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youngridge1 · 2026-04-10T00:37:24+00:00

One moment at a time bud. I care about you.

MensDivorceCircle · 2026-04-09T17:51:05+00:00

Please call 988 https://988lifeline.org/ or in Portugal 1412 or visit https://www.sns24.gov.pt/pt/tema/prevencao-e-cuidados-de-saude/prevencao-do-suicidio/

Livid_Cabinet_9197 · 2026-04-09T16:37:57+00:00

Man, from the US here, I’m not sure of what you’re going through, I’ve had a tough go this year as well, but one fact I can show to you… you have your son in your life, correct? Lean on that. There’s nothing better than having your children in your life, even just a bit.

Docautrisim2 · 2026-04-09T13:49:52+00:00

Go to a hospital bud.

PorkloinMaster · 2026-04-09T12:26:57+00:00

Where are you. One of us will find you.

Ok-Snowbunnysrule · 2026-04-09T12:11:48+00:00

Go to the gym, go for a run. Pick your son up early and go to chucky cheese.

There’s way more options then letting your brain trick you into a “easy way out”

No women is worth your life. There thousands more where she came from.

kg110569 · 2026-04-09T12:06:28+00:00

Hey buddy, I came to this thought after sitting in the closed garage with the car on for a long time. A lot of us have been there or closer than we’d like to admit. It’s really hard. Here’s what helped me:

Everyone will say it: it will really hurt your son. Like pain that will hurt him his whole life. You can’t put him in that situation.
I know paycheck to paycheck is brutal. But if there was ever a time to spend money, it’s now. Go buy or do something that makes you happy.
Go find something beautiful to realize how amazing this world can be. A library, arboretum, botanical garden, museum, etc. This was an immediate kick for me to realize the things I would miss, but more importantly I wouldn’t want to miss showing to/seeing with my kids.

You got this.

koskesh122 · 2026-04-09T12:02:35+00:00

Well bud, join the club.

50% of all marriages end in divorce. 2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate and 3rd marriages 70% divorce rate.
90% of all divorces initiated by the women. • Child support, Alimony, your pension + retirement savings, government support + housing incentivizes them leaving you.
90% of custody awarded to mothers.
False allegations of abuse are prevalent in family courts. • You will be called abusive in order to stress you out so you give in to their unjust demands.

What to do now?

Settle your case ASAP. • The leeches (Judges, Lawyers, Therapists, Legal system will want to bleed you dry by leveraging your kids against you) The system gets paid by you fighting for you children.
Find a hobby.
Focus on your career/start a side hustle/Make more money.
Hit the gym daily.
Stay away from SINGLE moms at ALL costs and anyone who claims their ex was abusive. Do NOT raise another man’s child. You may end up being on the hook financially (Child support) for their kid if you leave.
Travel once a year.
Read books like No More Mr. nice guy
Open up the New Testament and start reading daily + listen to Charles Stanely on YouTube. • Learn to forgive your ex. This will set you emotionally and mentally free so you can begin enjoying life once again.

Terrible-Mind2633 · 2026-04-09T11:55:40+00:00

Don’t attempt a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Things do get better it just takes time. Years from now you might be laughing at the absurdity of all this and you’ll be a more resilient/wise place in which you could have a opportunity to help others in your shoes now.

ng_rddt · 2026-04-09T11:52:08+00:00

First of all, I want to reassure you that you are not broken. What you are experiencing is normal. It happened to me. It would hit me like a ton of bricks, out of the blue, and sometimes I had to hold onto a railing it was so bad. Happened a few times a week.

Humans are wired to be social. Depression and anxiety often result when we are pulled out of social groups, like losing our family. Men commit suicide at 5-8x the rate of women after a divorce because we have less social structures to fall back on. For most humans, the advice to “learn to be alone” is crazy and is generally preached by the subset of humans that are hyper introverts.

A couple of solutions: 1) try to live with someone, even temporarily, until you can rebuild your social circle. Parents or a good friend are an option. Just ask if you can stay with them for a month or two. I would visit friends on weekends and it made a world of difference—I didn’t feel so alone and isolated and that often sustained me for the week. 2) join regularly meeting in person social groups/clubs/join a gym and go to their scheduled group workout activities/join a ballroom dance group. 3) sub rent a room to a roommate

I guarantee you that it will get better and it will get better faster if you make concrete steps to engage with others.

WittyNameNo2 · 2026-04-09T11:40:08+00:00

If you truly love your son. Go somewhere and get help. Anywhere. Call anyone.

Children of parents who commit suicide are much more likely to commit suicide themselves.

You will be giving that to your child.

UrAristotle · 2026-04-09T11:29:33+00:00

I’ve been where you are now. I got very close.

The thing that kept me from harming myself was the realization of the irreparable harm it would do to my children. I did not want to leave them with a lifetime of wondering why they weren’t enough for me to keep going. Wondering what they might have done that caused it. If somehow it was their fault.

Tell yourself you’re going to get through today. Or this morning. Or the next hour. Or the next 15 minutes. Once you get through that space, set the next objective. Get through today.

Then start building routines that will help give you structure. Have a set time you work out that is non-negotiable. Dive into hobbies. Build things. Learn an instrument. Do something to occupy your minds.

I’m praying for you. Get through today.

Impossible-Alarm-336 · 2026-04-09T11:09:14+00:00

Call a doctor or hotline. Or literally anyone! He needs you more now than ever. You deserve life and happiness and no matter how hard it gets, it can always get better. It’s never easy or cheap or fun but it can get better

Brilliant-Life-LLC · 2026-04-09T11:07:57+00:00

Your son is worth having you around and you are worth living your life. Your feelings are temporary, but you are not. Call 988 and talk with a specialist, please!

Advanced-Glove-6113 · 2026-04-09T11:03:09+00:00

If you do this, your son will have a memory of a weak father who took an easy way out. Your son will struggle through life bcos you were supposed to be the one to guide and raise him up to be a man and be able to face anything including depression.

Bro, we all at some point thought of it. We stayed positive, hit the gym, carry weights or by just walking. Get on Vitamins for men, especially D3.

You will look back in few months and laugh at yourself. Whatever you are going through right now, know that there are people going through the worst

I hope this is not about a woman? If not, you are making the biggest mistake.

Il_Valentino · 2026-04-09T09:53:22+00:00

If you love your son you stay alive, simple as that. Do sports and get fresh air, depression is just a spiral of negative thoughts that fog your mind, you aren't thinking straight.

suspicious_bag_1000 · 2026-04-09T09:52:27+00:00

Dial 988, they’ll hook you up with everything you need

suspicious_bag_1000 · 2026-04-09T09:50:34+00:00

Bro I’ve been there. You’ll get through this ok, just like I did. But call for help now, OK. That’s what I did. There’s nothing wrong with getting help when you need it.

mesi130 · 2026-04-09T09:41:55+00:00

Call suicide hotline right now

MiloGoesToPorridge · 2026-04-09T09:37:02+00:00

Walk through it as best you can, because it will pass at some point. Your son needs you. It's not just about you anymore.

Are you prepared to leave him all alone with her?

No_Test_660 · 2026-04-09T09:35:16+00:00

Buddy your life is worth more than you know! Can you tell me at least one thing that gives you joy ?

Title	Help
Author	No_Chemistry8953
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Comments	37
Date	April 9, 2026 9:25 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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