This isn't a post about looks, it's about logical inconsistency. I'm not here to argue about looks matter or not and to what extent.

What we commonly see here. When women tell about that they want men with certain personality, or how the personality is important, common answer from men is that "you forgot to mention that a woman has to be attractive first!", or "it doesn't matter because if he is attractive she will be with him regardless", "halo effect, you will think that he is nice if he is attractive", "all that matters is looks". Okay. So personality doesn't matter, women lie that they value anything other than looks.

Alright. But then they start posting about how women like assholes, dark triad and criminals. And the point is that women specifically attracted to those qualities. But i thought that personality doesn't matter? Where are men saying that "those guys are just hot, and that's all that matters, those qualities are just there and have no impact"? Why suddenly something other than looks matter? Why suddenly women can actually process that there are some personal qualities that they like? Why nobody is saying that "it doesn't matter if he isn't hot"?

Basically you can't have it both, either personality matters, and then we can argue about which is the most successive, and why. Or it doesn't, and then you can't claim any dark triad bs. The way it is now is just weird. Somehow women have to state the obvious, that (who could've thought) physical attraction matters, as if it's some revelation, and that makes any other observation about men invalid. Or they have to explain that looks do actually matter, and not all women have strict moral compass.

So which is it?