Ultimately that's what it comes down to. Two months ago I was in a relationship with a girl that I thought was the end all be all. I had convinced myself "That's the best you can do."

Bullshit.

Due to my former girlfriend playing silly games with my ego I dumped her. I resolved to no longer allow myself to be subject to another's whims. For those of you who like metal think of Pantera's Becoming.

Before work I bust my ass in the gym 5 days a week. I spend my off time reading up on psychology, NLP and PUA tactics (as well as programming because it's what I'm going to school for).

On the weekend, and my days off it's playtime. I make a point of talking to EVERYONE. Male, female it doesn't matter. If they're female I flirt, it doesn't matter if I want to take her home or not. I flirt. Why? Because it has to become second nature. Flirting should feel like breathing. There should be no effort involved.

My results? I'm spinning fucking plates man. I have a heavy BDSM play session tomorrow, and on Saturday. I have a (3rd) date on Friday, as well as a girl who is flying out to see me on the 22nd.

It all starts with having the balls to go up and talk to that first girl. No matter how scared you are, no matter what she looks like. Get out there and TALK. You're not going to learn shit unless you practice.

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I cannot express how awesome /r/seduction is. Nor how grateful I am for your help in improving myself.

P.S. For those of you who are curious. Yes, all the girls in question know that I'm not exclusively dating them.