Did anyone else go into Nesting Mode when their frontal lobe developed?

meltilen · 2025-03-12T22:27:56+00:00

So funny to see my diagnosis here lol. I turned 29, I am a lawyer with a masters degree, living and working abroad in a big city, total in girl-boss mode, I had 5 and 10 year plans for my career but now all I can think of is to move in to a suburb house with a garden, have my own plants, eat clean, prep meal for my future hubby and kids. This U turn is crazy

vintagegirlgame · 2025-03-14T00:27:17+00:00

I knew this was coming as my mom was a doctor who quit residency once she had me and realized time with me was more important than any career or patients.

I have created a unique career for myself, all self taught/self employed. It’s in an artistic/performance field and a is super unique “dream job.” I even got to tour the world, produce international competitions and was featured in a Netflix show.

I have a baby now and none of it matters! I keep a small crafty side hustle just for fun and bc I like the creative aspect, but it’s not about money. Most important was finding a man who wanted to be a traditional provider (a builder who can build us our dream home!). Being a SAHM is the ultimate luxury! I just get to hang out with my little baby bestie all day. We also garden and want to homestead.

pumpkincreamspice · 2025-03-12T22:23:21+00:00

I turned 22 and nesting mode kicked in. Haven't wanted any of that feminist BS since.

Bidoofu_YT · 2025-03-12T18:45:41+00:00

I’m 22 right now (so almost there haha), and I’m starting my BS for Early Childhood Education this fall. I’m also getting married this August. For me it’s still worth pursuing because it’s nice to have this knowledge for when I have my own kids, and I just have a general passion for children. The plan in my head is I can work part-time at a local small/church daycare, and maybe down the line go into something more full-time once my future kids are older.

tornteddie · 2025-03-12T18:42:53+00:00

Im 19 and desperately want this lol. But not married yet, our home is a studio layout, and my bf doesnt have his career yet. Someday🙃

Wife_and_Mama · 2025-03-12T18:14:56+00:00

I always wanted this. At around 18 or 19, I fell victim to some of the feminist teachings that women are less valuable without a career. I got my bachelor's in education and master's in library studies. I enjoyed my career as a librarian. I just also wanted a lot of kids and a garden and chickens.

It wasn't until after I had my twins that I realized you really can't do all of those things. There just aren't enough hours in the day. Now, I'm a stay-at-home mom of four, who sells baked goods and crafts at the farmer's market to earn a little extra money. I used some of it to buy a fancy camera and am starting to do photography. I still have the teaching certificate and the master's degree, but no desire to use them beyond homeschooling.

QumfortablyNumb · 2025-03-12T22:02:14+00:00

Great news! In today's society, women have choices about the path their career takes! You do you!

repofsnails · 2025-03-12T21:43:04+00:00

The frontal lobe doesn't suddenly develop at 25, rather developing mostly in childhood/teenage years when it reaches full size and still devlops after that age

Regardless, I want to be a mother/homemaker as well

dashdotdott · 2025-03-12T23:14:28+00:00

Nope, but I can imagine I'm an oddball.

When I was 26, I had my first child while also in my third year of a PhD program. When I graduated, I had three kids. Now, at 37, I work in the private sector (vaccine development), have 5 kids, and my husband is a SAHD/Priest.

Ironically, I started college wanting to be a SAHM but found something (biology) that fascinates me. And none of what I've accomplished could have been done without my husband rooting for me. Yet, we are "Red Pill".

goldensurrender · 2025-03-13T08:33:18+00:00

ghostlymeanders · 2025-03-13T16:08:32+00:00

That happened to me in my late twenties. I want a family so badly, but each day that possibility slips further and further away. My husband and I both work full time and are struggling to make ends meet without any kids yet.

quiteundecided · 2025-03-13T07:58:18+00:00

Yes and no. I started having kids at 29, now 33. The nesting instinct kicked in but I never wanted to quit my career. Exclusively breastfed babies, cloth nappies, sourdough baking, making meals and snacks from scratch, sewing kids outfits, the whole lot. I had 6 months off with each baby (we have two kids, 3yo and 1yo) and returned to work full time. Still doing all of the above. Still part of a church community.

Still considering buying a business and running it myself in a couple years time.

SunRose42 · 2025-03-14T10:52:00+00:00

I think I would feel this way if I hadn’t fallen in love with a subject while in college, and the switching point probably would’ve been my mid twenties. But as it is, I’m currently finishing my PhD and would love a job in academia; it’s just so competitive that either my boyfriend or I will likely have to sacrifice our career to stay together 🫠

No-Ad8127 · 2025-03-13T01:52:52+00:00

Nesting mode is not even in my repetoire. I’m in depression mode trying to get to motivation mode when I should be in survival mode by default.

No_Sound_1149 · 2025-03-14T01:07:48+00:00

I went to Uni as a mature age student at 27 and became a feminist.

AutoModerator · 2025-03-12T17:52:39+00:00

Title: Did anyone else go into Nesting Mode when their frontal lobe developed?

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Full text: I feel like when I turned 26 I lost all my motivation to be a “boss babe” and have a career, now I just want to cook for my family, take care of animals and a house, and give my fiancé/FH a brood of children. Anyone else?

I sunk $6000+ into becoming a real estate agent this year and now I don’t want it like at all. I dread the idea of trying to pick up this career and I really just want to be Suzie Homemaker, help with our family business, and pick up work whenever I can on set (I’ve been an actor most of my life, so that plus other similar set jobs.)

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Ok_Outside149 · 2025-03-14T22:18:06+00:00

Not sure. The older I get the less I want children. 2 years ago I was heavy on the dating for marriage and children train, now I’m more ambivalent about it

spawnofspace · 2025-03-16T02:30:15+00:00

Yeah that's about the right time it happened for me personally.

Conscious-Air-9823 · 2025-03-16T15:31:09+00:00

27F. Yea but I think it was more because I have years of abuse and trauma. I’ve been “independent” since I was a kid, I was my mentally ill mothers caretaker, my sisters mother, my father’s therapist. I just want to be taken care of.

The_Gilded_orchid · 2025-03-17T10:09:31+00:00

Are you sure this isn't burnout? Starting a new career can be exhausting.

sophicatfrench · 2025-06-08T16:54:58+00:00

Waaaaiiiitt.. maybe that's why. Or maybe it is the depression.

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Title: Did anyone else go into Nesting Mode when their frontal lobe developed?

Author Twilight_Rose99

Full text: I feel like when I turned 26 I lost all my motivation to be a “boss babe” and have a career, now I just want to cook for my family, take care of animals and a house, volunteer for my community and give my fiancé/FH a brood of children. Anyone else?

I sunk $6000+ into becoming a real estate agent this year and now I don’t want it like at all. I dread the idea of trying to pick up this career and I really just want to be Suzie Homemaker, help with our family business, and pick up work whenever I can on set (I’ve been an actor most of my life, so that plus other similar set jobs.)

Update y’all: I embraced the fact that my career in real estate was a sunk cost fallacy, I now work full time in the store and I’m so happy. I can also keep up my career in film and have the flexibility to take those opportunities when they come up❤️

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HangryHangarian · 2025-03-16T22:29:08+00:00

Might be the job that’s killing your motivation and not your age. Real estate is full of soulless chameleons, sure there’s some good people in it, but I’ve worked with enough real estate agents on the sales side to have a near zero trust for anything they say.

Title	Did anyone else go into Nesting Mode when their frontal lobe developed?
Author	Twilight_Rose99
Upvotes	78
Comments	51
Date	March 12, 2025 5:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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