I've been reflecting lately on how much my life has changed since I originally discovered TRP about two years ago. In the spirit of introspection, I decided to write up a personal reflection about how GamerGate indirectly led me to TheRedPill, and some of the thoughts going through my head both before and after the incident. In the comments I'd love to hear about how others found their way here as well.

I originally found myself on TRP back in September 2014. What led me here was probably what led a lot of fellows to TRP back then: The GamerGate scandal. Allow me to rewind this story a bit while I provide some context.

My friends and I regularly go to PAX East each year, and in 2013 or 2014 I remember attending a talk about online toxicity, hosted by none other than Zoe Quinn and Patrick Klepek (who was at that point still with GiantBomb). Back then I was (and in most ways still am) disappointed over the way actual, meaningful discussion over the Internet is stymied by petty politics and personal insecurities. So I attended the panel about cyberbullying, thinking I'd get something meaningful out of it.

Overall the panel went well. A lot of online phenomenon were discussed like the effect anonymity has on us, feeling like you are just one voice in a crowd, etc. Both Patrick and Zoe pulled a lot of personal examples of extreme harassment they had received.

I had never met or even heard of Zoe Quinn at that point, but I left with an excellent impression of her. You could almost say I admired her, but looking back now, I was so BluePill in my thinking that I felt practically unworthy to speak to her (sassy, socially conscious girl and a game developer to boot? She's got better things to do than talk with me.) She seemed like an innocent developer swept up in the Internet hatestorm, but genuinely concerned with improving people's attitudes and their understanding of others.

Fast forward to August 2014. The whole GamerGate scandal erupts. I catch Zoe Quinn's name in there. I remember my first reaction was to roll my eyes and think, "That poor girl, it's happening again. She'll never catch a break."

Then, of course, I read the actual Zoe Post. What suddenly unfolded before me was not a tale of baseless harassment but a horrible, emotionally abusive relationship perpetrated on some hapless dude named Eron Gjoni who likewise thought Ms. Quinn could do absolutely no harm. The lying, the cheating, the deleting of chatlogs to avoid blame. At one point (if I remember correctly) she even makes a snide remark about being able to sleep with any [beta] gamer she wanted.

By the time I had finished it, I was certain that Ms. Quinn was a deeply manipulative person who could not be trusted. Fuck, she even had me convinced that she was this innocent, virtuous person who fought valiantly for the right thing. You could have basically substituted me for Mr. Gjoni - unable to rationalize everything he was witnessing with the righteous persona Ms. Quinn created for herself.

But what really pissed me off was not the personal tragedy between Ms. Quinn and Mr. Gjoni, but the Internet's reaction from both sides. On one side, the gamers ignored the personal stuff and focused on her of sleeping with game journalists for better reviews (this later turned out to be not true anyway). But I was gobsmacked see people actually defending Zoe Quinn like she was still this paragon of virtue, that people were smearing her just because gamers are "mysogonistic man-babies".

Worse yet, Ms. Quinn kept up the act like she was completely innocent of the situation. Anyone who read the Zoe Post could plainly see her deeply calculating personality laid bare. The chat logs were there, raw and real. Did anybody actually read the thing before jumping to her defense?

What I developed was sort of a simmering rage at an Internet culture that ignored or even demonized real victims (Mr. Gjoni in this case) while defending the innocence of a deeply malicious oppressor (Ms. Quinn) on the grounds of her reputation. Call it my loss of innocence moment, if you will.

It's probably no coincidence that I discovered TRP around this time. In the furor of rage that ensued the Internet over the next few days, someone mentioned TheRedPill during a GamerGate discussion on another sub. Curious, I delved in.

In the following weeks I had what came close to a religious epiphany - devouring the sidebar and all of the reading material. The Matrix metaphor is slightly cheesy, but there really is no word for it other than "unplugging". It's like finally having words to describe what you always observed but could never articulate. Puzzle pieces you could always grasp but didn't have the right frame of reference to fit them all into a bigger picture. Pure truth distilled into cold, hard facts.

I could go on, but you can basically fill in the details from there. My life has changed a lot since then, not just in terms of personal improvement but in the way I view others, myself, and my place in the world.

I'm sure you all remember that first feeling at discovering TRP. So I want to know what brought others here. I am sure a lot of others have deeply personal stories like mine, and I'm curious about how you all felt when they first discovered TRP.