I've seen a few guys who reach out to the community here, usually along the same lines of "man, I'm having a rough time right now, can you guys give me some advice?" The phrasing may be different, there may be specific circumstances that distinguish them, but it's usually coming from the same emotional core.

And just about every time, there's someone here who decides to tell them they're being pathetic or gives them the worst advice I've ever seen.

The way I see it, we're all here for the same reason: we seek to improve ourselves. We all start from different places, but we usually travel similar paths with self doubt, weakness, the works. So why do some here feel the need to berate and insult as opposed to contribute and uplift?

Look, I know it's the internet, and there's zero accountability so naturally that brings out the worst in human nature, but that's also how communities go downhill quick. I've really enjoyed the input of some of the folks here, and I'd hate to see this subreddit take the same path of some of my other former haunts.

Just my two cents on the matter.