Introvert vs. Extrovert

DvlsAdvc8 · 2014-05-25T02:16:34+00:00

Extrovert will have an advantage simply by the numbers: More willingness to be social and engaged, larger social networks and energy, means more chances to connect. Extroversion can also appear more confident to strangers.

nemesis_kid · 2014-05-25T01:04:41+00:00

There's nothing wrong with being an introvert, but there IS a problem with being a shut-in. Introversion, properly expressed can come off as mysterious and deep. Plenty of musicians, actors and artsy types are generally introverted and are great with women, one just has to have sufficient social skills either way to navigate life despite preferring alone time.

recyclablebantha · 2014-05-25T02:40:05+00:00

Does one personality type have an advantage over the other? I don't think so.

Well, "introversion" and "extroversion" exist on a continuum, so most people are not wholly one or the other. But if you were dealing with hard-core introvert and a hard core-extrovert, then hands down, the hard core extrovert would have the advantage.

Why? Well, let's look at the actual definition of "introversion". (Note: I'm disregarding that year old Seddit post which gave introversion a definition of convenience that doesn't match the actual one.)

Introversion is "the state of or tendency toward being wholly or predominantly concerned with and interested in one's own mental life".

In other words, an introvert's natural state is to be in their head.

Given that the essential core of seduction is socializing, which requires one to be paying attention to the other person in order to connect and relate to them, and you're looking at a handicap, the stronger one's introversion is. Connecting and relating to another person is nigh impossible if one is in their own head.

It's not that introverts can't do these things, but in order to do so, they must constantly strive to overcome their own tendency to be in their heads or else they won't have have a chance to connect and relate with other people as well as an extrovert, whose natural state of focus is on the world around him, which grants him easy access to all the information he needs to relate and connect.

laiyaise · 2014-05-25T02:53:43+00:00

Extroverts are more willing to be socially engaged and for longer periods which make them more likely to succeed in networking socially simply by taking a brute force approach furthermore the world is catered to the extrovert as it is seen as a socially desirable quality. Introverts are not great at small talk but they are very good listeners. They also tend to be more interesting because of the way they approach their solitary passions however they can only spend so much energy on others before they need to recharge.

In the end I don't think it really matters all that much and even if it did it's not like you can really do anything about it. If being introverted really bothers you chances are you will just burn yourself out pretending to be an extrovert and not enjoy socializing. When I think of extreme introverts I think of something like Daniel Craig's James Bond or pretty much any Harrison Ford character so I don't think it is a hindrance.

CostcoMuffins · 2014-05-25T01:19:21+00:00

You're thinking about this the wrong way. I've said this on seddit before and I'll say it again:

Introvert and Extrovert are not two "types" of personality, like two sides of a coin or two check-boxes. They are opposite ends of a wide spectrum.

Also I think you're confusing Extroversion with "having social skills" and Introversion with "being shy/socially awkward".

This is a common misconception because its a stereotype that generally fits, but while these traits may be associated with each-other in a statistically meaningful way, that's as far as the connection goes.

See this post on why being an Introvert is not a handicap.

Blissfully · 2014-05-25T04:06:17+00:00

Someone once told me that the only difference between the two is that introverts gain energy from solitude and extroverts from being socially. That's it, no connotation attached.

shitsfuckedupalot · 2014-05-25T05:00:54+00:00

You gotta play to your strengths. I'm 50/50, so i'll have distinct personalities when i go out. some work better than others, but i really don't think people should label themselves that way. it can be limiting. just be whoever you wanna be.

yamehameha · 2014-05-25T05:12:01+00:00

Extroversion: quantity over quality.

Introversion: quality over quantity.

The trick for both types is to find a balance just like everything else in life.

buildmuscle1122 · 2014-05-25T05:00:43+00:00

Iam an introvert and i don't have luck with girls and I think extrovert have a good advantage over Introverts

nudeinmylivingroom · 2014-05-25T05:37:02+00:00

I agree because, one cannot exist without the other.

michaelchief · 2014-05-25T09:24:57+00:00

There are pros and cons to both. Since so many people think they have to be extroverted for pickup, though, I run a program that teach introverts how to take advantage of their introversion in seduction called Seductive Introvert. A TL;DR for one great advantage for introverts is that we are generally better at active listening, and that can open LOTS of doors for us that extroverts generally don't take advantage of.

sloshslapper · 2014-05-25T10:47:19+00:00

An extrovert would probably be more practiced in meeting people, but they both probably have similar ceilings if not starting points.

martinx3x · 2014-05-25T13:13:33+00:00

It needs to be made clear that extroversion/introversion does not equate to being outgoing/shy.

It's generally defined that introversion is when a person exerts energy during social situations while extroversion is when a person takes in energy from social situations.

Probably a large amount artists and entertainers would identify themselves as introverted. Comedians and stage performances are good examples because they pretty much give everything they have for the audience. The names seem like they could be flipped.

Many introverts actually enjoy social situations once they've learned to fully express themselves. In contrast, there are many natural extroverts who stay home a lot simply due to fear of being judged due to anxiety which has nothing to do with introversion or extroversion.

BizWax · 2014-05-25T14:24:49+00:00

As long as you own it properly there shouldn't be a big difference. Don't try to be someone you're not, and be confident about yourself.

There is just one clear advantage extroverts have over introverts. Being an extrovert is (unjustly) favoured by modern society. This makes being confident about your personality as an extrovert come easy as there is plenty of external stimulus that confirms your confidence. Introverts don't lack this entirely (especially with the rise of the internet), however it's still significantly less so. This makes confidence a more conscious decision for introverts than it is for extroverts.

MyMotivation · 2014-05-26T13:07:06+00:00

Tyler RSD is an introvert (he talks about it in one of his videos can't remember which).

MareSerenitatis · 2014-05-26T17:44:11+00:00

I'm most definitely an introvert but I think it's a moot point anyways. As I've understood the introvert/extrovert comparison, you behave the same in a social gathering (not that it doesn't require effort for an introvert). You can be outgoing and friendly with a group of people, however as an introvert it requires energy whereas an extrovert gains energy from being around people. I go out to a party/bar and do great with meeting people (guys and girls alike), but it exhausts me and I typically stay in the next night. But my point is that, in an actual social setting, nobody should be able to tell whether you're introverted or extroverted. You should be outgoing either way (if you want to meet people), it's just a difference of internal mindset.

Allen_Yuan · 2014-05-25T03:13:47+00:00

I think extroversion and introversion both have advantages. Extroverts are better at attaching themselves to many opportunities and making things happen, while introverts are less likely to be needy and more outcome-independent.

DaygameCoach · 2014-05-25T14:07:26+00:00

No. Both have advantages and disadvantages. I'm going to talk a little about the extrovert end of the equation. Then, I'm going to note this as a possible article on Daygamer.net, where I can talk about the introvert end of this and the topic in general. If there is a lot of interest in this topic, let me know. BTW, I define In vs. E as where one's energy comes from: Internally or Externally as far as interaction with the environment.

Extreme introverts seem to have more of a challenge at the beginning because besides the normal stuff that we have to work on, they have to big time bring our energy down (while gaining energy from the interactions and environment), and correct rate of speech and body language more than usual...all at the same time. Once they've gotten past the intro and extra stuff...it gets easier for them.

Example of extreme extrovert (other than me and some of my clients): Simeon, who won season 2 of the Pickup Artist. He started out blowing out AS he opened sets (they would back turn as he opened).

Extroverts in general:

Have have a disadvantage at the beginning in that they "speak to think" instead of "think to speak" so if they are saying the wrong stuff (at the beginning)...they have to gain the social intelligence to improve; this becomes an advantage when they improve since they can think/talk on the fly.

Have an advantage because they tend to be more social because they gain energy from interactions with people as well as high energy/people environments (although they have to manage that energy too).

-Cuisine

Bitterposer · 2014-05-25T02:32:25+00:00

Call me an asshole, but I don't believe in "personality types." You can change who you are, and people act differently around different people. Excusing your lack of social skills by calling yourself an "introvert" is a bullshit cop-out.

Here are why some people are "introverts":

1- They have social anxiety - they have been bullied their whole lives and are scared of talking to people, especially people they see as "above" them or people they don't know. If this is you, cut it the fuck out.

2- They have no social skills - if you are an "introvert" because you don't know how to carry a conversation with somebody you need to fucking learn. It's not hard.

3- They have no confidence. Nuff said.

4- They are selfish and think that every conversation should be about something they are interested in and if it isn't, they aren't interested in talking. The only way to get ahead in life is to understand that you need to talk about what the other person is interested in.

-KT · 2014-05-25T00:44:08+00:00

Title	Introvert vs. Extrovert
Author	Allen_Yuan
Upvotes	68
Comments	54
Date	May 25, 2014 12:40 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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