to have a zero tolerance for abuse.

You want to take a principled stand. I get it. However, you have to understand that they don't actually hold those principles. They just want to use them against you in service of their own selfish interests.

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2026-03-12T10:56:53+00:00

My partner obeys me - and I obey my partner. Generally . It’s a non issue

Gleichstellung4084 · 2026-03-12T18:26:12+00:00

This is a phoney research, as they include three countries (India, Indonesia, Malaysia), whose collective population is 1.8billion and they are mostly very conservative. This skews the metrics enormously, compared to the current situation in other countries, where the majority of the reddit users are coming from.

The numbers for the UK and the USA (the countries of the newspapers you posted) are much much different than the global average this research is presenting.

There are other methodological issues as well. But this one is very critical.

naaawww · 2026-03-12T09:40:27+00:00

Husband: “don’t kill me! Please! 🙏”

Wife: “I’m donnnne… obeying you.”

(Both of us can use liberal definitions of the term “obey”)

63daddy · 2026-03-12T15:58:34+00:00

“Almost a third of generation Z men and boys think a wife should obey her husband”

In other words, a notable majority do not believe that.

MonsterGirls4ever · 2026-03-12T17:43:16+00:00

Oh well, after finally managing to get enough scraps from the comment section, I at least have a name for that study. "International Women's Day 2026 Global Survey" or variant names like Ipsos / King's College London International Women's Day 2026 study.

Already we're starting with a big problem: timing a study for that specific day already invites trolling contrarian responses.

And another big problem is all-or-nothing binary questions with a gradient answer scale.

That's two MASSIVE red flags of a study designed around manufacturing a predetermined conclusion before I even started reading that study.

I'll dive into the rest tomorrow and break down the other bullshit.

Rothbardy · 2026-03-12T13:58:23+00:00

No. Men are leaders and kings of their domain. A woman enters a man’s life, not the other way around. A man has a responsibility and dominion over his wife. Playing cuck-man with the feminists will not appease them and your wife will not respect a doormat either.

SlowAssignments · 2026-03-13T10:12:21+00:00

I recommend everyone read the actual """"study"""" because you'll get gems such as India and Malasya responding affirmatively 68% and 48%, respectively, to the question "are you a feminist?" and then responding 52% and 60% affirmatively to the question "should a woman always obey her husband?", meaning some women out there think feminism is about obeying your husband all the time.

Also, globally, gen z women are more likely than boomers in general to say that women should always obey their husbands. So the women are more trad but also more feminist 😭 (but I haven't seen any news article mentions this yet).

Have fun (this is the press release that links the pdf): https://www.kcl.ac.uk/news/almost-a-third-of-gen-z-men-agree-a-wife-should-obey-her-husband

Also, I think it's extremely odd that so many articles mention directly in their title that men think gender equality has gone far enough. This isn't the same as having gone too far (which they also asked but got a much smaller number of men in agreement).

ThePiachu · 2026-03-12T23:34:37+00:00

Find someone you can trust and build a relationship on mutual respect. Of course step one is really hard...

DonPepe181 · 2026-03-12T15:13:15+00:00

If people are not taught to obey when they are children, why would you expect them to as adults?

MonsterGirls4ever · 2026-03-12T09:41:51+00:00

"You know which study I mean" actually, I don't. Some people keep the Teevo turned off, you know? :P

Some people don't follow lamestream media like a hawk. :P

Of course, "obey" is such a vague, emotionally loaded word.

Is it "expecting obedience" if that ONE TIME that, say, the cat is very sick, I go "GRAB YOUR COAT AND START THE CAR RIGHT NOW, YOU'RE DRIVING US TO THE VET! NO ARGUMENTS, NO BACKTALK!"?

But yeah. I am loathe to employ/take seriously emotionally loaded but ill defined language.

This is where I stand on that topic.

TheAmateurWizard · 2026-03-13T01:40:40+00:00

"A house divided amongst itself cannot stand"

As an MRA, yes I do agree with this. No it's not about subjugation or controlling women. It's about making the family unit function. In every kind of organization no matter how big or small, there's always got to be the top authority figure that has the final say. Without this hierarchy of authority, there is no organization, no functioning unit. Division and dissolution are inevitable.

Families need leadership. Women tend to get too wrapped up in accommodating a child's wants and avoiding discomfort to effectively lead the family. Men however tend to be more Pragmatic, which is exactly what you want in a leader. You someone who can seperate their feelings and see clearly what is a want and what is a need. Men are often more rational than women.

Again these are general trends. There's plenty of exceptions to this rule but this has always been the pervasive pattern. Anyone who studies psychology will know this is true.

It's interesting that everyone is so terrified of the idea that women should do what their husbands say when for decades and they've been saying to men "just nod and say yes dear".

Title	Regarding the "bombshell" study, as a MRA I say wives should "obey husband" exactly as much as husbands should "obey wives"
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Date	March 12, 2026 9:08 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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