My ltr is testing my frame

unnatural_by_nature · 2020-07-25T02:39:27+00:00

I’d STFU and see if she actually puts it out or mentions it again. She’ll reveal her true intentions soon, I’m guessing.

fillorkill662 · 2020-07-25T03:03:49+00:00

Wait, your LTR has a male roommate?

uchihaitachi1237 · 2020-07-25T07:02:01+00:00

Hard next bro. Have some self respect for fucks sake

halleluiaiaia9292 · 2020-07-25T03:19:23+00:00

Listen to your gut. Its always right. She and he are disrespecting you. If she was a straight woman the roomate would NEVER dare to give a gift like that to her. But the fact that he felt it was ok means they probably joke a lot, flirt or even worse.

I would just get out, she smells like trouble

WizardSenpai · 2020-07-25T06:34:06+00:00

you guys are so radical, the maximum measure he should take in the meantime is silent demotion to plate. how do any of you guys maintain shit if you jump to ghost immediately at every chance.

custoscustodis · 2020-07-25T04:17:51+00:00

Walk while you still can. Imagine being married to her and she pulls that type of stunt fairly regularly.

holyshocker · 2020-07-25T04:28:23+00:00

Oops her roommate got naked and fucked her. "But it told him to get naked teehee". Plausible deniability from a rug.

therowdygent · 2020-07-25T06:48:02+00:00

Fuck her on the rug.

Secret_Twitch · 2020-07-25T03:27:16+00:00

These are red flags brother! The living situation and one of her male housemates gives her a rug that says “get naked”? I would dump her immediately and don’t even tell her why. Seriously, ghost that bitch. If you must stay with her, stfu hold frame and start active dread game on her.

MA1998 · 2020-07-25T08:12:11+00:00

Mate, have a bit of self respect. End it. If your female roommate got you a rug that said the same and you blabbed about it to your girlfriend, imagine her reaction. Stop being soft. There’s plenty women out there. Don’t settle and turn into ltr status until you’ve vetted and checked for at least a year.

TRPCops · 2020-07-25T16:28:03+00:00

I don't like to make actual comments on this mod account, because it's shared and we like comments to stand on their own.

But holy shit, let's set the record straight here.

You're absolutely an egoic cunt for letting a gag gift get you this mad.

The dudes in the comments saying she's cheating on you, hard next, whatever, also egoic fags.

There is a single prescription here: make your own decision once you have enough time to let your emotional reaction settle. That might be demotion or hard next, it's up to you. Even if you do it out of ego, I'm not going to fault you, it's your choice. You'll learn something.

But really, a rug?

SeasonedRP · 2020-07-25T12:20:27+00:00

I agree with the commenters saying that this was extremely disrespectful and that you should be talking to other women. And my guess is that rug seems so funny to those two because it refers to some inside joke or situation that occurred between them. You shouldn't be in an LTR with this girl.

2020-07-25T13:24:24+00:00

She has 4 male roommates? Why you even LTR'ing this hoe? Go read the sidebar

2020-07-25T07:06:28+00:00

lol just say: "You home tomorrow"? she says yes. You say cool.

Go over tomorrow, and say: "look, i think you're great, just don't think this relationship will work out." Give her back her stuff, kiss her on the forehead and leave.

She'll throw a tantrum, don't get emotional. Just say yeah, it won't work out. Then leave.

This will be hard. You've got emotions invested. But she'll never disrespect you again. She may come crying back, and then you can choose to have her back. But either way, internally prepare yourself to move on.

commmons3nse · 2020-07-25T07:43:26+00:00

Idk if this is a troll thread and everyone in comments is joking as well, but if not, seriously why do you even care about some carpet? I wouldnt care what her stupid roommate got her for birthday lol

Filmguy000 · 2020-07-25T09:50:42+00:00

Male roommates? One of them gifted her a rug with sexual innuendo? Something about her is communicating to him that this is alright. Watch this carefully. It's clear that she hasn't given him any vibes of having boundaries. And the gift is his indirect way of throwing the fishing line into the pond hoping she'll bite. The only way I might give it a pass is if it was her queeny gay friend. But even then, not ok with it overall. Remember women (especially nowadays) have a poor sense of agency. He's doing his thing and she is doing hers, but lines need to be drawn.

But for now I'd say just watch her closely for the time being. Because if you act out, she will close off and possibly fabricate a way to turn it around on you and make you the asshole. Her roommates will then become her allies in reinforcing her gas lighting and make it even worse. Especially homeboy with the rug.

2020-07-25T11:29:25+00:00

It seems like she's spinning plates. She has "two in the kitty"

TRPCops · 2020-07-25T11:44:40+00:00

You can’t “hold frame” if your frame is nonexistent.

sowhattwenty20 · 2020-07-25T07:10:24+00:00

This more of a purple pill question, because LTRs immediately suck your power away and you end up doing male hamstering over this kind of bullsh*t. Work on finding plates and be ready to monkey branch. Heterosexual male roommate spells trouble.

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2020-07-25T04:44:27+00:00

dump her, its not worth marrying someone who does this.

your partner should treat your sleep hygiene like a sacred act, otherwise they are complicit with the belief that you are not a team nor a partnership

feerenough · 2020-07-25T13:55:31+00:00

Hold frame but from now on expect the worse and prepare yourself for it

lonewolf2404 · 2020-07-25T05:02:26+00:00

I don’t get why people still opt for an LTR. Hard next if you don’t want any problems.

LeftHookTKD · 2020-07-25T07:06:31+00:00

If it was some random friend I wouldnt think much.

But it's her MALE ROOMMATE.

If it offends you (it would offend me too, even if this guy acts like a beta and I'm superior than him physically), I would stop taking her serious and just use her for sex or end it straight up if you dont want to deal with her BS anymore. If you choose option 1 then stop hanging out with her as much and stop talking to her as much. Just communicate when you want something from her.

There's no reason to be in a serious relationship with a slut. Even if the guy is not a threat to the relationship, doing offensive shit like this tells you a lot about her.

idevastate · 2020-07-25T07:13:54+00:00

Whatever you do, do not come off as upset to her. Multiple ways to go about it from here.

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-07-25T07:14:07+00:00

Run dread game.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-07-25T08:33:05+00:00

Only question is, did you get her a bag of Skittles?

Guy sounds like a real cringey thirsty fucker. Who the fuck buys a coworker some edgy borderline inappropriate rug for her birthday. Nothing about this says mental competence or high value.

If her bragging about it and trying to rustle your jimmies, bothers you, go do something else for the weekend. Go basically radio silent and go camping or some shit.

cglehosit · 2020-07-25T15:44:05+00:00

Hahaha are you 16 years old dude? Your girlfriend’s roommate orbiter told her to get naked with a gift and you don’t know what to do? It’s either 1. A complete joke and you’ve got your panties in a bunch (and you should know if she’s just being funny by now!) or 2. They’re fucking behind your back.

Just because you call some bitch your “LTR” doesn’t mean she’s your property now or some shit. You let her piss you off, that’s your fault, event if you didn’t show it. You’re spending your time and emotional energy whining about it to a bunch of a strangers online. Sounds like you need to STFU and go back to reading the side bar. You wouldn’t care about this shit, and she would have been more transparent, if you were too busy worrying about your goals and missions. Get this high school drama shit out of your life.

babban_rao · 2020-07-25T04:26:44+00:00

Next her.

DirtyLickins · 2020-07-25T08:07:06+00:00

A&A.

mrrooftops · 2020-07-25T12:24:08+00:00

So? Tell her "that's exactly what we're gonna do on it tonight. You should ask him to get a rug like this for every room in the place". The thirsty coworker guy's giving you all the shit you need to dominate his gestures to her.

HectoSexual · 2020-07-25T12:24:58+00:00

Just chill and don’t be insecure.

2020-07-25T16:08:01+00:00

So your LTR lives with another guy... am I the only one that finds something wrong with this if he's not gay?

2020-07-25T07:35:18+00:00

Hard next.

Why are you putting up with this shit?

Too many guys on this sub put up with way too much shit.

Have some respect for yourself.

Hard next.

GoFuclcYourself · 2020-07-25T14:40:19+00:00

Just tell her it’s a good suggestion and she should get naked more often for you. Or just spin it. ‘Why the fuck would he want to see you naked? I mean theres not much to look at!’

SIR_SKINNYPENIS69 · 2020-07-25T14:59:05+00:00

Think you're acting a little psycho tbh. I'd just remember it and be aware of the roommate a little bit, but otherwise do nothing.

Sliw · 2020-07-25T15:38:42+00:00

You're making assumptions and taking it personally.

Silly little girl did a silly little girl thing, and you're responding like an angry child.

Also, your girlfriend lives with another dude, that she works with? Do we need to tell you how this is likely to work out? Recondition your expectations. Enjoy it for what it is and move forward accordingly.

Gordon-G · 2020-07-25T15:45:05+00:00

You need other plates to spin., you won’t have oneitis then., ...remember must care less to be in control of the interaction/relationship!!

Must be aloof, idgaf attitude!!

XT3M3 · 2020-07-25T16:03:42+00:00

why is this getting so many upvotes? to show people what an overreaction looks like?

you care too much could habe easily turned it into something like , haha I'll take care of that, but now you got this dude living rent free in your head. A/A bro

Optionsmfd · 2020-07-26T21:27:18+00:00

as a guy that got snipped 7 years ago and doesnt use rubbers... i couldnt date or plate anyone living with 4 dudes.............

so plate status at most and cover ur member..... and mentally b aware ur not the only dude shes banging............

dtyler86 · 2020-07-25T14:50:55+00:00

Woah woah woah. Relax dude. Soft next? Hold frame? It’s a bathroom mat. I’m a real estate photographer and I’ve seen this in several college aged girls bathrooms. If I had to go to target to find a thoughtless gift for a female friend there’s an 80% I’d land on that too. Doesn’t mean she’s testing your frame. She probably just wanted an excuse to text you and thought you’d think it was funny too.

Cruise25111 · 2020-07-25T12:02:06+00:00

She’s just showing you that she has interest from other guys, who gives a shit. If my ltr does something like this then I don’t pay it a lot of attention and go on about my day. It isn’t really significant to me. Judging by your language you sound a little controlling and probably don’t like that you can’t control that she is around other guys. Sleep on it and you might have a different mind frame in the morning.

dgasbird · 2020-07-25T05:22:24+00:00

just ask her what she is going to do with the rug.

Title	My ltr is testing my frame
Author	alphaonthecomeup
Upvotes	79
Comments	99
Date	July 25, 2020 2:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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