What are the biggest problems for you when it comes to dating?

Delicious_Film1042 · 2024-03-12T21:24:22+00:00

Social anxiety.. I'm working on it, but not fun.

hahahi7 · 2024-03-13T00:53:38+00:00

too smart, too good looking, muscles too big, etc. It's like I'm cursed or something

Zackamite496 · 2024-03-13T04:30:51+00:00

Honestly just getting dates. I'm pretty successful with getting a girls interest and being confident on dates but actually getting the dates is the hard part. I'm not even a bad looking guy but when you're only options is daygame and OLD it's tough.

offinthewoods10 · 2024-03-12T20:43:20+00:00

I’d say I’m relatively successful overall but I’ll talk about where my weaknesses are because I’m nowhere near perfect.

1) too friendly- I find myself in the friendzone with a lot of women, which I personally don’t mind because women can be really good friends if you aren’t sexually interested in them. But this can lead me to not being flirty and seductive to women I actually like.

2) anxiety- I find myself anxious around confident women when I first meet them. This happens if I’m caught off guard and not prepared for it. If I’m in the zone I can adapt a little better but it’s not something I’m used to yet. A lot of super attractive women have this trait which hurts my game overall and is something I need to overcome. This comes in the form of me saying dumb things, saying them too fast and not being myself overall.

3) Continued interest- I can pull women, get dates and even bring them home. But I struggle to maintain interest and fun early on. It might be because I’m bad at communicating or I’ve just trained myself to keep looking for better even though I have something great right in front of me. It’s cost me some relationships that could have been something more.

kankerleider · 2024-03-12T21:42:35+00:00

Hairloss

Finaglers · 2024-03-12T22:55:30+00:00

For me, Lack of experience 😔

eyewave · 2024-03-13T06:38:59+00:00

Get invested too fast and scare the girl off after perfect first pick-up moments.

It's super "fun" because, for the untrained eye I look like some sort of Dom Juan, since I chat up pretty much everyone and I can get phone numbers or instagrams without an issue.

Just literally I need to stop being needy and keep the nurturing behaviour for later down the line.

Badguy60 · 2024-03-13T00:05:31+00:00

Time/Money

Not even joking if it wasn't for this I could probably pull like every 2 weeks

TransitionNormal1387 · 2024-03-13T02:14:34+00:00

Finding single, available women that are willing to go out with you.

CEONeil · 2024-03-13T05:33:10+00:00

The limitations I put on myself.

MedvedevTheGOAT · 2024-03-13T07:49:32+00:00

For me it’s a lack of emotional leadership, aka guiding the conversation into a fun one. I’ve been through a lot of shit in my life when it comes to social situations and was always too sensitive, and being seen as a leader is something that rarely came to me. It is hard to be assertive or command respect which is what Im working on, i come across as too nice

4SHO710 · 2024-03-13T17:58:16+00:00

For me, for a long time it was picking up on indicators, specifically eye contact. I had never even realized that side eye-Ing was a major indicator that I should’ve used to talk to them.

It’s also not just your level of value…a lot of women have low self esteem these days and they might think you’re too good looking for them. But eye contact is still reliable imo.

Depending on their perceived value relative to yours, they might hold eye contact or dart their eyes away immediately. Both are good indicators. Side eye is a zero cost way to check you out without you knowing. If you catch it, she’s likely interested but may think you’re too good for her. That or she’s concerned for her safety (but that’d be obvious with other signs)

safestuff987 · 2024-03-13T21:19:28+00:00

Finding a woman I can actually stand

ZaazMarx1 · 2024-03-12T22:04:41+00:00

For me it's actually a lack of time. Studying while working full time is hard, getting girls on top of that is damn near impossible

FarmingDM · 2024-03-13T01:40:16+00:00

Living in a small rural community when separated in my 40's... apparently Long distance relationships are dead...

DarkestAhole · 2024-03-13T02:45:10+00:00

Intent

HarpertFredje · 2024-03-13T10:07:47+00:00

I have no idea where to find women to date

AdamPA1006 · 2024-03-13T13:52:16+00:00

I'm having trouble reading women and physically escalating. I've been out of the "game" for ten years due to being in a relationship, so I'm having fear and anxiety about physical aspects. I'm doing quite well with being fun/interesting/developing comfort though. Every women I've met for a date has wanted to see me again so far. So I know I have a solid foundation to build on here.

ballsmashergal · 2024-03-13T15:05:46+00:00

My health Ive gone through some really bad times for health and currently recovering

newxomie · 2024-03-13T18:52:40+00:00

people tend to say that they are interesting and unique, but when you meet them on a date they have nothing on their minds (i mean except routine stuff), so they tell about some celebrity rumors (not a fan at all). I am not saying that there is 0 cool people, but it just:

"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting sh\t to change"* - Vaas

jobforaspawn · 2024-03-13T02:26:07+00:00

Being too ugly to get dates in the first place lol

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-12T21:16:41+00:00

Guys who are burning out are not succeeding because they want/need it too much. Women pick up on that neediness from miles away and they figure "If this guy is so desperate to get laid or pick up a girl, it means he is not getting any somewhere else, which means other girls know something I don't". Those guys aren't burning out because they are having too much sex.

-Justanotherdude · 2024-03-13T02:48:45+00:00

Trust. Its hard to trust anyone

Title	What are the biggest problems for you when it comes to dating?
Author	BigSlongg42069
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Date	March 12, 2024 8:01 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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