Q4Men: Would you date a woman whose ex shared inappropriate pictures of her on the internet without her consent. The ex isn’t a Chad.

Toronto_Stud · 2023-03-16T05:40:25+00:00

Don’t really understand why not..? cuz she dated the wrong guy or because that guy was a weirdo?

I’m not judging her character negatively here.

King-SAMO · 2023-03-16T04:35:06+00:00

What in the name of mandatory-HR-meetings are you going on about?

aside from this being a revealingly weird piece of fanfiction, I truly do not understand the question that you are asking; does the character in the painfully contrived situation described above match the trope that has an entirely different description?

I ‘ve dated several women with revenge porn out there, I’m not sure what the hang up is supposed to be.

domdomdom333 · 2023-03-16T09:58:40+00:00

Not a problem. Not like she chose to share then online, she had a boundary and a promise that intimate photos or videos were to remain private between them and both of them were broken. You said it yourself, HER consent was broken.

That would be the same as giving your car to someone for the day and some 3rd party crashing into them. Would be insane if her driving your cars are now off limits forever...

Awfully specific details tho, need help with anything...?

chimmychummyextreme · 2023-03-16T21:27:44+00:00

Her having previous romantic experience is already disqualifying.

MarBitt · 2023-03-16T07:38:44+00:00

I could date a woman whose private photos were leaked to the public. It would be a problem, but not a dealbreaker. Unless they are too perverse / spicy.

But was she seriously only choosing between bad boy chads, who would be her natural choice and Kevin 4/10 and choosing based on TRP advices? Even at my age of 24, I would strongly suspect that the woman is immature and she is not able to build healthy relationships, to be guided independently by her own, healthy sexual attraction.

Capeninja · 2023-03-16T06:15:06+00:00

I'd argue that the guy's obesity was a red flag she should've avoided. Not every "undesirable" trait is a signal that one's a great person deep down. Gluttony's one of the seven sins.

gate18 · 2023-03-16T10:16:46+00:00

Charity isn't single.

Charity should be single.

There's no such thing as n alpha widow.

Of course I would date her.

Ok-Flatworm5954 · 2023-03-16T14:45:53+00:00

Look pretty women have a shelf life… it’s soo many eligible females. I say if there’s crap in her background, skip.

Pretty women seem nice until you check the hoe-facts. I’ve never purchased a rental car, in my opinion… she’s the same a short term rental (cute chick to have fun with but AINT A WIFE) with poor decision making.

But it’s enough SIMPS out there who love damaged women

Most_Anything_173 · 2023-03-16T05:33:52+00:00

"Now Charity is single. Do you consider her an alpha widow?"

I'm not redpill, but I do know the terminology. No, she is not an "alpha widow". I don't think you understand what an "alpha widow" is. Also, a hypothetical guy who doesn't want to date someone with nudes floating around on the internet is separate from and unrelated to "alpha widowhood".

I don't understand what you are thinking by making this weird hypothetical post. Why would she be an "alpha widow" if she doesn't even seem to have been attracted to her previous boyfriend? What do you think an "alpha widow" is? Also, why in the hell do you think her "red pill brothers" would advise her to date an obese neckbeard? This post is incomprehensible.

Teflon08191 · 2023-03-16T04:27:17+00:00

Probably not, because I'm not particularly into women who take inappropriate pictures of themselves. Especially not if they ended up on the internet, regardless of her consent.

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Dark_Knight2000 · 2023-03-16T04:55:33+00:00

The answer is no. Don’t care if the guy was a nice guy or a bad boy, i don’t care if she took advice from TRP or Jesus himself.

7-11-21-Luck · 2023-03-16T11:31:37+00:00

I would date a woman who has only fans, so yes

Mustbeaight · 2023-03-16T06:02:09+00:00

My Brudda how did you come up with this

Barely-moral · 2023-03-16T08:41:23+00:00

Let’s make up a story. (All fake).

I love playing hypothetical scenarios. Let's go!

You meet a lady named Charity. Charity is 24 years old

Positive point number 1. Current balance: 1. Nothing to explain.

and an 8/10.

Being a 3/10 or above makes her available to play the game. Being an 8/10 is a negative point. She has too many options I will have to compete with. Current balance 0.

She was a cheerleader in high school and studied computer engineering in college because she wanted a useful degree. Charity is exceptionally gifted, bright, and is now working as a software engineer making $150k a year with options.

2 negative points. No one gets to have a good career/education unless they like to spend time and effort in them. I want someone that has that dedication and uses it in a relationship, not in a career/education. Current balance -2.

Charity is the typical Stacy. Blonde, “clean girl aesthetic” and into Pilates. But she also is extremely nerdy and bright and a gamer. So a BUNCH of nerdy guys liked her in college when she was 18.

Already talked about how this is a negative.

Charity met Kevin, now she 25. Kevin was also studying software engineering. Kevin was a huge huge huge nerd. But Kevin was extremely romantic to Charity in an endearing way. Taking advice from her red pill brothers, Charity chose to go with the nerdy Kevin instead of the bad boy chads in her class. Kevin is the antithesis of charity: obese, a 4/10, a brony, incredibly shy, and a neckbeard. Kevin was stunned that Charity picked the best and nicest man out there- him.

Positive point. She is red pill aware and thinks about relationships in a way that is methodical and related to objectives. She could have picked anyone as a partner considering she is an 8/10 but decided to go after an unconventional pick because she considered the traits he displayed as compatible with her objectives. Also, she involved her family in the decision. That is a good thing. That means she is aware that her decision making ability when it comes to dating may be flawed and looked.for male advice. Current balance -1

Kevin got too excited about this relationship. He took to 4chan and made a bunch of posts with him and his girlfriend, and the couple was gifted the nickname “Charity case” because people thought that Charity was just with Kevin as an act of Charity. Charity was just listening to TRP and picking the nicest guy she could find. And Kevin was a total simp for her and would work hard and spend lavishly on her. And she greatly appreciated him back and loved him. However, Kevin got a little too excited and began posting their intimate moments on 4chan. He shared all their private Snapchat stories and became internet famous for bagging a model girl. Men also began making memes about how they want to be passport bros so they can find their own Charity.

So either her ability to judge humans and find out about their flaws before they become a problem is flawed, her family's judgment is wrong, her family does not care about her or a mix of the three.

Another negative point. Current balance -2.

Charity isn’t an idiot

Except when it comes to vetting.

so she found out about this after a while and she freaked out and blocked Kevin. Kevin realized how bad he messed up and stalked Charity to the point that she needed to get restraining order against him and she pressed legal charges and he ended up in jail.

Good for her. Does not change the balance unless she carries with this experience as bad managed baggage.

That was during college. Now Charity is single. Do you consider her an alpha widow?

I don't see how she can be considered an alpha widow nor how she meets the definition.

I need more information to know if I would date her. There are many other factors that could change the balance for the better.

I am open to the possibility. Knowing more about her is required before making a decision.

DoinIt989 · 2023-03-16T16:09:37+00:00

I'd date an OnlyFans model tbh. Women like attention and posting sexy pictures of themselves. Why would you discourage this with your judgement?

tired_hillbilly · 2023-03-16T04:50:55+00:00

She's not an alpha widow; though unless I know Kevin I can't know this.

On the other hand, the fact that her nudes even exist is a problem. Not a dealbreaker, but still definitely not a good thing.

FlyV89 · 2023-03-16T05:12:59+00:00

Dude, just no.

Don't date her.

If you're already dating her, forget it.

fatsackguy47 · 2023-03-16T04:22:26+00:00

the correct answer is NO, unless your a chad. or unless you have already looksmaxxed to ur fullest potential.

dating as a non chad is already a sus decision, but dating a STACY? yeah ur boned. That’s way too much for the average man to handle. She will get way more attention from way better men and ur ass is getting dropped. Women already want chads who are usually way above them, but a Stacy? No shot the majority of men can handle it.

Alternatively if you’ve done everything in your power to looksmaxx and your still not a chad, might as well give it a shot. Cause fuck it you already tried your hardest to become chad. Being sexually attractive to women is rough for any non chad so if you can bag a Stacy why not cause it would probably fail in some way with any other girl anyway.

theoracleofosiris · 2023-03-16T05:51:06+00:00

Alpha widow no.

Damaged goods yes.

Do I want to get involved? HELL NO!

abaxeron · 2023-03-16T12:10:27+00:00

As far as I'm aware, women who have never put their boyfriends in jail are still the majority; I'd rather prefer someone from this majority k thx.

wtknight · 2023-03-16T11:10:45+00:00

Yeah, sure. That's not her fault that happened, and I don't object to women having had a boyfriend before who they took photos with

baresquad · 2023-03-16T13:14:55+00:00

“The ex isn’t a Chad” lol I wouldn’t give a fuck if he was. Yes.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2023-03-16T13:27:10+00:00

Before we were together my wife went down on spring break and at some points her and her friends went all “girls gone wild” some of the people there probably took pics. One of the sorority sisters did take some picks of them each flashing on the beach. She shared the pics with a guy she was seeing later. When she broke up with her then boyfriend (to get with me) he refused to give a lot of her stuff back, including the box with those pictures in. For all we know he might have posted them somewhere. But we haven’t seen anything so far and at this point she’s like “I just wish I could give you the pics cause I know I looked good!”
So not even worried.

Lovers691 · 2023-03-16T15:26:46+00:00

This scenario is so rare as to not happen in real life. I browse 4chan a lot and most there are intelligent enough not to dox themselves. That being said I would date Charity(why didn’t you pick a regular name), she isn’t an alpha widow

Royal-Tip4585 · 2023-03-16T17:32:11+00:00

I work in tech. I assume anyone who takes nudes at this point is fine with it being online. Since that shit gets leaked constantly.

So my preference is someone who’s never taken explicit photos. Unless maybe if they took them with an old timey camera and got physical copies only.

CLyD3_H3ffalump · 2023-03-16T20:26:16+00:00

And that helps your argument how? 4chan is akin to Reddit = anyone consistently on it is gonna have some negative connotation slung over their heads no matter if it's based on reality or not.

SoulBadguy0408 · 2023-03-17T00:05:28+00:00

I think it'd be awkward if nudes of your partner were out there but if she didn't consent I can't hold it against her. I don't know if I'd hold it against a woman if she did willingly want those pics out, but it'd be concerning and something to work through because having everyone able to see your wife or girlfriend naked has certain issues

Future-Stretch-401 · 2023-03-17T15:23:35+00:00

I don’t really see the issue. Maybe if you were a famous person you would be worried that it could create attention that would be humiliating to her. But in that case I think you could also afford to pay enough to scrub the images from the internet.

Cool1435 · 2023-03-24T06:22:26+00:00

What the fuck is this

Title	Q4Men: Would you date a woman whose ex shared inappropriate pictures of her on the internet without her consent. The ex isn’t a Chad.
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Date	March 16, 2023 3:12 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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