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5_7pickup · 2022-07-03T08:57:21+00:00

Im 5’6 and a half and pull girls from night clubs all the time. If you think your height is the issue, youre wrong. Im not saying being taller doesnt help, im just saying its not a death sentence.

As for being fat. Lose weight then. Height isnt a choice. Being fat is.

But honestly, you struggle with dating because youre lazy and take no actions. Your OLD profile is likely trash with trash pictures. You dont cold approach because youre fucking scared.

It’s easy to blame height, race, money, weight. But the real reason is because you dont want to put in the work.

Dr_Sigmund_Fried · 2022-07-03T03:11:40+00:00

Keep busting your ass at the gym. Keep that focus and the same on your end game after grad school.

Turbopre2 · 2022-07-03T08:43:51+00:00

3 things. 1. You have to look/smell/feel good. 2. Confidence is EVERYTHING. You can have a shit job but if you are confident it is possible to pull a girl. 3. Just have conversations with them without any agendas. Women tend to get turned off immediately if you are being desperate or giving off the vibes you are only there for sex.

Luckyyou00 · 2022-07-03T04:03:47+00:00

Losing weight will drastically improve your chances

derekislegend · 2022-07-03T08:17:06+00:00

5’5 here…I’m over 30 in terms of body count…trust me height doesn’t matter as long as you have the right personality and mindset…

notarealpersondw · 2022-07-03T10:24:50+00:00

Stop being fat? You can’t change height you can’t change skin colour (mostly) but you can change your weight. You can also change your mindset. Everything else sounds like you’re working on it just do those two things and I promise you’ll fix 95% of your issues lol

Murrman1978 · 2022-07-03T10:41:05+00:00

Go to the gym. Lift weights. Eat healthy.

Get tight fitting clothes.

Jeans: Dark, Black and Blue

Shirts: White, Black, Grey, Blue and Green

Boots; Black and Brown

Approach women. It's a numbers game.

burakbenxd · 2022-07-03T07:02:56+00:00

Confidence and approaches. I literally saw tons of ugly fat guys with attractive girls. They just have confidence

Pop_Zestyclose · 2022-07-03T13:19:05+00:00

Your post is against the rules. I get that you're frustrated but your comments show you're clearly only here to vent and not seek advice. When you're ready to accept feedback and stop crying about your situation, come on back

premedchunsa · 2022-07-03T08:57:21+00:00

to be honest, odds are against you. That is fact. But you could still make the most out of you what you’re given. So grind at work and grind at the gym. Attractiveness, you’d be surprised, comes in all shapes and sizes.

jjboy91 · 2022-07-03T12:13:48+00:00

Where I live girls straight out told me they would never date a brown dude..

Economy_Bit_5980 · 2022-07-03T14:47:15+00:00

Go get a hooker and get this mentality out of your system dude.

Joy_Boy96 · 2022-07-03T04:56:35+00:00

Bro being fit won’t make a single difference.

rjones416 · 2022-07-03T09:28:40+00:00

post a pic and let's see what we can improve.

Granny_Killa · 2022-07-03T10:42:20+00:00

Are you busting your ass in the gym efficiently? Be sure you're making progress. If not, I recommend Kris Gethin's Hardcore Trainer on kaged.com. Follow the diet and the workouts and you are basically guaranteed a 6pack by the end.

Your height and skin colour really don't matter, they only matter because you're obsessed with them.

Fapandwarmshowers · 2022-07-03T10:43:01+00:00

Don't be fat there is a start

DeliberatelyInsane · 2022-07-03T12:55:03+00:00

There used to be this dude. Short, balding and mousy. Also a nerd during the time period when being a nerd was not considered cool.

Within a short span of time je became one of the best PUAs in the world. Look him up. He called himself Style.

That being said, online dating is a crutch that wont do much for improving your game. The cards are stacked against men's favour there. Girls are drawn much more to personality than looks and OLD is mostly about looks.

You hate approaching at bars because it puts you in an uncomfortable spot. As cliched as it sounds, but it is true that life happens outside of your comfort zone.

Still, of you want to stick to OLD, you may need to make an amazing profile. Good pictures would be a must. A couple taken professionally, and some depicting you in social situations.

Whatever the avenue, a man has got to sell himself. And I have learnt that selling myself yields better results in real life than from the safety of being behind the screen.

Safe is boring. Don't be boring.

knueverl17 · 2022-07-03T15:46:47+00:00

Fix everything in that tittle except the 5’6 and brown stuff.

Snakehead004 · 2022-07-03T16:17:47+00:00

Loose weight. This should be your # 1 priority for a number of reasons. Get a bit of muscle and loose the fat and you'll be looked at very differently

Snakehead004 · 2022-07-03T16:46:32+00:00

Yes. Tom cruise is shorter. Many celebrities are and still considered sex symbols. You're making excuses. Loose the weight and tell us how you feel/how women respond to you. You got this my dude

throwawayofc1112 · 2022-07-03T17:20:22+00:00

You sound like you’ve got a good handle on your life currently, so just keep busting your ass at the gym. That’s what I’m doing. Other than that I’m kinda in the same situation but still in undergrad. Granted I didn’t go outside much last year, let alone go to the bar. I only go to the bar with my mates to drink together and shoot the shit, as an autistic person I know that approaching girls in a bar is still a futile attempt for me, but I suppose as I get more comfortable in that environment I’ll be able to. I doubt you look bad or anything, but if you wanna chat a little more we can message, since I think we’re pretty similar.

Bingo_is_the_man · 2022-07-03T17:23:30+00:00

This is the lamest shit ever. Stop making these dumb excuses. Go cold approach, plain and simple. Doesn’t have to be at a night club, jt can literally be anywhere. I’ve given this advice to guys like you, and the ones who follow it never complain again. 1) hit the gym and clean up diet 2) talk to 25 new women per week (in person)

grindforthegold · 2022-07-03T18:22:06+00:00

dude you’re gonna get all kind of ridiculous answers here. but i’m gonna be real with you. i’m 5’4, and i’ve been with 10 girls. some people say it’s impossible but it’s true. then again my front facial profile is very attractive, my side profile is pretty bad.

i’ve been growing out a beard to make up for it. you’ll need to see the flaws in your face and if there are soft changes you can make (ex. big forehead wear a headband or comb your hair down etc)

your ethinicity will make a different depending on where you are in the world. western places will learn towards white people.

get some lifts, grow a beard if you need to and edit your hairstyle to fit you face (for example the bad of my head is pretty big so i grew my hair out long etc).

max out your looks, if that doesn’t work travel to eastern or poorer countries, it that doesn’t work earn more money and try again. approaching and OLD will get better as you increase your looks objectively but there will be a limit and it may be pretty shitty

i’ve gotten most of the girls off tinder, it used to be better, but i still get dates off of it. otherwise warm approaching like work school etc. you can get into working weekend events to try and meet more people in that more random coworker environment. you can try approaching in subtle ways or indirectly since it might help. there’s things you can do but with your stats it will be more difficult than most just keep that in mind so don’t get discouraged when others are approaching and doing better cuz the looks will make a difference. i mean i’d be lying if i said it wasn’t largely my looks that got me success online

lose the weight asap. you won’t know your real looks level until you do. don’t listen to the crap about confidence lmfao, i’ve been with those girls and my confidence was irrelevant.

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