The worst part about rejection

appolonysian · 2024-07-24T18:41:07+00:00

One thing I’ve learned from all of the guys I’ve known who have been good with women is this: they don’t think about this shit, let alone overthink and assume blame.

They’re too busy doing their own thing in life (and being plain stupid in some cases). Either way, their ignorance works in their favor: they don’t assume victimhood AND their absence of thought puts less obstacles in their way between seeing a hot woman and approaching her.

Just like that, they’re miles ahead of the curve. Intelligence and analysis aren’t usually your friends in social situations. To your point here: forget it and move on. She didn’t like you but some other one will.

Jironasaurus · 2024-07-24T18:43:19+00:00

With enough experience, you'll kinda know where your own mistake lies. At the same time, having someone to bounce this back and forth with helps too. So have men who are better with women than you, around you.

easy-money-sniperr · 2024-07-24T19:29:34+00:00

Just because you were rejected didn’t mean you did anything wrong.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2024-07-24T18:43:11+00:00

Agreed, being able to deal with uncertainty and still push through is extremely important in this.

McPigg · 2024-07-24T19:48:10+00:00

Worst part is knoeing under different circumstances, she would happily suck your dick, but just because wrong time wrong context or some little thing you did wrong, now she doesnt see the great opportunity you present. You didnt even get a fair shot. Also it feels like some dog begging for food and getting denied, like your value is lower then hers because you showed interest and she declined. And the fact you have to act cool and smile through it and act totally unfazed, you cant even express your anger or hurt ego without seeming like a scary asshole to her and everyone else. I cant stand rejection at all.

mister_k1 · 2024-07-24T19:03:23+00:00

if she reject me i don't care i move on...why would i give a fuck about a hoe??

First-Employment-601 · 2024-07-24T18:36:22+00:00

Once you feel good about yourself you’ll effortlessly let girls go that for whatever reason reject you. Focus on yourself and confidence, then rejection simply becomes a trivial part of eventually meeting girls that are attracted to you for you.

Secrecy_Guaranteed · 2024-07-26T03:22:10+00:00

Disagree. The more you fail, the clearer the lesson becomes.

And 50% of the time, it is not you, but the girl

Careful-House6328 · 2024-07-24T18:18:19+00:00

This is one of the advantages of hiring dating coaches or going out with people that actually know what they’re doing.

You can actually get relevant feedback

komot · 2024-07-24T19:11:53+00:00

It's natural to be curious but the advice others are giving is solid. I'll just add all women have different wants, over analyzing what that want is is a waste of time. Reflect on yourself briefly after and if you could have done somethings better, but that doesn't change you, and then employ that in for the next female. Stay true to who you are as there's plenty of women out there.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-07-24T20:16:09+00:00

The feedback from rejection is usually indirect and subtle, and a lot of times there's no feedback at all. So it means it painfully slow to learn from rejection. But as you build up a large base of experience through the years, you do eventually begin to see some patterns.

For one, there's two types of rejections. One were she just isn't into you. And one were you made a mistake which fucked it up. You cannot solve / fix the problem in the first scenario. But when you fucked it up - you will probably know to some extent what you did. Especially as you gain more experience.

Talking to others and reading books and such, all helps to learn what TO DO. So when looking back at your own experiences you can compare notes and realize where you're doing things differently and where you might go wrong. That makes it easier to spot your own flaws and mistakes. Learning from others is a way to boost the learning from your own experiences. You compare notes and ideas. When you don't understand what happened; you ask questions until you do understand.

jackthehat6 · 2024-07-24T22:16:52+00:00

you can't learn from your mistakes unless your mistakes are things lke you spat when you spoke or something!

She basically decides yes or no before you've even delivered your opener.

Trying to work out what you said 'wrong' is almost always a fools errand! The answer is basically always 'you did nothing wrong. YOu weren't her type. Hense her reaction. NEXT!!''

FeelingRisk89 · 2024-07-24T22:58:10+00:00

Someday you'll realize that the rejection was never about you.

That girl has fucked uglier, broker, shorter, hairier dude than you. With a worse car, and a shitty apartment with no windows.

It's all about her emotions and situation, and there is nothing you can do about that. All you can do is approach the next one. Takes only a minute/

Scared-Masterpiece98 · 2024-07-25T00:21:03+00:00

gotta have a wingman at first then go in solo. Going in for approaches in university solo is hard mode when i’m with my buddy we go shot for shot, alone ur mind starts fucking with you

-cosme- · 2024-07-24T20:52:14+00:00

I just think that at least i tried...and then move on.

EP_CJ · 2024-07-24T21:24:26+00:00

why rejection doesn’t matter as much as you think

dobbs1997 · 2024-07-25T02:42:02+00:00

Why do you care about why it happened ?

FattyDog420 · 2024-07-25T07:03:34+00:00

Sometimes a rejection isn’t final. It’s a lot of push and pull, focus on your wellness We each face our own battles that no one knows

Based on asking questions as per post - you may be giving “too needy” vibes. You are overinvested emotionally into a stranger. Yes It takes guts to approach, but It can scare people away (if not ready or in the mood) - I’ve done the same

Without knowing the story Ie hard or soft rejection?

Keep it space and time. Subsequent rejections don’t hurt as much.

And sometimes, it can be a misunderstanding. It might be ask me again another time

KingOnixTheThird · 2024-07-25T12:43:46+00:00

You get rejected because whatever it is she's looking for, she doesn't feel like you possess these qualities.

If she wants a clean cut christian boy who reads the bible everyday, and you're a pot smoking atheist, you're getting rejected.

If she wants a tall white handsome family man who she can take home to momma and you're a short fat Asian who smokes weed and gets drunk every Tuesday, you're getting rejected.

If she wants a built country boy who loves Trump just as much as he loves pickup trucks and you're a scrawny city slicker who hates MAGA, you're getting rejected.

You get rejected because you're not what she's looking for in a man. That's really all what it comes down to.

chocolateegg1233 · 2024-07-24T18:14:21+00:00

Stop being a bitch

That alone solve a lot of problems

mysteryplays · 2024-07-24T21:23:04+00:00

How about you voice record that shit and send it to me I’ll give you some feedback like I’m will smith in hitch lol

Anyways you cant negotiate attraction. She either likes you or she does not. It’s that simple more on to the next ho.

ModernAlphaAnswers · 2024-07-25T08:46:42+00:00

This is a load of bullcrap. Rejection is an opportunity for you to learn from, if you don't bother watching approach videos and self reflecting on where you failed, that's your fault. If you are lazy expect lazy results.

Title	The worst part about rejection
Author	Maxspawn_
Upvotes	65
Comments	54
Date	July 24, 2024 5:58 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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