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[–][deleted] 47 points48 points49 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You will turn 60 years old one day . And you’re going to be like wth was I thinking wasting my youth . I could’ve tried and tried .
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[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When you were 10 years old . Did you think you would reach this point ? No you didn’t. So don’t say that.
[–]hagakurejunkie 88 points89 points90 points 4 years ago (17 children) | Copy Link
Not with that attitude you’re not. Understand there is no pity party for men. Absolutely NOBODY cares if you die a lonely virgin, NOBODY OWES YOU A DAMN THING!
If you want something in this world, you have to figure out how to go get it.
If you need to tan, take finasteride for your hair and do a cycle of steroids or TRT to build muscle and change your body, THEN THAT IS WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!
If you have to work 15 hours a day for 5 years to build a company so you can retire by 45, THEN THAT IS WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!
You can sit there and cry that the world is unfair but it has NEVER been fair. It’s survival of the fittest in nature yet somehow humans have deluded themselves into thinking the rules of the world don’t apply.
The marines have a saying: “March or die motherfucker”
Move your ass or get left behind. Those are your options. Good luck man, hope you make the right choices
[–]Pringles__ 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Finally some good fucking advice over here.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good advice and none of that be happy with yourself and get some hobbies bs advice.
It’s hard looksmax only.
[–]Gemselleramazon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t just plainly suggest people take finasteride some nasty side effects that are permanent from that drug.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
[–]AngeloMacon 44 points45 points46 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You posted this online for others to see. You wanted a pity party.
[–]Titty_Slicer_5000 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
There is no such thing as fate. You chart your own course. It’s up to you to decide whether that course is one of failure or success.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]yodeah 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can improve yourself, we all work hard to get to a good state, for some it comes naturally for other its a long grind. If you set up some goals and grind for them youll transform yourself which is the good part not the partner.
[–]Titty_Slicer_5000 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Have you gone around and polled every single woman to find out if they all find you undesirable? How do you know that? Why are you automatically assuming that? Also you seem to think that desirability is some immutable characteristic you are born with. That’s nonsense. You can go to the gym to improve your physique. You can improve your fashion style. You can improve your social skills and conversation skills. These are all these that make men highly desirable to many many women. You don’t need to be attractive to every woman you find attractive. If you were unattractive to 95% of the women you found attractive but had access to sex and relationships with the 5% that do find you attractive, would you even care? What about if you were in a happy relationship with a woman you loved dearly? Would you care then that 95% of women you find attractive don’t find you attractive? Is your goal to be desirable by every single woman or is to to have fulfilling sexual and romantic relationships with women you are attracted to? Because I guarantee you the biggest thing holding you back from that is your shitty woe is me attitude. You have the power right now to improve your personality, your social skills, your physique, and many other things which will make you more desirable. You’re simply choosing not to because it’s easier to place the blame on “fate” rather than with yourself, where it belongs.
Also I have no idea why you are being upvoted. It seems this sub is going further down the toilet by the day.
[–]Titty_Slicer_5000 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fine. Wallow in your self pity instead of improving your life. I don’t care. But do it in another sub. This sub is for people who want to improve themselves, not for people to whine about how their lives suck.
[–]Walrus72 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh wait, you don't think sexual assault, date rape or flashing will work out for you? This has to be a joke. Why are you wasting our time? There are some people who really need and appreciate advice. Go jerk yourself off somewhere else. Besides that, flashing your junk at random women does work, everybody knows that. hahaha
[–]Chabubu 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your mindset is the primary problem and you sound like you’re set on it.
Have you ever heard the statement “you attract that which you are?”
Maybe there’s a 450lb antisocial woman out there that is cared for by her 75 yr old mother that might be Interested in you.
Are you interested in a relationship with that woman?? Probably not.
You want someone that is desirable and so do the women.
If you awkward, creepy, overweight, dead end job, living with parents with no goals, then don’t expect any decent woman to be attracted to you .
You have to put in the work to make yourself desirable and it can take years. But with your attitude it sounds like you’ve given up and won’t put up the effort. It’s easier to blame the women that don’t find the figurative deadbeat in the parents basement to be appealing.
[–]Walrus72 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There is nothing graceful about self hate and accepting defeat. There is plenty of help for guys with low self esteem and no self respect. It all starts in your head. If you don't love and respect yourself, why would anyone?
[–]Walrus72 45 points46 points47 points 4 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
You need to work on yourself. You are what you tell yourself what you are. You haven't failed until you've completely given up.
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[–]cutanddried 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No
It's 100% about you
One hundred percent
[–]Walrus72 26 points27 points28 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
If you keep telling yourself that, it's true.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
[–]cutanddried 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
First, that's not what women do
Second, if everyone treats you the same, it's because you're the problem, not the rest of the world
You really need help
[–]6ixlos 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you’re not physically attractive then it’s on you to get in the gym and eat right. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get yourself right. It’s on you to be the best version of yourself.In terms of being able to attract women past your physical appearance, watch tykwondoe on YouTube, he’ll help you how to attract women with your words, body language, cadence
[–]The_Big_Mang 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How often do you work on your body? Every day? If you're not working, they got nothing to grab.
[–]Walrus72 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Attitude and self respect are more important that gym hours in my opinion.
[–]Norti_Rodni -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
They do often go hand in hand
dood, this is a troll
[–]victorhugogime -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Most men never get complimented by women like that ever, just assume attraction will be unequal at first glance.
[–]stanfarce 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
Don't worry, if this can make you feel better, most guys feel the same. When I was a kid I was constantly shown on TV or in comics / mangas how great having an attactive girlfriend would be. Going out, gazing into each others' eyes, the idea of true love... It kinda made me obsessed with having a girlfriend. I'm 43 now and I'm also finally understanding that I will never get that. All those tips about seduction that demand that you basically become someone else... ...yeah, no thanks. I am what I am and I'm at the point where I know I'll never get the attractive girlfriend I envisionned all those years (I could get an unattractive woman but what would be the point? I'd rather live with another guy because we would have common interests at least). But you know what? It's ok. Society brainwashed us into thinking you can't be a man if there is no woman at your side, but it's 100% wrong.
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[–]stanfarce 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Oh trust me, our situations are the same. All I'm saying is you need to accept this situation, be at peace with it. It doesn't have to get you down your whole life. I know it's hard and painful, I'm still working on it myself.
"I just want to experience the embrace of a woman but I do not have sex appeal."
A woman? Any woman? So you're okay for an ugly woman (both ugly in body and soul), to embrace you? Come on man, be honest with yourself.
[–]stanfarce 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
That is quite an assumption. Why do you think I'm desirable for some women even though you never saw my face, how short I am, and my absence of muscles lol? I once heard a girl say she would have to still be a vigin and desperate / close to death to want to bang me, lmfao. Anyways, what you want ("a woman to truly embrace me for me") doesn't exist because both men and women only want to bang an ideal of the opposite sex they have in their minds (hence this whole Seduction subreddit which tells you to either become another person or to play a role / hide that you're a nerd, basically). No woman wants to embrace any guy for what they really are, unless they slowly realized how beautiful of a person he is by spending months or years in his company. They just want to fuck the impression they have of a guy. It's very surface-level, but guys do it too. Only mothers feel real, unconditional love for their offsprings (and not all of them...), the real love between two strangers that Disney and co have been feeding us is all lies.
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[–]stanfarce 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
That's hilarious. You put me higher on a pedestal than you, but you don't know me / have never seen me. From my perspective, you're the guy with the higher sexual presence, you're the blessed guy and I'm the cursed one. Why would your "facts" have more weight than mine?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You can choose, you just need to do it the right way. Example: your parents (who are strict and judgemental) will give you advice and you don’t listen to it, your friend (who is empathetic and nice) will say the same thing and you’ll agree. You’re going thru the same thing, but internally. You believe that you are undesirable, but have you tried changing your wardrobe? It’s a simple idea. Have you tried working out? It’s a simple idea. Do you have hobbies that allow you to meet new people? It’s a simple idea.
Then the last step is being confident.
That means going for what you want in a calm way, with no expectation that it’ll work. Confidence really comes down to you doing what you want and having faith in yourself that you’ll be able to figure things out no matter what. With women, that means being forward without being crass or gross. You can tell a girl she is beautiful and that you want to take her out, just don’t be gross and get sexual. This subreddit will tell you about ideas of escalation and whatnot, and at times you may feel like “oh I guess I gotta be doing kino so she knows my intentions” yada yada yada. You’ll get there eventually, but for now just do things that will improve your place in life (like the things I mentioned above) and it’s very convenient that those things just happen to be things that women respond to.
Forget about girls. You deserve to have self-love first. Love yourself, once you can, give that to others. You are undesirable now, but it doesn’t have to be like this forever. People can evolve, and it would be a shame if you didn’t evolve as the years went by.
Everyone is just a sac of flesh, we all have bad times and good times. Seems like you’ve been going thru a bad time for a while now. Much like the parent/friend argument, sometimes we need a sign from the world that shows that we are loved, but the best love comes from within. Love yourself and truly love yourself and you will become attractive.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I think you’re mistaking self acceptance as self acceptance of failure. But that’s not what I’m talking about. You can change your circumstance, you just need to love yourself and have the desire to want change in your life. Self acceptance means that you’re content with what you have (which you aren’t) so you’re not accepting yourself because then it wouldn’t be worth it to subscribe to this subreddit, yet alone write this post. You’re reaching for something, and I’m trying to give you alms in the form of advice.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
What makes you believe that it is not in your control? How much effort have you put into trying to combat your handicap?
[–]LolaBijou -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Are you Eeyore?
[–]Disturbed_Aidan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Why not improve your sex appeal then?
Women aren’t primary focused on looks, they go for competence and confidence more so. These are things you can work on.
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[–]Disturbed_Aidan 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That’s not true. Even if your sex appeal is zero, you can work on yourself to increase it.
You’re not forced to stay at your current condition. You can and will change.
If your goal is to have sex appeal, write it down. Think about what sex appeal is, write that down. Explore what actions you need to take to increase your sex appeal, you guessed it — write it down. Get it in your head what you need to do and then start making those daily decisions to make it a reality.
[–]powerlifting_daily 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I did that. Even then there are no guarantees. You can end up like me, starting powerlifting at 17 years old because back then I identified strong muscular men as having sex appeal. So don’t do something that you hate, because there is nothing worse than doing something you hate, learning nothing, and not getting whatever it was that drove you into that activity via its cause-effect relationship.
[–]Marcoscondit 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
This dude don’t want help in all the reply’s he got instead of listening he tries to say why it won’t work
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[–]Marcoscondit 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How about you take some of the advice given to you and actually try it for a bit , and just see what happens, or you can do the alternative and keep doing what your doing and nothing will change
[–]finallypickup 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Easier to give up than not only accept you are ugly and/or awkward but then work on it too. He doesn't want to change.
[–]Chabubu 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the standard incel behavior. They say they want women while adamantly defending the choices that make them unappealing. It’s self-hate disguised as being a victim of a cruel society.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How old are you?
[–]Lotus_82 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My brother was an incel virgin until he was 32. Now he owns a house with a beautiful high value woman (with a career and money / investments of her own).
If he had just given up and stayed at home playing video games instead of making an effort to socialize and be interesting/ fun to be around then he would still be an incel virgin today.
But he never got angry or bitter and he never gave up on being sociable meeting women, and it paid off.
[–]modsRlameIRL 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
Go to the gym
Get a new hair cut
Get a nice car
Get a nice apartment
You’ll get women
[–]dheidjdedidbe 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link
I am 24 i can afford a house but choose not to due to life situation.
I have a nice haircut
I work out 3 hours a day
I drive a newer top of the line pickup.
I have an amazing social life
I am invisible to girls. What do I do next?
[–]modsRlameIRL 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Get your own place
Everything else well done
Ok start talking to women
[–]dheidjdedidbe 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I rent a duplex by myself.
I talk to girls every day. Flirt with some. And am not afraid of being rejected.
[–]modsRlameIRL 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Ok fine.
Women hate you, I spoke to all of them, they told me.
[–]dheidjdedidbe 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Why would you say that. I’m just explaining my situation. A well put together adult who struggles at attracting women.
[–]modsRlameIRL 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because I don’t know what else to tell you, you sound like a catch to me… the truck was enough for me I’d date you🤷🏾♂️😂
But I don’t swing that way
[–]Chabubu -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Have you consumed all of the pickup and self improvement material to find out what makes men appealing? Go read books and watch 100 hours of YouTube instructions and then spend the next 2 years going out to bars and clubs 3x per week with other likeminded men that also want to meet women.
I was antisocial, didn’t have a gf until my 20s
I decide to change. So I did that and had hot gf within 6 months. Now I have an even hotter and successful wife.
[–]inline6throwaway -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hah....... good response 😊
[–]LeatheryGayTomato -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You’re young man you’ve got plenty of time. Keep at it. Have fun and don’t worry so much. If you’re relaxed, meet people and try to get to know them for who they are (guys included, just work on being social and having fun), you will eventually meet someone you click with and can escalate from there.
[–]dheidjdedidbe 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
People have said that same thing since I was 15. One would think that I would have met someone who was interested in me and vice Vera’s by now. But it hasn’t happened yet.
Will people tell me this when I am 30, 40, 50 and in the same boat as I am in now?
[–]finallypickup -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Before you say shit like "I'm infusible to women" tell me, how many cold approaches have you done this month?
[–]dheidjdedidbe 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
It’s been a busy month at work and a few weekend camping trips means only 10 to 15 approaches so far in july
[–]finallypickup -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
That's fucking nothing and you know it. Like going to the gym twice and a month later complaining that you don't look like the dudes that haven't missed a day in 3 years. I guarantee you I've been rejected way more than you've ever even tried. So, first go consistently approach, do 100. 200. Then if they literally all go bad come back and say you're invisible.
[–]dheidjdedidbe 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Ok I work from 6 am to 5 pm and then work out from 6 to 8 pm. Weekends I have been camping. This year I have maybe 200 rejections. When do you expect me to find 5 extra hours in a day do approach girls?
[–]finallypickup -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm not expecting you to do anything and it's up to you to decide your priorities. There's more to life than woman, just like there's more to life than "insert x" but don't complain about your skill in things you haven't put the work into. Having said that, if you actually have 200 rejections and didn't get a date or 2 out of it as a minimum something is off. You are either not dressed well, not looking sharp enough, not giving off the right energy, not speaking well, something you're doing is off.
[–]dheidjdedidbe 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Obviously something is off but no one can pin point it. My girl friends say that I am a perfect husband and great catch but they say that girls simply aren’t attracted to me that way.
I’ll dm my hinge and see if you notice anything off about me
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What do you work as?
Forester. I’m overworked and looking for new companies.
[–]Chabubu -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No no. I will do none of that and continue to blame the women.
-incels
[–]LolaBijou 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Omg HAHAHA. This is a fucked up yet amazing comment. Too bad OP is probably too busy returning videos to read it.
[–]No_Fan6078 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
lol jajaja, give him time to recall he posted it here.
[–]Acceptable_Stop_7063 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You and me both
[–]PaidRenegade 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That feeling will pass. You’re a man and the urge to pair up/fuck women isn’t going away. You don’t just decide to turn it off, I used to wish I could.
I was in your shoes and got to the point where now I’m fucking 4 women each week thanks to self improvement and online dating. If I can do it so can you. Feel free to reach out if you have questions or want help
[–]ArizonaMaybe 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Highly suggest that you read the book ‘Models - Attracting Women Through Honesty’ and also anything written (or videos) by David Goggins. Then check what you’re eating and start exercising daily because it sounds very much like you’re dealing with depression. I’ve been there before and I also used to think one time in my life that I “wasn’t worthy” and you need to change your way of thinking. Guarantee things aren’t as bad as you think they are right now.
[–]timetobbetter 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Need to work on yourself bro. With that mindset you’re not going anywhere. I was 20 years old, balding, 300 lbs, minimal friends… had a 4 year relationship… I wasn’t even actively looking for a relationship it kinda just happened. The second YOU decide YOU aren’t worthy is the moment YOU disqualify yourself from any sort of relationship in your future; friends, SO, family. The second you represent yourself and don’t care what others think, the women will come. Of my now 9 dates from OLD, I have applied baseline knowledge found in the “top” section of this sub, applied it to my life first, started going to the gym, socializing with old friends, and eventually my dates.
First two were ungodly awful, not even a kiss. Stepped back, found what I did wrong, recalibrated, went out with a different girl, got a kiss, afterwards, senesced there wouldn’t be any more communication because I didn’t take risks. The next 5 dates got me laid. So before you think you’re ugly and it’s “unattainable” or whatever pathetic excuse you’re using, Look deeper and see what’s going on.
[–]dheidjdedidbe 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why do people always assume guys like OP and I are overweight antisocial and can’t be a functioning adult? I know I am worthy of a girlfriend and a relationship. Girls don’t know I’m worthy for them it seems.
[–]timetobbetter 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do you communicate that to them subconsciously? If you have to walk up to someone and say “I’m worthy” you aren’t worthy. It’s like saying you’re a good cook. If you call yourself a good cook… you still have much to learn.
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[–]palguy22 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You need to understand that women can pick up on lack of confidence and hesitation, That's probably why you aren't getting the results you desire but things like confidence and self love can be improved over time
[–]timetobbetter -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Don’t know what to tell you man, it’s a mindset. If you don’t like how you’re feeling pick a different mindset. Like I said. If you think you’re ugly then you’re ugly. If you think you’re handsome, the confidence you exhibit will show to women. They’ll pick up on it that you’re someone who is comfortable with themselves… aka “stable”
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[–]timetobbetter -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
would you mind sharing with me what your definition of sexual presence is?
[–]SizzleLumps 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
bro you have mental health problems and self esteem problems. obviously women won’t find you desirable. you fix those problems then people will begin to treat you differently. what you exhibit is known as self-fulfilling prophecy. look it up
Exactly. Not sure why we’re being downvoted. Sometimes the truth hurts. Women shouldn’t be the center of anyones world but instead a fun addition to one’s life. You shouldn’t feel like you just need a woman and then you’ll be good… doesn’t work like that. Own your own life then and only then can you allow someone else into it.
[–]Majestic_Meal_5655 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My guy life doesn't hand out good looks with out work. I've seen plenty of ugly ass mfs with gfs and wife's. You have to literally work to get attention from woman. Work on your body, looks, money and education. All woman really just want validation and are slaves to the way you make them feel. Thus is how pimps and players play. You don't have to be one I'm just letting you know anyone can get a gf. I've seen dirty ass toothless homeless dudes with gfs and wife's. You can do it too. And if you really don't want to work at it, go hire some sex workers. Done and done.
Are you female?
[–]rwalsh138 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So stop acting creepy and being disgusting.
[–]areeves1985 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You think you’re the only one in this kind of situation? I’m 37 and single despite trying for almost 15 years to find my SO but I’m not online bitching about it. I still try to find my SO and go on the occasional date. If you’re unhappy with your situation then do something about it! Hit the gym, pick up some books, find a hobby, to put it plainly focus on and improve yourself.
Are you a woman?
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol you really think women have these kind of issues?
Well, I didn't, but it said, "women don't grab my ass or breasts"....hahahaha whoever this is, it's a troll anyway. Nobody can be this stoopid....read all of it's comments.
[–]Jewcygoodness88 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Not with that attitude no lady will desire you. Need to change that negativity into positivity! Life’s hard but don’t beat yourself up and make it harder
[–]HaikusfromBuddha -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Women don’t owe you anything. Whatever it is you want from women ask yourself what you bring to the table that matches that.
If you don’t have anything to bring then work on yourself until you do. Whether it be having a healthy in shape body, grooming, money, or good social skills. You have to work on these skills.
[–]Great at coke approachSnooHesitations4922 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I felt this way at one point. Admitting these harsh realities should be a first step to making things better, not declaring a life sentence. I for one decided to accept reality then take initiative to use me free will to change my reality. This meant years of physical conditioning, community activities to gain confidence, and working on style and hygiene until I got positive signals and good interactions. Eventually women started approaching me without me having to do shit. You create your own hell, it's up to you to get out of it.
With an attitude like that, I’m not surprised it hasn’t worked out for you.
Im glad you have given up, it’s Darwinism at its finest, if you’re that pathetic to give up, it’s literal natural selection that you don’t breed.
Not saying this make fun of you, but it’s the gods honest truth,
[–]iluvreddit -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hookers?
[–]CanUnusual8729 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
This is often less of a looks issue and more of a self/social awareness issue. Some dudes just don’t get what they’re doing or not doing wrong and blame it on the opposite sex. Life is a series of systems that can be broken down and understood. If you want to make money you have to become financially literate and then put a lot of work into learning and working along with that system in order to get results. Same with dating. The only people who will never make money or do well with women are the ones who blame it on the game rather than just learning the rules and playing. Dudes always want to boil it down to looks because its out of your control and therefore not your fault/nothing you can do. Fortunately, looks is only one of many metrics by which we can be considered attractive. You can be attractive with humor, status, social intelligence, musical talent, being a genuinely sweet and caring person (yes girls actually do like this if you’re not a manipulative “nice guy”) or even by building an attractive body to offset where you may otherwise be lacking. The reality though is it takes effort. There will always be guys who do the work and guys who don’t. The game will not change for anyone out of pity. Its easy to loom at someone like kobe and say “must be nice.” Meanwhile he’s the hardest working mf in the room. Nature is a cold hearted bitch. Hopefully you don’t wait until you’re 60 like homie said before you realize you could have tried harder. And for the record, standing there and hoping a girl will present herself to you randomly because she thinks you’re hot is not trying. Girls have that luxury, we don’t. Is what it is my man.
[–]Turbopre2 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You have to do the chasing, women do not chase. Rarely if ever will a woman go up to you and grab your behind /breast. The reason you are undesirable is because you have the mentality of a woman! You want to be chased.
[–]Pogidood -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Confidence is a really attractive trait women are drawn to, your mentality shows through your words and actions. That alone should tell you as long as you think that way about yourself nothing will change.
[–]VanillaCreme96 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
You're "creepy, disgusting, and inappropriate" by your own words? That's your problem there. Work on it.
Gym.
You're trolling. I've read some of your comments and there is no way anyone is this f@ckin' stoopid.
[–]cpa20217 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You need to fix what your problems are…
Acne, teeth, hygiene, dress, style… work on those.
Also what are you looking for? An Instagram model is not going to talk to you, a normal person will, lower your standards to match who you are
[–]cpa20217 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You can’t get any sexual attention. If your standards are through the roof, and your average you will have no luck at all… you can’t be 500 lb looking for a fitness model.
You need to improve what your lacking and look for someone in your league. You can’t be and alcoholic looking for love with someone who has their life together.
Either way seems like you have taken the blackpill
[–]zbononcini -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Natural selection
[–]motherseffinjones -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Are you in great shape? If not hit the gym you will get more attention and be more confident. More importantly do it for yourself set it as a goal and work towards that I’m sure it will help you slot
[–]No_Fan6078 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
are you working out? learning how to dance? romantic books, series to talk with women? are you open to make a connection? bc I wasnt open to make any connection until almost the last year, you have to be open that just with you corporal language she feel confortable with you
[–]Simp4Rukia -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are, just not by the women you want.
[–]ShlutPuppySays -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Become someone you desire and others will desire you.
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