My girlfriend of a year has finally reached the point where she’s getting too fat. She’s an amazing girlfriend and adds a lot of a value to my life so I’d really like to find a way to work this out. She cooks, cleans, pays for things, treats me like a king, and as far as I know has always been very loyal.

Problem is she goes to school full time and works nights so she doesn’t have really any time to work out or do anything for that matter. She also doesn’t have much self control with her eating so I’d say she’s gained probably 40 lbs in the last 6 months. I’m beginning to lose attraction and interest in sex and I don’t know what to do anymore.

I’ve been trying to hint that she should change her eating habits and I think she picks up on these hints but she never changes anything. I even started going to the gym again because admittedly I put on about 10 lbs but it still didn’t motivate her much. So should I just come out and say “you’re gaining too much weight and need to change something”?

She also said something last night that was very concerning. We were talking about skinny women and she said that being skinny wasn’t realistic for most people and everyone should just be comfortable the way they are.

Thanks guys

Update: I posted a picture of myself at the gym saying how motivated I was and she texted me “I’m sorry if you don’t like the way I look :,(“ no idea what to say