The cold approach vs Online dating: A statistical summary

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-08-12T01:46:59+00:00

I found interaction in person to be more raw and engaging than anything online.

Matt_Bigmonster · 2022-08-11T20:04:00+00:00

The main thing is that In real life YOU are in charge of the situation. On line her moods and other lovely things dictate the terms. You can't win with that.

Alcoholic__Engineer · 2022-08-11T21:24:03+00:00

Unless you are a good looking frat guy the your best bet is doing cold approach.

Cold approach works wonders

ilovefootball49 · 2022-08-11T21:12:30+00:00

Yeah but who's going to win the world series this year?

Unlucky_Science_2674 · 2022-08-11T21:49:39+00:00

I agree with you. Now i only cold approach. The best thing is that the more you do the better you get. Women love being approached in a respectful way, but other also like a more direct and bold approach, the more you approach the better you get at both

EveryNizastar · 2022-08-12T01:11:21+00:00

Where do you cold approach ?

grindforthegold · 2022-08-11T19:57:14+00:00

feel you man. it’s so interesting because even when i do get girls online even tho i clearly don’t care and a girl is a girl regardless , i still feel a bit of shame about having met her online. i mean if i meet my future SO online who gives a fuck, but that little feeling of like weird like oh like really we met here , i’m not surprised if girls feel that and that’s why they flake so much online or are so picky, cuz if they’re gonna have that backstory the guy better way above them , that’s my observation anyways. meeting in person gives you a strong backstory which can add soo much to your relationship

Contango6969 · 2022-08-11T20:36:17+00:00

Interesting numbers. I feel like my phone number rate on cold approaches is like well over 50% but lay rate is no higher than yours. Could just be different areas or you follow up better.

camxelite99 · 2022-08-11T21:23:17+00:00

What if get rejected all the time cold approaching?

No-Contribution-4670 · 2022-08-11T21:00:47+00:00

So on how many TOTAL approaches are these "real life" numbers based on?

Also, does this include clubbing or only day game?

and in which part of the world do you live?

passengerpigeon20 · 2022-08-12T02:07:03+00:00

That’s almost a ten percent conversion rate in real life! How attractive and tall are you?

my_coding_account · 2022-08-12T09:51:18+00:00

Hooollly shit, this is inspiring.

Clean-Explanation-87 · 2022-08-11T21:44:51+00:00

Interesting. I’ve found bumble to be my most successful app because they’re more invested when they are ones to make the first message.

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-08-11T21:02:56+00:00

Bro, you converted 100% of the cold approach numbers you got into first dates? How? Teach me your ways please.

Huemanretreat4000 · 2022-08-12T02:48:34+00:00

Unless you're overseas cold approaching is the best option.

In your approach the communication is strictly human. Vocal tonality, body language, physical touch and eye contact. Plus you have the advantage of using your charisma to win her over.

Online lacks a lot of these characteristics. Emojis help with words. Adding voice notes can enhance the intimacy.

Overall, face the face communication is how our ancestors got through life.

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-08-11T20:59:57+00:00

Well it depends on what you put more effort in.

You said you don’t use social media and don’t have many pics.

So of course you won’t have a good success rate.

It’s like a guy that’s never put in any effort into cold approaching and thinks they’ll start getting laid.

I’m young and on social media quite a bit. And I have a lot of pics of myself from other people taking candid pics of me on Snapchat.

So I use that to my advantage and have a very good success rate online.

Difficult_Ad_8299 · 2022-08-11T20:26:06+00:00

Doesn’t it just show you suck and need to improve at online dating? My stats are better than yours but I don’t jump to conclusions

yo_saturnalia · 2022-08-12T07:10:42+00:00

This is a garbage study .

Your numbers make no sense as you have not defined what these percentages mean . 0.7 percent chance of sex in Tinder; how exactly is this measured ? A thousand right swiped equals 7 fucks ?

Fuck my black ass if that’s true ; you wouldn’t be here if it were .

cytomome · 2022-08-12T04:14:26+00:00

That's the metric for "success"? A reply? Pff

FlatDistance5 · 2022-08-12T04:30:10+00:00

Ok so you said you had around 30 cold approaches how many numbers did you get? Did you get 30 numbers and sleep with 2 or 3 women from cold approach?

I’m personally 2500 cold approaches in. I land around 30% number close, half of that respond and only about 20% of the responders go out with me. And about half of those end up fucking roughly about 55 women lifetime.

What you’ll notice the more you approach the more you can gauge interest level right from the beginning. Those who aren’t interested, you just avoid waisting time with. The ones who are interested will usually go out with you easy to convert.

There’s a few false negatives that pop up. A girl who isn’t looking at you after the approach or keeps walking, when you tried to stop her but she keeps talking to you, if you tell her hey if you want to be alone I can just leave no worries and she see says no it’s fine, and continues show disinterest in body language, sometimes (very rarely) those can show interest over the phone resulting in a date

Eventually as you continue to approach obviously the number close to responder ratio is going to decrease. But the sex close to number close will increase. You’ll just have gimme’s pop up (weirdly enough it happens). Where women will just be completely turned on because you approached and you just happened to be their type. And sometimes those women are the hottest ones. You’ll be able to weed out women who aren’t interested from the jump.

I say if you work your pictures and online profile your number close, date and sex close numbers will eclipse cold approach.

Pretty awesome results also you said you live in big city….. you might not have to worry about this but right now I would go crazy at least approach 5+ women per day if possible. But if you find yourself approaching the same woman multiple times slow it down slightly to maybe 2 or 3 women per day, or go to another part of your city. (I’ve personally burnt my city to the ground for a about a year or 2 cold approaching too much) won’t get in trouble, just a slight reputation as that guy.

ResearcherMountain23 · 2022-08-12T07:25:16+00:00

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Virleo · 2022-08-12T09:03:56+00:00

Interesting, but what do those numbers actually look like not hiding behind percentages?

medicineandsports · 2022-08-12T09:56:49+00:00

You would have to message 143 people on tinder to get a “0.7% sex success rate”. Seems unlikely

YouGotTangoed · 2022-08-12T14:05:14+00:00

I’d say the chances of her having sex with you after a daygame pickup is much higher. For me it’s about 60%. Of course if you’re not making your intentions clear in the first interaction, it’s much less

maxpossimpible · 2022-08-12T14:17:40+00:00

You missed one crucial detail.

What is your sample size?

HarbringerxLight · 2022-08-29T19:59:44+00:00

Several women have told me that it made their day to have me approach them and complement them (even if they also told me that they are not interesting/already in a relationship).

Stop validating women for free. Stupid simps like you are everything wrong with society right now. All that means is that she isn't into you, but will happy use your attempt to inflate her already inflated ego.

You shouldn't be complimenting them. Be more smooth; use a pretext to talk to them so that it seems more casual. Even if she feels it's because she's a girl, if you're nonchalant and approach them in a way that signals that you don't care that much and you could've exchanged her with a random guy, then you can do these approaches without inflating their egos like the fool you are. This will ironically help your success rate too.

Title	The cold approach vs Online dating: A statistical summary
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Date	August 11, 2022 7:49 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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