Thoughts on circumsision

mikesteane · 2022-04-09T08:38:03+00:00

Try ejaculating more often.

Use condoms. Practice with them. You will become less reactive with time anyway. Control might take some time to learn. Once your foreskin is gone, you cannot get it back.

Have you talked to your doctor? Perhaps it's not a good idea in the US, but elsewhere you might get some help.

PrimeMinisterArdern · 2022-04-09T11:22:35+00:00

So you want to make sex worse for you. Try numbing condoms before cutting.

auMatech · 2022-04-09T08:42:19+00:00

Don't get circumcised just because you think it'll help you enjoy sex more. You'll regret it, cutting off most of your nerve endings means you'll feel way less. Isn't the point of having sex to enjoy it?

Look at the people trying to regrow their foreskins to find out more about the effects of circumcision.

Why do you want to last longer specifically? Maybe also work on foreplay etc.

Another thing is communication, when you feel the tingle, slow down or take a break. Switch positions, play with your partner or even involve some toys while you take a break to keep things fun.

And remember, real life is not a Porno...

Earl-710 · 2022-04-09T08:21:57+00:00

All I'll say, I got circumcised at 7, and you feel EVERYTHING. No 'numbing gel' will help you out, and I had to piss in a bathtub for the rest of that day :(

Personally, I want to adopt children in the future, and I'm not willing to get them cut whatsoever.

Edit: for people wondering, my parents are religious, thus why they did it to me. My little brothers severely autistic, but he never got it due to his mental disability. I remember speaking to my Mom recently about circumcision in general, and she said if you don't get circumcised 'you'll go hellfire'... They're also foreign immigrants, so it's cultural to them.

But yeah, I would never do that to my son, and also want to make it clear, it's just as painful for a baby. Just they get the privilege of not remembering the pain, and that's probably why fathers continue it down the bloodline. I recommend you don't circumcise your son, it's not hard to pull back their foreskin and clean it ffs.

Bacotell6969 · 2022-04-09T09:15:14+00:00

It's mutilation and it should be banned.

Haiel10000 · 2022-04-09T10:12:41+00:00

So... The one time i didnt last for shit in bed was when i was very anxious about it and the sex felt wrong. Did you ever feel like that? Maybe, its a problem in your mind, not your penis.

toooldforthisnonsens · 2022-04-09T11:49:36+00:00

Time for some real talk.

I'm an uncircumcised 40M and was with my ex for 20 years. From 19 to 39. It took a very long time in that relationship for me to get to the point that I wasn't a 1 minute man.

When I started dating, I knew it would be a problem.

I did a ton of research and settled on trying a spray from KY called Duration. I experimented with the number of sprays, length of time between application and intercourse/masturbation.

I got it fairly well dialed in.

I used it for a few dates, then met a lady that recognized the situation. She saw it as a challenge to help me last longer.

We fuck like champs now, no spray.

Get the spray, it works. Stop being self-conscious about it.

obamallamajr · 2022-04-09T16:50:23+00:00

Man do not get cut, trust me, your future self will thank you for still being able to go to smashing town at 60 with no prob

venom9110 · 2022-04-09T12:16:01+00:00

Don't do it. Mines cut but no one asked me. Wondering what feeling I'm missing..

masterdarthrevan · 2022-04-09T14:07:18+00:00

Don't do it. I did it at 27 and I have come to regret the decision. There are better ways and your orgasm will not feel as powerful

alexcarchiar · 2022-04-09T13:26:41+00:00

So I'll tell you that you probably don't have to get a circumcision if you just wanna last longer.

I used to have the same problem as you, I remember the first time I was intimate with my ex I came while she was down on me in less than a minute. Now with my current girlfriend, I last way longer (around half an hour between intercourse and she doing stuff on me). I think that your best course of action is of course continuing with edging etc but at the same time you have to get advantage of our biology: if you expect to have intercourse, masturbate something like 6-12 hours before, so that you'll last longer, it will help a lot (I still do this sometimes, but I don't really need it anymore). Also, I don't know about you, but condoms make me lose so much sensitivity that it helps me last longer and I was never able to come while wearing one of those.

Another thing that helps me a lot is sport. Playing sports will help you build testosterone, more confidence with your body and many other small things that will most likely help you last longer. I think you should do sports for reasons other than lasting longer in bed, but if this is what you need to be motivated to be healthier than that's ok I guess.

Seriously, circumcision should not be an option unless you need it for medical reasons. There are so many ways to please women and I'm still learning a lot, especially if you have a girlfriend take your time to ask her what she enjoys, how you can help her get off and consider toys. Or as I like to call them, tools, since that's what they are in the end.

Goatgoatington · 2022-04-09T16:50:52+00:00

I'd pay for this problem. Try alcohol? Keep figuring out techniques, don't lop anything off yourself yet my dude

sarcasmis43v3r · 2022-04-09T19:42:52+00:00

FYI being circumcised does change sensitivity, but does not cure premature ejaculation. Sadly circumcised.

White_Immigrant · 2022-04-09T20:09:14+00:00

It sounds like you're having a problem that maybe a doctor or a sex therapist could help with. Genital mutilation isn't a solution.

politicallyhomeless5 · 2022-04-09T20:49:35+00:00

Don't get a circumcision. I have trouble getting any pleasure from sex because of mine. Please be grateful that you weren't vandalized.

Lubes and condoms with Lidocaine are a great way to last longer. (I function just fine by myself)

Please please please DM me if you want more details before you do this horrible procedure to yourself.

nikogetsit · 2022-04-10T00:03:30+00:00

Circumcision will be the greatest regret of your life.

the-first12 · 2022-04-09T20:13:58+00:00

For fuck’s sake, don’t mutilate yourself.

Brisecou · 2022-04-09T21:06:32+00:00

Do NOT do that, it's not a solution to your issues. Drop the porn if you watch it, avoid too much masturbation.

Klutzy_Pride_5644 · 2022-04-10T00:25:12+00:00

I know it seems like lame advice but you just need to relax. Over think it and things just get worse. I don't expect circumcision will help you. The issue is in your head (on your shoulders) not the other one. Talk to a GP (and or councillor) and they will give you some tools to calm your mind down and get you back on track. I think all guys can empathise with your issue - sex can be a high pressure time.

xcheshirecatxx · 2022-04-10T02:57:14+00:00

You won't last longer per say. It's just not the same kind of pleasure anymore. You can learn to pace yourself. Switch to giving her oral when you're too close, for example

But once you're circumcised, sex will be less comfortable for your partner. As a woman having sex with men, circumcised men hurt me too much, I can't even be with them. Too much friction

Sex will probably be on/off and it will get worse over time with keratinization

A_GIANT_PAIN_AGP · 2022-04-09T15:08:22+00:00

Well, it's your penis so you can if you want, as you're an adult. However, I think circumcision of a minor for no legitimate medical reason is barbaric.

Edit: While it's your penis, I still think you should not do it, as it seems unnecessary, and it's permanent.

sumtinfunny · 2022-04-09T16:32:21+00:00

As a man who has been circumcised as an adult, i want to be frank with you. Its going to fucking hurt like hell. You will have stitches in your dick for a month at minimum.

Every time you will get hard in this period of time will be excruciatingly painful. Once it has healed there will be decreased sensation on your tip. (Personally speaking orgasms still feel pretty good).

The only medical benefit would be a not having foreskin issues as you age. (Obviously) sex wise, its better for the girl.

I had to get it done because of pre cancerous cells developing. I don't recommend getting this procedure unless you need to. That recovery month was hands down the most prolonged, uncomfortable, painful experience i have had.

terraformers · 2022-04-09T17:24:25+00:00

I am uncircumcised, and I just don't quite understand what you're saying in this post. I've done quite well with women and have never had any problems. Are you saying you have premature ejaculation problems? That doesn't have anything to do with being uncircumcised. If anything, at this point in my life, I wish I could finish sooner. But then again, I'm 42. I didn't have that problem at 21 for sure.

For some reason, I had my son circumcised when he was born, and I regret that. Mostly, it was because I was self-conscious about it when I was young and I didn't want him to go through all the things I had to. So I thought that would be one less thing he had to worry about.You don't have long to decide on these things in the hospital. 100 percent would not do it again.

Neppy_sama · 2022-04-09T11:57:37+00:00

I have circumcised, though idk about sex stuffs . I can say maintenance is quite easy before I had foreskin.Its been 2 years and only dried sharp threaded towels might sting but overall okay for me. Ofcourse I volunteered for this and not forced.

Medusas_Kiss · 2022-04-09T15:37:23+00:00

I had the exact same problem and went to the doctors regarding it. They instantly kept getting awkward and they would only offer anti depressant tablets as the side effects sometimes is “inability to finish”. I didn’t take that route and asked for a circumsision but the doctors said there is no chance they would do it unless that was a genuine medical reason because it could go either way of making it less sensitive or making it more sensitive.

Only way I got over being extremely sensitive was to find a partner who understood and allowed me to take my time.

What we did was For a good couple of weeks we would do it every night with lube and when I started to feel more confident we done the same but without lube, you will find that it’s 99% physiological as soon I stopped worrying about how sensitive I was down there it haven’t been an issue since. Think the weeks of “practice” was more of a placebo but it worked for me.

chicken-farmer · 2022-04-09T17:20:35+00:00

It's abuse. No other way to describe it. (Unless medically required in some people obviously)

ExMuzzy · 2022-04-09T18:21:14+00:00

My parents forced my circumcision during my teens. It won’t extend how long you last, it will just numb your sensitivity whilst you’re getting there.

Intrepid_Shift6297 · 2022-04-09T18:52:28+00:00

Drink some whiskey before yeah u smash lol

L4min4s · 2022-04-09T20:22:56+00:00

Well, everyone already said it. It's not a good idea but in the end it's up to you. You can be grateful for even having the choice because many people decide to do that to male babies.

skatche · 2022-04-09T21:47:29+00:00

My own experience with sex has always been:

Come within seconds;
Stay hard;
Just keep going, easily last 5-10min. Can actually be a bit hard to come the second time, but it's also more intense.

How helpful this will be depends whether 2 is viable for you, but it might be possible to psych yourself into it.

Rbox · 2022-04-09T22:28:03+00:00

Just because you Cum dosen't mean you have to be done... just push through it and after a few strokes you will regain your full erection, and round two will take much longer... that's what I would do at your age.

No_Cut6590 · 2022-04-09T22:59:34+00:00

Pls don't, trust me

imAlreadyBanned11 · 2022-04-10T01:57:54+00:00

Masturbate before you have a date.

If it still doesn't help, what's stopping you from going for a second round with your girl? Do your 20 stroke thing, chill a bit while pleasing your woman, then put that thang back in when you feel ready again.

Jimmy-oy · 2022-04-10T03:49:04+00:00

Try desensitizing cream.

SnooPuppers4370 · 2022-04-10T06:12:54+00:00

Dude Circumcision is literally just gonna make you more sensitive just so you know so so I think the best thing for you do is to desensitize your self you need more stamina that comes with working it my friend either with a chick or by your self.

2022-04-10T11:18:37+00:00

Please please do not do this, coming from a guy who is cut

CoNoelC · 2022-04-09T16:02:15+00:00

It’s criminal child abuse.

TsarCheeseXVlll · 2022-04-09T15:04:05+00:00

Circumcision isn't the answer. Most pleasure is mental. Both circumcised and uncircumcised can reach orgasm fast. Your circumcision status won't matter as much as your mental state. If you are really excited you'll reach the point of no return faster. Try to sway your thoughts else where when you feel like you might go over. You could also take it and have a break too. To get that stamina back. Or my personal favorite is to ejaculate once and then go for round two because the penis is less sensitive and with the refractory period you can't ejaculate again. Plus a penis is not the only thing you can use! Get creative. Fingers, tongue,. Any toys. You don't have to use your penis.

Permanently modifying your penis for others is not okay though. You'll feel pain and soreness. I don't think that's something a guy has to go through to last longer for others. Esspecially since it will probably not help. If a man is really excited for sex he will reach ejaculation fast regardless if you're cut or not

skcuf2 · 2022-04-09T15:52:01+00:00

If you keep stubbing your toe the answer isn't to cut off your toe. Circumcision is basically the equivalent of sexual suicide. It's never a good idea, permanent, and is always regretted.

oflbtbs · 2022-04-09T08:28:07+00:00

Ive heard they make condoms with benzocaine

Jay-Ames · 2022-04-09T14:35:48+00:00

The only thing i cut off my body is hair and clipping my toenails.

ggiziwegotthis · 2022-04-09T15:50:54+00:00

Bro just unload the gun before sex or there are numbing creams that don’t require you to use a condom.

Saltydawg1064 · 2022-04-09T14:36:39+00:00

My suggestion is to spend less time thinking about your dick.

seriously.

spend that time working on your education, your physical condition, your investment portfolio.

If you got enough spare time that you spend it thinking about your dick? You aint busy enough.

auMatech · 2022-04-09T19:30:36+00:00

its needed cause you round up dirt around your penis and it'll cost an infection

Sea-Channel8031 · 2022-04-09T08:28:06+00:00

I was cut as an infant so I don't know anything about if it's painful or whatnot but I would definitely recommend it

Psychadous · 2022-04-09T16:42:29+00:00

I love the scare tactics and bullshit data people cite about this topic.

Circumcised men have plenty of sensitivity. Don't buy the bs. That being said, it's not the solution to your problem.

I would pursue several things that could help. As suggested elsewhere, there are numbing lubricants as well as techniques and breathing exercises that might help. Although it can be embarrassing, perhaps reach out to a sex therapist. They may have some feedback and techniques that could help you.

If you do end up getting the ole chilly willy treatment, you should at least expect sex to be different - and you might not like it compared to now.

Archangel1313 · 2022-04-09T20:50:44+00:00

My brother had it done when he was an adult, and said it only got more sensitive, not less.

ChaosOpen · 2022-04-09T23:52:25+00:00

Circumsision is for the most part entirely aesthetic, there is no tangible benefit to having it one way or the other.

bascii · 2022-04-09T14:23:10+00:00

Circumcisions on children and infants is a fucked up, barbaric method that should be banned.

Does that mean that all circumcision is bad? No. Humans evolved from out ancestors way too quickly and as a result, both men and women have issues with out sexual organs that can only be solved through medical intervention. Women have episiotomies, while men have circumcisions. I spoke to my doctor, and I too will need a circumcision soon, although I found using a fleshlight regularly does help to reduce sensitivity and stretch my foreskin. Apparently humans have the largest penises of all the primates and sometimes our penis size out grows our foreskin elasticity similar to the vaginal canal being too small for a baby to be birthed.

The point is that while it is unfortunate, at some point, some of us will require a circumcision. Just be thankful we live in a society with modern medicine. And if a doctor tells you it’s going to be done without anesthesia, find another doctor. They should put you completely under for these procedures.

2022-04-09T16:02:10+00:00

Circumcision doesn't do anything significant lol. But pranayama for Brahmacharya and cold showers, and hard exercise all work.

AZhot4life · 2022-04-09T12:14:00+00:00

Great do it!

Complex_Lead9427 · 2022-04-09T13:50:33+00:00

Circumcision is the best thing you can do to yourself. With blocking STDs forever, painless sex, hygiene, no smegma etc.

Atheisthater42069 · 2022-04-09T14:33:02+00:00

I thinks aight

HolUp- · 2022-04-09T15:21:56+00:00

With

capitanMorgan89 · 2022-04-09T16:09:52+00:00

Im 33 uncircumcised and sex is great to me.

az226 · 2022-04-09T18:29:48+00:00

Numbing wipes.

2022-04-09T18:49:48+00:00

i got circumcised when i was 10

Niris_Chuy · 2022-04-10T00:44:40+00:00

Mutilating yourself isn't the answer...

pothbd01 · 2022-04-10T01:50:59+00:00

I’ve heard it’s hard for an adult to get circumcised. Lots of Healing and it makes sex different.

YesYesYesVeryGood · 2022-04-10T03:21:20+00:00

I got circumcised at age 39 because of a problem I was having called phimosis. I think that if you are having a problem with lasting longer, circumcision is not the answer.

When I was 21, I could only last for 3-5 minutes masturbating. In time, it took longer. Honestly, I'd wait and not get surgery for now. You just might have a sensitive bout.

Penetration only really last for an average for 7 minutes anyhow. Foreplay is more exciting for the opposite sex.

Oxoperplexed · 2022-04-10T03:28:03+00:00

There no discussion to be had. Circumcision is genital mutilation. When forced upon a child of any gender, it is perhaps the most egregious human rights violation imaginable. Perpetrators deserve the maximum punishment imaginable, if there is to be justice.

If an adult wants it, they should be allowed, AFTER much counseling and mental health evaluation. Cutting and self harm are listed in the DSM as mental illness.

Do your research. Try cremes, condoms, maybe there are better suggestions online. But you are young, and what you are experiencing will fade with age. Do not take a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Yamochao · 2022-04-10T03:31:03+00:00

Oh definitely not, you'll feel it less and it will increase your risk of sexual dysfunction https://www.researchgate.net/publication/322056383_Adding_Insult_to_Injury_Acquisition_of_Erectile_Dysfunction_from_Circumcision

thehumbleguitarist · 2022-04-10T03:40:20+00:00

Uncircumcised male here! I have done my fair share of homework as someone who contemplated the procedure. It’s essentially cosmetic. Yes, some may debate hygiene and performance but don’t believe the hype. I’ll tackle hygiene first.

Your foreskin will save your life from many diseases and irritations that would afflict you otherwise. Daily cleaning all the way into the foreskin ensures proper hygiene and debunks the notion that uncircumcised penises are unsanitary. Men’s grooming products have led the way for hygiene wipes for men that are as portable as condoms. Combined with manscaping and deodorizing, your penis will be dressed for success.

A note on performance. Performance can be affected by your overall health. Factors like diet and exercise play big roles on how well you perform in the bedroom. Speak to a specialist about getting proper blood work to assess your health needs. Stress and other mental ailments can impede performance. Seeking therapy and positive relationships will improve wellness and sexual performance. As for getting your penis accustomed to the sensation, there are male sex products designed for that purpose. I would encourage you to explore other avenues to spice up the bedroom with toys and lubes as well as allowing your partner to climax first. Many male partners feel a strong desire to climax in unison but this is a selfish venture. Every person expresses sex differently and that’s okay. Eventually, everyone will climax. Be happy you get the opportunity to explore your sexuality with someone else. Find their sweet spot so they can enjoy yours.

In conclusion, be grateful and confident in your body and the fact that you are uncircumcised. There are some men who get the surgery reversed later in adulthood. You don’t know it but in the future you will thank you for taking care of your body and taking ownership of your unique features. If you have read this far, thank you for listening to my TED-Talk on Men’s Health and Body Positivity.

Title	Thoughts on circumsision
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Date	April 9, 2022 8:19 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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