Red pill and cheating?

WillWorkForLTC · 2016-04-20T16:00:50+00:00

If you commit an LTR and she cheats, you hard next her and move on to your next option.

If you have commited to an LTR and feel tempted to cheat you also just end it because what point is there being an LTR if you do not want to be tied down and you have options?

iamirishpat · 2016-04-20T16:10:01+00:00

You're a man of your word right?

If you promise a girl you're not going to see other women, then you don't see other women.

It's simple. I'll be surprised if any of the guys here will directly advocate cheating.

MeatCurtainRod · 2016-04-20T17:19:07+00:00

The only rule of thumb is to stand behind your word. If you agree to be exclusive with a girl, then as a man, your honor and integrity is your word and you took affairs off the table.

From the point of view of plates, it isn't cheating, because as a man, you should have already let each and every girl know you aren't exclusive.

This goes for women as well. Cheating is cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter if it is just a kiss or just a flirty text or just light touching or just up the ass.

IVIaskerade · 2016-04-20T17:13:28+00:00

If she wants to cheat on me, that's her problem and the relationship is over.

If I want to ~~cheat on her~~ fuck someone else, I'll end it.

If she wants to cheat on someone else with me, that's on her.

Wolfwoodd · 2016-04-20T17:37:18+00:00

I'm strictly and openly non-monogamous. Cheating isn't something I ever worry about.

absolucion · 2016-04-20T16:14:25+00:00

If you're asking about the man cheating, I personally think it's stupid and unnecessary. If you don't like a woman, don't waste your time and just drop her. You and your reputation both take a hit and my personal philosophy is that your reputation is kind of like your credit score; easy to fuck up but difficult to build up. I'd rather be known for being direct and valuing my time (amd others' time) than for being too afraid to tell someone I'm not into them anymore.

As for dealing with it, I've told women (including my LTR) that if they want to pursue something else, they can but not to expect me to stick around. Let me know so I don't waste my time. It's been an effective strategy for me.

Edit: I forgot to add that I make it my business to avoid women who are taken although some have slipped through the cracks. I've been with three women that, at one point or another, let me know they had boyfriends. I cut them off immediately since that overcomplicates my life.

americnleprchaun · 2016-04-20T16:46:26+00:00

If you're exclusive, don't cheat. If you want to cheat, break up and don't be such a self-indulgent pussy

JG60 · 2016-04-20T18:44:20+00:00

REDPILL IS AN AMORAL SEXUAL STRATEGY!!!

We are not concerned with whether cheating is right or wrong, only about whether it's effective. In most situations it's probably more trouble than it is worth.

Where did this being a man of your word come from? How is that even part of a sexual strategy? You should only consider your reputation. If lying or cheating has a low probability of harming your reputation and a large upside (whatever that may be) then why not?

RP_WIP · 2016-04-20T17:06:56+00:00

You're overthinking TRP. Use the knowledge provided to make whatever you want to happen, happen. If you like the idea of exclusive LTRs, make her work for it. TRP's stance is the lower your SMV, the harder EVERYTHING is. Improve your SMV and demand your women to be exclusive and HARD next if they disobey. You are the man, you define your boundaries and you ENFORCE them at all costs, even if you "really like this one"

As far as children go, I have one, its not all what its cracked up to be. Maybe it would be different if I had a son instead of a daughter, and the mother wasn't a complete psychopath from a broken-ass family (my story on finding TRP that I still haven't the balls to post)

pickledpeas · 2016-04-20T19:02:52+00:00

Guys who regularly cheat on their LTR are basically just afraid of being alone and use their LTR as a safety net.

If you want to sleep with multiple women go and do that, learn how to spin plates and manage your bitches. No need to lie and be slippery about what your want, especially when it involves someone else's time and commitment.

Gawernator · 2016-04-20T19:16:03+00:00

Don't cheat on a exclusive LTR

Shyrk · 2016-04-20T20:01:08+00:00

Everyone here can have their own stance on the issue, but the true answer has long been stated in the sidebar.

"The Red Pill is sexual strategy, and strategy is amoral."

If you don't want to cheat, don't cheat. It's your decision to make.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-04-20T19:55:37+00:00

If you Don't Take The Pledge, i.e., promise exclusivity, then you're not cheating. To wit, two of my plates know about each other, specifically, and that there are others. Another plate knows, generally, that there are others. One plate likely assumes there are others, but never brings it up.

Incidentally, women will share a high-value man, if they are comfortable that they are not going to get tossed out and left by the side of the road somewhere. Ex. the pate who I said "knows generally" was a part of a pair of "matching bedposts" that I used to have - I was dating her and her roommate. So she has only ever dated me when she has known, explicitly or implicitly, that I am dating others.

pagan2287 · 2016-04-20T16:28:53+00:00

Part of being Red Pill is being a man of your word. If you say you are going to do something, you do it. If you promise to be faithful and decide ,"meh fuck it", you are no longer a man of your word. Just break up, or better yet, don't get married or commit to just one until you are sure it is forever.

[deleted] · 2016-04-20T19:23:49+00:00

Cheating means you're too much of a pussy to state your true intentions at the beginning.

Don't make a promise you can't keep. Just be honest that you're not interested in being monogamous.

PLOgod · 2016-04-20T16:54:04+00:00

A man honors his word - to his family, to himself, and to his woman. If you're tempted to cheat on your woman, you need to tell your woman you want sexual relations with other women. Then, let her decide whether she's content with you having them while being in a relationship with her, or whether she wants the relationship to end.

You've told her what you want, and you stand by it. Don't tell her and then back out of wanting to fuck other women just because she says 'no'. Then, it's time to end your current relationship to pursue others.

PantsonFire1234 · 2016-04-20T22:17:57+00:00

Cheat all you want brother, they'll be doing it to.

Docbear64 · 2016-04-20T22:41:51+00:00

I don't cheat , I just make it clear from the beginning I don't seek exclusivity . I get bored too easily to be locked down and honestly if you let a chick know from the beginning she will either be okay with it .... say she's ok with it and try to convince you that she's all you'll ever need ( adorable) , or outright give up on you... the last one is the least likely ...more often than not it's just a shit test until she comes around to trying to prove you the only one she'll ever need .

nummas · 2016-04-20T22:42:57+00:00

I have cheated before and if was in LTR I would no doubt do it again. So I don't see the point being in an LTR. Spinning plates is more easy for me as I have no interest in getting married or having kids.

PeopleHateThisGuy · 2016-04-20T23:52:26+00:00

If you commit to someone and decide to cheat, you're a dishonest piece of shit. If you want to fuck around, spin plates.

JourneymanTRP · 2016-04-21T12:15:41+00:00

A man is as good as his word. If you are straight up bullshitting your LTR, well then it's likely you're spitting bullshit all around. If you want to have your words hold weight with anyone else, they need to be truth.

That said, Red Pill isn't really concerned with commitment issues so much as strategy. There is too much morality tied up in that issue, and you won't really find a strong stance on it here either way.

RichieFinn · 2016-04-20T17:13:52+00:00

Be man and own your shit. No ones got a gun to your head forcing you into any situation.

CrodudeClassic · 2016-04-20T18:37:53+00:00

Personally, I think a man should keep his word - it's a rare ability these days and it will not go unnoticed by your peers and superiors. If you say you'll be faithful, be faithful. If you say you'll try your best, try your best.

As far as cheating with a girl who is in a "LTR" while you're single? To each his own. I am not really comfortable doing that, it'd make me feel dirty after the deed, as if I had slept with tainted goods. But many men have no problem with it, and see it as "if not me then she's just going to go to the next guy and do it anyways, might as well get something out of it." If that's you, kudos, make sure you wrap that shit.

Rorta · 2016-04-20T19:15:10+00:00

If I'm in an LTR I am in an LTR because I see more value in a girl than simply sex. She adds value to my life because she's intellectual or she has connections or she will do things that help me on my journey.

If I simply want sex then I won't invest anymore into a girl than just plating her. If I find myself wanting to fuck other women to the point I'd cheat on my LTR then simply she's not adding enough value to my life.

I've cheated in the past and the truth was that I was deeply unhappy as a person and relied on sex for validation, deeply unhappy in my relationship and above all too afraid to close that relationship down and move on.

BlackPhoenix01 · 2016-04-20T19:20:10+00:00

I'm a man of my word. I'll be honest and forthright with what I want. If I want a monogamous relationship with someone, I'll commit to that, not because I'm loyal to the girl, but because I still believe a man's word should be worth something.

Cheating hurts people. It's happened in my extended family a couple of times and it's after-effects aren't very pretty.

However, if I and a partner agree to being FWB or being in an open relationship. Well, it's not cheating, because I would have agreed beforehand that we could see other people

returnofthemackX · 2016-04-21T00:11:21+00:00

If you want multiple women, spin plates. Don't cheat on an exclusive LTR.

huge_gap · 2016-04-20T20:35:53+00:00

Yeah! Cheating is bad and you're a pussy if you do it! (R 38 of Power).

balalasaurus · 2016-04-21T00:06:46+00:00

All women cheat, so you need to cheat too. If you are in a relationship and not cheating, you are getting cucked.

TorboLeto · 2016-04-20T16:51:30+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't cheat. Probably couldn't even if I wanted to.

One thing I strongly believe though is that the whole "every woman is capable of cheating" should actually be changed to "all women are cheaters." That is, given the right circumstance. Some women put themselves or there, some don't so never/rarely get the chance to cheat. Some don't put themselves out there, but they're so hot that they get hit on so often and this eventually presents the right opportunity/circumstance for them to cheat.

So with this in mind I think if you feel you could cheat and get away with it (free conscience and not getting caught), why the hell not. Pretty sure one of the 48 laws of power is to safeguard your reputation, so remember that too.

Title	Red pill and cheating?
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Date	April 20, 2016 3:57 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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