Back when I was an AFC, texting was pretty much my only method of trying to talk to women. If I got a number, we'd text constantly, but never really move anywhere. I would make pointless chit-chat because I was looking for the validation of her attention. I would torment myself if she wasn't responding. After discovering seddit, I've done a complete 180 when it comes to texting. I don't argue that you can't use texting to your advantage and build sexual tension, but I prefer to keep texting light and to the point, then let the face-to-face interaction do the real work.

Some background info: I contacted a girl in my city on OKC (I live abroad so options are limited, but she's really cute), we exchanged a couple very brief messages, sometimes three days between messages, but we set up a dinner date for last Monday. It went fairly well, but I could tell she was being very aloof and coy. My first text to her after Monday was on Thursday. I suggested drinks Friday, but she was going out of town. The rest of the convo is here:

Me (2:37 PM): what's your schedule like next week?

Her (2:38 PM) I usually finish work at 4

Me (2:44 PM): How about a monday dinner? know any good places?

Her (2:50 PM): mondays are usually my least favorite day Lame excuse

Me (2:51 PM): you and everybody else. I could cheer you up, but if you're really gonna be a downer... Lame excuse texts get teased

Her (2:52 PM): also, would you still want to go if we went as just friends? Big shit test

Me (4:26 PM): wow dropping ultimatums already. risky business A fair recovery if I say so

Her (4:35 PM): I just don't want to hurt your feelings later on =D

Me (6:07 PM): its cute that you're looking out for me, but I don't bruise that easily

Her (6:12 PM): good to know Felt like texting further would've come off as clingy and validation seeking, cut it off

Saturday

Her (11:09 PM): hey anything going on downtown tonight? Unsolicited first text on a weekend, seems like a pretty good IOI

Me (11:12 PM): out of town I was out clubbing in Seoul, she got a response, but I had much more important things on my mind, ended up F-closing a girl that night

Sunday

Me (12:49 PM): dinner tuesday at 7?

Her (1:13 PM): not unless you want to come to her neighborhood Feels like another shit test, but I'm willing to roll with it

Me (1:18 PM): there any good places to eat there?

Her (1:25 PM): all food tastes good if you're hungry. I'm sure its the same everywhere

Me (1:48 PM): i'll pencil you in. as long as it doesn't rain I'll drive out there. (driving a scooter in the rain to a date is a bad look) ill text you tuesday I've got the date, no real need for any more interaction, cut it off

I know it's a bit long, but it's got some key things that I think are worth looking at there. The biggest was the "just friends" speed bump. It caught me off guard, and I wasn't sure how to respond, at first. My old habit would have been to play it off and agree to just be friends just because I wanted to continue seeing her, and hopefully be able to win her over by being such a "nice guy". I didn't want to just outright say no to friends either, so I found a rather elegant way to just avoid the question.

As far as the timing of my responses, I generally respond quickly when she responds quickly, but when she takes awhile, I wait as well. Always texting back quickly makes you seem like you have nothing going on. Particularly with the "just friends" shit test, I was at work, so I was actually busy and not thinking about texting her. Texting a girl should never take priority over anything happening in your day-to-day life. Fit it into your downtime. I don't take my phone to the gym, and I rarely text at work, usually only on my lunch hour or sometimes during a short break.

Other than that, I just did my best to match her attitude. We seemed to click well on the date, but for whatever reason, she is trying to act like she's not that into me, so I'm playing it equally coy and aloof. I'll update with a FR if the weather holds out tomorrow.