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El_Marlin · 2021-09-04T01:11:38+00:00

Be a cool dude that talks to everyone, not just girls.

HanEyeAm · 2021-09-04T00:57:12+00:00

You've developed the confidence to talk with anyone. Awesome. Now limit your approaches to a select few who catch your eye. Maybe don't do cold approaches at all in the dining hall.

On campus, social networks make it a lot easier to meet women. Maybe join a few clubs, get to know some key women in sororities/clubs, and then leverage those for introductions. Save the cold approaches for random women off campus and in bars.

P00_buttz69 · 2021-09-04T00:39:49+00:00

Viewing talking to women as a science seems a bit strange.

Who cares man, just talk to women. If you're kind, you'll have a good rep. Just don't be creepy.

ShawnSimoes · 2021-09-04T00:51:05+00:00

What are you worried about? Getting a reputation as the fun guy who talks to everyone? You don't need to ask them all for their number.

EmrysAllen · 2021-09-04T01:09:27+00:00

Why is talking to girls bad? Like what the hell are you saying to these girls? Chill it with the math, just talk to people and don't be an asshole.

footballkid_ · 2021-09-04T14:01:33+00:00

This nigga bringing up analytics and shit. Just live life bro y’all take this shit too seriously

Narcan9 · 2021-09-04T04:22:43+00:00

Funny considering the recent post of the Asian guy who thinks he needs to move to the other side of the planet to have a chance with women.

Lowkey is always better IMO. Women do talk and you can get a negative rep in some circles. However, understand that some will badmouth you to their friends and then sneak home with you to fk.

So don't care too much about the rep. But always play it cool and let the girl know you'll never shame her, you'll always have her back.

AmpleSling · 2021-09-04T01:11:23+00:00

Damn, this is the first time I see coding is used in approaching girls. Very interesting!

If it makes you feel better, I’m also an Asian and I constantly approach girls at the mall. I’ve approached the same girls for like three times. It happens man. But i get used to it.

Maybe when you approach girls at dining hall, just approach them with the intention of being friends. If something develops during your interactions, its a win!

Ambitionlessness · 2021-09-04T14:07:30+00:00

I actually had that reputation in college. I’d approach girls on campus and say you’re cute or whatever crazy nonsense I could think of.

Every so often a girl in my class would tell me her friend had someone hit on her, and she’d say yeah that must be Peter.

That said I’m sure some of the conversations about me were negative, because I didn’t really know what I was doing, and I was being obnoxiously forward with my approaches.

If I could go back and do it all over I would have been a lot more chill about my approaches. Compliment something other than their looks. Ask about their major, how they’re feeling about it, try to vibe first, then go for a number.

Each person you’ll approach on campus you’ll probably see again, and that can give you anxiety about rejection but that can also be really good if you are just nice and conversational, rejections you get the first time you meet might turn into something later.

Low key is the way to go 👍

SGrosch · 2021-09-04T13:29:25+00:00

This is why you “don’t shit where you eat”!

You practice elsewhere, and you crush close by.

AelfredRex · 2021-09-04T01:34:16+00:00

What's the rush? Get your food, chill, and enjoy the scenery while you eat. Catch a few eyes, exchange a few smiles, and some girls might even approach you.

muff_marauder · 2021-09-04T02:29:10+00:00

If you're bad at cold approaching, don't practice at college obviously. Then you won't get a bad reputation for being terrible at flirting.

If you aren't already physically attractive and well dressed, make yourself so. Then practice cold approach off-campus until you've got it down or at least the confidence to do so. Then hit the campus.

Once you're successful at campus, you might get a rep for being a fun flirt and even a rep for being great in bed -- both assets for a man.

gangweedsavedme · 2021-09-04T04:12:19+00:00

Maybe save the active socialization for venues, and try passive socialization in other places. Like a simple comment passing by, if they’re interested they’ll react a certain way, or it may lead to a fun conversation

2021-09-04T14:07:14+00:00

College game IS social circle game. Period. If you're cold approaching an environment you go to regurlarly, you're burning your chips. Look to make as many female friends as possible instead of sniping. Does it make sense?

Lifedeather · 2021-09-04T04:50:46+00:00

If you hit on 100 woman at the cafeteria and all girls know about you and inform their friends you are coming look forward to a campus representative contacting you with a sexual harassment charge

calycostyle · 2021-09-04T02:33:15+00:00

Do things and don’t expect anything in return.Be a source of giving and just have fun.Dont worry too much about your reputation just don’t be creepy

Red-Panda · 2021-09-04T02:52:40+00:00

Ask yourself, what are you aiming at with a cold approach to begin with?

I've never been good at one night stands and such, but I've done alot better talking to anyone but normalizing in my head that they are a person like me. If you add mystique around the gender of interest, you're probably view it as a game more than anything else.

teamblinder · 2021-09-04T03:58:41+00:00

Get into FAANG. Girls will be drooling over your TC. Want deeper connection? Read philosophy until you find topic you feel passionate about. The difference will be of night and day. Make a couple of friends or just go out in social places and work on your own (if working remote) to avoid the loneliness (it fucks you mind and accelerates aging).

LakersAreTerrible25 · 2021-09-04T09:34:12+00:00

People are grown in uni. Reputations no longer mean shit because of the sheer volume of chicks there. Most big institutions have thousands of dimes walking around at a given moment. Shit I'm in eng, so I have to approach girls I randomly see

2021-09-04T09:53:07+00:00

I wouldnt do that. We’ve a guy in our high school who’s so desperate he started hanging out with the juniors (he’s a senior). And every guy i know think he’s so weird. And to be honest we dont really like him.

On the other hand, if you build up a reputation with the boys and become a popular guy, maybe it would work.

However i would just download Tinder or smt and then get to talk with girls around you, and hit on girls solely at parties.

Good luck!

msthatsall · 2021-09-04T12:20:16+00:00

College is not about going in with an agenda, it’s about discovering who you really are and could be in the next chapter of your life. Let things unfold a little bit.

carissaxu · 2021-09-04T13:09:39+00:00

Cold approach dudes for starters.

eyesopen1111 · 2021-09-04T13:14:41+00:00

OP, are you here to waste our time? You’ve got at least two different throwaway accounts on this thread alone, so why not stop with the bullshit.

Join a fraternity, if you really are in college. Hang out with guys who get laid a lot and have at least 20 sexual partners in their history. Stop cold approaching until you have had an experienced guy watch you, just to make sure you’re not the beginner who has read nothing and learned nothing about seduction.

salviauser12 · 2021-09-04T14:30:40+00:00

Bro, this seems a bit too technical. I know your Asian and try to model/calculate every step in your life (joking), but don't worry so much about it. Just be chill and have fun with them.

You got this! :D

Nofapdeity · 2021-09-04T15:40:57+00:00

Why are you doing stats?

The only statistic that matters here is that you’re at a college of 30k people. That means no one knows you, and the college is so big that even if you fuck up the school won’t care. If your college was 1k, then I would say worry.

If you do the cold approach, expect the cold shoulder. I’m also in college and I’ve approached a few girls and gotten nothing, but I already have a few girls in my dms.

totallychillside · 2021-09-05T03:00:34+00:00

lifestyle design AKA social circle game - join a club, collect instagrams, post stories, arrange low pressure social gatherings , tell them to invite a friend, rinse repeat. after you get some traction, your reason for talking to girls at the dining hall will be to invite them to your party/meetup/happy hour. “hey you look cool, what’s your name? you should come to my party saturday, invite a friend”

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