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bigmanpav · 2022-02-23T12:45:13+00:00

Just be upfront with him what you're looking for. Some people feel very lonely and sad about empty hookups. Maybe he's not emotionally ready for casual sex

SIV221 · 2022-02-23T13:25:12+00:00

He needs to do some learning and healing and you don’t have to be there for it. It might sting him, might piss him off, say unbelievable things, but no one should ever be crying, let alone opening up so soon since you weren’t given the right and necessary time to see these emotions from a man.

Would you tell a man you just hooked up about how a parental figure abused you because you felt vulnerable the first time in your life? No, but it might take time and learning and processing to make sure it doesn’t happen. Wish him the best that he heals. And also hope you find a good man who’s more put together.

PhilosophyMost7051 · 2022-02-23T16:24:21+00:00

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dreamaboutme3 · 2022-02-23T12:42:29+00:00

🚩🚩🚩

Zeus_xo · 2022-02-23T17:10:45+00:00

Let me get this straight. You were obsessed with your co-worker for 2 years. Guy finally acknowledge you and decide to have sex with you. He also clearly said that he never liked you but you accepted to spread your legs anyways. And then you had the audacity to call him out for being selfish during sex. Right? Why would someone who doesn't like you want to please you?

My advice to you is to learn to respect yourself and go after a guy that wants exactly the same thing as you. No more obsessesions, no more sex with someone who doesn't like you.

As for the guy. Sent him here so we can help him work on his inner game.

RomanDad · 2022-02-23T12:42:16+00:00

Huh?

byteseed · 2022-02-23T14:04:23+00:00

For men in this subreddit, never break down or cry in front of your lover.

Never.

The damage is irreparable. The only justification can be death of you loved ones or similar circumstances, even then, go to you friend.

Showing vulnerability is ok, but showing mental weakness over something insignificant is the biggest flag of psychological instability.

MattPruga · 2022-02-23T12:42:24+00:00

Yeah I’d head out lol, some people get overwhelmed emotionally too easily and for me that’s an unattractive trait

1000miles_if_i_could · 2022-02-23T14:28:51+00:00

I think the fact that he’s a selfish lover as a hookup is more concerning. Guys tend to open up more after sex although in your case he‘s way to soon. Perhaps he doesn’t have support elsewhere?

Forsaken_Elk_4609 · 2022-02-23T12:46:16+00:00

yeah he fucked up. Not your fault you dont find weakness attractive and it turned you off lol.

Toxic masculinity all the way, boys

2022-02-23T14:45:32+00:00

Obviously you’d be turned off I guess it’s biological women are attracted to strength but until you know the full story about what’s happening with his family I’d wait. A parcel might simply be the tipping point

plaaya · 2022-02-23T14:24:29+00:00

Maybe he got caught by his girlfriend or he felt bad by going all the way with you

Original-Pudding-939 · 2022-02-23T15:35:06+00:00

Hot potato.. teleport like yesterday

hahawhoa · 2022-02-23T16:23:14+00:00

Hahahahah yeah.. RUN

Classic_Head3437 · 2022-02-23T19:04:33+00:00

This has always been my problem with the seduction community. MOST, not all, break down into old familiar habits quickly when things are either going good and they don't think they have to work anymore. Or, the woman doesn't text back fast enough and he gets worried he's losing her attention.

snowdude11 · 2022-02-23T19:10:43+00:00

We hooked up, he was a selfish lover, didn't try pleasure me. Actually laughed it off. Then checked his phone and broke down. Hands on head and was dead silent, everything.

Why TF would you stick around and comfort a selfish guy who had a breakdown over a fucking package? Geez how low are your standards that this guy can even get the time of day from you?

watuphoss · 2022-02-23T21:25:26+00:00

Damn, over a having to send a package?

As /u/bigmanpav said, be upfront, tell him you just want something casual.

Poor dude needs something more than just sex right now. Too bad he didn't/doesn't really acknowledge his mental health. He has a void, and is trying to fill it with sex, when it should be filled with communication and compassionate conversations.

Your edit should give you the direction in which to go to as well.

Woujo · 2022-02-23T16:39:22+00:00

Just be honest with him.

"Dude, that's way too much emotions for knowing somebody for 4 days. I am not your therapist and I didn't sign up for this shit."

He either gets the hint or he learns a lesson for the future. I can't think of anything better to do than to be completely honest.

ThatGuy_Nick9 · 2022-02-23T15:27:18+00:00

Some dudes are very emotionally broken. There no outlet for men so, unfortunately, some turn to women who maybe can understand emotions for empathy. It’s definitely a red flag. He’s probably a good guy but he will have underlying emotional instability until he’s older. Or maybe not

DeJuanBallard · 2022-02-23T16:29:30+00:00

Don't feel bad for you, stop with the hookups if you expect some dude to care about u.

Indecision999 · 2022-02-23T13:16:33+00:00

please leave and find someone stable for this holy shit

Betonado · 2022-02-23T12:46:51+00:00

Men these days are so akward

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-02-23T12:49:43+00:00

What? I'm confused. Why ???

2022-02-23T13:12:23+00:00

Thats horrible. I'm sorry to hear that. I would gladly help in the dept if I could.

bittr_n_swt · 2022-02-23T13:32:02+00:00

Fuck that, get out asap and don’t look back

Guy needs some healing

invaderjif · 2022-02-23T16:59:48+00:00

What was the deal with the parcel? Like was it the ashes of his parents or pet or something?

PLEASEYALE_ · 2022-02-23T18:18:05+00:00

I don't get it. Why was he crying? Because he had to go to the post office?

2022-02-23T18:18:31+00:00

Uhhh. No thanks.

krzjasn87 · 2022-02-23T18:22:05+00:00

😸was soo good the guy busted early and started crying about seeing god after sleeping with you.

bestbudintown · 2022-02-23T18:57:32+00:00

Yeah you gotta get out of there. Consider getting a new job or even a new identity.

willgo-waggins · 2022-02-23T20:02:54+00:00

Good. Bye.

davedude97 · 2022-02-23T20:28:06+00:00

Ya head out. It's not always your responsibility to bring them up. But that being said if you can or have the time , help him out.

AlphaAlfie1313 · 2022-02-23T21:12:56+00:00

This man played himself. Smh.

lickwaters · 2022-02-23T21:17:39+00:00

How do u feel about him? Do you feel like caring for him? If u don’t just leave it at that. But if you care then ask what is wrong?

lildudefromXdastreet · 2022-02-23T21:39:09+00:00

What the fuck does this have to do with this sub? God this place is becoming a shithole

PhilosophyMost7051 · 2022-02-23T21:58:42+00:00

Don’t be concerned with someone who can’t pleasure you. He’s a dumb piece of shit for that. Hookup with someone like me who does try to pleasure you and knows how more than anyone. I know every kind of hot touch and I can teach you so much. I know how to fuck like a perfect guy.

07million · 2022-02-23T22:18:20+00:00

Don't ghost him.

"I'm sorry this isn't going to work out. Goodluck."

Czekraft · 2022-02-23T22:45:00+00:00

Why would someone break down over dropping a parcel?

AppropriateLink5330 · 2022-02-23T23:54:22+00:00

A lot of people might not agree with what I’m about to say here but I think people tend to forget that we’re all human beings sometimes. We all have emotions and we all go through shit. The fact that he broke down might have nothing to do with the text from his sister or nothing with the fact that he is comfortable around you already (which would not be a bad thing even if it’s just casual?). All I’m saying is maybe that was the breaking point or the last drop in the glass. Maybe he’s been overwhelmed, maybe a lot is going on; you wouldn’t know because you’re just seeing each other casually. You never know so I wouldn’t make assumptions about somebody else if you wouldn’t want those assumptions made about you. Not taking things personally in life is a skill that we have all have to learn at some point; also a skill many fail to learn.

Ok-Car7093 · 2022-02-24T00:50:14+00:00

We are all human. It would not be a problem for me. It might even be a cuddle opportunity. I would much rather see a sensitive side than a bad mood with no explanation.

2022-02-24T01:39:13+00:00

Just ask if that’s normal for him, ya know the 7 seconds of sex or the 30 minutes of crying

PhilosophyMost7051 · 2022-02-24T01:57:01+00:00

I just needed to hear tha title but bro gay in disguise 🥸

cormacru999 · 2022-02-24T02:24:02+00:00

Men these days are deeply fragile, scared of women, relationships, life, but the fear starts to make them angry, they go on Reddit to seduction forums, to talk to other men about their issues. They don't talk to women, they don't read any of the posts, articles, essays, blogs, or watch videos by women talking about their experiences & perspectives. They struggle to form real friendships, even with other men, torn between being weak & real or tough & safe, they misunderstand social change, & believe the lies that women will just randomly accuse them of rape if they say hi, but they also can't stop talking about a woman's appearance when they do try to chat her up. If one of the few men who've learned better talk about it, they send hate mail, call them names, use toxic dude terms. When they do manage to convince a woman to date them or sleep with them, they end up demanding that she fulfill ALL of their human needs. The woman has to be their best friend, cuz that's their only friend, she has be his family cuz those relationships aren't healthy either. She has to be his caretaker, do his laundry, cool his meals, clean the house, care for any children, work a career job while he delivers pizza & leave him alone so he can game when he's off work. She has to be good in bed, but not too good cuz that's slutty. She has to look good but not too good cuz then other men may notice. She can be smart but not so smart that he feels dumb. She can work, she can pay for everything as long as she never points that out.

I'm never surprised at women's experiences anymore. Every woman I know who has talked to me about their experiences repeat all this like a mantra. And when they do stay with a man, its because he's not outright abusive, he doesn't hit her, the sex isn't awful, he has started finally doing 1 chore around the house & hell, dealing with his fragility once a week is better than fighting more & its hard to be single, & alone.

cormacru999 · 2022-02-24T02:26:37+00:00

Another thing I find really funny, do you ever look at men's reddit tags compared to women's reddit tags? Men use toilet humor, chad jokes, talk about their penises, while women never do, they have philosophy like this one, or science, or something from a movie, a book, art.

It's VERY telling. lol

bouncypoo · 2022-02-24T02:57:56+00:00

are you sure he has a penis

KyleTheKing24 · 2022-02-24T03:13:44+00:00

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2022-02-24T04:24:02+00:00

Lol women really don’t care what dudes be going through.

PhilosophyMost7051 · 2022-02-24T04:59:47+00:00

He sounds like a loser.

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-02-24T06:36:07+00:00

Who the fuck avoids eating pussy when offered? Gays are understandable, dirty is understandable but if it’s clean that should be like a buffet table, she should get off as much or more on it. It’s not sex otherwise, it’s just masturbation - booooo what a lame-o

PhilosophyMost7051 · 2022-02-24T07:26:46+00:00

Do not, do NOT, hook up with this guy again~

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-02-25T03:10:40+00:00

Nobody meets up and says let’s do casual 😂

jewess82 · 2022-02-25T06:36:27+00:00

Run lol

stagger2019 · 2022-03-28T18:07:43+00:00

U need to get out he’s a selfish prick . Then get ahold of me and I can show u how this is to go

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