How much does being in shape help you while pursuing girls?

justmuro · 2020-08-07T15:33:46+00:00

at least it boosts my confidence

GrandMasterB19 · 2020-08-07T16:23:42+00:00

Significant increase in attention + significant increase in self-confidence. It's like a feedback loop where they melt into each other as you continue to get in better shape, feel more confident, and get more attention.

One caveat to this: People will start giving you looks, like other men as well, because now you have the stigma of being a "fit guy." Also, your standards for women will go up because you won't settle for a girl when you feel like you're hotter than she is.

canseiDeSerEnganado · 2020-08-07T16:22:47+00:00

It is not only good looking, but having a good shape tells a lot about a man's personality and life style. So it is very atractive

LevelUp84 · 2020-08-07T16:40:45+00:00

Women will check you out. After I lost weight and toned up, I could see women checking me out.

You look better in clothes and it improves confidence.

BytownGuy · 2020-08-07T17:55:20+00:00

I used to get 0 attention, but boy, I am in shape (I am not shredded, I just have mass and moderate body fat) and I get soo much more attention from muchachas.

nielsjeeeee · 2020-08-07T15:34:17+00:00

Well to be fair when I started losing weight I got a lot more eye contact with girls. This could also be due to increased confidence I suppose. I'm not jacked or anything though and I don't think you need to be. People might perceive you as a narcissistic gym rat.

throwawayzibil · 2020-08-07T16:05:49+00:00

Yes, its the equivalent of seeing a girl with a hot body

awwhorsefeathers · 2020-08-07T20:30:02+00:00

It categorically helps, and if you are actively pursuing women you’d be crazy to not lift weights for even just 20min 2 or 3 times a week.

lululenox · 2020-08-07T18:07:26+00:00

It helps. Stop making excuses for yourself and get in shape. If not for girls do it for yourself.

MomsSpecialFriend · 2020-08-07T18:17:23+00:00

As a woman, it makes a huge difference. I can date men based on personality but I am only actually attracted to men who take care of their bodies.

OrdinaryArgentinean · 2020-08-07T16:00:53+00:00

Quite a lot, at least in my experience.

KThxBye28 · 2020-08-07T15:31:52+00:00

well as a girl, it helps a lot... js xD

at least for me xD

2020-08-07T16:41:53+00:00

Yes being in shape and having a low body fat meaning your face has no fat always boosts your attractness

shanuv12 · 2020-08-07T16:56:33+00:00

Your chances are way better. A good physique is attractive no matter what anyone says.

Bum-Sniffer · 2020-08-07T16:28:15+00:00

I think as well as looking good it goes back to primal instinct and natural selection - eg it shows that a man respects his body, has dedication to keep in shape, takes care of himself etc all things we all look for in partners.

Pushit34 · 2020-08-08T00:08:07+00:00

It gets your foot in the door, but it definitely doesn't seal the deal.

manonpoint_com · 2020-08-08T00:19:11+00:00

It helps a lot. Makes you more attractive (including your *face* by losing excess fat), gives you more confidence, makes you appear more powerful, and also makes more guys think you are cool due to stereotype which helps boost confidence and social proof.

Marvps50 · 2020-08-07T16:06:41+00:00

Personality reigns supreme but looking in shape will give better chances and will give you more confidence.

401kisfun · 2020-08-07T19:25:15+00:00

That’d just one thing. That, fashion, tone of voice; rolling with cool friends, fantastic conversation, then yes I’ve seen a slight uptick.

SwugSteve · 2020-08-07T20:08:45+00:00

dropped 35 pounds, packed on muscle, have much better success with women. It made me like myself more, and also made me look better. There is really no downside

thedessertplanet · 2020-08-07T23:33:38+00:00

Getting into shape is one way to make yourself look more decent.

trouble-kinda · 2020-08-07T23:36:13+00:00

A Lot. Since I got single and out of a toxic relationship; I lost 50+ pounds and began exercising, then I began lifting. I am not dating right now(single Papa, full time). I am hit on a lot. Getting skinny helped, but have a full chest and over packing my sleeves made major changes in how I am treated by women.

*I have not changed my shirt size. I do not have a six pack.

acceptlovepeace · 2020-08-08T00:28:47+00:00

It may help you get the girls interest initially but you still need game

ImJustSo · 2020-08-07T17:06:02+00:00

I used to be 330lbs. I dieted and exercised, lost 120lbs in one year. So it was like night and day how I was treated. For reference, I'm 6ft flat.

Right at around 220lbs is when I started to see a difference. At 205lbs, that's about the most attention I received. The weight loss happened about 9 years ago so I've seen my weight fluctuate over the years and my results are pretty consistent. I'd say at 205 I have a nice "dad bod".

I've been as low as 187.5 and I've gotten back as high as 230lbs. My average over the years is right around 200-205.

I don't (and have never) looked "muscular". I have never acquired a six pack. I have never felt that my body is particularly attractive.

None of that matters to women, they think I'm fine as a mother fucker. They want to see my naked body. They are/have been pretty lewd. I've been catcalled more times than I can count. I've been serenaded out car windows, phone numbers shouted at me, I WANNA HAVE YOUR FUCKIN BABIES, or YOU'RE SO FUCKIN HOT! I've had women whisper dirty things in my ear, who I've never spoken to before.

You ever see 1950s superman? That's basically my body shape. Which I think is a nothing-burger as far as attracting women goes, but I'm wrong. It obviously is working for me.

2020-08-07T19:23:36+00:00

Being in shape + having an activity where you are focused solely on self improvement is one of the most attractive things a person can have.

silverbird666 · 2020-08-07T16:04:58+00:00

Being in shape greatly helps, but in an indirect way via confidence boosts.

No girl, except serious female athlets, cares for your bench press PR.

cegavas · 2020-08-08T00:59:06+00:00

I’m number tripled once I got into pretty decent shape

Grizzlies5003 · 2020-08-08T01:10:19+00:00

Women inherently want the strongest men emotionally and Physically... so its huge

imayscamu · 2020-08-08T01:17:04+00:00

It opens you to more chicks willing to give you attention, receptiveness and shit. And its a halo effect, you look good, you feel good, your life becomes good naturally from it. It's not the 1 answer to every problem but it helps build a portion that improves your life socially mentally and physically. No girl wants to have some drunk fat fuck talk to them at the bar. But if I'm drunk and in good shape, attractive and go to em, they'll get around me.

rebuilt11 · 2020-08-09T03:58:41+00:00

I’ve gotten in shape but nothing got me more attention than I experienced in the last two weeks since starting seamen retention. Confidence is off charts feel better than I have in a decade. Being in shape definitely helps but not as much as other factors. Mind body soul. Improve yourself.

lyingrain · 2020-08-07T17:58:46+00:00

A lot, in my opinion... as most of the other people stated, you get looks and all.. also a nice confidence boost

2020-08-07T20:13:01+00:00

Being in shape is like icing on the cake. Aesthetically you look better, so more attention and even more confidence. You can't go wrong with that.

TrainCrossing · 2020-08-07T21:48:48+00:00

It's the balance of being confident and not arrogant. I would say that the factor is actually how you feel about yourself.

If you are confident and relaxed, you will get better attention than if you are ripped and overconfident.

Oh yeah, don't fake it, most women can see right through the act.

bblogan75 · 2020-08-07T22:25:56+00:00

lol, being in shape? Like six pack shape or just athletic? Most girls find it very sexy and its like having an infinity gauntlet

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-08-07T22:50:00+00:00

A) currently getting in shape(on a recomp). Broad shoulders,wide chest,big arms from calisthenics but big beer belly. As I recomp,I notice more reception during interactions with women.

B)So I can only imagine what it'll be like once I get that Jeff Nippard/Batista look. So yeah getting in shape helps a lot.

casualthang · 2020-08-07T23:11:24+00:00

Find out for yourself.

atomant88 · 2020-08-08T03:52:20+00:00

depends on your approach. accentuate your assets. hide your drawbacks. tailor your game to your tools.

personally im overweight and have no trouble. but i'm also tall, funny, confident, stylish, and of average looks.

2020-08-07T17:26:01+00:00

A lot.

BurnablesOnMondays · 2020-08-07T23:34:15+00:00

In my situation it's vital, since I like women with sculpted thighs and butts. I'm a hardgainer who can't bulk because of GERD, so all my gym efforts result in muscle definition on a skinny frame (80cm waist, 88~90cm chest). Every single time I go on a Tinder date with someone who's hot and above a 7/10, there's an immediate vibe that they were expecting someone with more muscle mass. One girl even straight up told me that. My 9/10 face and personality just aren't enough, it seems.

lovatoariana · 2020-08-08T02:25:33+00:00

Honestly it never made any difference whatsoever. The ammount of hot girls ive seen dating guys looking like absolute shit is off the charts. Its something i do for myself and my gf liked that i got in shape, but ive never met a girl that went for a guy because he had abs.

Ive heard female friends talk about a "hot guy" dozens of times and admiring his aesthetics, but they never went for it. A friend even told me: "yeah hes really sexy but hes dumb as fuck and i dont like that".

myachybreakyheart1 · 2020-08-07T16:23:30+00:00

It definitely helps me but mostly with the types of girls I pull.

There are a lot of girls who are fit and will exclude men from consideration that are not.

L0n3W01f_ · 2020-08-08T01:24:15+00:00

You need the stamina and endurance to continue the pursuant

starfire_xes · 2020-08-08T02:11:59+00:00

It does matter if you have a huge bulge in your pants.

2020-08-08T07:41:56+00:00

I’m not in shape yet but I have two friends who are and they’re ladykillers soooooo yeah imma say yes. It makes you look better but it also shows that you are a man who takes care of himself. That alone is attractive I think.

Evan-Saucedo · 2020-08-08T16:46:34+00:00

First off you need to be comfortable in your own skin. Don’t hit the gym/ lose weight for anyone BUT YOURSELF!

Second it’s how you hold yourself

Third it’s how you treat her

Forth ABSOLUTELY NO LYING

Tanatox_ · 2020-08-07T16:07:06+00:00

Yes, a lot. Even when i'm gay.

KThxBye28 · 2020-08-07T23:10:05+00:00

Very little. Doesn't matter if your skinny or big boned, women like it all, you just have to find the type. As a woman, I read through the crappy advice that these chads and incels give, and I just smh. Being in shape can boost your confidence, but you can also just be confident for the body that you have, in shape or not, there will be a girl that will like you for you. That's on Period.

Alex_O7 · 2020-08-07T17:50:04+00:00

I sow a steady decrease in getting girls since I get fit, even if that I have to admit that I recieved some compliments about my body by girls and that's nice.

But I was better with girls when I wasn't in shape because I was more focused on impressing girls for what I am and not for what I seem.

314inthehizzy · 2020-08-08T13:14:28+00:00

Being in shape can lead to finding people who only want you for your looks. Present yourself as best as you can. Looks only last so long and true love doesn't work on looks alone. Besides I personally like a guy with a little weight on him.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2020-08-08T01:21:40+00:00

Made no difference at all. I fell for the lie that is hit the gym, and women will start noticing you.

The results from getting a good physique only help if you're good looking to start with. Muscles enhance your initial attractiveness, not make you attractive.

Title	How much does being in shape help you while pursuing girls?
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