How does one attract a "baddie" type?

2022-02-18T18:26:35+00:00

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PondScum420 · 2022-02-18T18:57:50+00:00

Forget trying to cater to what you think they want. You’re different, which is good. Talk to them confidently, and you’d be surprised. I think most humans are curious to try new things. I can be a pretty nerdy/dorky looking white guy and I’ve pulled some baddies of all different races, I swear, just because they’re curious and I’m confidently different.

anothersadthrowaway- · 2022-02-18T18:10:47+00:00

Gotta talk to them and appeal to them. I went through this phase minus the big hoops, and I ended up with the biggest nerd on the planet. You definitely don’t have to be a certain “type” besides being their type if that makes sense.

Also a lot of us like white guys for sure! Being well groomed and dressing well is a plus. I have a friend who fits the description (looooong nails, hoops, trendy outfits, different hairstyles each week) and she’s currently with her white boyfriend who goes to UCLA as a med major.

anoyingprophet · 2022-02-18T18:49:40+00:00

Man don’t let preconceived notions based on their style and appearance affect you. Just put yourself out there and be yourself. You might be surprised. Because I will tell you this, while many girls of certain areas and culture may be known to have a type, every girl on earth I attracted to confidence. Be 100% and unapologetically you and if she doesn’t like you then it’s ok. Just actually approach them in person. None of that Dm be.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-02-18T18:41:30+00:00

A lot of those girls are craving a life beyond the one they have around them, and want a man who will make them feel sophisticated, beautiful, and successful. They often feel like the men around them are either very low class, very sycophantic, or too interested in their bodies and not their minds or ambitions. If you are capable of being a man (that is, not a little bitch who gets handled easily by other dudes), capable of pulling women in general (just because the culture is a little different, doesn’t mean they stop being female), and also capable of at least hinting at the above, you will find a number of those fairly easy to pull.

StereoFood · 2022-02-18T18:38:22+00:00

I believe I’m with one and bro it is not easy lmao. DM with your questions tho

dartyszn4 · 2022-02-18T19:42:31+00:00

Become a stud haha. Get looks, money and social status up. Be confident as fuck too cause they sure are. Worth the effort IMO

willgo-waggins · 2022-02-18T21:47:33+00:00

Don’t.

I’ve done this six to eight months ago with a Russian girl exactly like you describe. Six feet tall and stacked. Way younger than me (28 I’m 51) and hot. Nails and all the other accessories.

The sex was great. She was good to go from night one. Pretty aggressive- she hit me up and came on to me at the club hard core - and very specific about likes and dislikes. Always bringing me little gifts and stuff. No problem coming to my place to spend the night whenever I called for it. Only a FWB situation because she had a baby daddy thing and I didn’t want to be in that and she didn’t want to drag anyone in.

But after about a month and a half or so I called it off.

For one thing she wasn’t interested in anything else but I would constantly run into her or her sister every time I went out (funny how that has inky happened ONCE since 🤔) and she would get bitchy and possessive with me.

For another there was not only the baby daddy but other drama always going on with family, work, kid or “friends” many of whom were not people I allow in my life any more as a professional other than very peripherally.

And lastly she was dumb as a post. I love women and love sex. But if you are hanging out with someone spending the night after and you aren’t going right to sleep, you have to be able to have a conversation. She was completely material oriented because she had zero intellect or curiosity about anything. I came to the point after a month where I literally had to get high to be around her so that I could tuck her and then crash and go to sleep while she watched CARTOONS that my 11 year old doesn’t even watch any more because she would be so fucking wired from constantly drinking energy drinks.

Just my experience. I used to have more fun with girls like this or women who had some of this in them (my king term ex who came from LA was like that but an attorney and brilliant so it was just a fun times act for her). But I just cannot do it anymore other than a ONS or casual occasional lay for the look and thrill of fucking it.

defpara · 2022-02-18T18:37:17+00:00

Become the anti-baddie. Opposites attract. Baddie sounds like a stereotype. You gotta be the baddie dude!

surferguy999 · 2022-02-18T20:07:12+00:00

I have fucked the “baddie” type (long nails, big hoops, fake lashes, tongue sticking out).

In general they seem attracted to a certain type of guy: usually tatted, faded haircut, sneakers, chain, etc. If you lean into that you might get more play. Otherwise just be yourself and see if there into you.

Every girl is different however and they all like being seduced, so the skills you learn will largely be universal.

Personally I found this type of girl to be fun to fuck, but otherwise not relationship material. The girl I was messing with was pretty young and just wanted to party every day.

Extra-Boysenberry · 2022-02-18T21:23:55+00:00

You don’t want these type of women honestly.

wj2smooth · 2022-02-18T18:21:20+00:00

Up your sneaker game…

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-02-18T18:25:50+00:00

Do you work out?

stockmaniac · 2022-02-18T18:39:01+00:00

Get a buzzcut (or any other agressive haircut, I have a uppercut pompadur faded into a beard) and grow a beard. put on some muscle. Tan if your pale. You need to be a bad boy and project that look and character if you want these kinda women

robml · 2022-02-18T21:46:57+00:00

I'll give you a hint: $, even if you're not rich.

Robofrogg1 · 2022-02-18T19:51:57+00:00

You say ‘they’ as if they have some sort of hive mind. All girls are different and are attracted to different things.

Iistendipshit · 2022-02-18T20:20:34+00:00

First of all, they're not some special creatures from outer space, they're just normal human beings just like me and you. Those type of girls actually tend to be the most vulnerable and insecure. All that make up, nails and clothes represent a mask they have to put on everytime they leave the house. So it's the exact same with their personalities and demeanors, which also most definitely changes the moment she gets home or somewhere comfortable. What they are hiding, I cannot answer. Might be their body insecurities, might be their knowledge, might be their IQ,... So all you really need is something they don't have or lack of, and that is confidence. Maybe you happen to be her type, and if you pass every of her shit tests, you might get lucky.

FaithInStrangers94 · 2022-02-18T18:45:41+00:00

1st question is do you really want a girl like that even for casual Sex?

I’m really attracted to them too but I can’t stand their dramatic personalities most the time

If you want to proceed Put yourself in places where you’ll meet them - there are certain clubs here that attract them - and be quite cocky and forward and be prepared for some shit tests (not the intellectual type you might get from a geeky feminist type but ones that challenge your masculinity). They seem to get bored easily (despite being boring themselves) so too much platonic conversation and low energy probably won’t get you very far

And if you’re a geeky looking white guy that will limit things a bit but it’s still worth going for

fuckouttahea · 2022-02-18T18:39:56+00:00

Be an asshole and self absorbed

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2022-02-18T22:06:36+00:00

Work on being toxic and in shape

Maddzilla2793 · 2022-02-18T22:14:26+00:00

I mean tbh baddies love white guys esp white guys with blue eyes. You got blue eyes white boy?

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-02-18T22:17:09+00:00

Become them. Match their vibe. This is just creating a different branch of You, this is not replacing You. All parts of you are you, if you’re a doctor by day and a death metal drummer by night, so be it. Both of those “You’s” are equally valid as an expression of who you are inside.

Changing your look outside doesn’t change you on the inside. So if you want to mingle with vastly different crowds, you have to assimilate yourself into that crowd, and remember who you were before that so you don’t undergo an identity crisis for changing groups often, floating.

As a Social Floater, you can be your fullest self and experience many other self-expression of the human experience. You will always be you, so go change yourself.

EnvironmentalRule525 · 2022-02-18T22:29:13+00:00

The types of girls that do this body mod/extreme makeup/plastic surgery/post Instagram pics with their ass hanging out are new age gold diggers. They are looking for guys with clout, elite status, or a fuck load of money.

CenaSmackDown · 2022-02-18T19:27:44+00:00

Join a gang you'll do fine until you get arrested, then you're on your own for commissary and visits unless you set money aside or got her pregnant

tomatosauce23 · 2022-02-18T19:39:30+00:00

Money, status, in shape. Preferably 6FT! Have good social skills. And CONFIDENCE. Someone will probably comment "be yourself and you will attract them'' if you have the things I mention you will have a lot of success with baddies LOL

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-02-18T19:54:28+00:00

Gotta be rich, popular, good looking

FightForDemocracyNow · 2022-02-18T20:22:36+00:00

Hang out in the ghetto with scumbags?

WanyCaleb · 2022-02-18T18:38:52+00:00

Tattoos, piercings and big ass shoes or fancy sneakers rather

JicamaNo2470 · 2022-02-18T18:12:21+00:00

Bump

krupxslurp · 2022-02-18T19:19:01+00:00

just be yourself and talk to them as friends

Agent_129 · 2022-02-18T20:43:33+00:00

Be straight up don’t beat around the bush

Woujo · 2022-02-18T20:51:39+00:00

You do not change your game or your behavior to "match" the kind of woman you want. Just be you and approach confidently. You have on idea what those women "want" so playing some kind of character will inevitably fail. Sometimes those "baddies" secretly want a white guy. You don't know.

But calling them "baddies" is already putting you at a disadvantage because you are putting them on a pedestal and acting like they are something special.

SNTMLI · 2022-02-18T20:54:53+00:00

leave them hoes alone they want the bag not you lmao

r1bb1tTheFrog · 2022-02-18T21:10:04+00:00

I don’t care as long as they’re a baddie in bed.

thelambofdeth · 2022-02-18T20:25:49+00:00

You white guys are always fetishizing ethnic women smh. Stick to Asian waifus or whatever. This is bad trolling

2022-02-18T21:13:25+00:00

U have to be Nate Jacobs

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2022-02-18T21:44:58+00:00

OP, these are 6 steps you can take to improve yourself without "compromising who you are" or acting like a fake thug or douchebag.

1) STOP ASSUMING WHAT THEY LIKE. That's a barrier YOU are already putting on yourself.

2) haircut for your face shape. Fades are trendy, masculine, match every race and head shape(shy of elephant man), and women LOVE fades.

3) short beard or stubble(4-6mm is sweet spot for aesthetics and attraction, PROVEN). Goatee works too, angles matter alot, edge up the neckline and cheeklines. This makes you look more attractive, jawline looks stronger, and gives you a more masculine appearance. Women LOVE these things in a man.

4) be ATTRACTIVE don't be unattractive. Act like the confident version of yourself that you imagine you being in your head...be that motherfucker! Women LOVE that shit, homie.

5) eye contact and a smirk go a LONGGGGG way. It shows confidence, comfort in your own skin, and puts females at ease. Also, fix your posture... you'll appear(and feel) more confident.

6) some chick's don't care about looks, MANY do. They are a HUGE factor in how MANY women will respond(or not respond) to guys in 2022. It sucks, but it's a part of "the game" of seduction...ATTRACTIVE guys get more leeway, more fuck ups, more receptiveness, and more cooperation from 80% of women. So follow these 1-6 steps to become INSTANTLY ATTRACTIVE to 80% of women. You'll still have to do the work... it'll just be more returns on your investment.

I've basically given you a fleshed out barebones cheat guide to getting more female attention and receptiveness WITHOUT writing a whole book...that might not be such a bad idea.

rivetcitymayor · 2022-02-18T21:49:08+00:00

Being white won’t hurt you, quite the opposite

HST2345 · 2022-02-18T22:06:18+00:00

Not attracted to Baddie, but attracted to Confidence.

blitzik · 2022-02-18T23:00:17+00:00

You have to approach with a lot of confidence. That type of girl is dressing to attract men who aren't feeble

oreopimp · 2022-02-18T23:13:11+00:00

Be the Great White Shark to her Remoras (they are the fish keep that take care of the environment around the shark and keep the shark clean of unhealthy organisms and irritating parasites that could adversely affect its health -- she wants you to be the type of man she can be that to)
You're the Dr. Loomis to her social man eating Michael Myers. You have her pegged and you find her social baddie attitude cute and amusing. It doesn't phase you. She may be unique but you've seen it before. You're there to take her mask off and really get to know that strong feminine being underneath.

recyclablebanthas · 2022-02-19T00:02:09+00:00

1

I honestly have no idea what the actual term to describe the women referred to in the title, but they usually have long nails, big earrings (like Saweetie or Cardi B). In my area most of the girls are Black, Middle Eastern and Russian and basically all have this exact same look.

As long as you know what you're into, doesn't really matter what name you give it.

An important thing to consider going forward though, is that if you haven't actually dated these women before, then you may well find out that you don't like this particular type as much as you thought you did once you start getting with one or more of them.

In any case, tastes can change over time.

Plus, what you described here is only the external appearance, and a whole hell of a lot can vary on the inside. In fact the interior is, in many ways, more significant than the exterior.

It's not uncommon for guys to end up wandering into dating women who look different on the exterior but all share something on the interior that they really like.

2

Now I don't know if these girls are generally attracted to any type of guy in particular but I always assume they don't like white guys or if they do, it's a Chet Hanks type of guy.

Look, everyone has their own preferences and there's no way for you to predict what they will be without interacting with them first. So unless you are psychic, then always assuming what they like ahead of time is presumptuous.

That's a major problem you have to address: your mindset.

The way attraction really works is like a Venn diagram: there are people you're attracted to, people who are attracted to you, and there's an intersection in the middle. You won't be attracted to everyone who's attracted to you and vice versa.

Finding that intersection is one of the main goals of dating.

3

Not sure if I'm just creating some barrier for myself out of nothing.

Absolutely you are. One thing that is certain is that if you assume all of these women of the type you're interested in, won't be interested in you, it will result in a lack of confidence which will ironically make you unattractive to women who otherwise would have been up for it with you.

It's one of the most common ways that men chew themselves down without realizing it. Because everything they observe will only reinforce whatever negative assumption they had. And they'll never realize that a different mindset would help them.

4

But I guess my question is without me having to compromise who I am, what advice do you people have to attract these kinds of girls?

I think the best advice would be threefold:

Really pin down what exactly you're looking for. Something casual or something serious?
Think about what kind of person you want to be around, whether in the casual or serious context. Like what kind of qualities or personality really hit you off?
It's also very important to consider what your goals and values in life are. Whether or not you are in the market for something serious or casual, being around people whose goals and values in life don't match up with yours, will wear away at you over time, which is unhealthy.

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The framing that you just need to become a baddie, etc, is meaningless. Without knowing what kind of person this really is, there's really no guidepost for you here in saying that.

You basically find out who you are and who you want. And after you sort that out you figure out where people who want what you want would be gathering.

There's no magic way to figure that out. You just have to go look on social media. There are plenty of social groups that meet on a regular basis and they post their events publicly for anyone to look up and join.

2022-02-19T00:18:03+00:00

Your looking for a stripper

Title	How does one attract a "baddie" type?
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Date	February 18, 2022 6:00 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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