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Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-08-29T15:13:23+00:00

It's like hanging out with a new friend plus the added excitement of wanting to touch each other.

Revolutionary_Fan733 · 2022-08-29T12:52:35+00:00

Dont get serious for the first year of going out. Try to make it about having fun and meeting as many girls possible. Really dont overthink it, just approach girls with no intentions beyond getting to know them and see.

Liquid-Courage69420 · 2022-08-29T13:15:20+00:00

You want to meet women?. Good!, but don't expect them to come to you, it does happen but not often. So just assume that thwy never will otherwise you will just keep on waiting around. You gotta grow your confidence and throw yourself in the deep end.

This is what I done to get my confidence up to approach and might help you too.

reassesed my style and got new clothes/jewellery that make me feel good and look good. Make sure you get a bunch of clothes you wear specifically for approaching girls. This will put you in the right mind set when your wearing them as you feel your best!.
get some quality cologne. It's amazing what cologne can do for your confidence. I've had girls approach me asking what I'm wearing. So that in itself makes gives you that little boost during the night.
keep up with fresh haircuts. Once a month or less tbh.
go to the gym and start working out. You don't need to go to get shredded or anything. But with going to the gym you will feel better about yourself and again, boost that confidence. This also puts you in social areas and puts you around other women. Not saying to that you need to hit on them, but more that your surrounded by women, you subconsciously get more comfortable around them.

The main take points are, to Max out everything you can. You can't control your face or things like that. But you can control the way you dress, your posture, how you smell, etc. And then the only thing left to do my man is approach. Don't be scared. It's only scary to start with. They are just people too remember that.

YellowCosmicWarrior · 2022-08-29T12:39:15+00:00

It's like not having a girlfriend but the opposite.

If you like that feminine energy and are at peace with your own masculine energy then you will like it. The fact you never had a girlfriend is not a turn off unless you make it so. But deffinitely it will help if you just hang out with girls as friends having fun together first. Otherwise you run into a risk of having a oneitis.

Optimal_Butterfly_97 · 2022-08-29T13:17:27+00:00

Don't date or get a gf only for sex, just build connections with girls and then start looking for something and get serious

V4refugee · 2022-08-29T15:22:25+00:00

It’s just like making a friend but that friend is attractive and they think you are attractive. You can call this friend up to hang out or play video games or whatever you’re into. You meet up to hang out and then you’re like, “hey, you want to go watch a movie, go somewhere with people and music, or maybe stay home and play video games?” Then they’re like, “sure, but I’m hungry. You wanna go eat something first?” Then you’re like, “for sure, I’m down to try that new place I heard about at work and/or on social media.” Then they’re like, “yeah, let’s do it.” At the end of the night, instead of fist bumping and going home to jerk off alone, you hug/kiss and ask them if they want to come to your place or theirs and have sex. Pretty simple if you don’t make a big deal out of it or make the other person think that after that day you are going to annoy them non stop to hang out again. They don’t want to feel like they are your only source of entertainment. That’s too much responsibility. Instead, do other things and occasionally invite them. Try to also have a few other friends. Eventually one of them will like to hang out with you every week and you probably will too if they are cool.

2022-08-29T14:22:49+00:00

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Mundane_Natural5131 · 2022-08-29T13:19:00+00:00

Are you in shape? Hitting the gym does wonders too bro for your self confidence and attraction to women always remember that SOME women dont want to talk to you not all of them their are women out their that do want to to talk to you its all a numbers game dont let one girl turning you down stop you from trying again the next one can be the one always remember that their are guys uglier than you in relationships

TyroneStitches_ · 2022-08-29T12:51:16+00:00

Bro just do it. You'll find out for yourself and built experience

housebird350 · 2022-08-29T16:07:49+00:00

I mean, Im sure you are going to think its the greatest thing since sliced bread and all but women can be moody, needy, undependable, demanding and expensive. If you dont have one you feel like you need one, if you have one you wonder why you do.

FrequentPizza8663 · 2022-08-29T17:42:38+00:00

First, it's not a red flag to not have had a girlfriend or other sexual partners. Anyone who says it's a red flag is a person to be avoided.

That being said, try to find a group of friends you can vibe with, go out with them, and work on meeting new poeple while you're out. If your friends are good, they'll encourage you.

rusty344 · 2022-08-29T12:39:10+00:00

Honestly it’s probably not ideal but do you regularly talk to women at least?

2022-08-29T14:52:16+00:00

It is like a bag of sand

MembershipPlus2082 · 2022-08-29T15:16:57+00:00

How tall are you?

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-08-29T13:43:31+00:00

Annoying

zapadz · 2022-08-29T12:39:40+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Az41hkLie6I

Alecstocker · 2022-08-29T16:17:43+00:00

Overrated

NeighborhoodLow4380 · 2022-08-29T17:53:23+00:00

if you like your money and your sanity don't do it

FakeSafeWord · 2022-08-29T18:21:59+00:00

Sometimes it's great, sometimes its bad.

creamyturtle · 2022-08-29T14:46:28+00:00

not that fun lol. girls are annoying

2022-08-29T15:05:36+00:00

go find out. i wouldnt jump into a relationship off bat imo, have some fun and talk to women

youcheekydelinquent · 2022-08-29T15:22:22+00:00

Work on the skills if you don't feel comfortable. Become comfortable talking to more women and people around you. Keep focusing on your self and get some experience. Practice conversations, travel, learn about yourself.

You can feel alone at any age and even when you're actually dating someone.

JCAmsterdam · 2022-08-29T15:44:24+00:00

Pickle_Slinger · 2022-08-29T16:39:12+00:00

The main thing is to not treat them any different. Most guys get nervous or try to impress them, but in reality a casual date should be just that. If you're not comfortable then that's OK, just keep trying it and you'll gain confidence. Women like confidence, and if you treat them like one of the guys then it helps.

MetaphysicPhilosophy · 2022-08-29T16:55:03+00:00

In official terms, yes it is a red flag, but if you gain some experience with women then it won’t even matter. Women don’t care about how many women you been with as long as you act like you’ve been with a lot. In other words, you need the confidence and charisma of a man who has. A confident and charismatic man who isn’t just a fuck boy is probably even more attractive to most older women cause they care more about security.

Thierr · 2022-08-29T17:47:09+00:00

At your age, if you have some savings, you could invest it in (well-vetted) companies that can help you grow in this aspect. You'll likely learn and improve more in 1 weekend than you would in 1 year trying to do it alone

drewcer · 2022-08-29T18:06:43+00:00

Best way to know = find out for yourself

Squallvash · 2022-08-29T18:20:58+00:00

Like everything else it depends on who you are with.

The feeling of new love goes away after a few months, so if you've found someone to be friends with, then you can enjoy the longer time with them.

After a few years love changes from lustful desiring love to more of a familial love. The longer you've been with a person, the less of a 'lover" they are and the more "family" they are.

Started dating my wife at 15.

I'm 34 now. So I've now reached the point where even counting a 6 month period when we separated, we have been together longer than we haven't been, if that makes sense.

I know her better than my family simply due to proximity and the fact that I openly talk to her. She's a family I got to choose and I am happy with my decision.

My wife is pretty much responsible for all the good that happens in my life. Unfortunately because she is pretty much the highest on the list of people, then she can be directly responsible for the bad stuff that happens too.

That's a whole lot of trust to give to someone, and I've been through good times and bad times and really good times and fucking shitty times with her.

You also have to learn to change your relationship as you age and mature. From one year to another with just some changes to brain chemistry, you can be a completely different person, so you need to check in with one another and learn what your growing needs are.

It isn't easy. People thinkna relationship is 50/50, but it's not. A relationship has to be 100/100 as much as possible to get you through the good parts, so that you can save up for the bad times when it's 100/30 or even 25/50. No one taught me to communicate with her, it's something I had to learn how to do an embarrassingly short time ago when compared to how long we've been together.

So far we've had a long and fruitful relationship and hope to keep it alive as long as we are. Further, if it's possible, but I don't want to be greedy.

No-Tackle-5448 · 2022-08-29T18:35:28+00:00

No you’re actually a green flag.

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