Background:

I have Friend with Benefits relationship with a HB7, and my text game with her can be spot-y. I can say something 'uncool' or not smooth and she might be flaky with a next meet up or she might give me a shit test. Like bogus stuff just because I didn't text something cool or witty back.

How I learned the Technique:

I took an improv class last week and rule #1 is "yes, and..". This rule is to always be mindful of your improv partner. For example if someone says "No, let's not." during a scene--the scene doesn't go anywhere.

Since it was a beginner class, many people made a mistake by disagreeing during a scene (i.e saying "No"). Our teacher would call it out and let us do the scene over, but this time agreeing, and it made a world of difference. Someone would disagree with me while we were acting, and then we would re-do the scene with the person agreeing--I felt so much better with the person agreeing with me.

(I think there is psychological side to this as well)

Technique:

So back to this HB7. This past week I have been using the "Yes, and." in text conversation and it has been going great.

  • I'll get a response within minutes of sending a text.

  • She is more flirtatious with me.

  • I believe I am more entertaining (more of a confidence booster--just fucking say "yes, and I want to see you this weekend)

And it's really just simple.

HB7: I have a canoe trip Saturday from 8 to 6, but no plans after.

Masterofalltradesjon: Yes after canoeing you'll be nice and relaxed for me.

HB7:Or really exhausted and need a massage.

Moatjon: Yes and we could get into the Jacuzzi.

HB7: True.

HB7: R u free now?

Great technique guys. Try it out, it has turned my text game around in just a week.