Some say sex should be shared with a special someone, channelled into deep, meaningful relationships with a lot of trust (monogamy). Infatuation is stupid, cause it's impersonal, but as long as there is mutual desire, even a half-drunk one night stand is fine. Don't pedestalize who you are into, meaning you shouldn't be into them too quick based on very little, that's like you don't even see them as a full person! But when you hookup with someone, it better be fucking awesome as opposed to "meh", even if you won't ever see them again. People should see each other as whole human beings, not as a "means to and end". Sex work may or may not be okay. Certain things may or may not be sex work. Certain acts may or may not be "means to an end". A woman likes dressing up sexy cause she kind of enjoys attention. Other women roll their eyes at men finding random body parts sexy, as it's disrespectful and not what sexuality should be about. Fictional women are sexualized in media, real women cosplay as sexualized characters in media, and they have every right to. A man jerks off to videos and images of strangers regularly, meanwhile a nofap dude is cringing about men jerking off cause that's not what sex is meant to be. A redpill plate-spinner also cringes at the masturbator, but has no issue "fucking bitches", while a male feminists says that there is nothing wrong with masturbation but men should look at women as human beings rather than sexy bodies and that's the way to be with them (so maybe don't watch porn, or maybe do). Women are upset about slut-shaming (casual sex-exploration for women should be ok!), but they don't like casual sex personally cause it's completely lacking (of the personal), smut is hot though. Someone is a degenerate party animal in their youth and wizens up into a proper monogamous "deep lover". Another person is an avid catholic until they have a sexual awakening in their 40's and start going to BDSM parties.

Okay, so are we supposed to cut out our own lust from ourselves for the sake of our humanity, and then put that lust somewhere safe? That's more or less it, right? But don't do that too much, don't actually throw your lust away! And actually, that lust can be shared too, just for its own sake. Or maybe not, never mind. Either way, don't be ashamed of the urges you are NOT supposed to follow cause it's dehumanizing! I mean, it isn't, it's perfectly fine, you just have to keep it to yourself... unless someone consents to you, then it's all good I guess. Hey, what the fuck are you doing with your dick out in a crowded area, are you insane??? Oh wait, it's private property and you are doing an orgy, and everyone around you is in on it? Whoops, my bad! All of that degenerate shit is bullshit, but once I marry the love of my life, we can finally roleplay me being raped! Yay!

Yes, I get that two people are enthusiastically 69-ing each other right now with CONSENT, but come on! It's a clusterfuck, is it not? Ok, to put it nicely, it's a spectrum, it is subjective, and it's complicated. What the wokest of you will say however is all that matters is consent. Two consenting adults may do anything. Mutual desire good. That's the ultimate progressive ideological pillar of sexuality, consent. And imo, that's a copout. It's so boring. Cause consent is nice and all, but why? If "live and let live" is genuinely all we can say about all this, that's like an admission that we have no idea what the fuck we are doing. So then at least admit that! Or maybe take figuring it out more seriously? "Uhm idk but if feel good for two person then nice". Yea, thanks, uncle unga-bunga, very insightful.