http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/152w0f/female_redditors_due_to_the_popularity_of_the/
This is probably old news to most of you, but Jesus Christ, reading that thread just made me cringe so much. The amount of pussy you can get if you just go for it is insane and I can't believe guys have missed out on so many opportunities when they're SO CLOSE.
When I was younger I stressed a lot about whether I should "make a move." The worry was that if she wasn't interested I would look like a fool. Also there was the fear of "going too far."
I haven't really kept count but in the last year I've "made a move" on probably 40+ women on the first or second date. Every single time the response was positive. Some were totally DTF right then, others would stop me at some point before we actually had sex.
Not a single one of them was disgusted/angry/upset that I tried to have sex with them. Not one of them stopped responding to messages/calls after the date.
Of the women who did stop me before we had sex, almost every time we had sex on the following date. I can think of only three girls that had enough will power to hold out for 3+ dates lol. Those were actually the most interesting ones to date too, the challenge I suppose.
So the message here is clearly that you should escalate, every time, without fear of a negative response.
Now with that said these are all women I've already built good attraction and kino with and spent a few hours together. I doubt you'll get a very good response trying to make out with random strangers, but then again our natural instincts on these things seem to turn out to be wrong most of the time.
TLDR Stop worrying about what this or that sign means and just make a move
Edit: Let me clarify this post a little bit. The term "escalation" can mean a number of different things. In the context of this post I am specifically talking about going for the kiss and then progression from there to sex.
I am NOT talking about kissing someone you just met five minutes ago. I am NOT talking about chasing a girl around trying to grab her hand after she's clearly showed that she's not interested.
This post is specifically for the situation where you've already built attraction, she's shown interest, you've spent time with her and she is comfortable with you. I'm not going to get into how to do all of that... that's like three books worth of writing.
To the experienced guys here it's a no-brainer that you'll be perfectly fine escalating physically with a woman who is attracted to you and comfortable with you.
I'm addressing those who have the fear that if they go "too far" or move "too quickly" that it will turn the woman off. If a woman is into you, she will NOT get turned off by your sexual advances.
Let the girl stop you. If she hasn't said no then you should always keep escalating physically. A girl will stop you when you reach the point that she has decided that's as far as she will go - RIGHT NOW. If she stops you from taking off her shirt while you're making out, cool go with it, just make out some more and try again in 5 minutes. She might let you this time. Or she might stop you again. But she's not going to slap you or call the police or start crying because you attempted to escalate physically.
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