Just ignore her for a while

throwawaybpdnpd · 2019-04-15T16:34:33+00:00

Being really busy is even more powerful than “ignoring” them, because it’s more authentic and higher SMV than playing games

KeffirLime · 2019-04-15T16:07:29+00:00

Attention is currency for a female, she want's it, infact she needs it.

Withdrawing it is like feeding cocaine to her hamster. Does he still like me? Does he still want me? Has he lost interest? Has he found someone else?

Seesawing the amount of attention you give her in proportion to her behavior is still the most effective training.

chazthundergut · 2019-04-15T16:37:12+00:00

Can confirm: this works

For newer TRPers: it is so important not to explain yourself after the fact. Dont use it as an excuse to point out her shitty behavior, dont provide justifications or rationale, and don't engage in any arguments about it.

You use their own tactics against them and gaslight her. Act like you did nothing wrong, and if she tries to talk about it start getting frustrated like see this is why I cant be around you and walk away

ignorant_investor · 2019-04-15T15:42:54+00:00

As a Chad myself I can say - this shit works. On all girls.

RPSilverfox · 2019-04-15T19:23:05+00:00

Ever fuck a girl once or twice but push her away because you really didn’t want to deal her with anymore? These are the girls you can’t get rid of, and it’s because you are unknowingly doing what OP just described. And as a result these girls will chase you to the ends of the earth. Meanwhile you have an HB9 that you’re trying to impress. You take her out to nice dinners, you’re always on time and never play games, and bam! She hard nexts you. Makes no’s sense, right? Actually it make perfect sense.

Lesson: Do this with the HB9s. Act like you don’t like her, make her pay for her own dinner and don’t be so fucking dependable. Do everything OP said to do but mix it up. You have to pull some so you have something to push.

suburbboy · 2019-04-15T15:56:07+00:00

Who chose this header color 🤮

KingMike1997 · 2019-04-15T15:47:13+00:00

Beautiful post. You must be at a certain level to pull this move off. Anyone can do it, but low SMV men will fail at this tactic every time. Think of this as more of an “advanced” move.

Ketonian_Empire · 2019-04-15T17:05:48+00:00

Shit.. That sounds awesome. I'm new.. How do I get rid of my need to have a resolution, and stop caring? But I started this with my wife recently, and I think its working.

Onein1024th · 2019-04-15T16:26:57+00:00

How do you handle the backlash? What if she chases you down in person, sobbing hysterically?

Psychoptic · 2019-04-15T16:34:04+00:00

Ugh I sit next to her in class though haha

SKRedPill · 2019-04-15T18:33:10+00:00

Dread is like hunger. Enough to work your appetite like an animal, but not so much that you starve to death.

awakenedspirit1 · 2019-04-15T17:40:00+00:00

These are the tactics that the red pill is criticized for, but they are demonstrably effective.

Communication is validation seeking behavior :)

ratshitty_heavenjoke · 2019-04-15T19:39:01+00:00

Agreed, but not with the loyal, compatible girl, in the last paragraph. She deserves time.

Bouncingoffthecanvas · 2019-04-15T18:19:58+00:00

What if the first time you tried to organise a meetup over text she ghosted/ flaked? I read here that if she sees no value in your attention initially, then it's pointless regardless. Wouldn't coming back round just reinforce that assumption?

INB4 just go lift more weights.

BlazerMan420 · 2019-04-15T17:14:19+00:00

Got two girls at work whose heads are spinning because I dropped my attention for them. They make comments, ask other co workers or talk to them about it. Its crack for them. In my case these 2 girls play too much and if they arent down to fuck then I'm moving on which is what is happening. Now they won't leave me alone to the point where if roles were reversed I'd likely be in trouble for being a creep who won't leave the girls who dont like him alone.

TheTrenTrannyTrain · 2019-04-15T19:31:33+00:00

It workes for plates who are not shitty to you. I can see new TRP followers asking this in the asktrp thread.

"She's really mean to me, but an EC said I should cut contact and get in touch with her 3 months late, then her attraction will skyrocket. Will it work?"

logicalthinker1 · 2019-04-16T00:44:47+00:00

there's a balance. You can't appear to be sulking and pouting. It has to feel like you genuinely don't care that much and you'll get to her when you get to her.

topmatrixgun · 2019-04-16T06:08:48+00:00

Works so smoothly. Actually, a girl was acting bitchy. So, ignored her. She asked for my Facebook. I didn't respond. She sent another message the next day. I ignored. No contact after that.

This was 3 months ago.

I read this post today and thought I should apply it. So, I texted her. She is responding like nothing happened. And not all all bitchy. Women! Hahaha. Amaze me every time.

dumbkidaccount · 2019-04-15T17:28:18+00:00

Just ignore her bro and hold frames

fcking77 · 2019-04-15T20:36:16+00:00

Just like Corey Wayne says, make her come to you.

Pooptrition · 2019-04-16T03:49:53+00:00

Some of the first good dating advice I ever got was my friend who told me, “Kierkegaard says, people are attracted to that which retreats from them.”

You better believe it can work both ways too - girls absolutely use this on guys they like. And guys can use it on other guys.

I don’t think ignoring should replace having real discussions when you don’t like some aspect of a relationship however. You have to communicate your needs and be willing to listen to what the other parties have to say (though not necessarily agree and accept)

Making yourself scarcer is always going to make you more valuable. But don’t use it as a cop out to avoid having real talks.

flapjacksrbetter · 2019-04-20T17:21:43+00:00

So u ignore but dont point out the bad behavior? Wouldnt the same bad behavior just happen again? If u dont explain what went wrong its gonna happen again. Cant wrap my head around this part

kevinkemple · 2019-04-16T01:10:27+00:00

but wont most women just loose interest and move on as well?

ashhjr · 2019-04-16T01:12:36+00:00

When I did this with my ex she always assumes I'm with another girl and drives her crazy lmao

riggedved · 2019-04-16T04:58:39+00:00

Golden advice. I have proof that this always works.

With my LTR, I was always there to listen to her, come to a mutual understanding, rationalise. We ended up breaking up with me getting minimal sex.

Now, with the 4 plates I am spinning, I am constantly ignoring, but getting mind blowing sex with all of them.

TheStoicCrane · 2019-04-16T05:09:09+00:00

Ignoring them is the perfect strategy when they act on on their cycle. They'll practically thank you for holding frame while they were spazzing out.

Isonor · 2019-04-16T12:08:12+00:00

Guys this is retarded advice.

YngWn · 2019-04-16T21:42:08+00:00

Its a simple yet effective little trick. The way now is, even having tons of workload from your job, or spending time getting ripped, practicing a punch-two is not enough, you have to consciously use it, because even the 10 seconds you're free its more than enough to text. My current roommate is texting pretty much all-day long and he hasn't fucked in years. Just by texting you'll miss out on lays and lose girls.

Reconnecting2 · 2019-04-17T09:11:02+00:00

Good to see you’re back with a new post.. always quality

Zech4riah · 2019-04-17T14:26:17+00:00

Good plate? Sweet girl, satisfies you sexually and emotionally? Get along with her well, treats you like royalty, never gives you any drama?

Ignore her for a while. Maybe half a year.

What's the point in this case...?

Otherwise, excellent recap.

UncleWarwick · 2019-04-24T23:39:38+00:00

I have a (former) European model plate who’s back in the motherlands. It’s been 7 months since we’ve seen seen each other.

She acted up a couple weeks after she left and I cut off contact. She came running back 3 weeks later and all was good.

She’ll text me almost every day. Sometimes I talk to her, sometimes I don’t. I get sexy pics and “I miss you” texts nearly every other day.

Ofc I’m banging other girls. But attention withdrawal is stupidly effective.

moltenw · 2019-04-15T21:24:30+00:00

Does this work only for women? I feel like ignoring your buds like this would definitely worsen the relationship.

moonchildcountrygirl · 2019-04-15T17:14:10+00:00

Theres a difference between being actually secure living your own life attracting women through innate magnetism vs anxiously forcing avoidance to manipulate attachments.

Title	Just ignore her for a while
Author	Heathcliff--
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Date	April 15, 2019 3:30 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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