Most forums that pertain to content that tries to help men get good with women often focus on self improvement. And for good reason. Self improvement is good for the individual and of course for getting women. But it's not a panacea. You can self improve until the cows come home. It changes nothing unless you understand female nature. I know plenty of men who are well above average in terms of looks, finances, style, status, etc. and they're still walked all over by women.

Understanding how women work and how they select mates is more important than self improvement. You have to understand first in order for those improvements to yield results. The most important thing to understand as a man is that.... women don't need you. Well, in actuality women do need men. If men stopped working for one week the entire civilization would collapse. But the perception exists (due to the forcefully redistribution of resources, mandatory conscription, most infrastructure or civilization dependent jobs being occupied by men, tax-redistribution schemes) that women don't need men. That perception that they don't need men is very real. And once you realize that when a women says "I don't need a man" she genuinely doesn't think she does, you understand the shift that has taken place in western societies.

For a female she's looking for two primary things when it comes to a man. Alpha seed and beta provisioning. She wants a genetically high quality man to have children with. Broad shoulders, tall, strong, clear skin, etc. You can rank order a variety of physical characteristics however you think they should be appropriately categorized, the important thing is to realize that physical characteristics are one part of what women select for. The other being the more character based things. He's kind, nice, compassionate, and most importantly he will give his resources to help raise any children we have together.

Once you realize that women no longer believe they need men to provide for children.... and they're partly right in all honesty. The amount of wealth redistribution "it takes a village" that goes on now to facilitate single mothers and women in the workplace is shocking... They don't have to make a choice. They can have it both ways. They can have a child and ship it off to daycare then to school and then to college. The entire system is automated. The child involves less and less mental and physical investment by the women. And this is by design. They vote in policies that support this because they want to protect themselves. "If I make a bad reproductive decision, I want the state to redistribute wealth to help my child still have a decent life, even without a father." You can't out-alpha the state.

But once you realize that women have replaced men with the state for financial provisions (at least until the system begins to collapse) you realize women are hyper focused on alpha-seed. It's very easy to provide for the child now. Either through their own income or the state. But getting a high quality man who is genetically desirable? Extremely hard. Try to find a man who's over 6' tall who makes 100k+ a year, no debt, blue eyes, 6 pack, broad shoulders.... You're talking 1/25,000 men. And many/most are already taken.

So finding that guy is a huge source of difficulty for women. It's extremely hard for them to find that guy. The women can provide that for themselves. What they can't provide is the hot alpha who's going to d them down in the bathroom in a club. They want the bad boy because he's exciting. The average provider just doesn't interest women anymore. They don't need him. At least the perception they don't is strong enough to not make it a due or die issue.

So you can improve to the cows come home, as I said. But until you understand why women want what they want at this particular moment in history? It's irrelevant. Women have always wanted men who were strong and good providers. I would just argue the physical and mental traits have become more important as the provisioning element has been taken over by women themselves or the state. Hence the rise in polygamy. Many women would rather share a high value alpha than be saddled with a faithful loser.