Declare your strengths!

MsSadieDunham · 2017-01-31T23:44:38+00:00

Endless patience it comes from my job, I believe. But I am one of the most patient people.
Baking I make everything from scratch and everything I bake is always a big hit
Crafts I love to do crafts and I'm good at them. Sewing, arts and crafts, card making etc.
Organization I am my office's unofficial bookkeeper. I keep track of all the paperwork and organize and file it all. I love doing that kind of work.
Handwriting everyone always comments I. How neat and perfect it is.

violetpiecrisis · 2017-02-01T00:37:36+00:00

Oh yay! I'll make this my journal entry for today too.

I am nurturing I have a very strong maternal instinct, and my friends and family can count on me for advice, reassurance, love, and a gentle scolding every now and again. I find my greatest joy is being my husband's soft place to land and oasis. Being a mother also brings me so much happiness.

I have an eye for homemaking I am good at finding matching pieces of decor for my home. I also have an eye for the details of keeping things looking tidy and comfortable. I notice rips and tears while they are small and manageable, and I can keep stock of my pantry while I am shopping.

I'm a solid cook. I feel confident in the kitchen, and can make a hardy and healthy meal even if pressed for time and ingredients.

I have good self-esteem. I feel confident in my appearance often. I like my facial features, and I feel like I have a naturally pleasant smile. I like my eyes and eyelashes, and I am confident in things like my body, my laugh, and my ability to be graceful.

I am passionate. I love things deeply and I am not scared to express it. I am very vocal with how attractive I find my husband, and I demonstrate it often. I tell my son how I am proud of him and that he can grow up to be a strong man like his father. I have hobbies I am enthusiastic about sharing with others, and I naturally love to learn about things I am interested in.

It feels good to be able to say nice things about myself in space like this. I hope everyone in this sub can come here and find 5 things that they can feel confident about. You ladies inspire and amaze me!

onacasserole · 2017-02-01T02:43:22+00:00

Thank you for this!

I'm an excellent cook/hostess. My husband loves having friends over and we've definitely become the fun house where everyone wants to come an party. I love it and I just adore waiting on people, showing off my culinary skills, and making sure everyone gets pleasantly drunk :) When I send out an invite for a dinner party or BBQ I get immediate responses and people are so excited, which makes me feel awesome.
I'm adaptable. I'm just a laid back kind of person so it's easy for me to go with the flow. This comes in handy when the husband decides to change our plans or unexpected things come up. It takes a lot to rattle me.
I forgive easily. I don't hold grudges and it's easy for me to move past things. I never bring up past things or hold onto old anger. I'm so thankful that I have this quality and that my husband does as well.
I'm funny. It doesn't come across much in writing but when I'm with a group of people, odds are I have them laughing. I used to work in sales so I'm good at quickly figuring out my audience and kind of playing to them.
People trust me for advice. I am, and have always been, someone who people turn to for advice. I'm glad that people feel they can confide in me without being judged and that they value my opinion.

Other smaller things that have made my marriage easy: I'm frugal (I know how to get deals on everything), I'm good at making a house a home, my husband always says he's relieved to walk through the door at the end of the day. I'm not at all passive aggressive, and I'm good at communicating my needs in a way that's clear but not demanding. I'm also receptive to the fact that I'm not perfect, when I make a mistake I apologize and I mean it, and then I change, because of this my husband and I rarely deal with the same issue more than once.

My 21 year old SMV might have reeled him in, but all this stuff is why he fell in love, married me, and takes care to romance me to this day. He just surprised me with Valentine's Day tickets to the opera and a note saying I should treat myself to a new dress and pair of shoes for our date :)

charlotteplusplus · 2017-02-01T00:59:49+00:00

I know how to remain silent with fools like at my dayjob
I can make the most impressive meal with anything you have in the fridge
I know enough vodoo to fix laptops
I have the best spouse ever, who I do trust with my life
I know my strength and my weaknesses

1 is the best one I think.

est-la-lune · 2017-02-01T05:36:18+00:00

I'm adaptable. I work best when plans can change, so I also look for opportunities.
When I set my mind to something, I have a lot of focus!
I'm also extremely resilient. When plan A doesn't work, I try plans B-Z and switch to a non-Latin alphabet.
I'm unapologetic and true to myself. I own and work on my flaws rather than being offended by them.

Kurai_Sen · 2017-02-01T05:27:47+00:00

This is cool! Thank you for making this thread!

I'm really good with animals. All too often, dogs that are supposed to be "biters" are all too happy to come and wag their tails at me. Other animals also seem to respond very well to me.
I'm very good at writing. I've been writing since I was little, and it's nearly as easy as breathing to me. I'm also open to expanding genres, and I've been complimented on my storytelling.
I'm a fast learner. I tend to pick up things quickly, and if I'm interested in something? I pick it up even quicker. My sitar teacher regularly compliments me saying that I pick up the tunes very well.
I'm a good listener. One of the good things coming out of being silent is that people come to talk to me all the time because I listen to them. If they ask for advice I give it to them, if not I just keep the conversation going.
I'm objective, particularly about myself. I tend to see myself through an objective lens, and it's more often than not also what people think of me. I'm aware of my strengths and also my weaknesses.

This is a really fun exercise!

Rpwrpwrpw · 2017-02-01T20:40:18+00:00

Pleasant personality, feminine and submissive, positive, laid-back, good at cooking and baking, no self-esteem issues, mentally stable, people-pleaser, nurturing, regular work-out routine, for some reason considered funny and cute, playful, open-minded, good at writing and languages, good listener, empathetic.

mabeol · 2017-02-01T01:46:51+00:00

I'm healthy! I run or do yoga almost every day, and I eat a great diet. Lots of veggies, legumes, nuts, seeds.
I'm a really good cook! I love new recipes. Cooking for my SO is one of my favorite things, and he is often just beside himself over the things I make for him. It's the best.
I'm a good problem solver. If an issue comes up with our IT/web/database stuff at work, I handle it.
I have a good sense of self worth, and I don't take things personally.
I can make friends very easily. I'm very outgoing and can quickly find common ground with pretty much anyone. My grandma always said I was a "natural charmer."

vanBeethovenLudwig · 2017-02-01T08:10:07+00:00

1) I'm pretty docile by nature, I don't like to be confrontational and generally am quiet.

2) I have an elegant taste in fashion, music, books, food - coming from an artistic upbringing and education.

3) I'm polite and courteous.

4) I'm always working on myself - whenever I make a mistake I try my best to do better next time. I'm very idealistic which can be good for self-improvement but bad for reality/perfection!

5) I know how to take care of a man incredibly well - it's just natural for me to be nurturing and loving and sensual with men.

justanotherusername4 · 2017-02-01T08:20:47+00:00

Disclaimer: I've found that in order for these strengths to be prevalent, I need to be healthy, well rested, relaxed. They get clouded easily. Writing this down helped me realise I need to practice better self care, so my loved ones can benefit from these:

I can deeply understand other peoples motives and points of view and I'm able to 'translate' between parties to resolve conflict.
I was a mother before I was a mother, so to speak. I care for people, with food, hugs, blankets, cups of tea. I almost always carry stuff other people might need in my purse: tissues, painkillers, tampons, emergency sowing kit, etc.
I can anticipate. Probably stemming from anxiety, but I run scenarios in my head possibly full time. I anticipate most possible outcomes so I'm usually pretty well prepared. This makes me the person to "Already done that thing you just now realised had to be done" or "Yes, I did bring that thing you didn't know we needed until now".
This one is hard to explain in words. When I connect with someone, I can 'see' who they are despite or behind their behaviour. At work I use this to get to the core of people, saying what they need to hear most at that time and explaining to them why they behave or feel like they do. I also use this to point people at their strengths and talents. Or at least, I hope so.
I can't deal with chaos so I look for order. When it isn't there, I create it.

thisisnotforyou_ · 2017-02-01T20:40:28+00:00

These are not necessarily all RP qualities, but they are 5 things I am currently most happy with about myself.

I am good at budgeting. I used to be terrible and used to overspend, and currently on pretty much the same salary I had before I am managing to save nearly 50% of it every month. It means me and my SO are able to travel together more, which we both love!
I am a good critical thinker and debater. This is probably largely due to the degree I studied, but I'm able to quickly get involved in intellectual conversations and debates, establish and support my point of view and such, without being rude or confrontational. I also continuously intellectually challenge my SO, which keeps our relationship interesting (he does the same back) and keeps us both on our toes!
I am happy with my body/looks and fitness routine. When I first got into weight lifting I developed a very negative view of my body, even though I had already done other forms of exercise previously and was in great shape. Getting into regular gym going at first really distorted my body image. I am now in even better shape than I was before, and a few months ago I finally realised I actually looked really good. On top of that my gym and nutrition regime really clicked a few months ago and I have managed to stick to it without falling off the wagon for months now, which I'm really proud of.
I'm indispensable at work. I'm extremely organised, among other things, which is vital for my role. It was a new position which was created when I started, and I have done my best to make it my own. I've been praised for my hard work by the departments I work for, and when I went off on annual leave for just a couple of days, I was told how much I was missed when I came back.
I keep in touch with my family and school friends. Most of my family are in a different country than I am, and when I left my mum's home for university and she was no longer pressuring me to speak to them, I lost touch with them for a couple of years. Over the past two years I have made a conscious effort to frequently e-mail, call, message and send birthday/christmas cards to everyone I care for who I don't get a chance to see regularly.

frpilled · 2017-02-01T16:22:34+00:00

I am an amazing listener. I love hearing people talk about their passions and getting to know how they tick.
I am an amazing baker! I always have had a love for baking, and it really is a great stress reliever.
I'm crafty! I enjoy making gifts and cards for friends and loved ones.
I am an amazing organizer! I keep things neat and tidy, I also don't mind helping others clean and organize too.
I'm fun! I love going out to museums ,films and theatre.

Kiivaa · 2017-02-01T18:34:26+00:00

Caring and nurturing I like to help other people and make them feel loved. I will always take care of my friends and loved ones. I am also very good with animals and love to take care of them. I really feel the happiest when I can be there for others.

Passion Sometimes I can be a bit elusive when it comes to my interest, but when I really care about someone/something I am very passionate about it and it means the world to me!

Organizing I am very good at organizing, I always make list and plans. I get teased by my friends because I am always prepared for everything when we are going somewhere etc.

I like myself Maybe a stupid one, but I am feeling a bit lost lately, had to drop out of my studies because of illness and not really sure how to live life at the moment. But I still like my self, I am smart, good looking, nice body, kind, positive and happy for the most part, funny (at least I think so) and I know I will have a good life eventually.

I always believe the best in people I might be a bit naive, but I like to think the best of people I get to know. I might get disappointed at times, but I still like to live life this way, I think it's much nicer and it makes me happier.

tippedthescaffold · 2017-02-02T09:58:04+00:00

I can explain things eloquently and comprehensively, both when writing and when talking to people.
I'm really cheerful. I rarely feel sad or down about anything, to a point where others think it's odd sometimes. It's almost impossible for me to be sad, and when I am, it only lasts for a few minutes.
I can enjoy doing anything! I don't ever get bored.
I'm great at saving and making money.
I have an eye for nice antiques and used items. Everything I own has been bought secondhand over the years, from my laptop to my couch to all of my books. I'm sure this has saved me thousands of dollars, and it makes me feel so much better than shopping at corporate stores.

NittanyLioness84 · 2017-02-01T18:14:48+00:00

My physique. At nearly 36, I'm in amazing shape if I do say so myself. This is not only attractive to men (I have proof of that daily), but indicative of my dedication to my health and fitness.
My youthful appearance. I have very good skin (I seldom get blemishes) and no wrinkles, and I don't ever drink or smoke. I tan well being part Italian, but I have very soft skin from my skin regime and diet.
My career. I happen to make good money and LOVE what I do for work. I'm highly valued at my company and even if men don't get turned on by a woman's career, men have been interested in my line of work and pleased that I make my own money and I'm passionate about what I do (I never complain about my job).
My minimalism. I'm a minimalist by lifestyle. I like to enjoy small things in life that are inexpensive, like training at the gym, reading on my Kindle, getting sushi and lying in the sun. I have no expensive habits and I'm not materialistic.
I'm light-hearted and never butthurt/overly sensitive. I love to joke around.
I'm intelligent and interested in many topics, from history to current events to training and nutrition.

ElfFey · 2017-02-02T02:07:04+00:00

I agree, this is a good thread <3

I love my body! This makes it easy for me too stay in shape and have confidence. I am really good at not picking on myself in this area; even when i gain weight or have a zit or something, i focus on the positive and take the steps to improve without beating myself up over it.
I am sensitive. This could be a bad thing sometimes as i could get hurt by others, but it also means i am empathetic, a good listener, and caring. I think it shows in my relation to children and pets, too.
I am always learning, i love to read.
I am creative, and love to draw and write, but i am creative in everyday situations and problem solving too.
I can really stretch $$$. This is another double edged one, as it's related to a bad quality of mine, being lazy, so i wasn't very motivated to get ahead in my career since i live similarly to people making more than i do. However i recently saw this as a negative and am working harder. But i never pay very much for things; for example i own some "expensive" clothes i paid less than $50 for.

RainbowKitty77 · 2017-02-02T20:59:06+00:00

I'm a sweetheart. I'm easily one of the nicest people you will ever meet. Literally don't know how to be mean 90% of the time. I'm good with kids and animals. Everyone's pets and babies love me. I'm a good listener. I don't talk very much at all so everyone knows instinctively that I'll listen and not spread their business around. I take care of my boyfriend's emotional needs. He often remarks that I always know how to make him feel better. I'm a pretty good writer. I have a side job as a ghost writer. I feel like I do a good job at it and it's something i always strive to improve at.

Buck2240 · 2017-02-02T22:12:44+00:00

Money -- I am great at budgeting and saving. I pay the bills, manage our investments, and churn credit cards for travel rewards. Many friends have come to me with questions about their finances, mortgages, debt repayment, or how to determine the best tax allocation of their retirement funds. I am able to explain these concepts well.
Cooking -- My repertoire of recipes that my husband and I genuinely enjoy is extensive, but I still love to try new things. I am resourceful, able to cook from the garden or the pantry. I am adaptable, I can substitute ingredients or pivot to another recipe when an something is missing without drama (relatively new skill).
Organization -- I am a master manager of task prioritization, I can anticipate outcomes and I am prepared accordingly. This keeps the dogs up to date on their vaccinations, the cars up to date on their oil changes, the shelf goods FIFOed, and at least one clean pair of socks in our drawers. I am very detail orientated and I love to research, I plan my garden on graph paper to insure each plant has enough room, and wasn't in the same place the year before.
Empathetic -- I can understand what people are feeling and how they got there, even if I disagree with their conclusions. I can keep a conversation moving, and pick up on other people's sense of humor, I can be both interested and interesting. I recognize and acknowledge small gestures.
Willpower -- I am not a perfectionist, but I am consistent. I have the ability to recognize "good enough" when I reach it, I know when to move on and when to let go, mostly. I am seeking to be a better person.

Making this list was difficult and I struggled to categorize these concepts neatly, but it has made me realize that I tend focus on my failures and weaknesses as places I need to improve rather than recognizing that which I already do well and using that to inspire further achievement. Thank you.

Stayathomemommy911 · 2017-02-03T00:34:17+00:00

I'm thick skinned. I don't get hurt easily over petty comments, especially from people I don't care about.

I am heavily practical. I always bring a rain coat and I rarely lose things.

I can laugh, even in uncomfortable situations.

I am very intuitive. I am usually right about people's intentions and characteristics even shortly after meeting them.

I am very objective. I tend to focus on the facts in a situation rather than how it makes me feel and I am very open to new ideas as long as they make logical sense.

SouthernAthena · 2017-02-03T00:40:52+00:00

I am an excellent cook. (Glad to see so many people have this one on their list!) I've been cooking for 14 of my 25 years, and have mastered many aspects of baking and many different styles of cooking.
I am easygoing and adaptable. I can get along with almost anybody without being insincere. My SO once likened me to to water, able to take the shape of any container it occupies.
I am always looking to improve myself. Always learning new recipes, will be going for a master's degree in the fall, and I'm thinking of taking up the cello.
I am funny. I make people laugh without realizing it, and my SO has called me the only funny girl he's ever met.
I am strong and resilient. I always thought I was weak, but after all the trials I've been through and risen above the last few years, I have to admit I'm pretty strong.

Lilviscious · 2017-02-05T11:06:51+00:00

Having just posted my flaws at another topic on this sub, I am more than ready to boast about my strengths!

1) Organization: I am a personal assistant at work and in my LTR. I aid my Captain by remembering dates for him, by scheduling appointments, by doing the groceries so he won't ever face an empty fridge or kabinet, and by doing the laundry on time before he's out of fresh socks and underwear.

2) Ambition: I have a lot of ambitions and therefor am always seeking for improvement of myself as a person as well as improvement of certain skills. I love to discover new things and to learn about different perspectives.

3) Caring: I care. I care about a lot of things and about a lot of people, which is why I will be that person who you can call up at 2 am and ask to come over to comfort you because something shitty has happened. I will grab my flipflops and be on my way, because the well-being of my SO, my family and friends is most important to me and if I can contribute in any way, I will.

4) Words: I'm good with words. I'm good at writing letters of specific themes, I'm good at explaining processes or thoughts or opinions, and I am good at giving speeches if needed to. Need someone to stall for 10 minutes by talking about the weather? No problem, give me the mic.

Title	Declare your strengths!
Author	NittanyLioness84
Upvotes	28
Comments	90
Date	January 31, 2017 11:30 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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