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[–]tikkikinky 303 points304 points305 points 3 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
You let her find the third.
[–]Neo-Rio 89 points90 points91 points 3 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
I third this opinion. When it comes to threesomes it's up to your girl to do the legwork. Go to the bar, let her find the girl and chat her up, etc. She'll be much better at communicating this to other women than you will. If she's scared of doing that, you'll have to train her, but she will still have to do it.
Once you are all together, you are simply generously putting yourself out there for two women to have fun with and to be treated like a sex object. You let your partner do the movie direction in such a way that fulfills her fantasies. Talk about it before hand.
In most cases you should only focus on your girl and get her off first while not really concentrating on the other one. If your girl gets jealous, she'll call the whole thing off before it even starts. Yes, I learnt that from painful experience.
[–]CyndaquilTyphlosion -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You got to see 2 girls naked... Doesn't sound so painful!
[–]MacDwest 91 points92 points93 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This. Don’t be overly eager about the opportunity either, let her lead entirely on this one.
[–]micahbevans88 23 points24 points25 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yep. My ex kept bringing it up as something she wanted to try, but then later on when I brought it up she got really insecure and started worrying that she wasn't enough for me.
[–]tikkikinky 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Has she ever been with another woman? Like more than just a make out session with a high school girlfriend. If not you may want to consider letting her go off on her own to explore. Another possibility (one I’ve personally done) give the conversation a rest for a bit. Then one day approach carefully and ask her what her type is. Ask her to look up pictures of women on the internet and show your. Don’t be pushy about it! Give it a couple of days then ask her how she would feel about getting a stripper to come to your place. The big thing here is for you to allow her to see how turned on she gets. Let her know that it’s for her not you. Hopefully you’ll have a really good time after, but you’re gonna need a lot of self control. This could end up being a long game for you. Just don’t be pushy, that’s the fastest way to either make her shut down or lose her.
[–]LostInAnotherGalaxy 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You being interested in her interest out of curiosity as a way to get her to grow it in her mind is a dangerous game but so right.
[–]Justwatchinitallgoby 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the way….
[–]D3vi1b0y-1 point 3 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Yes let her find a third. You get to choose from her picks since you'll be involved if she has more than one option. Normally her choice is fine.
Don't rush anything.
[–]Kukantiz 116 points117 points118 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She finds the third. You play it cool and don't act desperate.
[–]TeddyKisss 74 points75 points76 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Try putting a sign in your yard, a car magnet, or putting some feelers out in your church. Start local first.
[–]neversleeps212 23 points24 points25 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
And don’t forget to ask around at your next PTA meeting and also update your LinkedIn bio for maximum coverage!
[–]Maschinen11 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I also hear Facebook ads are good at targeting the right demographic.
[–]neversleeps212 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or just use a Facebook post for free.99! That way your mom knows to ask around at her book club and your great aunt Carol can check with her knitting group to help you find a third!
[–]C0333 26 points27 points28 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I have had a lot of threesomes. In my opinion they only work two ways. One is two girls already have a relationship of some sort and I join or the other option is me and a buddy find a girl who’s into being double teamed.
[–]Maddzilla2793 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Do you find the latter often?
[–]C0333 41 points42 points43 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not as much as I used to when younger, although I don’t go clubbing as much and I have fewer male friends who are still greasy degenerates.
[–]TeddyKisss 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol bhahahhahah greasy degenerates
[–]matthewonthego 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Where did you find those girls?
[–]YJeeper456 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In my experience I found these girls through my social circles. Went to a group day kayak trip and one of the girls there I knew introduced us to her friend. The next weekend after the bar I’m in the strip club with both of them. It was definitely a setup.. I was framed.
[–]C0333 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
For me, clubs and bars. You need a certain mindset to find the right girl and you have to be able to work as a pair with your buddy to close the deal. For girls it always started with one girl you could find anywhere and then her friend would get involved because we were all hanging out together. Most were roommates
[–]distawest 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Watch your step, experimentations of this kind are likely to start an avalanche. The relationship will not be anymore what it used to be.
Unwelcome developments may come up, embrace yourself to face anything
[–]Ok-Restaurant-935628 points 3 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I would let my girlfriend open a tinder account and write her bio about threesome.
[–]YuSmelFani 18 points19 points20 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s surprising how many girls that were actually looking for guys swipe right on couples’ profiles.
[–]noldi123 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Feeld
[–]TheRealAlkemyst 11 points12 points13 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Remember being she is Bi it's not always going to be M/F/F and also know the male partner may also be Bi. Some guys are OK being pegged, some it's no go. I'd get the rules and what you are comfortable with settled in advance.
[–]HHaTTmasTer 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I mean, the implication is that the OP isn't bi, so i guess it is a no-go.
[–]Dorkuzan 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wellllllll dont knock it till you try it
[–]HHaTTmasTer 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is a good argument to make someone addicted to cocaine!!!
The thing is that a lot of people don't want to try it not because they have their beliefs, because they don't want the trouble of questioning their sexuality, they don't want the trouble of practicality (i mean making a child is usually easier then adopting and it develops the parental instincts way faster, even if you want to adopt in the future too), but also some people are VERY instinctively repulsed by homossexual activity, saying all of this isn't homophobic is just a recognition of reality, if it is wrong to push a homossexual into heterosexuality the opposite is also true, but it is specially manipulative if it comes as a demand from your partner, this isn't like losing weight.
Btw i know you didn't spoke seriously most likely, but it is important to tell the message that it is really not okay to try and influence people into a certain sexuality.
[–]TheRealAlkemyst -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not always. Just letting them know what to consider.
[–]ishandesai 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro I had same situation my girlfriend wanted to kiss girl in front of me and do things in front of her but when I brought it up she became my ex now 😁
[–]MJB360 14 points15 points16 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Makeyoufeelgood08 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
3fun,Feeld. Also I have seen Tinder and Bumble work. Just make sure to write what you are looking for on Bumble/Tinder. You can also get her to make a profile and put her interest in girls. Good luck!
[–]Ok-Quantity-6388 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes. I’ve successfully done this and the girl needs to do it.
[–]gorilla_blanco 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is fools gold… she just wants a hall pass to cheat… sorry bro
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This! Threesomes are fine and dandy if you aren’t serious with her, but in a committed relationship? That’s a hell no from me.
[–]LubaUnderfoot 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hire a sex worker.
[–]jhnusau 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bumble could be a good place to find bi girls.
[–]twood2538911 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Make sure is sexual not bipolar...
[–]Felix1178 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You lucky bastard 😊❤️
[–]Fluffy_Risk9955 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Always have your girlfriend pick the girl. She'll pick someone less pretty than she is otherwise her competition anxiety gets too much and you risk collateral damage. Believe me I've been there.
[–]Snoo-20788 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There's a good reason that this is called a 'unicorn'. In the polyamory community it's known to be very hard to find women who are happy to be the third wheel for a couple.
I think this is because most women hookup with some hope that it will end up in a relationship. Which is why they'd rather hookup with a player who they might turn around, than with a guy who's in a serious enough relationship that his partner is confident to let a third in.
[–]mrcloso 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I would say hire the third. Bringing someone to the relationship may trigger insecurities, jealousy, and other nasty feelings. By hiring some other woman to do the job you minimize these possible bad outcomes.
[–]RandomizeCharacter 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That may be best
[–]Here4Fun4Me 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
As a woman who also loves women, let her find the third. It will be MUCH better that way. There’s are lots of dating sites that are down with ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy). Just Google them. But also Tinder and OK Cupid have ENM options. Also look at Feeld, 3Fun, ect…
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[–]punkman01 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So is it fair to assume that you and your GF don't expect a long term future together? This is an honest question.
[–]Additional_Breath651 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Third for her or for your self?
[–]foreverpondering2 points 3 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Feeld is the best app for this honestly especially if you’re in a big city.
[–]maxpossimpible2 points 3 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
You don't. She does.
But if this is a new girl of yours. Be careful, be very careful. She knows you'd like something like this and she might be manipulating you. #borderline
Think about the crazy-hot matrix. There's a reason there's a "no-go zone".
[–]wannbetheverybest 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I swear every girl is bi nowadays. Surely it's not natural
[–]Dorkuzan 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bruh thats what i though - every girl i meet is either bi or gay
[–]wannbetheverybest 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah doesn't seem right does it. How can half the population of young women be like that. Seems like indoctrination of some kind tbh
[–]arkothenoob 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly girls who born after 2000 mostly bi or lesbian never straight in my opinion
[–]ishandesai -2 points-1 points0 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s just curiosity nothing else they want to try with girl and it’s understandable but once they mature they forget this bi shit
[–]WhusssuName45471 point 3 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
You in good position grasshopper. In this case you must Allow your woman to pick and choose the lucky lady in which you may do what you do.
[–]Think_History_5682 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Escorts, don't waste your time looking for a unicorn it's logistically nearly impossible to pull off.. You'll be broken up before you find one you agree on you can pick an escort like out of a catalog and not worry about feelings
[–]No-Historian-6391 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let her do it
[–]CaptnandMaryann 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If I was you I'd go to a gay hangout and find an attractive guy.
[–]Mgold365 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eww. Okay here’s what you do: step one? Run.
Sounds biphobic sure, but why you dating some bi nymph with no sexual boundaries whatsoever? That’s disgusting. How does your girl act when she’s drunk?
Tell her to cut the cr@p and shape up or she‘s out or you’re going to be in for one heck of a ride. My experience is these chicks are DAMAGED and really MEAN too.
Chicks who are bi …in my mind their problem is that one man is not enough.
Sorry, dude, but can’t give you advice on this one, not only because don’t know, but also really don’t want to know.
Please, please, please don’t pursue crazy women who screw anything that moves. Please don’t. Willing to bet that she’s really not that friendly of a person anyway. Move on, dude. IMO.
Also in my mind if a girl ever suggests that we’re done because will know okay she’s not in it.
[+]Majestic_Meal_5655 -8 points-7 points-6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You looking for a bull?? 😆
[–]Mobile_Glass6680 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
lmaof everyone knows she has to find her XD damn man i need to teach you the ways of the game
[–]Made2QuestionU -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’d imagine if you look for someone, then you’re looking for someone you are interested in. I’d let her take the lead, but it should be someone you’re both interested in. After all, this is someone you’re inserting into your relationship so you both have to be sure and ready for whatever comes of it. Good luck.
[–]phoenixon999 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Craigslist
[–]idonthavexbox -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Break up
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Tinder
Grindr
[–]freespirit1963TJ 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
I'm guessing that she would probably have more success finding a third. I had a gf some years ago that was at the very least bi curious. She would talk about sex things with multiple partners (mainly women) and say things like, it's only sex. Most of the time she had, had some cocktails or some weed, so I didn't take her seriously. Our thing ended, we remained loosely friends. A couple of years later, she went full blown. She got a job with a local roller derby entertainment deal. She had a female significant other for 3 years that I know of.
[–]RandomizeCharacter 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She's pretty shy when we go out, and she's asked me to take the lead with it
[–]Therocksays2020 8 points9 points10 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This usually won’t click. Many women don’t like when a guy searches for the third because they assume the woman doesn’t want it.
Your best bet is for your girlfriend to make a profile (you can run it) and go from there
[–]freespirit1963TJ 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's a bit odd, the women that I know that are bi are much more comfortable talking with other girls/women about anything. Just like another person commented, it's going to seem much more appealing to a girl, if it's coming from a girl. They're going to think if you're asking, that you are trying to fulfill some fantasy and she's going along to pacify your needs. Believe me, if she's a driving force behind this, she'll have much more success finding a third (female) than you ever will.
[–]ChadMagic1 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sot at the bar and chat. Get the girls talking more and more. Then bounce with 3rd to another place. After-party drinks.
[–]Icy_Rub1839 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sometimes they have bi friends and they might invite you for a night out with them. If they like you and there's drinking involved it can definitely lead somewhere.
Happened to me with my ex.
[–]Practical-Cause2896 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lucky lol 😆
[–]motherseffinjones 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let her do it, it’s a lot easier for girls
[–]Wingerlar 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When I had mine, the girl suggested it. We were fb's and we weren't in a relationship. You also need to be dominant, not Christian Grey dominant, but you need to make sure it happens, doesnt fizzle out and you need to stop both women from becoming bored. Alcohol helps a lot, but don't let then get wasted and fall asleep.
Other than that have an awesome time dude.
[–]DarkDuelist4914 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You want a Trisexual GF?
[–]Bessiejaker420 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tell her to do the work in finding a lady... it's easier for females to find the 3rd imo.
[–]VR25_gratified 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
r/throuple
[–]ozzzy83 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Online profile on dating apps. I've seen plenty of couples searching that way.
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