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dlatif23 · 2021-07-23T21:00:22+00:00

It’s better than just sitting there and wondering if you should go and talk to her!! What u did is a W in my eyes.

NiceWetTissue · 2021-07-23T22:09:39+00:00

Thats a huge W. Im still to scared to do something as easy as that...

-brax_ · 2021-07-23T21:19:25+00:00

I guess i failed so many times i don't fear it

yeah, it's a numbers game. But I see you know that already.

Lizardaxe · 2021-07-23T22:32:01+00:00

Did the same things couple of nights ago, although I got rejected, I'm happy at least I did something instead of feeling sorry for myself that matters the most.

-WolfieMcq · 2021-07-23T23:36:53+00:00

How did you know she came from another country?

Moikepdx · 2021-07-24T02:32:21+00:00

Don't take it personally. That was not "horribly wrong", she simply wasn't interested.

Sometimes they are a little rude, but in a sense, she is making you a favor by rejecting you and making you stronger. Take the feedback and go to the next.

achselschneider · 2021-07-23T23:09:48+00:00

The more you try the better you'll be. Keep it up

skdkleod · 2021-07-24T06:32:37+00:00

I wouldn’t take it personally! Sounds like you didn’t do anything wrong and she was just uncomfortable. This is common with women so again, I wouldn’t take it personally.

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DrouinWasOnsides · 2021-07-23T23:19:02+00:00

Huge W!! keep trying buddy!!

The0rangeKind · 2021-07-23T21:45:26+00:00

it depends how you approached her. depends if you saw the girl first and she saw you before you sat down to her or not. also if you went straight into asking about her might’ve been too direct for her and she realized immediately you had interest in her.
can’t do that bro but at least you tried...

PossibleEntertainer2 · 2021-07-24T03:38:47+00:00

You had real balls...took courage. Be proud.

Peachmuffin91 · 2021-07-24T01:33:29+00:00

You have to fail many times before you will succeed many times. Anything you want to be good at in life you must practice and continuously put effort towards that goal.

The guys who get the most girls got rejected the most at first, but they shrug that off and keep on keeping on.

OnedayatatimeChicago · 2021-07-24T01:34:18+00:00

Nice work man! Who GAF what she thinks. Cheers bro.

Yonski3 · 2021-07-24T01:43:15+00:00

Well you got courage points no matter what the outcome so good job!

4025808 · 2021-07-24T01:51:06+00:00

Still worth it - every time you don't try is a missed opportunity. Just keep attending more events, ofc making sure you've dressed right and are generally fit.

MonkiePantss · 2021-07-24T03:07:17+00:00

Wtf with the “cause you came from another country” 🥴

Kenic_In_MD · 2021-07-23T22:39:52+00:00

Thats happened to me more than once lol. At least you had the courage to approach!

Aggravating_Farm_125 · 2021-07-23T23:08:04+00:00

Hey bro I’m like you. Keep trying. We’ll make it there. Better yourself always and that should help with confidence

MrPapuga · 2021-07-24T01:56:32+00:00

When I was reading the title I thought something really bad happened. It could be worse. Good you did something

ninjayeh · 2021-07-24T03:48:43+00:00

A win my guy. Keep moving forward !

Punk_cybernaut · 2021-07-24T04:17:28+00:00

Wanna say got to keep in mind many fails are most likely her side not yours or anything you did. Maybe she wanted alone time, maybe she was for a quick drink before going back to x, maybe she was already aiming at y, she had places to be, etc....sometimes is not just the right words or strategy but the right time (impossible to know unless you approach).

neversleeps212 · 2021-07-24T04:38:30+00:00

Bro it’s all about getting reps in so you get more comfortable making approaches and better at the approaches you make. So in a sense the approach itself is the end game just like you go to the gym to get jacked and have visible abs sure but you don’t expect to get that from any individual workout.

Plus my man, if she blew out of there that quick without you even explicitly hitting on here, I’d say it’s more about her than you. Maybe she just wants to be alone in nature or just got out of a breakup or something.

HammertonMili · 2021-07-24T04:51:11+00:00

Things like that isn't always what it seems, bro. I got a similar story just like that before in a house party. I approached a cute girl who was left by her friends as they danced (she was new so she was shy and didn't know anyone that time). Our talk was smooth and it was going well, I even got her number during the talk. As I came back from getting us a drink I saw her open her calculator app and pretended she had an incoming call and excused herself. I was like ok and continued to have fun that night. 2 days later I got a text from her and she honestly told me that she was being attracted to me that night which she can't be because she has a BF.

2021-07-24T05:14:51+00:00

Good job man 😀

KneedHelpQuicc · 2021-07-24T06:22:32+00:00

Horribly wrong is cops called or something, not walking away bro lol

CoinTimeU · 2021-07-23T21:16:42+00:00

No, you should be upset about this for weeks and perhaps even months. And not just that, it should make you dislike all women and yourself. Or you can keep doing what you did like that’s a good idea.

EggoGF · 2021-07-23T23:38:50+00:00

If you’re expecting failure, you’re going to get what you expect. The glass is half full.

SelfMasteryxx · 2021-07-24T10:12:08+00:00

Cold approaching random girls DOESNT work, unless you’re in a social setting

Dakessian · 2021-07-23T23:51:37+00:00

That’s called being rude. It’s that simple.

the_reql · 2021-07-23T21:14:26+00:00

Sounds like you should respect yourself a bit more, it may come off a bit when you're trying to meet ladies. I recommend taking a break from seduction and find a barbell and learn to train. There's plenty of information on that online, just make sure you find a program that doesn't attempt too much and allows progression. I say this to everyone, but Mark Rippetoe's 'STARTING STRENGTH' is the perfect formula for almost every new lifter.

Dickbag4206969 · 2021-07-24T04:46:01+00:00

That's a total Dub bro. Straight up W. I would've been embarrassed about it for a week straight up but I don't need to. I take action, I learn from it, her reactions are not in my control. I relax.

gg

greenlight144000 · 2021-07-23T22:01:27+00:00

Don’t worry about her you did good. She was just a female dog

TheRealAlkemyst · 2021-07-24T02:34:24+00:00

what were your questions?

Straight_Ad1759 · 2021-07-24T03:46:06+00:00

Don’t judge yourself so harshly. You apparently enjoyed her company until she abruptly left you. And you never got to know her reason. I am sure you will one day meet a lady who will like you and you will hit it off from there. There is available information on dating but you have to pick what will suit you lifestyle or your upbringing.

Dark_SIayer · 2021-07-24T07:46:40+00:00

Maybe instead of creeping up behind her try to catch eye contact once

MarshMallow1995 · 2021-07-24T10:54:08+00:00

Just sweat it bro ,girl was probably insufferable so you dodged a bullet .

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Unicornlove2599 · 2021-07-23T23:49:44+00:00

At least you tried!

Hedser91 · 2021-07-24T01:55:34+00:00

Think positive my friend and good things will happen

ado011235 · 2021-07-24T08:30:17+00:00

You call this horribly wrong?

Ierax29 · 2021-07-24T09:05:55+00:00

This is "Horribly wrong"? Oh sweet summer child...

Mayin_ · 2021-07-24T09:17:16+00:00

Hey great job dude! You can't win them all, but if you find the love of your life it will all be worth it.

serdarsam · 2021-07-24T14:55:09+00:00

How you said is more important than what you said. Maybe you looked too eager while talking to her instead of keeping your cool. I would bet that was the reason she instantly left, lol.

importantshare · 2021-07-24T15:13:03+00:00

You fucked up

nah just playing. But seriously you aren’t telling the whole story because you just randomly mentioned her being from another country, so you said a lot more than just what you are mentioning. You prob went too personal too quickly, should have kept it lighter at first.

unambiguous_script · 2021-07-24T15:46:14+00:00

Trust me when I say this could have gone a lot worse

2021-07-24T16:56:53+00:00

Ah dude, could have been anything why she left. And yes, maybe she was annoyed by you, but you tried and that's what matters. She didn't like it, oh well.

Nessiejanes · 2021-07-24T18:16:33+00:00

By the way she didn't leave, she wanted to boost you to conquer her. Remember my brother the history of the world the conquest and the woman, it has a very close link. So women want to be conquered. I advise you from now on to arm yourself and go for it and think that you are the worst knight the world has ever known.

heywoodsr · 2021-07-24T19:09:06+00:00

So what! This is going to happen in any bar. At least you have the balls to try

KJerry123 · 2021-07-24T21:53:13+00:00

Nice job!!! You're now stronger than you were before.

garciaman · 2021-07-24T22:43:55+00:00

Shoot your shot playa. We have all been there.

rollodxb · 2021-07-25T00:43:42+00:00

There are no failures, only lessons

rimmer3207 · 2021-08-20T06:00:44+00:00

Go gay, dude. It's better, just make sure it ain't with a fem dude. They are just as bad as women. LOL!

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Date	July 23, 2021 8:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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