When it rains, it pours

WhiteningMcClean · 2022-01-17T19:54:01+00:00

I got tired just reading this. Was seeing two girls for like a month last year and it was too much.

Cactus2711 · 2022-01-17T20:41:13+00:00

It's fucking exhausting and expensive dating multiple women.

6WALTER9 · 2022-01-17T18:47:52+00:00

I've been in a similar situation recently. The key to success is delegating different days to different women and progress further if you want to. Ofcourse if you wanna sleep around then this formula works.

DaMarcio · 2022-01-17T19:07:48+00:00

First of all, don't lie to them. You don't have to give them details but no need to pretend you're the love of their lives when it's just a fun hangout. They're adults and can decide wether they are on the same page or not.

Apart from that, enjoy it! Choose when you wanna see whoever you're feeling like seeing and that's it, don't overthink it. You're actually more interesting if you have little availability because it implies you're doing multiple stuff in your life. No need to "take advantage" of the situation, just literally enjoy it and allow yourself to do what you feel like doing.

Moikepdx · 2022-01-17T21:03:46+00:00

I've definitely noticed that these things come in waves. Once at work I was pretty sure there was some kind of contest to snag me since literally every single girl simultaneously started hitting on me. But it's also possible that one of them started crushing on me and talking about it, and that "social proof" was all that was needed to convince the others they wanted me too.

The weirdest one was in the opposite direction though. Three women that didn't know each other "broke up" with me in a one-week period. Especially weird given that I wasn't exclusively dating any of them at the time.

Fukb0i97 · 2022-01-17T20:36:50+00:00

There are 3 possible reasons (not mutually exclusive)
1. You got good
2. You lowered your standards
3. It's a new year and with Covid fears allaying more people are going out.

I recently broke up with my ex who I think is a total 10 and was very afraid of how I will find someone even close but to my surprise, I already have dates lined up with people who I would've previously classified as "out of my league". Life has a way of being funny :)

Have fun and keep your integrity intact. Don't overthink ;)

ProFriendZoner · 2022-01-17T20:12:12+00:00

If you can talk/date 5 you can talk/date 10 or more.

Abundance.

Keep doing it.

AnAngelOfVengeance · 2022-01-17T19:52:19+00:00

Been there. You’ll learn a valuable lesson hopefully…it’s pretty damn hard to lose a girl by blowing her off. Like, amazingly hard. Just make sure you are compensating by being extra flirty/nice/sexy with them in your texts. That’s the secret sauce bro… Get ‘em hot like a rocket and then purposely miss chances to hang out with them. Makes them ultra into you. With just one girl, this takes a lot of discipline to do, bc you are denying yourself. But with multiple girls, you have to just bc of logistics, and then you’ll see how well it works.

I also used to structure my dates one after the other, 2 in the same night. Girl who’s less into me first, more into me second. What happens is all the girls in the venue see you with a girl and start giving you looks. Bartenders like you, bouncers are nicer. Since you have a hard stop, you HAVE to end the date with the first girl on your volition. This turns her on bc most guys will push as far as they can. Then when your second girl gets there, she walks into a venue where she can see all these girls checking you out, sizing her up, everyone likes you, etc… while she’s on a date with a guy she likes. You’ll pull her, or on the off chance you don’t, you’ll be able to easily get the numbers of several girls in the place bc pre-selection.

Complicated_Business · 2022-01-17T19:46:26+00:00

Perfect for not putting your eggs all in one basket.

Having options is awesome.

SaltLeader3687 · 2022-01-17T19:17:17+00:00

Sometimes that happens, and it's normal to feel overwhelmed because you want to make time for all of them, but you also have a life, but you don't want to wait too long with one cause you might lose her. That's when I just stop trying to meet new girls/swipe on apps, and focus on the ones I'm currently talking to. Normally after a date or two, you're gonna cut off a few you don't match with, and then go back to just one girl, or none at all.

the-dan-man · 2022-01-18T04:33:45+00:00

That number will come down to 1-3 after a few dates. Unless you're already dated a few times and they are actually into you. In that case try keep them as long as possible, but it probably won't last.

leelbeach · 2022-01-17T20:43:13+00:00

Can't say I've ever been in that fortunate situation you lucky bastard 😂

shinymusic · 2022-01-17T21:10:20+00:00

Depends what you want. If you want to bang them all then do that. I personally always hated having feelings for more than one person at a time.

jadencoolpurple · 2022-01-17T21:31:42+00:00

CHRISTIAN DIOR DIOR

guilty_asshole · 2022-01-18T07:15:13+00:00

It’s called an excel spreadsheet.

lilabelle12 · 2022-01-18T01:27:58+00:00

Options come and go. Be careful when talking with multiple people— in that you may end up with barely one in the end.

Lord_Augastus · 2022-01-18T04:29:54+00:00

Priorotise women based on your needs. If you want relationship, best women get your time so you can weed out the ones you dont see a future with. Have specific metrics you are looking for, if for example you wouldnt talk about careers and future plans with a fuck buddy, but you might want to keep things casual and just discover her ethos, what makes her tick, thats about it.

Miss_Kimi · 2022-01-18T05:27:48+00:00

Damn, one girl is difficult enough, imagine having all 5 bitching at you for this and that. No matter what , relationship s are limiting. Keep it light and casual but DO NOT LIE . Tell em' if they ask, save the drama that is hoping your not a. . . .

NARCISSIST

genoherpasyphilaids · 2022-01-17T20:37:14+00:00

Can confirm, some bitches are seasonal it's weird

Ordinary_Yam1866 · 2022-01-17T23:56:31+00:00

It usually has to do with confidence. When you're single and without success, no matter how hard you fake it, girls tend to notice these things.
Once you make some progress, your confidence shoots way up, and it will lead to even more success.
There is an old saying, the first thing you need to get a girlfriend is to have a girlfriend.

armorm3 · 2022-01-18T01:36:27+00:00

yeah I agree. I think it happens for me at least because I tend to lose interest in dating/apps and find other things I enjoy doing. Then after some time it definitely feels like the apps start trying harder or something to get me to come back, and then boom, a bunch of matches and all of a sudden talking to three women at the same time. I don't sugar coat anything even on the first chat, and furthermore, having had kids already, running a side business, and a full time job, I don't have much spare time, on top of the time I require to do the things I personally enjoy. I would've moved things around for dates after my divorce, but now having been dating for a few years I don't like the approach anymore because often it isn't reciprocated in terms of feelings/etc. Most of the time on the apps I think people get confused and are there trying to make friends in a dating app. Hello? This isn't co-workers, acquaintances or friendship. It's dating. Everyone operates at their own pace and you can't pressure anyone into something they don't want. But you can know what you want, and don't. Things shouldn't be super complicated in the beginning in my opinion (if they want to make it happen, they will). But eventually you'll both probably have to make some compromises/effort for each other

shaggy2gay · 2022-01-18T03:05:52+00:00

Usually works like this. Go for it, don't put down hot dice. Whatever with the gym. You can't fuck barbells. Two or three of the girls will eventually fall away and you'll be left with a solid little rotation.

hfthomas · 2022-01-18T20:16:38+00:00

If this is tiring you should enjoy the dryspells and have one at a time.

quantumactual · 2022-01-17T21:55:36+00:00

As much as I’ve thought it’d be nice to have multiple women - it is exhausting asf! Just need one crazy kitty and my hands are pretty much tied.

But yeah, the reason I’d suggest is because of an abundance mindset. If you’re putting all your eggs in one basket, she’ll probably know, and won’t like that too much.

Even if you aren’t necessarily dating other women, you should at least imply that so you don’t seem like you don’t get any.

KAOSIIWIZ7DOME · 2022-01-18T02:22:20+00:00

Triage. Give the most attention to the unit that is the best of the lot. Just my two cents.

PapaSmurf2006 · 2022-01-17T23:25:30+00:00

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ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2022-01-18T10:19:17+00:00

First off, congratulations on the abundance! Good man. Been here before, so here's a few pointers...

1) Do not make these women your purpose. Never forget your purpose.

2) Deal with the ones that aren't the most hassle and are most likely to sleep with you. The others? Let them chase you instead.

3) Cheap dates. Ie: Coffee and a walk in the park. You will spend a fortune otherwise.

4) Make the most of it. Because as annoying as it is now, you'll remember this as a good time during your next dry spell.

5) But also don't forget to do what you like doing in terms of hobbies/interests etc, as they will still be there when these are long gone.

6) Wrap it!

cronasminate · 2022-01-17T22:57:22+00:00

Talking to 5 different women does not equal dating 5 different women. Talking to women is literally being their emotional janitor if it's mostly you trying to keep them entertained, making them feel good and treating them everywhere. If you get nothing for that you are not dating.

WomanWhoBets · 2022-01-17T19:26:44+00:00

I hope they all are also talking to at least 5 different guys as well.

SaltLeader3687 · 2022-01-17T18:41:01+00:00

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AndreKnows · 2022-01-17T22:27:53+00:00

Cool shit, it happens from time to time. I'm curious, what did you do different to your previous life that you suddenly started dating 5 women? How did you met them? Have you been intimate with all of them?

canuckle1211 · 2022-01-18T00:44:17+00:00

I'd say keep on good terms with all them lol. Dry spell might creep back any time.

kassra25 · 2022-01-18T01:29:44+00:00

When you pray for rain. You gotta deal with the mud too.

Xombie0991 · 2022-01-18T02:21:24+00:00

Why do you think you are having so much success all of a sudden?

Thony311 · 2022-01-18T03:18:44+00:00

Been in that spot too. Reason it worked out for me was that the 4 women i was with were all workaholics. So seeing each one of them once every 2 weeks was fine with them. It was easy to spend time w each when the dates were so spread out. Also was easy to maintain my own responsibilities of work and self improvement.

They all understood the relationship w me was casual.

I would go about business as usual. Bail when necessary. Dont overhaul your schedule for them and if they wanna distance, so be it. If they are cool w it, then awesome.

krzjasn87 · 2022-01-18T04:47:28+00:00

Just keep doing what you were doing before the women, this is the best way to continue getting a steady flow. Whenever you have time to spend with one of them than do so. If you don't have time because of your own schedule (Gym, friends etc etc) than don't hang out. You have got to remember that just because you are getting some it does not mean stop doing what make you well you.

semiscintillation · 2022-01-18T05:38:50+00:00

To joke, you should become a king and marry all five.

Notarobotss · 2022-01-18T07:49:15+00:00

Make hay while the sunshines! hooked up with 5 women over 4 days last year when the lockdowns eased out, pent up horniness. Had an evening to night with 3 women in different time slots on my bed, was the best way to affirm the worlds not ending!

Demilegend482 · 2022-01-18T09:48:48+00:00

Bro it’s not that hard there’s a couple things you gotta do. 1. You gotta prioritize them 2 of them you gotta keep around but also don’t mind losing. 2. The ones you really want you gotta figure out how you can incorporate them in your life style. Instead of getting rid of the gym have one of them come with you. 3. Just keep them satisfied. A female will literally tell you what they want(any way non verbally) and go from there. Keeping women satisfied isn’t hard when you’re giving them the minimum of what they want.

phildeground · 2022-01-18T15:36:20+00:00

Can I propose an idea?: - Don’t invite them out.

2022-01-18T17:14:17+00:00

I read the title and that bring me the horizon song started playing in my head.. geesh

ultimate_self · 2022-01-18T17:34:00+00:00

It's very simple. You carry yourself differently.

Like guys sometimes buy new clothes and all of a sudden they get more attention from girls. They wrongly interpret it as "girls like my clothes" when it's actually them feeling good about themselves while wearing the new clothes so they carry themselves in a way that attracts women.

Same goes for sex. If you've had sex today you are less likely to display the needy behavior that dries a woman up. If you've had sex with 5 hot girls today you will carry yourself differently than if you've not had sex in a year.

Moral of the story. Cultivate that "good feeling" despite what you are wearing. Work on yourself, get hobbies, exercise, etc. FOR YOURSELF, and generally speaking girls will pick up on the fact that you are feeling yourself and they will buy into it too.

Even if you are some overweight, balding guy, if you can generate those feelings in yourself, you'll have insane success with gorgeous women.

It's a continuous effort though. You can reach that level and lose it if you've not worked on maintaining it through discipline (speaking from experience). I had it for a few years and got complacent... busy working on it again now and on my way to the top. Already experiencing the interest from women again, but nowhere near where I was at my best (it was fucking glorious, guys).

YakubTheCreat0r · 2022-01-20T06:24:19+00:00

I hate texting/dating with too many women. Why I only choose 2-3 and chat them up per week.

2022-01-21T00:40:48+00:00

Don't be needy this shit did not happen by a strok of luck odds are when you started dating the first girl you gained more confidence and led u to attract more bitches

ace_qk · 2022-02-02T07:35:33+00:00

Deffo don’t start moving your personal stuff around, that’s a beginning of the end. Keep it cool, structure your week & get a good rotation. Ie if you can only do Saturdays & Sundays, you see 2 then … worst case 1.

And if the others ask & you’re busy, although initially they may seem annoyed, it only works in your favour. You just seem like a busy man or they intuit you are dating others, again, both play in your favour. If brought up, simply keep it joking & mysterious, neither confirm nor deny & lastly ENJOY YOURSELF or what’s the point.

If anything seems more effortful then you’d like simply change it, you are the captain of your own ship

Title	When it rains, it pours
Author	SaltLeader3687
Upvotes	307
Comments	101
Date	January 17, 2022 6:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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