So I chatted up this girl on OKcupid, and then got her on the phone and we planned to go out last night. I took her out to coffee and then offered to smoke her a bowl so we went back to her place. I kino'd her quite a bit and then we started kissing and getting hot-n-heavy. However, every time I tried to place my hand on her silk igloo she would push it away. I thought maybe this was just typical LMR, so I would lay off and try it again after a while, to no avail. She wouldn't even let me take her bra off. Finally, she said something like "I don't like to have to tell you more than once."

So I backed off a little, and did some "deep-diving." Listened to her talk a little, asked her about her goals and aspirations (she wants to become a sex therapist or a marriage counselor). Then, I started again. I managed to get her bra and shirt off, but she was still pushing me away from my real goal. This went on for a while, and then I laid back and talked to her some more. She kept talking about how she doesn't want to do anything on the first date, she's not that type of girl, etcetera. And then it clicked.

It clicked for me because she said something about how girls who sleep with guys on the first date have limited chances for a LTR. Then I remembered an article I had read on Seddit a few days earlier. The article talked about how if a girl wants to have an LTR she will likely not sleep with you on the first date (or even the 2nd or 3rd sometimes). This is because she perceives you as "boyfriend material." I am a very level-headed person, and a law-student, so it would be easy for me to fall into the "longterm potential" trap.

So I took the advice the article I had read gave, and disqualified myself as a potential boyfriend. I talked off-handedly about how I won't be having any relationships until I get out of law school (2 years from now) because I'm in the school for 14-16 hours a day and "it wouldn't be fair to whoever I was in a relationship with." I talked about how I had to focus on school and nothing else, but it would be worth it in the long run.

Anyway, that did the trick. We went at it again, and that time I had absolutely no problem getting her pants and underwear off. The funniest part was when she said "I can't believe I changed my mind," and I was thinking "I know exactly why you changed your mind, lol."

One last thing. Thank you to whoever posted that article. I seriously would have been fucked (or, rather, not have?) had I not read that article.

TLDR: Encountered heavy LMR and "I don't sleep with a guy on the first date," while getting hot-n-heavy with new girl. Remembered Seddit advice and realized she was thinking I could be her boyfriend and she didn't want to ruin her chances. Disqualified myself as a potential bf by saying I wouldn't be having a relationship for at least 2 years, due to law school. Got laid.