[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/9/13 (please upvote - zero karma)

The_Gray_Train · 2013-08-10T02:45:10+00:00

Any tips for a fat introvert? I don't mean Zach Galifinakis fat, more like Chris Farley fat: http://imgur.com/sJ4qBBg http://imgur.com/lL50uCW I'm pretty comfortable with myself, and don't get hung up on people basing their opinion on me strictly based on my size (fuck those guys), and I'm also supremely confident in my sexuality/orientation. I know losing weight would be a major improvement, and I've made a start, but I don't want to wait to find someone, or a few someones ;D.

puaCurveBall · 2013-08-09T17:43:03+00:00

why don't you guys just sticky this?

edit: cool beans

puaCurveBall · 2013-08-09T17:50:43+00:00

If you awkwardly/abruptly ended a conversation with a girl at her job, but she was nice enough to hold a conv with you despite you looking like a noob/being nervous the whole time, would you go back and try to pick it up again? How? (you can see my last FR if this question doesn't make much sense)
How do you go about opening a mother/daughter set if you're not too confident in your ability to be smooth yet?
I feel like if I slightly screw up (voice pitch drops, or I reply stupidly to one of her questions), I panic and go into full-retard mode. How do you recover from that, if at all?

puaCurveBall · 2013-08-09T20:22:42+00:00

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lFunkYl · 2013-08-10T00:56:22+00:00

How do you escalate intentions /kino when dancing with a girl at a night club? E.g. what are some techniques you do and find effective?

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puaCurveBall · 2013-08-09T17:54:50+00:00

What kind of kino can you use if you're just walking side by side? I'm 19 so most of my dates I have to pick the girl up/walk somewhere and most of them are usually old friends

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-08-09T23:39:38+00:00

How do I react when she rejects the flirting?

randomcro · 2013-08-09T21:24:52+00:00

I'm going on a date tomorrow, and bit nervous because she seems really ambitious.She's president of a music club, has her bachelors and just started a pre med program...and she's only 20. I work at a pizza place, and am about a semester away from my associates after going to school for 3 years, and I'm 22.

She has no knowledge that i know this of her, and doesn't know this stuff about me, but it's seriously making me a bit nervous.

Should i just not worry about it, and just be truthful that I haven't found a reason for school yet? I've been looking into starting my own business(es), so there is that.

I just feel like a lot of people are really judgmental of myself taking my time with school(mostly because of money, I have no debt, no loans and some money saved)

bearze · 2013-08-09T19:06:04+00:00

There's a girl I want, badly, and she's turning into a Oneitis. I've slept with all her friends (4/5 and now she\s the 5th)

Haven't been able to see her over summer because of travelling and distance.

Come september I plan on going for her (there's a mutual "I think you're hot" attraction) but I'm screwing myself over. Can't stop thinking about her, and the other night I even dreamed about her.. anyway.

How would you suggest going for this girl when we move back down to our University? Ask her to come to a party, or for a lunch? Or should I just ask to hang out, and then do something like watch a movie(this might be too much?) or a walk? Or burn?

Like, look at this. I'm overthinking so fucking much, and this is exactly what I don't want. This is the 3rd time in my life this has happened, and each time I mess up

Albeit during the school year I did miss some BIG openings, there is still a good chance. (Inv'd her to a party, ended up leaving her alone and talking to other people/friends, so she left. I went to her dorm, she came back w/ me, I did the exact same thing and she left again. Oops. Then one night she asked what I was up to. I said watching a movie. Didn't inv her down. Oops. She mentioned she was single, and gave me her number. I never texted her b/c I was nervous. oops. In a dorm room drunk with 5 other girls, I'm the only guy. Have hooked up with 3/5 of the girls in there. Girl takes my hand and leads me to her room, but it's not the main girl I wanted. Oops.) I fucked up so badly. But it's time for redemption

TL;DR Wondering how I should go about pursuing a girl, when we move back into our University town in September

puaCurveBall · 2013-08-09T21:24:26+00:00

If you tell a girl you want her number and she says she's "already talking to someone", would that be considered a shit test?

AverageNapkin · 2013-08-09T21:52:29+00:00

What is the verdict on dating girls in your group of friends, do or don't? Also, are there any tips on how I could pull it off, maybe how to get her away from the group to get 1 on 1 time?

pschr · 2013-08-09T22:18:38+00:00

What different advice can you give to picking up 18ish years old girls at a nightclub, compared to other environments? Really vague, I know :)

Xeslaro · 2013-08-10T00:52:02+00:00

Ok so i went to a club with a friend today and actually approached girls for the first time. Mostly we just got rejected but we did manage to find two girls that didn't outright blow us off.

He talked to one of them and I talked to the other. I don't really know how he did but the one I talked to did something no one else did. We talked a bit and when it came to an awkward pause she started talking again and continued the conversation. Because of this I felt I was doing kind of good. She was interested right? But then, very suddenly, they left. We found them again a little bit later but when we tried talking to them again they left again pretty fast ,with apparently no intention of coming back to us.

Now, a straight up rejection is one thing but this I don't know what happened. Was I just not interesting enough? Since I know I'm not good at talking yet I kinda wanted to quickly ask for her number then get out but in Sweden you can't really go from club to club since they all have an entrence fee. You kinda need to pick one place for the night and stay there but getting a number and then leaving the girl but staying in the club just seems wierd. What do you think?

The_Monodon · 2013-08-10T19:38:08+00:00

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holaquetalestas · 2013-08-11T16:23:05+00:00

Hi!!
So there is this girl with whom I go out a lot since the beginning of the year. I met her with a common friend. The weeks went by and I made out with her two times in clubs...
After that we talked a bit on facebook (bad I know but I hadn't her number because I'm stupid) and I told her to go have a drink. But she didn't answer at all at that. So I decided no to try again. But...
We are in fact a big group of friends and I saw her some other times, and at those times we totally got along. In the end I'd like to get her anyway. Fast forward to this weekend: I called her Thursday and made plans for the Friday night with her and her best friend. We got totally wasted. I remember dancing with her quite a lot and we were very close but I don't think I tried something... We were very drunk so I don't have a clear memory and she neither. Yesterday we went out again the three of use. we talked about sex a lot during night and I learnt that she hadn't had sex in over a year which I think could use to my advantage but I don't know how. After 3 bars we wanted to go to some clubs, but everything was full in Paris so we decided to head back home. As we live in the same area with her, we took the same cab. The problem is that even if we see each other a lot, every two week ends or so, we don't talk that much about our lives and I learnt only yesterday that she is leaving next Wednesday 600 km from where I live. As I learnt that in the cab I took my chance and told her that we cannot stop this party right now and should go to my or her place to get some other drink. She hesitated but said no...
How should I proceed to get her before she leaves?

jimmyayo · 2013-08-09T19:25:48+00:00

If you # close a chick, text her twice and never get a reply back...do you throw away the #? Keep it as a "invite her to next big party" type of #? Is there any "unclogger" texts that you can send to get some kind of reaction from her?

Seddit_b1ood · 2013-08-09T22:32:00+00:00

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NerdlyNeighbor · 2013-08-10T01:23:19+00:00

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lifeisgood25 · 2013-08-10T02:59:43+00:00

I just graduated from my all-male high school and am starting at my state university in the fall, and I quite literally have no idea how to interact with women, let alone seduce them. For starters, could someone give me a rundown of the main differences I should note between talking to girls vs talking to guys?

Possibleworstday69 · 2013-08-10T03:20:33+00:00

Any tips on game for short guys, I have confidence, but physically being small really hurts pua

ihatewolves · 2013-08-10T04:09:49+00:00

Is there anything other than "hey" I can say to open a text conversation?

BrownGuyWithAccent · 2013-08-10T05:19:28+00:00

I feel completely lazy about going bars (happens 50% of the time), and I wonder if it happens to any of you and what do you do in those cases? Do you drag yourself despite very low energy or you do something else?

notbonjovie · 2013-08-10T05:21:32+00:00

Prelude: I had a thing with this girl for a while, we liked each other, blah, blah, blah then she had to leave for 9 weeks, I told her I didn't want to continue things because it wouldn't be fair for either of us. Of course right after saying this and leaving her I start getting hit with the "feels" and miss her, she texts me telling me she kindamisses me the same day .

Just Short of 1 month ago: She likes a picture on my instagram, i snapchat her, we drunk txts me, i respond ---> she wants me to come visit her to "hang out" (she's away as a camp counsellor). I tell her I head up that way every so often, pretty much leave it at this.

2 days later: I send her a witty birthday wish, she responds back two days later with some witty thank you.

Tonight: she likes an instagram photo (from 1 month ago) of mine. I have the urge to text her something, because the truth is i still want her.

What's your opinion? Should I make some one liner and send it to her to try and meet up (what if she's drunk again? does this mean she's interested (the drunk mouth speaks the sober mind?)) or should I just continue with what I'm doing and try to not think of her so hopefully one day soon I'll be over her?

Oh yeah. and starting september we're both leaving for different schools.

bl1y · 2013-08-10T06:45:43+00:00

I have a question:

I'm in a lair and a few of the members that joined have really bad AA/bitch butterfly's.

What can I and other members in the group who are way past not approaching do to help others in the lair get over AA/Not approaching?

bl1y · 2013-08-10T12:59:53+00:00

What is the view on hooking up with a girl in a group of friends that you were just introduced to by another friend?

I ask this because I usually feel awkward getting with any of the girls in that group when the guys I just met are around too.

patanet7 · 2013-08-10T13:17:15+00:00

I've found sometimes that I'm way too confident (aka cocky) when approaching girl. Is there some way to calibrate that? or will that come naturally.

KillahHills10304 · 2013-08-10T13:23:51+00:00

Girls at work: I need to ask one out, but without breaking the whole professional facade. How to smoothly go about this? I have 2 days to do this.

StandByy · 2013-08-10T14:00:11+00:00

I saw this girl like 2 times at the driving school. She seems nice and is indeed pretty hot. We didn't talk, just made a little eye contact. How can I approach her?

ElCidVargas · 2013-08-11T03:08:49+00:00

If I got this girl number far back as July 16th but I've been texting her at once a week at least 2 hours every time would she remember who I am or should I move on?

I talked to her one day at college orientation for about 30 minutes at most. Our college move in day in August 22nd.

bondmaxbondrock · 2013-08-11T03:59:51+00:00

I'm gonna steal a few right from the description.

I'm not old enough to drink. Good date spots, and places to meet girls?

How can I talk to that cute girl in my class?

Thanks!

NeedsmoreCELLTECH · 2013-08-11T14:34:08+00:00

Any tips for approaching girls solo in a bar? When I go out with friends occassionally I am not the first one to pull and I end up losing my wingman. I'm a good looking 6'5 dude but my success rate is a lot lower solo than with another guy even if I don't feel nervous.

What are some basic approaches/openers on girls at a bar when you are riding solo?

that_asian_ · 2013-08-11T21:47:11+00:00

So me and my friends are doing pickup for a month or two now. (all are 14) So here's a couple questions:

We need a place where there are NO parents, we have seen this so many times, we see a hot girl, friend says GO, and then we don't want to approach because there's a mom right with her.
We need a place where there are only 13-15 year olds, it would be stupid to hit on 16-19 year olds.

And for the ones are telling me to stop doing pickup and built my social circle, we all have a pretty good social life/circle, 4 of us have gotten in the 50 numbers :)

dlonge94 · 2013-08-12T03:23:54+00:00

I have to admit, I'm a genuinely nice person. I'm not going into things that girls like assholes, but if thats what it takes to get some action, I'm willing to do so. So, how does a genuinely nice person become an ass (but not to big of an ass, but ass enough that he gets the girls he wants)? I have tried in the past, I just end up bringing out my nice side all the time, because I'm really just a nice person.

stubble_trouble · 2013-08-12T08:42:20+00:00

How can you tell the difference of being an asshole, or just being cocky/funny. I am having a very hard time telling the difference when I try to be cocky/funny around women.

pschr · 2013-08-09T19:08:46+00:00

Is it rude/mean to get a girl's phone number without the intention of calling or texting her? I was practicing conversational skills on Tinder, girl seemed into me and gave me her number, but I'm not really attracted to her.

Bogey_Kingston · 2013-08-09T19:13:21+00:00

I just moved to a new city for a better job, I sell robots. No really. I've been going out solo a lot, every weekend. But one thing I'm noticing is that I have a short term appeal and value in that I'm funny and social in the moment, but it does not translate into follow ups with many friendships/dates occurring. There are occassional hook ups when I get bored, but I'm missing that quality connection. What can I do to develop value and interest for others that will create the social circle I was once a part of? How can I feed people's want to follow and be a part of my group?

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 8/9/13 (please upvote - zero karma)
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Date	August 9, 2013 5:39 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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