What are you doing before you make out?

-colors · 2013-04-13T14:54:37+00:00

i drink a lot of alcohol and before i know it our tongues are touching.

but seriously kino. kino is what makes shit not awkward when you try to escalate.

also, can slowly move in closer to her face like you are going to whisper something in her ear, and gauge her reaction to you getting closer / near her face, if she is creeped out she will sort of move to the side and you can still whisper your shit, if she is down for a kiss she will sort of play "kiss chicken" with you and not move at all, at that point you can just whisper whatever you were going to say and then on your way out fucking kiss dat gurl like she duh last babe in the hood nawmsayn?

Marcob10 · 2013-04-13T21:14:55+00:00

Look her in the eyes, hold, don't say anything, gently touch her jaw/chin and lean in for the kiss. 90% of the time it works everytime.

LauraLeema · 2013-04-13T14:52:33+00:00

I like it when a guy looks me in the eyes and pulls my face gently towards his.

swabfalling · 2013-04-13T13:41:07+00:00

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nycprowl · 2013-04-13T15:31:23+00:00

I'm escalating, I'm looking her in the eye while occasionally glancing at her lips, and I'm also getting closer to her face.

IntrovertSuccess · 2013-04-13T12:55:00+00:00

Hand

Wavedasher · 2013-04-13T13:10:02+00:00

kino escalate your way up to holding hands. holding hands while talking is like a breakpoint I think. If I want to go for the kiss I will get my head real close to hers, like foreheads-touching-close, because now she knows whats coming. Then kiss

warlor · 2013-04-13T17:27:14+00:00

Great advice sedditors. I hope things will escalate for me this evening. I think it's the crucial point in any pick up scenario and it takes a lot of balls going for the kiss the first time. Next question would be what to whisper in her ear?

Bunkerman91 · 2013-04-13T19:43:10+00:00

Tickle fights or wrestling. TONS of kino makes it flow naturally, and there's a strong element of dominance, which is always good. If you can get the girl into a tickle fight/wrestling, the sexual tension it builds makes it almost impossible NOT to kiss close.

Usually this is how I initiate sex too. The sex tends to follow the makeout session.

FuckOffMightBe2Kind · 2013-04-13T15:26:05+00:00

Not making out.

PuempelsPurpose · 2013-04-14T00:01:57+00:00

I stick my finger in her mouth and say "imagine this but half the size and sweatier."

Just kidding, although I do have a friend who used to go around discreetly slipping his finger in peoples mouths and it actually got him some ass.

What I usually do is look into their eyes, touch their leg or shoulder depending on our bodies positions, and say "if you keep looking at me like that, I'm gonna have to kiss you."

It's an oldie, it's simple, but its fucking powerful as hell. Hasn't ever failed me, but I also never use it as a Hail Mary.

180094jenny · 2013-04-13T20:13:11+00:00

I like using "I gonna kiss you in 5 seconds".Say that then gauge her reaction. Start counting down from 5 and when you get to 3 kiss her. Usually I'll get an " I thought you said 5 seconds" and I'll say I just couldn't help myself blah blah blah. Or just go for it. 9/10 they reciprocate

Calibration · 2013-04-13T16:58:26+00:00

Gauge her reaction to you, if she is smiling and making eye contact then move your face closer to hers and while still gauging her reaction, go in for the kiss. Honestly don't worry about it, it's just a kiss.

element4l · 2013-04-13T22:19:24+00:00

I had broken up with my ex just a few weeks earlier, and went to a pre-drink party before going to a lame club down town. I chilled in the living room while the girls got ready, walked around, just being part of the action without saying much but the occasional laugh.

Time comes to get in our ride (a sober friend of ours). I call the front seat. The girl I liked ran to it and hopped in as if she didn't hear/care. It really made no difference to me where I sat, but I opened her door, leaned over, unbuckled her seatbelt, picked her up from the seat like a baby, tossed her in the back and took the front seat I had called.

At the club, I distracted the guy (the driver) that also wanted a piece by telling him we should go look for girls on the dance floor. Then said I'll grab a drink and two minutes later I was sitting in front of the girl with a few friends yelling about everything and nothing around a table (how the fuck do people endure clubs? I have no idea).

So I just looked at her straight in the eyes, decided I'm going to kiss her, and 5 seconds later she's on top of me mauling my mouth like there's heroin down my throat.

We got kicked out for being too trashy and made out for 30 minutes on the ride home from the same guy who drove us there.

Damn, I don't know how I did it. I just did.

mepunite · 2013-04-13T17:34:12+00:00

I've used this a couple times and seems a nice way to gauge the temperature. When your talking get close and glance at her lips. Instead of going in for the kiss move her fringe to behind her ear. If she pulls away then you need to do a bit more work but if she lets you do it then your free to close the kiss.

toysjoe · 2013-04-13T19:14:40+00:00

I went to visit the girl I was dating (now ex). We were sitting in her basement watching Role Models. She decides to tickle me. I tell her to stop. Then we looked into each other's eyes and she grabbed my head and just smashed it into hers.

I can imagine the same technique can be used reversed.

zeezbrah · 2013-04-13T19:31:55+00:00

Typically I just try to find an excuse to get near her face. If for some reason I can't comfortably do that, I haven't properly escalated and it's not the right time. When you've set it up correctly it's pretty simple.

Either she'll bait it by play fighting with me and I can just close the distance and go forehead to forehead, then if she doesn't move away, nose to nose, cheek to cheek, then kiss.

Or if the comfort is there already you can just instigate it yourself by pulling her towards you by her hips, maybe grab one of her hands like you want to dance with her, grab both of her hands and put them around around your shoulders, then while slowing down your speech do the same process above, forehead to forehead, etc.

The-Night-Fox · 2013-04-13T20:26:48+00:00

The old high five to holding hands technique followed by an SOI of "I like you" or something like that.

thecajunone · 2013-04-13T17:16:55+00:00

Eye contact.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2013-04-13T19:48:32+00:00

Usually I've escalated through wit and laughter and kino throughout the night and if I end up in a one-one-one situation where making out is appropriate (or fun and spontaneous) then I don't fart around. I just go for it. No thought or lead-up necessary. Like jumping off a cliff into a lake. Or like a bandaid. Just do it man. Grab her chin, point, and kiss.

2013-04-13T19:30:40+00:00

once you feel you've attracted her enough isolate her and go for it. you might not have to isolate her, it depends on the girl.

it doesn't matter what technique you use to lead up to the kiss, so long as you game has been good and you've made yourself attractive to her just go for it. any other way will lead to you otherthinking it.

a small hint is that you can slowly move your lips closer to the girls lips. if she doesn't move out of the way keep going in. if she rejects but is still there you probably still have a shot so just try again. whether you try again immediately or half an hour later depends on the situation

5960312 · 2013-04-13T23:25:49+00:00

Alcohol and holding hands

kingcal · 2013-04-14T14:41:00+00:00

I just posted this in another thread, but I think it would go just as well here.

I had a Day 2 tonight with a girl I K-closed. The kiss was just a tight-lipped peck, but I live abroad in a more conservative society and we were in public, this was a pretty big IOI. Tonight, we had dinner then went back to my place for a movie. As soon as we met, my hands were on her. On the way back to my place, I put my arm around her and pulled her close. We cuddle up in my bed and I had my hands on her hands. Stroked her arms. Cupped her breasts. Was initially pushed away, but before long, I was right back at it, kneading them slowly like I was making bread. I kissed her neck, slid my hands along her legs, massaged her ass, lightly tickled her with my fingertips over her bare skin.

The first couple kiss attempts were met with a little resistance. I backed off and kept working. I knew she was into it because she'd move my hands back to her breasts and massage my hands into her breasts. Third kiss attempt was met tentatively, but she slowly got into it. I broke away. We watched some more movie. Made out again a couple minutes later. Broke away. Kept cycling, reducing the amount of time between kisses. By the end of the movie, she was straddling me, dry humping the shit out of me as I sucked on her tits.

hoodieck · 2013-04-14T18:26:26+00:00

Hand, then Hand + Waist (50/50), then Waist (100%). Her arms should be around your neck or something similar. Then finally your faces should be so close that your eyes find difficulty in focusing.

postoergopostum · 2013-04-15T07:26:09+00:00

I don't want to hear about the triangle technique.

Ok OP, but I do.

When I last secreted front fluid, viscous, white. The world was still in black and white.

Can someone please explain the triangle technique?

ilostmyrealpassword · 2013-04-24T04:40:42+00:00

My friends always think my escalation approach is bad, but it's pretty effective for me so far. I am 6'2 so generally i'm a good 6 inches taller than girls. So when they are talking I do a sort of lean down to hear them better, (this helps in the loud environment of college parties), and as the conversation progresses I move in closer, eventually adding in the arm around them. At this point you have her in a prime position and if she hasn't tried to escape you yet, then you are usually ok to at least try for a kiss. Like I said, it will probably work best for taller folks in louder places, and i'm not sure why my friends call me out for it since it has been successfully used a bunch if times.

Phuket_Bucket · 2013-05-10T21:27:54+00:00

Stop over thinking things dammit and kiss the girl. If you have a confident attitude she can see if in your eyes. No need for complicated methods

zyyklon · 2013-04-13T18:33:30+00:00

After a while you can kind of sense when it's time to go in for the kill. It's cake.

jewdai · 2013-04-14T01:01:42+00:00

Mystery had it the best I use this 90% of the time and if you've kinoed enough it works almost always.

"Hey Did you want to kiss me?"

"No, I didnt say you could. You looked like you had something in your eye." (If she said no)

"Lets find out" (and go for it, if she says Maybe)

"Yes" (I think you know what to do here)"

rikjames90 · 2013-05-03T16:23:29+00:00

That is most definetly a very well thought out idea regarding the art of makeout. They say it be like it is but it dont though.

Title	What are you doing before you make out?
Author	warlor
Upvotes	138
Comments	95
Date	April 13, 2013 12:31 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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