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| 71 | An Ode to Living AloneOmfg sis, preach. When I was doing my undergrad (in the heavy sciences), I couldn't get a second to think around my ex. He'd guilt me whenever I tried to study. Eventually, I'd wait until he went to bed, pretend to go to sleep, and then wake up and read from like 10 PM - 3 AM. He was unconscious the entire time, but eventually he found out about it (saw me while getting a midnight snack once) & lost his shit. I was destroying my health just so I had a chance to keep up with my education while wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 02:51 PM |
| 165 | I love it when these men reveal themselves right away;Definitely on the intellectually unfortunate end of the Dunning Kruger graph | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 11:10 AM |
| 59 | HVM in smaller cities?It shouldn't be an unpopular comment; you're literally just stating facts 😂 I haven't read that book but have a few degrees in the behavioural sciences & this type of thing is pretty well-known based on the data. While it's true that a lot of these male-dominated towns tend to also be known for having that overt misogyny/incel bullshit floating around (think oil towns), this is sort of a by-product of that subset of truly bottom-of-the-barrel men that definitely shouldn't be reproducing getting … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 08:45 PM |
| 52 | PSA: A high value man will not be into BDSM.When I hear them bring up porn I say the EXACT same thing, except it's "oh, I'm not into human trafficking". Shuts them up quick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 01:21 PM |
| 72 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.Yesssss sis so proud of you!!! 🥳👏👏 That's definitely no small feat - women are socialised to tolerate that indefinitely, and so many of us do. This dude is gunna shocked Pikachu face all the way into the next decade lmaoooo 😂 I've been there. It's still crazy to me that you could tell them exactly what you need and it'll still be like pulling teeth for what could turn into literal years. Like damn, with an IQ that low I don't think these dudes should be allowed to interact with women at all, let… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 12:15 AM |
| 32 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.I actually moved from Canada to the UK sis! It's tough because yes, all of these places have so many of these problems for women. Have you listened to the FDS podcast? Savannah's descriptions of British men are SPOT ON 😅 so there'll be that 😂 Honestly the one thing men everywhere do consistently is disappoint us. You can look up gender pay gaps/gaps in unpaid labour by country; there have been some studies done on both. There's no perfect place but the research would be a good way to start makin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 11:18 PM |
| 74 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.Omg I'm so excited for alllllll the soon-to-be FDSers to come here & stay forever ❤😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 09:00 PM |
| 150 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.Oh 10000% 👏👏 Another mindset shift for me was the revelation that shitty men are replaceable. Like sure, if you find a really good one, of course you'll want to hold onto him. But if he's acting up then he's not a good one, and there are 100 more like him in every neighbourhood, so you're not really losing anything unique or valuable when you chuck him into the trash 😂 Like sorry, I don't make the rules hahaha. Act right or bye 💅💃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 06:06 PM |
| 371 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.As an aside, a particularly hilarious way this played out for me one was on a road trip with an LVM I had been dating for several months. He decided he wanted to bring up polyamory in the car (idiot), so I pulled into a gas station, asked him to go get a coffee, and said I'd fill up. He went in & I drove away. Never spoke to him again. I'm sure the guy's fine, but this was a small town in the Canadian rockies (literally the only thing around was the gas station) & a good couple-hundred kilometre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 02:12 PM |
| 29 | and they want women over 30 to just... disappear? hide in a basement somewhere? this queen is goals! title is" why can't I be sexy at 71". LVM in fumes! gross is sexualizing teenagers and 20 somethings and preying on them! gross is drooling over 16 year olds when LVM are their dad's age!I just think it's so rad that FDS (Lilith) invented a whole-ass new feminist ideology. 💅 The first (and only) to prioritize max female benefit above all else - sad that so many others (eg libfem) missed the mark. I lean more towards being a radfem, but felt ideologically homeless all my life - until I read her article. FDS is such a godsend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 01:32 PM |
| 112 | I’m finally getting over himIt took me a few years to really get over an ex. It was really traumatic for me; I'd thought everything was fine and then found out he was cheating while I was pregnant. Ended up getting an abortion & moving abroad to do a doctorate, but it all nearly broke me. Then one day I was just walking down the street and realized how much of a loser he was. Like, it just hit me 😂 You'll be fine angel, just focus on yourself ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 01:28 PM |
| 3 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleSo visual, except they can't be bothered to wash themselves & live in squalor because they "don't see" all the shit around the house that needs doing. Pick one scrotes 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 07:16 PM |
| 8 | Weak men project so hard and get so in their feelings when women don’t want to settleLol lower your standards or you'll end up rich & scrote free!!!!1 Like SIR don't threaten me with a good time 😂 (Also these dudes be trying to convince themselves SO HARD women dOnT cArE aBoUt lOoKs LMAOOOO 😂 Honey, take your receding hairline and go 😂😂😂) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 03:44 PM |
| 27 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesHoooooly I've never seen it written that way but you really just made it all click for me. I've seen this pattern before, and I'm willing to bet many of us can recognize it (having to walk on eggshells around a PickMe who habitually lets men walk all over her). I had one of those in my life and noticed the girl weaponized therapy language like you wouldn't believe. The way she did it felt punitive (especially since the behaviours she'd often choose to set "boundaries" about were things she'd do … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 07:10 PM |
| 82 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsLOL my experiences have never been that subtle 😂😂😂 I get "mEn dOnT cArE aBoUt yOuR pHd" and that my being educated isn't giving "fEmInInE eNeRgY". One time, I had a guy (who lived with his mom & worked in a dildo factory) tell me that he "was actually smarter than me", because not going to university meant he didn't have any "dept" (yeah, genius just misspelled "debt", fucking moron). I was a grad student at the time, but making about $70k per year tax-free (because I rocked those scholarships) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 09:03 PM |
| 287 | The audacityDo any other ladies here refuse to kiss during the few first dates? I fucking HATE that it's become so normalised and honestly firmly believe that any man who really likes you will probably be too cautious to try. It's a boundary I've had to put down again and again and again... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 09:54 AM |
| 19 | This is not the flex she thinks she is. When will we grow out of encouraging women to stay with men who hurt them?Yeah, I'm right here with you. My empathy runs out as soon as other women start forcing dangerous LVM into my life by proxy. I have some lovely friends that just need a small nudge in the right direction, and those I will gladly help. Young women just figuring it out? Sure. Maybe you're new to dating and don't see red flags? I've got you. But this whole "omg my boyfriend cheated for the 87th time BUT I SWEAR he loves mEeeeeE?!!!!!!!!1" No. I think people really underestimate the abuse you can be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 01:08 PM |
| 53 | Genuine question: how can a woman maintain the hope that there really are good men out there?Sis, I totally understand what you're asking & how hopeless it can feel sometimes. I have a lovely HV father, so that's usually who I think of first, but otherwise I do have a strategy that I think works for this, and it involves just keeping a few good ones around, in your circle, to keep the hope alive. It's a slippery slope to be "friendly" with men, so of course this strategy comes with some caveats. Besides the pussy vultures you also have to watch out for emotional labour vampires, don't k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 01:34 PM |
| 27 | I have no words, this isn't even pick-me behavior anymorePlus they unironically say this & then in the same breath criticise the sexualisation of black men. Lib fems are such grade A hypocrites. Literally just fuck women, I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 09:49 PM |
| 59 | Ughhhh this excuse making ridiculousness. Sometimes it *is* that simple.Yeah like his bullshit is literally not our problem and if they're really such a mess they should sort that out before they start pulling women into their lives anyway | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 09:45 PM |
| 51 | Stop dumpster diving through other women’s garbageYeah, some PickMe's out there are WILD. I know one that hides her polyamorous leanings from partners for as long as possible & then blasts them with DARVO when finally confronted (friend of some coworkers, not in my circle 😅). I'm very wary of men in general, but there are honestly LV people of both genders out there - and a lot of them, too. I think HV people tend to hang out with other HV people, so as women we sometimes just think of our girlfriends & assume that's the status quo, but it can … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:45 PM |
| 28 | I feel very stagnant right nowAww hun, your post hit me so hard; it honestly felt like reading something my past self wrote ❤ I think the feeling you're describing is very very common to people (especially women) in higher education - i.e., grad school and beyond. I felt like that for years - even though when I was in grad school, I was getting paid quite well (much better than most people working "real" jobs)... but society tells us nonstop, from the moment we're able to listen, that our value lies in checking off certain b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 01:42 AM |
| 364 | Suspicious?Don't interact with him. He's looking to corner you. You'll end up traumatised if you entertain this dude. We don't share that we're on FDS for a reason. It's not safe - just ask any mod, they get death threats regularly. It's not safe in general, and even more dangerous when it comes to sharing with men on reddit (who tend to be particularly unfortunately placed on the spectrum of "low value"). Edit: Another thing is, just in general, if a man doesn't "get it", you drop him. HVM don't need to h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 03:14 PM |
| 14 | Valuing Yourself- Differences in How People Value ThemselvesOh totally! The time in my life when I most felt the urge to second-guess myself was a couple years into my PhD... not only was I really starting to get an honest idea of what I (and also all of us!) don't know, but trying to push forward and create new knowledge anyway was honestly one of the most intimidating things I'd ever tried to do. Eventually you reach a point where you realize that while you still don't know everything, you know enough and can speak with some amount of self-assuredness.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 05:09 PM |
| 55 | Valuing Yourself- Differences in How People Value ThemselvesI literally am talked over and condescended to so much more often than not about my area of expertise (health/research), and it's almost always by some moron who barely passed high school. I've got a PhD and am a doctor. I genuinely don't know where this blind unearned confidence comes from, but I'm at the point in my life where if I see this kind of thing I just assume the person's stupid. I've yet to be wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 03:38 PM |
| 88 | Boomerang Kangeroos: Men Reflect On The One That Got AwayHahaha omg gurl your comments are always so spot on 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 01:10 AM |
| 10 | Reminder to also vet your female roommates!You know what? You did them a favour & they squandered your goodwill. They deserved to get evicted. I'm so glad you could get rid of them. Having a roommate can be so lovely when you're on the same page... but when you're not, it's just not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 05:25 PM |
| 18 | Reminder to also vet your female roommates!It's literally always the same bullshit comebacks with these women... "wHaT dO yOu mEaN yOu dOnT tRuSt me???!1 sCoTt fRoM hInGe wOuLd NEVER" Morons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 03:03 PM |
| 17 | Reminder to also vet your female roommates!I wish I'd vetted more thoroughly. I've got a roommate who's brought more guys into out flat than you'd see at a porn set. An LV, airhead, narcissistic type that thrives off the attention and doesn't care that our doors don't even have locks and this behaviour is compromising my safety. Conversations have resulted in her escalating, and our city's got a rental crisis that's prevented me from finding a new place to live (flats literally go within hours of being posted - I've been trying for 6 mon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 02:56 PM |
| 16 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?Yeah I'm convinced more men than we'd care to admit have something wrong with them, but it literally doesn't matter. I used to put so much work into working around their social stupidity until I acknowledged it's genuinely just not my fucking problem... and furthermore, a lot of straight-up abusive men could probably be described as having some mental illness/personality disorder, and while that can be difficult, it's possible to still make the conscious effort to treat those around you well. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 10:04 PM |
| 64 | The “empowerment” propaganda has to stop.You could write an entire doctoral thesis on how porn harms women, but I usually shut down these leftie-woke porn supporters with a quick, "Sorry, I just don't support human trafficking." Shuts most of them up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 05:07 PM |
| 68 | I’m the girl who exposed him to his long term girlfriend. I believe he has more victims.I sympathise with you to the extent that you didn't know what was happening the first time around. That was not your fault, and you were right to come here. However, I do urge you to take some accountability for continuing to participate in this clownshow afterwards. Becoming knowingly involved with a man who has a longterm partner is fundamentally LV behaviour. He's clearly an abusive misogynist... go figure? HVM don't fuck around on their partners. The rhetoric he fed you is classic cheater lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 06:10 PM |
| 19 | 🎶Let's just dress up infidelity and terminal self-centeredness with trendy vocab!🎶🎶I judge men who can't commit🎶💫🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 12:08 AM |
| 23 | Man OK with 50/50 relationship as long as it's to his advantage. But as soon as it barely compensates the woman, it's transactional and gross. Notice, they're "spiritually" married 🙄More like spiritually stupid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:35 PM |
| 20 | Man OK with 50/50 relationship as long as it's to his advantage. But as soon as it barely compensates the woman, it's transactional and gross. Notice, they're "spiritually" married 🙄I mean she's actually being very generous given that the ramifications of taking a year off will likely follow her for the rest of her working life, so there's that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 09:34 PM |
| 16 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveYeah... FDS rules have been written in blood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 12:30 PM |
| 36 | I finally figured out datingSis, I really encourage you to be careful here... you say hook-up culture doesn't really benefit women, but you are participating in it. Multi-dating is great, but this may affect you in ways you don't yet anticipate - if only concerning your health. Please do get tested, and ideally don't sleep with a man "casually" as this sort of relationship dynamic heightens the chances of you catching something. Be careful with your birth control, and be careful about who knows you're doing this - women ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 11:28 PM |
| 151 | A daily reminder to protect your womb from LVM scrotes. Apparently once you have a kid, you are no longer allowed to have standards.Oh my god, my heart almost stopped when I thought about your daughter moving there just to labour away stepping in as the unpaid second mom. I'm so glad you saved her from that; instead it sounds like you're giving her the opportunities to follow whatever path she chooses & the independence to never need a man ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 01:04 AM |
| 61 | Swipe. Man goes on 63 dates, does not use FDS tactics, still single. Huh...Omg sis that's INSANE he'd have to give them basic respect????????, mISANDRyY /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 75 | Two OLD apps have coffee dates as part of their ad... admitting they're trash. Made me laugh.Yeah, also they have this thing I call "Schrodinger's Scrote: Pub Culture Version" where they're super confident and audacious drunk-screaming obscenities at and catcalling women on the street during one of their "lad's nights out", but like too "shy" and "awkward" to respectfully ask us to dinner ("iT's A cUlTuRaL tHiNg, jUsT mAke tHe fIrSt mOvEeE!!!!!1! aReNt yOu a fEmInIsT?????2?1"). And then they've got a beer gut by 22 and are bald by 22.5. Like honey, your 5'3 ass should be thanking a woma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:34 PM |
| 39 | Two OLD apps have coffee dates as part of their ad... admitting they're trash. Made me laugh.Preach. I moved to the UK from elsewhere and that's exactly right - even the good men I've met still need to be taught basic manners (e.g., check to make sure your data made it home safely, etc). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 09:25 AM |
| 291 | Karmic Revenge on Cheaters (share your stories!)My ex decided to cheat with the town harlot - I'm talking a real cluster B PickMe-type. Absolute psychopath. He had his little affair, and I left as soon as I found out. Ghosted him after half a decade together - but we had mutual friends, so I know that after that little love affair imploded (i.e., he let her know it was casual on his end), she chose to email his boss with accusations of drug use. My ex was a teacher... at an elementary school. He promptly lost his job & hit absolute rock botto… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 08:48 PM |
| 55 | Never Tell Men You Live Alone. Protect Your Space, LadiesOmg do I detect a fellow ✨birb lover✨💫😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 10:41 AM |
| 41 | Pick-Meisha Wedding RantAw sis I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. Honestly, PickMe's make horrendous brides, and going to their weddings is usually a nightmare. When I was 21, I had one try to guilt me into failing a class (missing a final) AND dropping $750 on a flight to some random town in the Midwest for her wedding. I was an undergrad working three jobs & that was about twice my savings at the time. Plus, the wedding was on Valentine's Day, so no one in the room would be able to actually spend it with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 02:20 PM |
| 96 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on CraigslistIt's literally a scrotey step down from believing in the potential of a fuckbuddy LOL pls just when I thought it couldn't get any worse | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:39 AM |
| 112 | Somehow this is worse than those room rentals on CraigslistLiterally just yeet me into the stratosphere | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 01:38 AM |
| 66 | Tale as old as timeAlso, if we respond at all we're "eMoTiOnAl" 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:43 AM |
| 167 | Tale as old as timeThe other reply to your comment is spot on 👌 LVM are fucking stupid. They're honestly just a pile of bumbling buffoons; give it a few weeks max and the mask will slip. Even the third guy in OPs post had like one good date in him. I totally get you. I find dealing with anyone I don't absolutely love exhausting, especially men I hardly know... so even if I don't sleep with one, I'll still be so peeved that I spent a few hours on him, because my time is precious & I've got that introvert energy 💅 B… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 02:41 AM |
| 44 | Polyamorous PickMe comes *so* close to getting it... but doesn't 🤡Yeah, totally. There are some really deep-seated issues here stemming from a very traumatic childhood, and it's sad but being around was very much not worth the parade of LVM orbiters & the accusations of being "close-minded". However, I'm happy to say I do have another close friend who was manipulated into a "cAsUaL" situationship when we met (nearly a year ago), and has since done a complete 180. She recognizes she deserves better, has called out the ENM community for their shit, and is happy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 11:51 PM |
| 286 | Tale as old as timeMy heart really goes out to her. A situation like this is what brought me here. It's assault. Lying to have sex... taking away your right to informed consent like that is assault. My brief stint on OLD was enough to straight-up radicalize me. I will never let a man touch me without months of vetting withing the context of a public, committed relationship again. I don't give a shit what everyone else is doing - I deleted these apps two years ago and haven't looked back. This literally just happen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 11:31 PM |
| 62 | Polyamorous PickMe comes *so* close to getting it... but doesn't 🤡Olympic gold-level mental gymnastics 🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 11:17 PM |
| 231 | Polyamorous PickMe comes *so* close to getting it... but doesn't 🤡Oh honey, I am all for roster dating - she means "sleeping with". Edit: She has said she does want a (polyamorous) "relationship" (whatever that means), but most relationship-minded (I don't actually tend to interact with any of the men she entertains, but I mean "men who have in the past managed to hold down at least one long-term monogamous relationship") tend to disappear when she gives them her polyamory speech, and the ones that stick around (for sex) are very much interested only in sex. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 09:28 PM |
| 376 | Polyamorous PickMe comes *so* close to getting it... but doesn't 🤡Story time ☕: This women is part of my larger social group - she's a huge proponent of pOlYaMoRy, and Intry to avoid spending time with her as I'll get bombarded with the unsolicited "oNe pErSoN cAn'T mEeT aLl yOuR nEeDs" rhetoric, despite her knowing very well that I don't support that lifestyle. In group settings, she displays a huge amount of attention-seeking behaviour whenever there are men around, and will indiscriminately sleep with crowds of people - followed by crying to whoever will li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:42 PM |
| 35 | Are sororities high value?I'm sure there might be a few HVW sprinkled throughout, but overall no, sorry, I don't think they're high value (from what I've seen, anyway). Some other commenters in this thread have mentioned a few good reasons, but the "forced" (or at least heavily encouraged) involvement with fraternities might be the biggest reason for me. I knew a few guys that had joined my undergrad uni's frat and, quite frankly, they were exactly the types you'd expect would have to pay for friends. Terrible attitudes … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 10:03 PM |
| 168 | More straight people than gay / bisexual people being diagnosed with HIV for first time in a decade according to U.K. health secretary. We’ve been telling you these men are doing too much. Protect your cooch!Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I mean, I'm sorry but this is what happens when you've got dudes acting like their full-time job is being community dick combined & PickMe's acting like condomless anal with a guy you met 2 weeks ago is perfectly normal. Combined with the fact that we're shamed relentlessly by these types for choosing to wait a few months? Excuse me while my eyes roll all the way into the back of my head. Do not sleep with a man until several months of consistent vetting. Oh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 12:37 AM |
| 106 | Lies Men Tell: Women Can't PairbondLoooool sis you triggered the scrotes with this one, like half the comments aren't showing 😭😭😭🤣 Yeah, I'm sorry but like it's not my problem that the only thing you can pairbond with is your right hand, Gary. I'll never live up to you crusty sock, I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 03:56 PM |
| 55 | Is anyone else slowly getting there with FDS boundaries?Omg great choice, I would DIE for a good ceilidh 😂 Currently nursing bruises from the last one as we speak (worth it tho 👌👌) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 04:24 PM |
| 6 | This scrote just followed me. Can’t decide if it’s a fake or if he’s married.Videogames? Honey you're too old to know how a computer works 😂😘🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 03:49 PM |
| 14 | Scrotes are really running out of excuses to shame women for their sexual livesI lost it at "dumb as a bag of hair" hahahaha 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 10:45 PM |
| 43 | Scrotes are really running out of excuses to shame women for their sexual livesI upvoted you sis, I see what you're saying, but a large part of why I don't engage in casual sex is because I truly, with my entire chest, don't think the vast majority of men deserve to touch me... and as happy (or unhappy) as the types of women we're talking about are, we differ in that regard. I've had one (thankfully brief) casual relationship in the past, and I snapped out of it the second I realized I deserved better. That being said, I don't believe we should share our sexual history wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 10:44 PM |
| 82 | Scrotes are really running out of excuses to shame women for their sexual livesYeah, I was just reading these comments & trying to find the right words to say exactly this, because this has been my experience too... right down to the loud, relentless assertions that they were giving men "a taste of their own medicine". I knew some women that would sleep with/FWB their entire roster, flout the "polyamorous" lifestyle, constantly scour OLD for fuck-buddies, and a few that said (or at least implied) they wanted relationships, but would sleep with dudes by date 3-5 (a whole tw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 08:30 PM |
| 100 | Canadian Teen Killed by British Man She Flew to Meet After Falling for Him on Dating AppMoved to the UK for uni; can confirm 😅🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 08:49 PM |
| 112 | Ladies, I'm in desperate need for some advice. Please help!!!This was me too - down to a tee. I loved the guy I dumped, but before that happened, I found out I was pregnant - right before I found out he was cheating. Got an abortion, dumped him, left. Voila. I shudder to think about what my life would've become if I stayed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 08:41 PM |
| 409 | Ladies, I'm in desperate need for some advice. Please help!!!Honey, when I was your age I dumped a guy, moved across the world, and got a PhD. Never looked back. I know what you're feeling, and even without the porn (although if you were looking for a sign, this is it), a man should never hold you back from living your life for you. Especially not a BOYFRIEND. The right guy will move mountains to make sure you're happy. I had a boyfriend who uprooted his entire life so that I could take on an internship that was basically my dream job... and he was so exc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:25 PM |
| 17 | I love herI did a PhD in cancer and before that worked on brains 😂 You are doing GREAT sis, you change the world for the better more in a day than this dude could in a lifetime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 11:46 AM |
| 630 | One thing these scrotes gonna do is drop their masks. Their real intentions show when they feel they have trapped their wives. Girl run!That is literally exactly where my mind went. This happened to be when I was 24 and just out of an undergrad - unemployed and still super vulnerable. My parents are working class so I knew asking them to swoop in and save me would be a huge strain. I'd been with my partner for 4 years at the time, and he was 6 years older than me. Not even married, which should tell you ladies all you need to know. I got pregnant, and it was like a switch flipped. My doting partner morphed into someone unrecogni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:51 PM |
| 323 | 10 year age gapHoney, no. Any 34-year old man wanting to date a woman in her 20's is a loser. Women his age don't want him, for good reason. Don't fall for it. Cut him off & read the handbook. Age gaps are a huge risk factor for abuse - go ahead and Google Scholar it. Unhinged men date much younger women. HVM date age-appropriate partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 04:36 PM |
| 65 | How does this serve my interests?This awoke a proper rage inside me because of how fucking true it is 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 04:23 PM |
| 39 | He lied to this woman (and pretty much everyone else) for TWO YEARS and, of course, she's the problem.Hahahaha right?? Did he just show up in stilts 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 04:11 PM |
| 61 | Negatively branding FDS in forums leads other women wary of joining and checking it out.Absolutely. Quite frankly, the women that refuse to listen would just muddle the message anyways. This is the only safe space out there, the only place we can put our interests first. We don't need that. Look, if they're lived in this society for however many decades and this shit is pointed out to them and they still don't fucking get it, they don't belong here. If they put other women down to lift themselves up, or put us in danger for a crumb of attention from some scrote, they don't belong h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 12:19 AM |
| 31 | Pays 40K for his gambling addiction or his incompetence (dunno which is worse)Haha thank you!! I'm in medicine, so basically it's just an undergrad and med school, with a couple research degrees in the middle (but they were basically like jobs... I'd just get paid by scholarships, because academic research is a pyramid scheme and everything's done by students 😂). Oh 100%, I've seen this. Just confidently guessing his way through life, like every other underqualified dude 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 07:49 PM |
| 197 | Pays 40K for his gambling addiction or his incompetence (dunno which is worse)I just think it's funny that you're literally an economist, your profession/knowledge base is at the very least adjacent to the world of stocks/investing, and you probably know more than 99% of the population, yet you qualify with "not being an expert" hahaha. AND WE KNOW YOU CAN WIPE THE FLOOR WITH THESE DUDES, every last one 😂 I'm a scientist, and I cannot begin to tell you how many dumbasses (especially these past couple years) have tried to armchair-doctor mansplain to/talk over me about my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 03:50 PM |
| 126 | Eve doesn't date single fathers, or: cultural misogyny in a nutshell, or: the audacityOmg sis did you run??? Tell me you ran 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 03:01 PM |
| 53 | Harbouring resentment in future relationshipsSis I'm in my late 20's and this was great to read 😭 Could you share when/how you met your HVM, and how you knew to keep pursuing things with him? It's always to nice to read success stories; gives me hope 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:57 AM |
| 22 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Oh hey, I do this too! I also don't wear makeup, but have replaced that with a couple rounds of permanent makeup (eyeliner and eyebrows). It's the closest thing I could find to an effortless way to exist in our society while not being judged and belittled and put down for going to work or whatever bare-faced. I resent it because it does cost me to the tune of $1000/year, which I guess we can just tack onto all the other shitty ways it's more expensive (considering both time and money) to be a wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 06:09 PM |
| 14 | Ladies please don’t do this. You deserve your dream ring!This is pathetic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 10:50 PM |
| 50 | When dating POC men that come from patriarchal cultures...I agree with you 1000%. It's tough because even writing it here could be controversial, but these dudes are a lost cause. Who knows - maybe there's 1 or 2 decent HVM in whatever city of whatever horrible dehumanising place, but it's not worth risking your life to dig through the trash for years just to probably see his mask slip when he devolves into some patriarchal misogynistic spiral of abuse as soon as he's made you vulnerable enough to not be able to leave. I've tried so hard to give the be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 02:09 PM |
| 64 | When dating POC men that come from patriarchal cultures...This 👆👆👆 South Asian cultural misogyny is a whole other beast. I've never seen anything like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:58 PM |
| 36 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutHis kink is being a piece of shit, don't kink-shame 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 02:47 AM |
| 47 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutWhere is this outrage over women's sex tapes being posted on Pornhub? Or hidden cameras in bathrooms or...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 01:01 AM |
| 40 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutOh my god that is next-level PickMe shit. I wonder if they'll still be spouting this crap when they're used & discarded 🙄 Being a PickMe doesn't spare you from being a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 12:55 AM |
| 73 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutI mean, aside from the dick pics being by definition sexual assault, and besides the fact that he very well could be (and probably was) endangering women's health by spreading STIs around, by leading them on and lying about not seeing other people, he was removing their right to give informed consent. This dude's a rapist, full stop. And another thing: I'm sorry, but so many women's lives have been ruined over less. I'm talking, "sent-a-single-nude-in-a-committed-relationship-that-ended-up-on-Po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 12:43 AM |
| 163 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutHe looks like Ratatouille found meth | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 09:16 PM |
| 187 | West Elm Caleb-gate?This is why the patriarchy hates when we "gossip" - because historically, it was the only way to protect ourselves against shitty men. Literally life-or-death, the only move we had as a sex class. Historically (and now), gossiping has been villainized, belittled, and women are shamed for talking to each other. Ladies, don't fall for it. Gossiping about shitty men saves lives. This is also why I maintain, again and again, that meeting men in real life through activities where you both attend regu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 02:20 AM |
| 105 | West Elm Caleb-gate?Ewwww he's so fucking ugly as well... and underemployed 🤢🤮 How embarrassing 🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 12:30 AM |
| 625 | How to avoid a situationship?🎶Don't sleep with him🎶😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 09:48 PM |
| 183 | The Inverse Relationship Between Financial Maturity and Marriage DesirabilityI'm only in my late twenties, but I honestly agree with this. I remember being younger (<22) and so much more naïve, dating my ex and fantasizing about marriage. As I grew older, my career blossomed, and my finances thrived, I honestly became less and less interested in marriage, because quite frankly I know in my gut that it's a stupid decision. I'm not sure whether I want kids, but I do know that if I have one, I'd need someone to stay home anyways - and I'm likely to get more bang for my buck… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 09:46 PM |
| 12 | Casual Sex ConfusionSis I am very firmly in camp "men-don't-deserve-us", but since you're here I have hope for you. I honestly believe the only thing you need to do is just stop having casual sex for a few months. You'll probably realize you're not missing out on much - every friend I've had that's done this has found the clarity she needed to write it off altogether. I had a friend much like you; she came to this conclusion (mostly) on her own (with some gentle nudging from yours truly) after a stealthing incident… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 09:27 AM |
| 18 | Men Can Now Respond Directly to The Female Dating Strategy Podcast!Hahahaha the sticker 😂😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 10:34 PM |
| 87 | Female Dating Strategy Podcast BONUS: Lundy Bancroft, Part 2 - Dating Red Flags & How "Sexual Liberation" is Being Used to Control WomenLoved the part where our man called out the pOlYaMoRoUs morons hahahaha, absolutely fabulous content all around 🥳🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 04:57 AM |
| 14 | Why Casual Sex is a heck no! UK men admit they only disclose chronic STD’s to women they aren’t just using for sex.https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2017/10/09/knowingly-infecting-others-with-hiv-is-no-longer-a-felony-in-california-advocates-say-it-targeted-sex-workers/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:37 PM |
| 175 | Why Casual Sex is a heck no! UK men admit they only disclose chronic STD’s to women they aren’t just using for sex.Yeah, and also now you've got the newest libfem narrative saying that requiring people (men) to disclose their STIs is whatever-phobic and unwoke blablabla pick meeee (word vomit continues). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 06:12 PM |
| 14 | How long should I see this guy to know he's the oneOh my god no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:15 PM |
| 73 | Giving up sex with men has been the best thing everSame here sis, we must've had our "men-ain't-shit" revelation at the same time 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 03:05 AM |
| 6 | This is why FDS is so important !I'm definitely angry at him, for her, but honestly I share your feelings here. This type of thing is a huge reason for why married/partnered men can get so far ahead of the rest of us: they've got women at home willfully acting as domestic slaves. I understand wanting to do nice things for your partner, but watching so many women enable this level of entitlement leaves me incensed, quite frankly. Women who want to accomplish things don't get any help, and I honestly would never have even thought… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 11:58 AM |
| 276 | This is why FDS is so important !That's so funny, because when I was in med school I somehow had time to cook, clean, and maintain my own social calendar. I remember doing just fine on my loans (and before that when I was doing my PhD, my stipend) without having to mooch off of anyone else. Jesus Christ, the playing field for men and women isn't even in the same galaxy. Also, what the fuck are you doing, forever-girlfriending on some dude for 13 years? Sweeping and mopping and cleaning up his shit and remembering his mom's birt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 09:03 AM |
| 136 | Have you found that men on OLD lie about wanting/looking for a relationship just to get laid?This post made me laugh 😂 Sis, we don't make them wait months for nothing lmao. There are so many tells, but I promise they're not that smart & you'll be able to weed through the shitty ones quickly, often within seconds. Stay on FDS & read the posts. Be ruthless when sorting through these men & deciding who you will give your time to. Sexual innuendos? Block. Trying to break the touch barrier too early? Block. Sexist jokes in bio? Block. Other women in photos? Block. Shirtless pictures? Block. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 05:53 AM |
| 88 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"Lol absolutely on point, especially about the PickMe's. Then you've got these people trying to tornado their way into your life, showing up to a first date or event with 18 undiagnosed mental illnesses in tow, complaining about an ex or family or loneliness or monogamy or whatever, and flamboyantly and aggressively continuing to cause all of their own problems. Like, just admit you're a clusterfuck of a human being and go 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:46 PM |
| 6 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meSis, from the time I started reading your post/comments to the time I've started writing this, I've done a 180. I think you should cut him loose - or at the very least, keep your lives severed until you're ready to move on. He does sound like a gold-digger, and quite irresponsible too. I've met a few of these. My parents were poor, but hunkered down & worked hard. I'm from a small, modest town in Canada's most Conservative province. When I first read that he'd prioritised doing some different th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:34 PM |
| 182 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"The vast majority of men can't keep the act going for a single date 😂 Hell, even before then. They'll drag their feet with making effort regarding asking you/planning properly, then show up late or underdressed or talk about themselves the entire time or neg or mansplain let some misogynistic bullshit slip. But after being on FDS for a couple years, I can categorise them so easily. So easily! even just from their profiles, from our first interaction, whatever. Honestly, it's possible you'll end … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 05:33 PM |
| 115 | First real date post-breakup and FDS helped SO MUCH. THANK YOU!!!This. This is the epiphany that really made me realize I was ready to date again - when I really realized you can walk away at any time. You don't have to spend a second longer than you want to with anyone. You can block anytime, delete anytime, walk away anytime. You don't participate unless you're having a blast... and FDS keeps you safe from a lot of the situations where you'd have to stick around out of fear, because you're not doing dumb shit like letting some strange dude isolate you 3 hou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 11:25 PM |
| 197 | Stupid rant about Kim & KanyeLoooool sis my ex started cheating on me the night before I had a talk at a national conference and decided to "confess" the day my final exams started 🙃 Dumped him though, dw 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 10:54 PM |
| 43 | Strategy for scheduling datesAgreed! I'm just not going through the hassle of rushing through my workday and haphazardly getting ready to meet someone I barely know on a weeknight. I've also had a guy show up late & pathetically underdressed because he "just came from work" the one time I did this. No thanks 🙄 It's a proper date or I'm not interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:35 PM |
| 47 | A “predictable response” from a redditor. My concern about men preying on young girls is definitely just jealousy 🙄Yeah, so this is another one of those things where the research blatantly opposes the scrote's observations: age-gap relationships are one of the largest predictors of abuse. It's also a situation where you'd hope we wouldn't need to have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on peer reviewed research to prove a comically obvious point, but they're dumb as rocks, so here we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 12:34 AM |
| 247 | No Josh/Jason/James, sex work is not comparable to "Manuel" labor. Watch out for men who have no empathy for women's exploitation.Do you think these idiots have ever tried suggesting to an oilfield worker to drop their pants & bend over? You know, since they're sElLiNg tHeIr bOdIeS anyway? I think their reaction would make it pretty clean that manual labour & taking it up the ass are not the same thing lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 01:00 PM |
| 421 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?Yeah. And another thing: if you cannot trust your children can be left in the care of your husband, their other parent, for so much as a few hours, let alone a night or several months, then you're admitting they are not safe with him. If something happens to you, they are not safe with him. If you get sick, they are not safe with him. You need to leave, because they are not safe with him. So many women let their husbands/partners get away with weaponized incompetence and then shoulder all if the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 06:43 PM |
| 16 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮Agreed ladies. It also irritates the everyliving fuck out of me because at the very least, enabling this crappy behaviour lowers the bar for all of us... but even more than that, these types of women are exactly who rails against our standards and guilts women like us over our boundaries because they're unhappy in their own shitty relationships. I try to be sympathetic when there's hope, but sometimes there really isn't. You know what though? You get what you settle for, so karma does some of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 09:49 PM |
| 10 | Reminder: Take Up Space! Use Your Voice!Jesus, I can't even. I was really hoping the largely female support staff would band together and support each other to counteract the sexism in the industry, but I guess I'm not surprised. I work in healthcare and it's hard to describe the work dynamics, but I feel it's almost set up in a way that pretty much disadvantages all women regardless of education, with maybe those women with a disproportionate amount of training/education being given marginally more leeway. On the one hand I often see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 04:25 PM |
| 48 | Reminder: Take Up Space! Use Your Voice!Do you find female lawyers are also "pressured" to take up less space? I totally agree; I've seen this everywhere... its so disheartening when you finally realize how widespread the misogyny is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:39 AM |
| 394 | Never stop vetting! Even after being faithful to your partner for 8 years, he could still think that he can do better and want to bang other women. Scrotes like this just want to get their dick wet and are never satisfied no matter how spectacular their gf is."i CaN dO bEtTeR" 100% sure this is coming from a dude whose face looks like a stuntman's knee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 08:35 AM |
| 8 | Husband cares so little about pregnant wife who has an immune disorder & lies about wearing a mask & social distancing, forcing her to leave the home because he can’t be responsible. Poor woman.I'm hoping to go this route! Can I ask how it's going? Do you have any tips for someone a few years out? 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 08:32 AM |
| 9 | They’re “not in a relationship” but “exclusive” after 6 months of dating 🚩🤡and it turns out he’s a creep and a liarSis I edited it; I don't want any woman here to feel uncomfortable because of anything I say 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 09:43 PM |
| 15 | They’re “not in a relationship” but “exclusive” after 6 months of dating 🚩🤡and it turns out he’s a creep and a liarNo, that's totally okay! And I really appreciate you standing up for us; it's so important for all women to feel comfortable in this space, I'm so thankful 😭 And it's really good to know; I genuinely had never seen that before (although I do go out of my way to avoid most of the super toxic Internet spaces; my mental health genuinely can't take seeing what these people post sometimes). I was just choosing my words carefully to not come across as overly-defensive 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 07:31 PM |
| 54 | They’re “not in a relationship” but “exclusive” after 6 months of dating 🚩🤡and it turns out he’s a creep and a liarI really didn't know, but this might be an interesting time to point out that I'm actually Jewish 😅 Not that you could see that through a screen (or even just by looking at me), and I appreciate you approaching the matter so tactfully. As per some of the other responses below, I may have been less appreciative if I'd perceived this as more of an "aggressive tone-policing" sort of situation by a non-Jewish person (I'm making an assumption here, and am fully aware it could be wrong) directed at a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 06:39 PM |
| 218 | They’re “not in a relationship” but “exclusive” after 6 months of dating 🚩🤡and it turns out he’s a creep and a liar**circus music intensifies** | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 04:31 PM |
| 60 | Another Breakup Survival TipOmg congrats on losing the deadweight sis 🥳🥳🥳💪 I fucking cannot stand dirty scrotes, or just honestly anyone that's disrespectful enough to realize their (lack of) cleanliness is making someone else uncomfortable and just not give a shit. Absolutely hands-down disrespectful LV behaviour 100% of the time. I'm not sure if this helps, but exercise was huge for me when I had my breakup. Sunlight too, but in mid-January that can be hard to come by 😅 I'm a huge fan of cozy blanket forts and solitude, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 04:43 AM |
| 192 | It is SO easy for women to access sexLol my ex cheated on me with a bar fly that worked as a line cook & was known for her love of coke. I was getting a masters in pediatric neuroscience at the time. He texted me apologies for years after. Like dude, you made your choice lmao 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:54 AM |
| 191 | Having a baby via sperm donorThis is a fantastic idea and a great way to protect yourself against arguably the single biggest risk of going this route. I'm really happy for you sis! I've been considering the same thing, just a few years behind you & willing to wait to about 35. There are studies showing that single moms even do less housework than married women 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:32 PM |
| 34 | Working on myself just makes me feel more isolatedYeah, she totally hit the nail on the head. The vast majority of men have completely lost their humanity. It's heartbreaking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:27 PM |
| 72 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.DUDE MY MARATHON WAS ALSO HARRY POTTER | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 09:21 AM |
| 418 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.LOL gurl you really triggered the scrotes with this one: 12 comments and only 2 showing hahahahaha 😂 I agree though - and we get shamed so hard for having standards. Just tonight I was at work; one of my coworkers had just had a baby (roughly a year ago). She asked me about my holidays & I mentioned a movie marathon on the 25th. I'm telling you, for a moment she looked like she was going to cry, and launched into how she hasn't had a moment to herself since her son was born. Just so defeated and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 03:38 AM |
| 8 | Sort of warn out from my first sort of romantic interest after a year of being purposely single. I'm new to this and must be missing red flags.Also I can see you're getting some tough love here, but don't take it personally - it's just that we've seen this shit before 😂 The fact that you've found FDS and are aware of what's happening is huge. You've found an oasis in a desert of scrotacity. Sis, I'm telling you, this never has to happen to you again. All you need are some hard boundaries and the ability to recognize a red flag when you see one 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 01:50 AM |
| 21 | Sort of warn out from my first sort of romantic interest after a year of being purposely single. I'm new to this and must be missing red flags.Sis, read the handbook, this is textbook scrote behaviour. And let me just add: as someone who is also in their late 20's, I can say with the utmost confidence that we are too old to be falling for this shit 😂 You're doing so well. SO well! I have a sneaking suspicion that you maybe haven't spent much time in the dating world (and especially the online dating world) since your breakup. Trust me, there are good men out there, but the vast majority are shitty in comically similar ways. For every s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 01:21 AM |
| 50 | My sister is dating a guy who lied about having kids, thoughts?I mean she's definitely going to get both if she sticks with him 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 09:29 PM |
| 55 | So done with avoidant men.Disappear the second you see a red flag or feel any distance 🥰 All the red flags should be in the handbook. These idiots are all the same and will out themselves in comically predictable ways while you're letting them pay for dates & not giving them access to sex. Then you get to walk away having lost nothing, and these morons can pay (literally) for their dumbass refusal to get therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 09:27 PM |
| 12 | what happens to men's physical appearance when they have a guarantee that they will find a partnerPreach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 09:19 PM |
| 53 | Dating During This Omicron PhaseI also work in healthcare and consistently make time for the people who matter to me 🥰 Even before COVID, I'd frequently be pulling 60-80 hour weeks on a good week. I understand wanting to be careful when you're working with vulnerable individuals during a pandemic, but if we wanted to, he would. He'd videocall, plan something distanced outside (I once played lasertag with walkie-talkies 😅), write letters, whatever. I know there is a knee-jerk reaction to give him the benefit of the doubt. As so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 06:19 PM |
| 113 | Yeah yeah I know the answer is just to leave, but this visual is hilarious!Yeah... we know how this'll really end. Assuming he's actually stood through her whole tutorial (he hasn't), he'll just throw a mantrum and stomp off. But we actually won't get to this point, because the second she brings up the counters, we'll get a fucking mountain of deflecting and circular arguments and blameshifting and gaslighting until she finally cracks and just does the fucking counters herself... that day, and everyday for the rest of their marriage. Throw in some punitive sulking for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:10 AM |
| 22 | Queen of the Pickmes Ghislaine Maxwell found GUILTY on all counts of sex traffickingI agree with this wholeheartedly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 12:55 AM |
| 194 | 2022 Is My Year to Focus on Me (Not Dating)Gurl absolutely same here. I had a really long relationship, then tried OLD for the first (and last) time. Dealt with the mountain of shit we're ALL familiar with & swore off it in March of 2020. I promised myself I wouldn't have sex again unless it was with am HVM, and I will only allow life-partner material HVM into my space from now on, cutting off scrotes the second they fly their red flags. If that means I never have sex or date again, LOL fine with me. I'm very conventionally attractive, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 04:05 AM |
| 44 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesNo sis, you're absolutely right here! He could be in your presence more often after having put a ring on your finger. You put your foot down & you were 100% right to do so. He wanted a bangmaid without any of the commitment - after all, why wouldn't he have proposed when you had this discussion? A year is a solid amount of time to plan a wedding. Why wait an entire year just to propose? Why did his way of doing this shit have to be literally the only way without having to take any accountability… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 09:34 PM |
| 126 | Why you shouldn’t live together before marriage: 2 real-life examplesI totally get what you're saying OP, and avoiding being duped into forever-girlfriending is an absolute must, but there's one more thing to really watch out for, and that's to make sure you're not going to end up tied to some scrote that makes you pick up after him once you are already married (or God forbid, have children) and it's that much harder to leave. The risk is never zero, but I think one way of women approaching this situation (aside from a few other obvious things, like taking note o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:00 PM |
| 85 | RANT: aDvEnTuRoUs guysOh my god - I actually do love the outdoors, but there's a decent proportion of the community that's just stuck up and annoying. I know exactly the type you're describing & am glad you steered clear hahaha 😂 Go wank off in the woods by yourself, Brad. Idgaf. Edit: I got the name wrong but whatever, that's exactly the amount any of us should care about these scrotes 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:54 PM |
| 110 | I don't know why anyone would date a single fatherYou hit the nail on the head OP - women who date single dads end up having all the responsibility of being a parent without any of the respect. There's an entire field of research about this, which includes why marriages and relationships with this dynamic are almost certainly going to fail. My mom was a single parent once, with my older sister (widowed). She refused to date men with children, full stop. You can only see it happen so many times before it's just fucking idiotic to think it's a go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 06:38 PM |
| 24 | Where to look to find HVM?First of all, I want to say that I understand how you're feeling - it's not unreasonable to struggle with this sort of thing! I know others have suggested a pet, but I see your work schedule's a bit tough - do you think it would be conducive to an animal that's more independent? Also, what are the surroundings like of where you live? What do young, active, fit-ish people in your area like to do? Losers are everywhere, but if you're in a mountainous area for example, you might have some luck meet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 01:51 PM |
| 50 | single womenThanks sis! I actually won 1st place because anger's a great motivator hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 10:27 PM |
| 125 | single womenI agree that saying that can be controversial, but you're certainly not wrong - so many men will try to jeopardise their partner's career, it's ridiculous. I've worked on team projects with women who were both partnered and single, and often (whether or not they had kids) the rest of us would have to pick up the slack of the partnered women - through no fault of their own, but rather because their LVM would kick up a fuss over their work. I'm not kidding, I worked with women whose husbands regul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 07:12 PM |
| 104 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?Yeah, guy above definitely told on himself. My standards are reasonable. I'm an attractive, wealthy woman in my 20's with a PhD, a 6-figure job, a good family, and plenty of high-value friends. I've only ever dated men in my league, because there's no use settling for someone who's just going to take away from the life I've built for myself. Men like the commenter above are mad because they don't measure up. We're drowning in attention; the strategies we use here are to filter out scrotes like y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 03:18 PM |
| 132 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateNot the point, but I just think it's interesting how they vomit out lines about "being out of touch with reality and relative attractiveness" when blasting women for liking some abs once in a blue moon, but then run around REEEEEeee-ing about "mUh bIoLoGy" when they're trying to justifying pestering some girl who's so out of their fucking league they're not even playing in the same galaxy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:41 PM |
| 22 | This is not how you ask about financial healthShe's a massive PickMe; the mentally-messy polyamorous type... trust me sis, LVW will take your money too 😭😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 02:35 PM |
| 57 | This is not how you ask about financial healthI grew up poor but worked hard. I still don't make much (post-grad STEM student) but it's getting there & I'm generous with my close friend. I just had one refuse to pay me back after I put a gig on my card and it's categorically enough for me to cut her off - I see it as the cost of finding out she's a user. I'll never understand people like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 08:31 AM |
| 71 | The post says it all. If he’s too “stressed out” to talk to you he’s not all that interested sis.Sing it with me ladies!! 🎶if he's too ✨stressed✨ to act right, he shouldn't be dating🎶🥰😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:43 AM |
| 42 | This is pick me behavior straight up. Prioritizing your partner is part of the compromise and shows respect.You know, in an ideal world, we'd all band together as women and not let these shitty LVM reproduce - that's where our power really lies. In theory, we could change the makeup of humanity in a single generation. Now, that's not the world we live in, precisely because of women like her - but, the silver lining here is these stupid fucking Pickme's make their own karma. You know who's going to end up dating these losers? Women like her. The women who rationalize their shitty behaviour so they can … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 03:48 PM |
| 16 | Your career and dreams are a strong barrier against LVM (FDS art by me)I love your work 😍😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:25 PM |
| 13 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?Omg sis, same. The world's falling apart but there are still a few decent places to go 😅🤘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:24 PM |
| 79 | Precisely all the red flags we talk about 😂Omg he's sooooooo honest 😍😍 Especially the part where he says he's 44 becAusE hE fEeLs lIkE iT 😂🙄 Fucking moron. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:18 PM |
| 2 | I need help analyzing this guy please.I really like your last point - they're all trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:24 PM |
| 261 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?I'm the same. To be fair though, I often (and I suspect you do too) have the opportunity to settle down with a man, but it's just never someone that meets my standards or that I'm attracted to. I think its unfortunate, but a lot of women settle hard, and if you really look around yourself, I doubt you'd be willing to trade places with them. You can keep your standards high and still have a family even, if that's what you want. You can do anything without a man, until someone worth keeping around… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 04:39 PM |
| 19 | I don’t have a car and I live with my mom but if you pick me up and cook for me I’ll send you to rehab (respectfully). Found on a Facebook group I’m in and… wow I’m so glad I’m married.Wtf is going on here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 07:58 PM |
| 35 | This made me feel dirty, I'm glad I broke up with himEwwwwwwww lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:32 PM |
| 28 | Is it a red flag? i need your advice pleaseSIS NO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 06:14 PM |
| 121 | You Really Are the Prize Followup - As a poster mentioned earlier- guys will do/spend anything for your attention"jUsT dOn'T lEt HeR mOvE iN" Like anyone wanted to pay 50/50 for the privilege of cleaning up your shit, Gary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 05:35 PM |
| 47 | Reminder that 99% of the time, men who are part of all-male organizations are trash. Especially fraternities.And from my experiences, sororities are full of enabling Pickmes. I had a new Pickme roommate defend Greek life - at the same time, my old university shut down both the sororities and fraternities because they refused to support the racism, sexism, and classism promoted by these societies. Nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:47 PM |
| 68 | Men puts more thought into a high-school sweetheart proposal than the "proposal" to his current wife. Of course the onus gets put on the woman and she gets told to cOmUNicatE.Thank you! A while ago I'd commented on someone's post; she was getting breadcrumbed by someone who, when called out, said his relative and/or friend had just died. I suggested someone in that situation was not in the headspace for dating (and if it was someone she'd "met" on OLD, this may not have even happened, but could instead be used as an excuse by men hoping to elicit empathy to enable/rationalize poor behaviour... either way, I just thought this whole situation was not it). I got my shit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 11:16 PM |
| 200 | Men puts more thought into a high-school sweetheart proposal than the "proposal" to his current wife. Of course the onus gets put on the woman and she gets told to cOmUNicatE.I have gotten sass for this before (even here on FDS), but I will die on this hill: if a man is treating you poorly in the initial stages of dating and rationalizes it based on some tumultuous struggle/upheaval in his personal life, he is not in a place to be dating right now. Close friend having a crisis? Maybe focus on that (and give Hinge a break). Family member just died/is very ill? You may not be in the best headspace to be meeting new women for dinner. Massive work/mental health/financial… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 10:52 PM |
| 17 | He’s perfect but needs the government to give him a wife 💀Well he sounds insufferable, so there's that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 09:22 PM |
| 18 | Male friend asked me on date and told me on date he’s “only looking to chill”I'm sorry you went through that - I totally understand how you would've been cornered into responding; it takes a lot to see something clearly in the moment & that level of clarity can really be muddled when you've got some scrote triangulating you with a pickme. Rest assured that with time it'll get easier - easier to walk out of dates, block, delete, disappear, & grey rock. I'm a huge believer in the idea that people are usually the average of others they spend the most time with. Real finds e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 03:30 PM |
| 212 | Reason 20000000000000007 To Align With FDS, Vet RUTHLESSLY, Enforce Boundaries And Say NO To Casual Sex!Replace "deception" with "rape" and we've got a winner! Could you please provide the source? I 10000% believe this, just want to read more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 02:11 AM |
| 30 | Don't date players even reformed ones (avoid, avoid, avoid)(potential TW)I met one of these types recently and was literally immediately uncomfortable. It's a hot take, and I wouldn't repeat it anywhere else, but I think most of these "player" types are just rapists. They're not the types that hang out in alleys and assault strangers, but they're almost worse, because we know most assaults are committed via the tactics they use: manipulation, coercion, whittling down women's self-esteem, ostracising her if she says no, linking their sexual gratification to any power … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 10:18 PM |
| 130 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.I've been there too, sis. Two years ago, right before I found FDS, I tried OLD for the first (and last) time. This happened twice, and I'd say both times it was assault. They knew what they were doing, coerced me into sex, and removed my ability to give informed consent. You are not alone, and you did nothing wrong - just behaved in what was likely a normal way, expecting the men around you to behave with some (any) respect for women as human beings, and showed some vulnerability and trust in a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 02:08 AM |
| 3 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?Yeah, maybe! Especially if that ambition doesn't translate to "I hate and am threatened by any woman who is better at something than I am" 😂 I mean, we can make generalisations but I think there will always be exceptions, and I really do think the (vanishingly small number) of people (esp. men) that are truly HV will be HV no matter the circumstances. I mean, you could look at my family and think, "well, first generation immigrants are known to work hard", but then we can point at people from ve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 04:55 PM |
| 43 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?As someone from a family that endured unspeakable hardship, I feel like I can contribute some hope here. I totally see what you're saying, but there is hope. My grandparents were in the concentration camps & had everything, and I mean everything taken away from them. My grandfathers on both sides? Still as HV as they come. Was it a different era? Yeah, definitely. But the post-WWII USSR had it's own challenges, and my life in the modern-day West is a world apart. My parents immigrated to Canada … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 09:06 PM |
| 38 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?AND YET we're surrounded by eThIcAlLy nOnMoNoGaMoUs 50/50 scrotes, give me strength 😂😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 01:01 AM |
| 50 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?You hit the nail on the head; these are exactly my thoughts 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:35 PM |
| 37 | Karen has just become another word for “Bitch” and we all know it.Yeah, I totally thought of that exact video. Just that hatred and contempt of women boiling over, combined with a man who finally feels emboldened to do something with it. It's a scary trend and I feel as though it's happening more and more lately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:19 AM |
| 12 | Dating outside of your raceSpot on, sis! Absolutely right - and this is probably the only safe space for women to talk about these problems. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:15 AM |
| 68 | Dating outside of your raceYeah, this exactly. A WOC dating a white man needs to be wary of fetishization, but similarly a white (or any other) woman dating men of a different culture also needs to be wary of misogyny - not saying there aren't (a very small proportion) of HVM in every culture, but for example an Indian man (sorry, but basing this on my experiences) would have had to put a great, great deal more effort into rising above certain cultural anti-woman problems than most to be HV. I briefly dated one before & h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:43 PM |
| 120 | Wife discovers that her 30 yo husband was planning to leave her after finally graduating from college "because he wouldn't need her anymore". Another reason to not settle for men who are struggling.Jesus suffering fuck. Yeah, this is why you put yourself first and nope out of there the second they start acting up. I wish she'd left with her job and her money and let him panic about how he was going to pay for his shit while finishing school. I'm glad the affair partner reached out to OP as soon as she found out - I was in the same situation (cheated on), and mine certainly didn't care. What a pathetic loser. Old age will catch up with him eventually, and when it does I hope he's completely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 02:19 PM |
| 13 | Dating experiences of intelligent/highly educated/successful women: Tell me your stories and give me some advice!Yeah exactly! You say it so well, like we just can't even imagine thinking that way, it's so foreign. I'd be stoked for someone doing what they're passionate about, but they can't handle a woman being happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 11:42 AM |
| 130 | The Bar is in Hell ExpressionsIt's flossing Satan's buttcheeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 01:12 AM |
| 101 | Dating experiences of intelligent/highly educated/successful women: Tell me your stories and give me some advice!Haha SIS welcome to the club, glad I'm not alone 😂 I just made a post about this after experiencing it for several years & talking about my other PhD friends about having the exact same experiences. It sucks but there ARE men out there that will admire & respect your ambition. I know of two (out of thousands, but they do exist - and one is my dad). It's crazy because they have contempt for women that are dependent on them ("dIvOrcE rApE"), and hate women that aren't. I'd rather spend my one life… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 01:10 AM |
| 10 | Woman translates the real meanings behind men’s dating demands. Just a reminder that men defined ‘femininity’ as submission, passivity, performance & endless forgiveness because it serves abusive men & makes us easier to exploit.Also literally any self-awareness at all would be great, thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 01:39 PM |
| 24 | The reason why men call for men's rights is malicious whereas the reason women fight for women's rights is to be able to be independent and have mutual emotionally fulfilling relationships.Yeah but like also they're resentful if you have a good job because it's eMmAsCuLaTiNg sooooo 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 12:55 PM |
| 39 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?Lol they reserve negging for women out of their league 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:37 PM |
| 144 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.Oh my god I'm so glad I didn't settle | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:27 AM |
| 38 | Any career-focused ladies have dating advice?Omg, thanks so much for this encouraging comment, it's just what I needed 🥰 I usually don't, really, but sometimes you come across some new brand of bullshit and the emotional eye-roll comes out 😂 It's pathetic honestly, being intimidated by someone going out and enjoying life. Wish I had that kind of time 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:57 AM |
| 50 | Any career-focused ladies have dating advice?Sis I did my BSc AND Masters in neuro!! Best time of my life, such an interesting field 😍 I ended up doing the PhD in cellular bio, which was also cool, but just a bit less interesting to me, if you catch my drift? I still read about the latest stuff in my spare time 😂 Enjoy it, you clearly have good taste in careers 😏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 01:55 AM |
| 5 | Apologizing for or sympathizing with "cancelled" woman-abusers is big time Pick Me behaviour - From Vanity Fair: 'Dakota Johnson Calls Cancel Culture "Such a Downer"I agree with you wholeheartedly and am so sorry for all the relentless nonsense you've dealt with. I'm white and it's very clear we all have work to do; privilege in general is often directly correlated to asshole-ery, from what I've seen. It's sad that almost the best-case scenario when it comes to watching marginalised groups be marginalised is people claiming they're "not part of the problem" while looking the other way - that's if you're lucky enough for them to not be directly enabling, enc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 05:57 PM |
| 37 | Apologizing for or sympathizing with "cancelled" woman-abusers is big time Pick Me behaviour - From Vanity Fair: 'Dakota Johnson Calls Cancel Culture "Such a Downer"Trust me, she's not talented lmao. I kept wondering how someone so bad at acting kept getting all these roles; now I know 1😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 03:58 PM |
| 47 | !!If you're in the UK please be aware!!! There's online sellers of date rape drugs out there and they're selling them for cheap and in bulk. Reports show there has been an increase in spiking in September and October. Stay safe out there!Totally agree, but I've also read house parties are statistically where date rape is even more likely to happen, so I'd extend your wonderful advice to "don't let sketchy scrotes into your space, period." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 01:18 AM |
| 209 | The mystifying "logic" of a pick meLol the third-hand cringe 😅 As someone with a PhD in molecular biology (from a titan university), I frequently have people try to explain to/talk over me about stuff I've spent decades studying. It's really made me think that staggering lack of self-awareness is one of the defining characteristics of LV people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 05:42 PM |
| 439 | Dont mention your standardsOr whine about you being eNtItLeD... Or use your standards to pretend to be HV for a limited amount of time, to get what they want for what ultimately amounts to zero commitment, minimal effort, and no accountability. Nonsense. And don't tell anyone you're on FDS either, for your own safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 01:25 PM |
| 87 | Polyamory and the normalization of dissatisfactionI think they all cluster together too... you meet one & suddenly you're surrounded by a herd of them. Guess we can be glad gonorrhoea isn't airborne 😂🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 04:50 AM |
| 11 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 34 - Building Your Girl Gang + Triple Scrote StackThis was so great, we all deserve beautiful garden friendship circles 😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 11:44 AM |
| 140 | How do you guys go about walking out on a date safely?I've personally excused myself to head to the restroom & then simply walked out the door - once I pulled our lovely waiter aside to give him a tip on my way. I've also done the "I'm going to go get us another drink!", headed to the bar, let the staff know I was uncomfortable on a date, and left. This is great if you've got a misogynist on your hands and want to make sure you can get out safely. Another time, we were going on a weekend away (someone I had known for about 15 years and dated for a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 07:59 PM |
| 48 | Be careful out there ladies: Comments under a tic tok about most dangerous people you’ve met- man kills wife, justifies it claiming infidelity. Men need to hold one another accountable, not justify violence and in this case murder.Oh, but when I was cheated on it was "all my fault" and "why didn't I give him more sex". Sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Narc Speak Handy Pocket GuideThis is absolute facts. I'm not a psychiatrist, but I've got two neuroscience degrees, a psychology degree, and am a medical doctor. A lot of narcs are textbook, and these criteria are around for a reason. You don't need 10 years of school to notice that someone fits the description of a cluster B personality disorder - that's your cue to get away & protect yourself. Don't doubt yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 02:21 PM |
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| 256 | men's responses to your job/career situation is a quick, easy way to vetI'm a surgeon with a PhD and the most common reaction is seeing the light leave their eyes when they realize I'm smarter than them. Seriously though, one guy (who barely graduated high school & still lived with him mom) told me that he was actually smarter than me because he didn't have any "dept" (yeah, genius misspelled "debt"). Honestly, most of them don't stick around too long after they find out what I do. Some of them are very sweet though; it can really bring out the human side of guys wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 10:39 AM |
| 26 | Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question??Hahaha I see your carb-fest and would like to raise you: SUSHI FOR DAYS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:26 PM |
| 2 | What do you think of men who do live feedings for pets like large snakes, snapping turtles, etc?OMG HELLO I get soooo excited when I meet bird people!! Literally instant buddies 110% of the time hahaha 🥰🥰🥰 Omg cockatiels are so precious, have you seen the YouTube video of a cockatiel singing along to Totoro on the piano? My heart burst 😄 AND ALSO I feel the same way about pigeons; I live in a city and they're everywhere, sometimes I see one without a toe on my walk to work and it REALLY gets to me 😅 Caiques are my soft-spot, but internally I can really relate to a screaming cockatoo. Oh to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 08:28 PM |
| 29 | Who’s watched Maid on Netflix.It was so well done! Absolutely hands down one of the best shows I've seen in a while. A really accurate depiction of how hard it is to get away, start over, how little resources many women have in the process... I've got to say, I know the lawyer she cleaned for (can't remember her name) started out being awful, and there's a lot to be said about her contributions to classism & what's wrong with the world more generally, but I really liked the way those two supported each other in the end... es… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 10:03 AM |
| 5 | What do you think of men who do live feedings for pets like large snakes, snapping turtles, etc?I find this especially heartbreaking because some of the animals that are being live-fed are not only being tormented and exposed to the very primal fear of dying in such a horrible way, but some of them have the capacity to feel things in a more complex way & honestly, these scrotes shouldn't even have the privilege of being around them, let alone being responsible for their deaths. And filming them for entertainment? Makes me sick. Feeding live insects is very different from feeding a small do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 09:58 AM |
| 7 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.Same. I'm still out there just living up and levelling up my career, but I'd rather stick a pitchfork in my eye than just into the cesspool that is OLD 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 05:19 PM |
| 110 | Men who are virgins late in life are red flags.I'd like to extend this to guys who had trouble with girls when they were younger, or what I like to call, "ugly duckling syndrome". They've usually had years to gather up all their resentment and you can bet your ass they'll take it out on any woman who'll give them the time of day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 08:45 AM |
| 70 | Rewatching Friends and realizing sweet, funny Joey is actually T.E.R.R.I.B.L.E.Yeah, I rewatched it within the last couple years and thought the same, but especially about that relationship in particular. That one episode where he shows up to her work and makes a scene because he's insecure about her coworker? HOLY instant block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 07:55 AM |
| 92 | Fair Play - A book that teaches us to 'game' men into equal parentingDude, has this author ever lived with roommates, let alone LVM (pretty much the final boss of shitty roommates)? NO amount of cOmMuNicAtiOn, or shaming, or begging, or pleading, or yelling will get messy, inconsiderate, and otherwise selfish people to pull their weight (if you yell really loud and ask 870 times, they might take out the trash exactly once, or vacuum 1/8th of the floor). The only thing that'll help is consequences, and only until you can afford to leave, at which point... well, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 11:48 PM |
| 88 | Be careful out there ladies - they're finding new ways to target usOh absolutely. Every comment under these also had a chorus of "nOt aLl mEn" nonsense; we can't even draw attention or warn other women about this shit without scrotes trying to derail the conversation. And I hate bars and clubs, but now find myself worrying about this shit in any crowded place... and we can't even protect ourselves from this. Like, not drinking won't help you here. It's heartbreaking and infuriating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:08 PM |
| 200 | Be careful out there ladies - they're finding new ways to target usWomen have recently reported being spiked by injection in nightclubs. Although attention was first brought to this in one city, additional reports of spiking and assault this way were then corroborated across other cities in the UK - and I'm sure it happens across the world, too. Be so, so careful out there ladies. They're always finding new ways to target us. If you're going out, make sure you and your friends look out for each other. It's absolutely disgusting and exhausting that we'd even hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 12:08 PM |
| 429 | Message for side plate pick me’s. You’ll never win by disrespecting yourself & other women.Preach sis. I was cheated on once, and felt so much self-doubt. Cheater logic is so surreal too; these people both had me blaming myself with all the dumb tropes any woman that's experienced this knows too well. To add insult to injury, I found out I was pregnant while it was all happening, and had to navigate that decision, all alone, while I'm sure no one else involved felt a shred of guilt. It's been 4 years, and I'm happier than ever. I dodged a bullet, even though it was painful at the time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 11:53 AM |
| 2 | Husbands consent to being there for their wife in sickness and in health when they marry, yet they're statistically shown to fail at this even when it's the bare minimum. Strategy: see how he reacts to you falling sick and block + delete if he in any way seems unsympathethicHope you could get away from him sis. I was almost trapped with one of these too - only thing that saved me was access to an abortion, and a women's centre that was willing to have someone secretly drive me 300 km to get one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 11:44 AM |
| 51 | Husbands consent to being there for their wife in sickness and in health when they marry, yet they're statistically shown to fail at this even when it's the bare minimum. Strategy: see how he reacts to you falling sick and block + delete if he in any way seems unsympathethicSAME. I'm gunna end up with a concussion from the force of these facepalms | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:58 AM |
| 64 | Husbands consent to being there for their wife in sickness and in health when they marry, yet they're statistically shown to fail at this even when it's the bare minimum. Strategy: see how he reacts to you falling sick and block + delete if he in any way seems unsympathethicYou know, I was feeling a little sad about not having a partner, and this screenshot snapped me RIGHT out of that 😂 Genuinely, how did this loser become her husband? Blows my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:57 AM |
| 2 | No words neededEw lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:53 AM |
| 26 | Flip the scriptI've been doing this too & can confirm it's a great way to be utterly horrified - does it ever open your eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:48 AM |
| 52 | Don't stay for a guy that claims they don't know what they wantAlso agree but for any woman throwing out scrotes at any point in her life, out of principle 😂 And the obligatory: "sperm go through more cycles of cell division and thus have a greater propensity to accumulate genetics defects", aka men have less time than they think they do, from you friendly, FDSer/biologist 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 08:45 AM |
| 1657 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS."i WoNdEr wHaT sHe dId tO dEsEr-" Shut the fuck up, Gary. Looks like you dodged one hell of a bullet there sis. Trust me, you're not missing out on much. My PickMe roommate just had a coffee/walk first date. The natural progression of that relationship was: he started coming over, just for her to cook for him in her underwear. She's spending so much time catering to this dude that she's now comfortably failing her uni course, and that's the best possible outcome to this type of relationship. Pea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:05 PM |
| 269 | Men Know What They're Doing. Stop Letting Them Get Away With It.LOL at the visual of you hittin' him with a "that sucks" as his life burns to the ground hahahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 01:00 PM |
| 381 | How do you feel when people say “ a man needs to feel needed”?Lol @ the hidden comments 🤣 Absolutely, it's rooted in control. Low-value losers need to "feel needed", and by that I mean they feel threatened by a successful, independent woman, because a successful, independent woman has the power to leave. They need to feel powerful, and the best way to do that is to keep women down. Women with graduate degrees & high-paying jobs are more likely to be single. Women in vulnerable positions (e.g., poor, old, frail, disabled, pregnant) are more likely to be sex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 12:58 PM |
| 78 | The high cost of pick me and LV friendsSpot on. 99% of my social circle is absolute gold, but atm I've got the queen of PickMe roommates, and am living in a city with a massive housing crisis. I'm talking 600-applicants-for-a-$2000/month-studio. It's vapid, it's awful, and it's killing me. Her friends are awful and they're always here 😭 Never NOT living alone again. Protect your space & choose who has access to you SO carefully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:46 PM |
| 144 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?YES. I don't know about you ladies, but I'm so used to being dismissed because wOmeN aRe eMoTiOnAl that I have literally had to train myself to repress all of my emotions in the face of literal abuse. God forbid we show anger in response to gaslighting, or cheating, or mockery. Not to our abusers, and not to the people that are supposed to be helping us. Have you ever spoken to a cop? How did they treat Gabby Petito for showing some emotions right before her abuser killed her? Because MEN are em… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 02:05 PM |
| 487 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?Men aren't socialised to be "emotionally repressive", they are socialised to be selfish and entitled. Have you ever been alone with a man? These dudes will try to unload an entire lifetime of emotional bullshit onto you before the fucking door even closes. They will whine about ex's, about bosses, about girlfriends, wives, family, and friends. They will whine about the state of the world, every little thing they don't like about society, and whatever goddamn minor stupid problem is irking them a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 12:18 PM |
| 33 | When a man uses jargon without explanation 🚩I've seen this before and genuinely wonder if they're on the spectrum? The lack of self-awareness & inability to empathise with other people to provide the context they'd need to adequately participate in the conversation makes me wonder... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 06:05 AM |
| 7 | Pre-nupsYes of course! My biggest tip is to go through word-of-mouth; it's really difficult though because of course if you don't have many people who's interests align with yours (FDS-er types who do this sort of thing) in your life, they may not even be able to distinguish a competent lawyer from a bad one. But if you know of anyone that has had a good experience with a lawyer, even if that lawyer hasn't practiced in family law, you can speak to them as well, because lawyers will tend to know who is g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 11:00 AM |
| 37 | Pre-nupsExactly! I agree, if you have children your earning potential drops & his rises, because you are put in the position of doing more work whilst simultaneously not being paid for it, just by virtue of your biology (even if he tries his very best to help, which most don't, you just cannot go 50/50 on childbirth). In this case yes, the prenup needs to tilt more strongly in your favour, and I very much like the solution you're proposing. I wonder if the ladies here have any tips for having that conve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 10:37 AM |
| 131 | Pre-nupsI am very much in favour of them to protect the woman's financial interests. Whether you are the high earner (protect the results of literal decades of work to get you where you are) or low earner (obvious reasons here; you're even more vulnerable), you need to consult one hell of a lawyer before you make ANY commitments to a man. I don't care if it's marriage, or moving in together, or buying a house together, act like there's a nasty divorce coming 10 years down the line and prepare just in ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 10:20 AM |
| 21 | Stop fucking trying to cancel FDS because of the latest podcast episodeAlso I'm pretty sure cops were supposed to belong to the "good guys with guns" category and look how that turned out 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 08:36 AM |
| 27 | Scrote chases woman down an alley hollering and saying “come here” aggressively. Proceeds to call the woman racist for being scared, along with “dumb bitch” a few times.I feel the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 01:11 AM |
| 9 | So, how’s it going these days now that you have to make women like you to get their interest? Men:Yeah but those other things pay off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 10:31 AM |
| 600 | I'm so sad for my sweet friend.I am in medicine and very active in research as well. If you could forward one piece of advice, let her know it's within her absolute best interest to be labelled "The Bitch"(TM) as soon as possible. Be polite when it's needed, be as kind as you want to female bosses and colleagues, but when it comes to men you are there to work. Minimal smiling, and bite back if they try anything (that includes giving you shitty assignments, trying to give credit to men for your work, flirting, standing too clo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 08:19 PM |
| 116 | Imagine you welcome a new baby and your husband responds by wearing earplugs to bed every nightI've got a PhD and I've had dudes who scrubbed toilets for a living try to act like their jobs are more important than mine (and lecture me about my field of study whole they were at it). Absolutely no shade towards anyone doing any kind of work, but this general "my shit's important & yours isn't" attitude scrotes seem to have really grinds my gears. Imagine how they'd act if the roles were reversed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 07:23 AM |
| 264 | Imagine you welcome a new baby and your husband responds by wearing earplugs to bed every nightmY jOb tAkEs fOcUs Like no one else in the world has anything fucking important to do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 06:47 AM |
| 9 | Don’t mess with a queen.The way they pretzel-twist their minds into justifying whatever patriarchal bullshit just boggles me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 02:00 AM |
| 75 | Repeat after me: WE DO NOT DATE MEN WITH FEMALE BESTIESPREACH SIS. That's always been a hard boundary for me but this is the first place I can be open about it without some PickMe accusing me of iMmAtUrItY. I'll be your tennis partner. 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 12:36 AM |
| 52 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡aaaaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 04:55 AM |
| 220 | The most requested item at the Afghan refugee camps are condoms! As an Afghan American this disgusts me. So these men that already have 4+ kids while their wives are probably exhausted with no real home of their own and he’s just thinking about his penis. Not surprised.Right? Like, why not start by helping the people that will suffer most? And leaving your wives, mothers, and sisters behind, just like that? It's sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 04:40 AM |
| 460 | The most requested item at the Afghan refugee camps are condoms! As an Afghan American this disgusts me. So these men that already have 4+ kids while their wives are probably exhausted with no real home of their own and he’s just thinking about his penis. Not surprised.Not to mention a large proportion of those that escaped were men (or male children), so these dudes are using the opportunity of a lifetime to act like animals and terrorize the few women that managed to get away from a horrific, oppressive regime while their wives continue to suffer under the Taliban. Yeah, okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 02:38 AM |
| 6 | J. Peterson speaking against polyamory, dating, hookup cultureOhhhhh yeah, but it gets even BETTER. He fronted this little suggestion of his after Alek Minassian murdered several people, mostly women, in an incel-motivated attack a few years back in Toronto. Peterson unsurprisingly twisted this around to whine about the woes of mEn ToDaY, because hYpErGaMy iS uNfAiR, and "enforced monogamy" would stop these terror attacks. Read between the lines here: he's saying this shit is our fault for not fucking neckbeards & NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:36 AM |
| 7 | J. Peterson speaking against polyamory, dating, hookup cultureThat's okay! I completely understand how it is; that's how he reels people in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:17 AM |
| 46 | J. Peterson speaking against polyamory, dating, hookup cultureI mean, this guy's solution is government-mandated girlfriends ("eNfOrcEd mOnOgAmy"), so let's not pollute this space with the patron saint of incels. Jordan Peterson has made a career out of taking obvious truths, throwing them into a word salad, and using that as a vessel to promote extremely problematic ideas. Even the fact that he got a job as a professor was a complete fluke; the guy that vouched for him came to regret it dearly. I'm not trashing you OP, we all hate hook-up culture here at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:59 AM |
| 27 | After hearing about savanna talking about long ass paragraph copy paste messages on the podcastOh my god | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:27 AM |
| 27 | I will stop “generalizing” men when THEY stop using, abusing, and killing women. When THEY stop treating us like disposable source of labor. I will stop when MEN start ruthlessly policing & holding OTHER men accountable for all the shit they do to women.Hahaha like that'll ever happen lmaooooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:24 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-InYeah, one of my comments was removed; it was about how stress can impact health, and I suggested we shouldn't have stressful relationships with LVM. It's really bizarre... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 09:43 PM |
| 3 | Vetting Using Pandemic RhetoricAw I'm the same, COVID took the last half of my 20's 😥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:37 AM |
| 19 | I told her she sounds like a forever girlfriend and asked how after 7 years, they've discussed what he will end their relationship over but not what their future and commitment will look like. Other scrotes trashing her for "making him" give up his dream school.I was her and went to Europe. Didn't regret it for a fucking second. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 11:09 PM |
| 44 | Vetting Using Pandemic RhetoricI also work in a hospital, although as a biomedical scientist. Thank you so much for everything you do, and 100% agree with you here. One thing I really haven't been able to fathom are people who are selfish enough to THROW PARTIES and continue to SLEEP AROUND while this is happening. I just can't believe it. Like, you have to be flamboyantly low value to be pulling that shit. I empathise with people who cracked and saw a family member after months (of longer) of no contact, for example - I unde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 12:32 AM |
| 25 | What are our thoughts on this culture of rushing into marriageYou know, even those of my friends that met very young & didn't take any time to be alone or see what they wanted (out of their partners & their lives more generally) aren't really goals. I know a couple that met when they were 14 and are soon getting married after like 13 (or some ridiculous number) years together, both currently doing postgrads. They don't have a trainwreck of a relationship, have been fairly stable, are both decent people, and I still wouldn't recommend it. They're emotionall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 12:18 AM |
| 16 | 122k likes on reddit 🤮I updated you AND ALSO PHYSICALLY CHEERED. Your comment about these guys not keeping other dudes in line is spot on - they spout feminist buzzwords (to women only) when they think it'll get them laid, while continuing to be shitstains in literally every other way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 05:01 PM |
| 4 | UPDATE: Newly Separated Scrote doubles down on mantrum - hilarity ensuesMy lady parts just ran away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:16 AM |
| 44 | 122k likes on reddit 🤮Hahaha I love you ladies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:11 AM |
| 490 | 122k likes on reddit 🤮Don't forget to wipe his ass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:10 AM |
| 43 | One of the MANY things I’ll never do for a man: compete for him. You think you found better, then go!!!!!! Please!!! Get as far from me as you can!!!!! Feel so bad for this woman…He's trying to time this scrotastically - have someone to stick his dick in for exactly as long as PickMe Supreme takes to move across the country. Fucking just no words. Yeah, I'd normally advocate the classic "block, delete, ghost", but in this case I'd round things off by reporting him as soon as she could get away. Seriously pathetic behaviour on his (and the affair partner's) part. Honestly, I don't know how these people live with themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:03 AM |
| 96 | Dear Nanobot Scientists: Please don’t help lazy Sperm reach our valuable eggs. Signed, Women.CAN THEY NOT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:52 PM |
| 117 | Do not date recovering porn addicts, this post is another example of the misery and pain dealing with a pornsick man. So many scrotes defending him in the comments🤢yOu dO rEaLiZe ThAt wAtChInG pOrN iS nOrMaL rIgHt???!? Dumbass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:51 PM |
| 10 | Recent discontent with (potentially LVM) bf - need insightYeah, so I actually love my own company, and because of this my standards are high/my tolerance for bullshit low, but I've got to say, it sounds like you're putting a lot more effort into this than is healthy. I think you're with an LVM who thinks he "got" you, and has given himself permission to stop trying. Think about it - you don't actually have any reason to be having a tough time, at all. None. You're not dealing with unemployment, poverty, sickness, or the responsibilities that come with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 11:47 PM |
| 32 | Just received this message. A request that I not call men scrote 😮💨Lol scrotes mad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 07:59 PM |
| 101 | Isn’t it strange how single women are treated of all ages?Yeah, my worst experiences come from PickMe's - you know the type. The "must-always-be-in-a-relationship", desperately-sleeps-around-until-one-sticks, ends-up-with-a-troll women. It makes me want to point out that I wouldn't want their life even if someone paid me, but I usually just ignore it because... well, they're too far-gone for anything I say to make a difference, and karma eventually gets them anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:11 PM |
| 24 | Are these kind of posts actually empowering?I see your point OP, but one really important thing this sub does for women is highlights just how eerily similar shitty men (and in fact, most men) are. It completely disproves the trope that there's something wrong with you when you encounter this sort of thing because "you're the common denominator in your dating life" (or you didn't cOmMuNiCaTe hard enough, or whatever the fuck responses you'll see on the main relationship subs when a woman encounters any version of scrotery), and puts the b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 06:03 PM |
| 7 | Making more than your SOI've met thousands of men, and among those, two HVM. One has a 6-figure job managing hundreds of people, and the other has a blue collar job in the trades. Honestly, the tradesperson is such a kind-hearted, positive, lovely, giving, selfless man. Genuinely the single best person I know, and honest-to-God I don't know how he managed to turn out the way he did given the society we live in. That being said, our standards are our standards. If you want a man who makes more than you, don't "date down… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:42 PM |
| 4 | Have you taken your husband’s surname? Or, will you take your future-husband’s name?In theory I wouldn't actually mind taking his name or combining the two, but I've published some of my work (scientist), and between that and all my degrees, changing my last name would just end up being a huge headache combined with a bit of a career hit. Personally not worth it, IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 07:31 PM |
| 268 | 'Money can't buy happiness' is a lie women are sold which compels them to seek fulfillment in romantic relationships instead of investing in their education and careersFACTS. Absolutely hands-down my favourite post so far. Money is what gives you the freedom to choose who you let into your life. Money (that isn't dependent on your relationship with toxic people) buys you the ability to cut people off - to choose to surround yourself with high-value people. Money lets you enter and stay in a relationship on your own terms... and leave on your own terms as well. "Money can't buy happiness" is bullshit. If happiness is an island, money's the bridge to get you the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:29 PM |
| 65 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?You know, I'm personally against OLD given the sheer volume of losers on there, but I very much support the idea of using it to gain practice spotting red flags and RUTHLESSLY rejecting men. It really opens your eyes to how comically unoriginal scrotes are, and how you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain from putting your interests first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:24 PM |
| 104 | What are some of the reddest red flags you’ve ever seen on a date or during a relationship?He casually mentioned he talked his ex girlfriend into getting an abortion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 01:10 AM |
| 87 | Where is the lie, tho?Oh my god they look like literal trolls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:27 PM |
| 124 | What was your moment of clarity?Not someone I was dating, but someone in a friend group I was considering going out with. I wanted to spend some time with him before I left to visit home, so I asked him to help me pack. He refused, I assume to make a point of "nOt sImPiNg." Block, delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:49 PM |
| 17 | Moving in with him = You are his ATM.Yes that's right! It come down to all that extra time we spend doing unpaid labour - like a light version of the huge drop in relative income that happens when a woman has children with a partner that doesn't pull his weight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 04:14 PM |
| 159 | Moving in with him = You are his ATM.Damn ladies, I've gotta say, I just patted myself on the back - dated a guy for a few years in my undergrad and despite being crazy about him, absolutely fucking refused to move in with him without a ring on my finger. Dug my goddamn heels I like YOU. WOULDN'T. BELIEVE. Saw everyone around me doing it & didn't give a flying fuck hahaha. Like I'd inconvenience myself for a boyfriend 😭🤣 Anyways, years later I read that moving in with a man is where the pay gap starts, among the other things that m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:25 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-inBuy frames at second hand/charity shops! (Little life-hack from my artist friends 🥰) Fairy lights and candles do wonders for home-ing up a place; flowers on a table will last for weeks if you water/trim them also! Another thing I did was stick some potpourri in an elegant-looking bowl and put it somewhere conspicuous in the livingroom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 04:00 AM |
| 16 | When men withhold feelings/emotions: do they have them or do they just not care?Oh, they care. About themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 11:43 AM |
| 6 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?Gurl I s p r i n t e d | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 12:35 AM |
| 60 | UK scrotes are angry. I highly urge everyone on this sub to go watch Reggie Yates' documentary on the explosion of the redpill movement in the UK on YouTube called 'Anti feminist movement, men at war' *****TW Sensitive/upsetting topics are discussed in this documentaryYou know, I moved to the UK from Canada a few years ago, and I know they're shit everywhere, but I'd never experienced being as afraid as I do here, all the time. It's like there's this general air of contempt against women hanging in the air. I'm pleasantly surprised when I meet one that doesn't spout redpill talking points within the first few conversations. But maybe it's just happening everywhere, and this is turning into the world we live in. I don't know. I do know I've seen some data show… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:32 PM |
| 108 | Ladies, we need to talk about this...I want women everywhere to boycott sex with men. Watch this shit get reversed immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 08:01 PM |
| 28 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?Hahaha sis I'm telling you, I SPRINTED outta there like a fucking yeti was chasing me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 12:50 AM |
| 54 | What are some red flags about men’s cleanliness?OH I'VE GOT ONE: NO toilet paper, no soap, and a bathmat hung up in place of a towel. BOYBYE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 12:29 AM |
| 7 | No wonder I saw few/if any women and children rushing to the outgoing planes to leave Afghanistan. Apparently, the military was letting men/allies through but refusing to let their families come through the airport gates.PREACH SIS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 12:25 AM |
| 33 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?Oh my god how do dudes manage turning their relationship with vitamin D into a 300-page novel like genuinely who gives a shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 04:53 PM |
| 454 | Always keep your coins snatchedBoth of my (happily married) parents support this, but my HVM father was the one that really hammered it home when I was growing up. I remember him telling me to always have my own "fuck off fund", from the time I was little, because "women need to protect themselves first & foremost." Once I got the speech while my mom was flipping through a book in an adjacent room, pretending she couldn't hear us. I asked him if my mom had that too, and he said, "I'm sure she does, sweetheart; I married a sma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:10 PM |
| 44 | This is a weekly reminder to women especially “creatives” to watch out for lovebombing, genuine demons lurk and will seemingly try their best to tether your guard with words to exploit your emotions and try to conquer your body.K Dumbledore pipe down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 03:44 PM |
| 54 | When an older man tries to ask “what do you bring to the table?” RUN!!!Yeah, also a man in this dynamic is going to put everything he has into holding onto the upper hand. He's not going to "help you increase your cash flow", because in doing so he would be giving up his power over you. He'll help you when hell freezes over. Prioritize your own career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:41 PM |
| 449 | Men benefit from women romanticizing marriage through the lens of unconditional loveYour post is on point, sis. My culture has a saying, "relying on a man to feed you is the surest way to starve." I am proudly ruthlessly pragmatic. I love my family and friends to the ends of the earth, and was raised by an HVM that would do anything for my mother & I. But the vast majority of men will only take. They whip out the audacity to monologue about "loving them for who they are" to get away with lowering your expectations before they've even met you. Before the first fucking date. You'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:36 PM |
| 302 | Ladies, do you consider seeing a man once a week (every Saturday) as fulfilling dating?I think at this point he should be making the effort to see you more. For the first couple months? Sure, we're all busy... but as your partner, I'd expect at least 2-3 dates per week. (And this is coming from a doctoral candidate working 60+ hours per week. I'm the definition of busy.) I've both seen and experienced how men behave when they want you. They scramble to make plans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:40 PM |
| 66 | Quick question: what are some narcissistic traits?Biggest thing that stands out to me here is that you were accused of being narcissistic, yet you're over here doubting yourself, making sure you're not in the wrong. A narcissist wouldn't do that. The one quality shared amongst all abusers is they will accuse their victims of being abusive. I have three degrees in the behavioural sciences & a sneaking suspicion that you're being gaslit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 06:45 PM |
| 47 | I want to burn my eyes 🧍🏽♀️I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW PICKME'S BE OUT THERE ENABLING THIS ABSOLUTE ASS GARBAGE LIKE PLEASE THIS MAN SHOULD NOT BE GETTING LAID | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:09 PM |
| 122 | Dude makes 6x more and refuses to adjust the 50/50 budgetChrist on a bike | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 12:26 PM |
| 4 | OLD strat: what's yours?It was definitely not a meetup group; I unfortunately can't share the name without doxxing myself, but I'd suggest looking for similar things in your area - maybe see of the local uni has something, and if those members are joining anything else over the summer. I've never joined a meetup group, but I've heard other women say they experienced a lot of... weirder guys in those spaces specifically. Lots of nice women, but somehow I think the men that join tend to be odd. I think the FDS podcast ev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 8 | OLD strat: what's yours?I really liked hiking & just generally being outside, so I joined a country-wide group (for people under 30) who liked the same. A few people then made a smaller group specific to my city, which is where this beach clean (along with all sorts of other stuff) was planned 😊 It took a bit of time to stumble across a group I really liked & then get to know them from there, but it usually does. As always, trust your gut & if something feels off, just dump 'em & keep looking. The clean itself was an o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 03:09 AM |
| 7 | OLD strat: what's yours?Ohhh yes I get you! I've also been super driven with a jam-packed schedule, but that's probably the best way to do it in our case, is getting involved in these things as part of your career/education 🥰 BONUS IF IT MAKES YOU MONEY WE LOVE THAT HERE AT FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:33 PM |
| 45 | OLD strat: what's yours?OP, what sorts of things (hobbies) are you into? Maybe I can throw some suggestions out there for meeting men? Honestly, I tried OLD for about 6 months, it's not worth it. I know some FDS-ers are pro-OLD, but I honestly think it's a waste of time (at best) & even they'll realize that eventually. It's full of the bottom of the barrel - there is good reason you're not meeting these losers IRL. Scrotes are everywhere, but I've found just improving yourself & focusing on your hobbies to be great way… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:19 PM |
| 133 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!TOTALLY. I just couldn't stop thinking about it, pathetic is exactly what it is. But you know everyone thinks misogyny is fine; I don't feel like I can criticise these absolute atrocities beyond this sub without some libfem whining about wHy I wOnT tHiNk oF tHe mEn. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 09:25 AM |
| 9 | PickmeLol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:40 AM |
| 182 | Skip the date rape and just move in. These scrotes actually believe porn can be reality while they capitalize on sky high rent prices and openly take advantage of naive young women. He's even gleefully admitting to not having thought the situation through. Wow.Don't forget the micropenis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:38 AM |
| 48 | Skip the date rape and just move in. These scrotes actually believe porn can be reality while they capitalize on sky high rent prices and openly take advantage of naive young women. He's even gleefully admitting to not having thought the situation through. Wow.Bet he looks like feet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:38 AM |
| 488 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!Yeah. Thought allllllll about Kabul the second I saw the title - leave the people that'll suffer the most behind, because we're so chivalrous, aren't we lads? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:36 AM |
| 407 | He still keeps sex vids of him and his ex but going through his phone is the bigger violation of trust... 🤡K well I like that phrase "don't be stupid" 🙄 PickMe's little attitude here is gunna do a serious U-turn the day she finds this shit on HER boyfriend's phone smh. Dumbass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:15 PM |
| 31 | Weekly FDS Check-inDang ladies, 4 comments & I can only see one, the mods are ON POINT 🥳😘😘 #DieMad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:12 PM |
| 44 | FDS recommends being upfront about marriage/serious relationship goals to potential partners but FDS-Approved books say to never mention it?This exactly. Your job as a woman is to stay on the defensive. You show up and have a great time on dates, but all the while you're vetting. The strategies here aren't meant to attract men so much as they're meant to get rid of LVM (although FDS does have some great flirting techniques, the main focus is your safety and quality of life. THAT'S the priority). You look for good behaviour over time, and you don't give scrotes a roadmap into your pants while you're vetting. Shitty men are easily pre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:06 PM |
| 789 | Congrats scrotes! Your screeching into the void and constant harrassment of FDS and its members has continued to propel us to the front page!I found FDS after stumbling across a post full of scrotes complaining on a mainstream dating sub. So thanks, morons 😂😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Pickmes are brain dead 😑I read her username as "bimbo" & honestly proud of my brain for that little slip | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:16 PM |
| 4 | The sad reality of dating low-value men, who will make a woman’s home life miserableYeah this is literally just the vast majority of men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:01 PM |
| 7 | The sad reality of dating low-value men, who will make a woman’s home life miserableDang ladies, I've got to be honest, I'm starting to think I'd like to live apart from any man I date ever, because I just CANNOT be arsed dealing with this shite. Read near the start of the pandemic that 3% of men share chores and childcare equally. 3 PERCENT. Too goddamn stupid to load a dishwasher but smart enough to proclaim themselves the logical sex? How have we enabled this fuckery | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:01 PM |
| 126 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...Que'est-ce que le fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:15 PM |
| 31 | Why his music taste is extremely important during the vetting process.Same, also grew up on the 90's grunge and have some very warm & fuzzy feelings about that whole era 🥰 I'm currently split mainly between indie/alternative & punky folk. It's tough because you can find some kindred spirits (plus if you listen to stuff that's more obscure it's hard NOT to get excited when someone shares your music taste), but hot damn do you ever have to matrix-dodge the leftie-woke bros 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:13 PM |
| 52 | Looking for Impactful Volunteer Opportunities to Support and Empower WomenA few years ago, I worked (volunteered) with my town's local immigration service. I mostly worked with refugees, and it was really rewarding! My area mostly had people from Bhutan at the time, but I imagine opportunities to do this kind of thing will only increase with time. Women are more vulnerable worldwide, and this is doubly true in many of these cultures - so your help as a woman (who they are much more likely to feel comfortable around) will likely be VERY appreciated. I worked as an Engl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 06:56 PM |
| 66 | “Pointing out toxic behavior is toxic 🤡”Haha I blurted it out once in public in response to some scrotes blabbing about choking. They were MAD let me tell you lmao 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:05 PM |
| 168 | “Pointing out toxic behavior is toxic 🤡”But my kink is kickshaming 😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 09:46 AM |
| 85 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.And giving themselves the moral high ground! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:03 PM |
| 154 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.I think there's been some research looking into the ways leftist men continue to be misogynistic, and one recurring theme was they only support leftist philosophies when it benefits THEM (access to women's bodies), but anything that may actually fall under the category of furthering "equity feminism" they are vehemently against... like equal pay in the workplace, when for example this might involve a conscious effort to pay women (and especially WOC, who have an even shittier time in this area) … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 12:52 PM |
| 183 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates."You're supporting the patriarchy" (because I didn't want to sleep with him... something something sEx nEgAtiVe) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 12:47 PM |
| 63 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.Ohhh I've heard this one before! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 12:46 PM |
| 7 | I am SO tired of the misogyny, negging, persistent pushy rape culture and cringey male princess demands peddled by so called ‘pick up artist guru’s’ online. Notice the tone of his language wreaks of perceived entitlement to womens attention.Are they fucking stupid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:07 PM |
| 74 | Left-wing men are just as misogynistic as right-wing menFacts on FACTS ON FACTS sis. They're worse. They psychologically manipulate women with the goal of making them complicit in their own abuse, while SIMULTANEOUSLY giving themselves the moral high ground. At least with a right-wing mysoginist you can just call their bullshit out in no uncertain terms and go about your day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 02:28 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inWhen being nice to your wife for like 5 minutes would solve the dead beadroom "No I will stonewall for years WHY WON'T YOU RIDE MY PEEPEE DEBRA" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inOh they definitely can, but because therapy and self-care are for "sissies" the widespread solution is just emotionally abusing your bangmaid about it... I MEAN, eXpEcTiNg sUpPoRt fRoM yOuR pArTnEr. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 04:12 PM |
| 85 | Just some scrotes and pickmes raging against FDS on another extremely misogynistic and sexist sub that still exists (hopefully they are next)!Omg right? SO SAD wipes tears with dolla billz | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:32 AM |
| 47 | Just some scrotes and pickmes raging against FDS on another extremely misogynistic and sexist sub that still exists (hopefully they are next)!Yeah this is like the most supportive place in the universe lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:29 AM |
| 65 | I thought I’d share this meme from another subreddit 😂This but minus the tall/non-hairy ones lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 11:23 AM |
| 350 | A little dating satire based off the platformsmAyBe HeS dEpReSsEd | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 07:20 PM |
| 7 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Your edit made my day. Just picturing all the PUAs and redpill scrotes rage-wanking into the void 😍🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 07:18 PM |
| 33 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Yeah, that's another huge point I forgot to mention (IMO, the single strongest argument for meeting men through people you know): if a scrote acts up, word spreads. They can't hide the way they do on OLD. Married? Everyone knows. Criminal record? Everyone knows. Cheated on an ex? Everyone knows. General scrotacity? Word gets around about that too. It's never fool-proof, we always have to be careful, the LVM will always try to hide their bullshit - but it doesn't hurt to get a second opinion from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:57 PM |
| 31 | LVMs be likeI call this the "neg & beg", because it's almost invariably followed by some pathetic way to ask for sex by someone who hasn't been laid in millenia, for good reason DieMad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:53 PM |
| 37 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Yes, 100% this! You waste so much time talking to creeps behind a screen just to get the ick like 5 seconds into meeting them because who would've guessed, they're a weirdo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 02:48 PM |
| 80 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Yeah! And the ones in relationships that started with OLD just seem... mismatched, you know? Like, the guy has some glaring flaw, or is just a straight-up weirdo, or is like 2 degrees behind her, or whatever. As in, they never would have met in real life, for good reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:12 PM |
| 29 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Hahahaha PREACH SIS also gorging herself on carbs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:08 PM |
| 22 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Girl, what sorts of things are you into? 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:47 PM |
| 161 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.I'm a huge advocate of focusing on other parts of your life - things that have a GUARANTEED, concrete pay-off. For me this includes education, fitness, volunteering, etc. But you know what? I'd even argue you can meet men way more efficiently this way. Taking up martial arts? Bam, surrounded by men. Mostly scrotes, but hey, that's the case wherever you go. You don't have to sit through 100 potentially shitty dinners, either. The other weekend I participated in a beach clean-up & tried paddleboar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:44 PM |
| 24 | Scrotes will just bring misery into your lifeI know and am friends with some lovely Indian people, but my social media DMs are full of creepy, thirsty Indian guys who clearly think I'm a piece of meat for them to fight over. India has an ESPECIALLY bad case of "they don't see us as human." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:01 AM |
| 32 | Love seeing women not falling for manipulation tactics.Lmaoooo die mad Colin ETA Spelled his name wrong & don't even care 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:55 PM |
| 31 | Alrighty Queens, time to start spreading. These *should* work but let me know if not!Holy shit ladies this is such a great idea!! Excuse me as I stick like 800 up in every bathroom stall xo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:52 PM |
| 9 | On men who ask you out “as a friend”A guy at the gym I joined added me on social media despite having never spoken to him. He saw my joining forms & looked up my info from there. Even hi is too much apparently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:58 AM |
| 14 | Dating men who are better at academics than youYou said it beautifully sis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:33 PM |
| 50 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inThat's such a great idea; I'd stick them in every women's bathroom everywhere 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InThanks so much for the reassurance; you're totally right! I've always advocated for settling down later but it's hard to hold onto that yourself sometimes when you look around and feel like you're the only one holding out for something better. Thanks sis, I appreciate it 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:41 AM |
| 29 | The Hook-up That Ended All Hook-upsI ALSO HAD A REGRETTABLE HOOKUP WITH AN EMOTIONALLY DISTANT MICROPENIS DARREN IS THAT YOU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:41 PM |
| 19 | Don't feel pressured to date when you're young just because scrotes tell you "the clock is ticking"u/modernmedusaa spitting facts as usual xo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 08:55 PM |
| 140 | Don't feel pressured to date when you're young just because scrotes tell you "the clock is ticking"I've seen two HV marriages in my life. The first involved my parents. My mom met my dad when she was 33 & he was 34. They'd both worked on themselves and lived full, fulfilling lives. When they met, it was no nonsense - he knew right away he wanted to marry her. They had me when they were 40 and 41, and I went through life hearing about my friend's parents fighting/divorcing, with the security of knowing my family was stable. The second was my ex's brother. He was 31, made 6 figures, and owned h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 12:12 PM |
| 86 | Men are intimidated by my educationPreach, sis. It's like their dong deflates the second they find out you're smarter than them. I had a scrote insert himself into my life in high-school for 4 YEARS just to say & do condescending shit (pat my head, make blonde jokes, talk to me in a stupid baby voice). Me focusing on my education triggered him THAT hard. A few years later, he ended up dropping out of university. When I was 14, my parent's scrote-ey "friend" (that's a strong word, actually) was over in our backyard for a BBQ. When… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 12:45 PM |
| 3 | is it just me or is it weird if a guy that isn't your boyfriend texts you too many winky facesFollowed by the 🐵, then you know he's a 💩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 11:58 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InOmg thank you 😭😭😭 You're absolutely right; thanks so much for the validation. And PREACH SIS about the bald guys, that is one mess I'm avoiding for life 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 11:21 AM |
| 2 | I’m really effing tired of the ‘give a short man a chance’ propaganda.Yeah like you're spunking out spider webs Gary, take a seat lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 10:37 PM |
| 73 | I’m really effing tired of the ‘give a short man a chance’ propaganda.You know, they never mention the flipside of mUh bIoLoGy: that if a woman settles, it's in her best interests (evolutionarily speaking) to sleep with someone attractive (on the side), so at least she can have some genes worth passing down. What's that, Kevin? You don't want to raise some other man's children? Then put the "mUh bIoLoGy" away. Idiots | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 08:42 AM |
| 9 | Another date, another lessonJust picture a cheeto-fingered neckbeard & you've got it Edit: But if you ask he'll say he's a viking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 06:48 PM |
| 10 | Another date, another lessonThis must've been an awful cringe-fest of an experience, but now you'll be able to spot these red flags in an instant. Blocking is gunna get SO easy, just you wait 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 01:06 PM |
| 93 | Another date, another lessonYou met A SCROTE OFF REDDIT PLEASE SIS NOOOOOO 😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 01:04 PM |
| 23 | Pick-me goes on a date with a man who she exposed cheating on his girlfriend.Exactly this. I'm out of sympathy for the PickMe's enabling men's bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 12:37 PM |
| 140 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!You're right, & this girl needs to take her clown makeup off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:49 PM |
| 443 | I seriously question when men on Reddit say they've been in an abusive relationship with a womanOne thing nearly all abusive men have in common is they will accuse their victim of being abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 11:47 PM |
| 32 | Blocking is therapeutic.Gurl I block more easily than I breathe these days 😂😂🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 10:11 PM |
| 10 | Man creates Chatbot AI of dead girlfriend (link in post) - What do y'all think of tis? Is it high-value to be so in love with your girlfriend you'd immortalize her after death? Or is it more on the creepy side? I'd love to get an FDS perspective on this 🤔I think making another woman live in his "deceased partner's shadow" sounds like a massive red flag. I understand how difficult it is to lose a loved one but making the women in your life deal with the consequences of your grief isn't high value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 04:55 PM |
| 107 | Lovely bit of standard shaming by TikTok Pickminique 🙄This absolute dumbass lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:28 PM |
| 34 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"Yeah, I've heard this exact line from literally every dude who dOeSn'T bEliEvE iN mArRiAgE. Who wants to bet that shit would get nipped right in the bud if society at all enforced THEM having to take some responsibility for kids. ETA: My dumbass ex would spout the same nonsense... after spending his childhood watching his dad refuse to propose to his mom before eventually leaving her to be a single parent. Fuck right off, that WILL NOT be me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:12 PM |
| 75 | "Why haven't you had kids yet?"Oh my god. I mean it's crazy how answering that you're basically not in the only arrangement that GUARANTEES you some security as a women as a reason sets them off - BUT OF COURSE IT DOES I'M ACTUALLY NOT EVEN SURPRISED | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:05 PM |
| 27 | I’m simply not attracted to noncommittal menMoldy cheese lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:04 AM |
| 116 | One of my most important strategies in dating:I do this too! Especially for "minor" things you're vulnerable to being made to feel are nothing. Sometimes it leaves me horrified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:36 PM |
| 198 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"I love the ol' "I know it when I see it". TRY ME, SCROTES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:32 PM |
| 4 | This is what happens when you marry a Scrote and do the 50/50 thingUGH WHY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:28 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InYou're right, I'll look into it! I just know by the time I'll be able to hire help, I'll be about 35... but I see loads of women having kids around then anyway. One of my friends recently got back with her LVM cheating ex because she was worried about finding someone else & it really cemented the fact that I'd rather die | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:58 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InThanks sis, that's nice to read. How'd you guys meet? Yeah, I've been fence about it... I'm sure I'll plant myself on one of the two sides eventually 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:17 PM |
| 88 | Being a Cool Girl is a trapYou know, I wonder if PickMe's infiltrating male-dominated scenes and then doing the "shitty to other women" behaviours is a thing, because I've totally seen that in outdoors-ey activities, the metal scene (like you're saying), literally anything you'd imagine would have more men... whereas women I've met in more "balanced" places tend to have their heads screwed on right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:15 PM |
| 359 | Being a Cool Girl is a trapI've totally seen this "cool-girls-competing-for-LVM-attention" dynamic in groups settings and it's pathetic. So glad I'm not the only one noticing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:53 PM |
| 44 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI've done so well cutting the bullshit out of my life, but lately have been feeling a bit anxious about the future. I'm 28, getting a PhD, and I think I'd like kids someday - ideally in a marriage with an HVM. I feel like I've got so much to give, but I'm at the point where it's been so long (4 years), I almost can't imagine finding someone. My parents are getting older too, and the thought of them not getting to know their grandchildren makes me tear up. If anyone has anything hopeful to say, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:44 PM |
| 65 | Male friends are a scamMen with mostly (attractive, let's be real here) female friends are such a red flag, and they think we're so goddamn stupid that we'll buy their gaslight-ey, triangulating bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 09:51 AM |
| 12 | Date ideas that don't revolve around food but where he still pays something?I saw a couple riding down the beach on horseback the other day! If you're into that kind of thing. It seemed lovely; definitely took note 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 08:03 PM |
| 125 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.Once an LVM I was going hiking with had the audacity to suggest a FWB arrangement while I was driving. I pulled over at a gas station about 300 km from the nearest town & pretended to get ready to fill up while he went inside to get some coffee, and then drove away 🥰 Have fun with your $2 000 cab ride Idiot | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:47 PM |
| 168 | Anyone else absolutely hate posts like these? There's just so much to unpack here.Omg everyone clap for the nice man 😍😍 /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 02:38 PM |
| 54 | "Male feminsts" tend to focus on the "sex work is work", "sex work is empowering" and are heavy porn addicts.Yeah, they're "feminists" when it gives them another way to exploit us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:07 PM |
| 70 | What tell-tale signs or How to vet for a guy that won't cheat after x amount of years?There's a lot to say here, but I'd like to add: if he's cheated before, he'll likely do it again. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5709195/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 01:04 PM |
| 72 | I effed upYeah, exactly this. Choose some garbage from this big pile of garbage 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:47 AM |
| 70 | I effed upI believe you. A few years ago, I WAS you - so proud to have found someone SO GOOD, so smug because I held out for so long... and he still cheated. There were warning signs, but they didn't start showing up until a few months before the end, i.e., several years into the actual relationship - and they coincided with some stressors in his life, so I didn't see the total moral breakdown coming. I felt so stupid, but looking back on who I was, I see a young woman that tried her best with the knowled… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 02:46 AM |
| 13 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!Exactly. Both sides exploit women, but do it under a different name. Back when right-wing, "traditional" values were all the rage, men would guilt and shame women into "knowing their place" as domestic slaves, and anything else (making their own money, going to school, bodily autonomy) was unfeminine. Now? The left coerces women into sex work, into accepting violence in their relationships (BDSM & shaming "vanilla"), into being treated like fleshlights, and (if you're lucky) working 40-60 hours … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 04:04 PM |
| 10 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!It really is! I find left-wing misogyny can be very insidious too, whereas the garbage on the right is easier to call out. I think the gaslighting women get from the left can be very dangerous, especially for those who are younger or more naive. It's important not to fall into a "left = good/right = bad" dichotomy and instead evaluate information from either side based on its harms/benefits to women overall. Example: 50-50 is often passed off as progressive and modern but we all know the men who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 11:57 PM |
| 13 | Looking for a Conservative Co-Host for our upcoming podcast, Female Political Strategy!Same - slightly right-of-centre, with most of my "conservative" beliefs just being a manifestation of rejecting left-wing misogyny dressed up as feminism. Really, anything that benefits women (and especially marginalised women) tends to set people off. Suggesting men pay for dates is a common one. Suggesting we not sleep with men until they've been heavily vetted is another, despite that being one of the surest routes into poverty for women (think unplanned pregnancies, for example - especially … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 11:48 PM |
| 30 | This need to be sharedAND ANOTHER THING: Rosalind Franklin deserved a Nobel Prize and the only thing Watson and Crick should be recognised for is being twats. Signed, -Another Scientist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 11:35 AM |
| 134 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mOne of my PickMe friends tried to "what did you think would happen" me after a scrote tried the dreadgame (i.e., flirting with another woman) because I wasn't "moving fast enough". I just can't believe this is where we are as a society. I can't believe I'm made to feel like an anomaly or an outlier for not sleeping with someone 5 minutes after I've met them. Like it's some kind of a fucking affront to humankind that I'd (god forbid) like to vet a guy first. Absolute nonsense. I wouldn't touch an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 11:09 AM |
| 7 | On the “Stay In Your League” post…Same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:17 PM |
| 21 | On the “Stay In Your League” post…I agree. We should always aim to better ourselves, but I think that post came sounds a lot like the manosphere's rationalisation for women getting "pumped and dumped" on OLD. You're absolutely right - we're socialised to accept absolute ass garbage. To settle for so much less, every step of the way. And you know what? It happened to me once, too. Years ago, I slept with someone that ghosted me right after. He didn't finish high school, lived with his mom, and worked at a dildo factory. I was doi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-inMost of my life! When I (briefly) lowered my standards it just attracted a pile of LV scrotes. The one HVM I dated responded really well & prioritised my comfort and boundaries consistently. I honestly think there are worse places for you to have these boundaries. LVM are everywhere, but I suspect this kind of thing is more common in conservative cultures. I'm really glad to hear other FDSers like me; it reminds me I'm not alone 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 09:58 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-inI do this too - and it's one month of no touching while he's showing consistent, good behaviour and getting to know me as a person. Not one month of bare minimum effort because a scrote hopes if he just waits long enough we'll cave. Drew this boundary for myself & a pickme friend shamed me for it when some guy tried the dreadgame in response, with her logic being that "you've got to move quickly to get the guy". Absolutely miss me with that shit. Both blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 07:43 PM |
| 59 | Woman’s NVM husband constantly bends over backwards to ogle at other women and underage girls in public, right in front of her. A shitload of pickmes in the comments are coping with their husbands who do the same.Aw look, another pedo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 02:19 PM |
| 29 | The text that started it all … this is when I learned what gaslighting was …"tHiS iS sO dOuBlE sTaNdArD" Jared's high "self-asteam" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 02:17 PM |
| 64 | If this is not ultimate FDS energy I don’t know what is 🤣LOL my best friend and I met because our ex's were best friends. Cut to three years later: we dumped them at the same time & have remained bffs ever since 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 03:20 PM |
| 53 | The new dating scam.Do these fucking losers have no shame | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 03:18 PM |
| 2 | Vetting Men by their job positionNo one I hope lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 10:05 AM |
| 70 | Dating & Socioeconomic StatusI agree with you, and had a similar life trajectory. My HVM father was a poor immigrant. He gave my mother everything, and then they both gave me everything. It breaks my heart to know how he was treated throughout his life by those that were luckier than him. I've had the same experiences with socioeconomically-privilaged men. I'm surrounded by them now, and often they're not aware of my background. I know HVM are rare in any socioeconomic class, but I'm the same. I look for generosity and kind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 10:17 PM |
| 13 | Vetting Men by their job positionSecurity guards are just as toxic as police officers IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 12:40 PM |
| 9 | 50/50 is BS because women are already giving 100% more…This! God forbid you try keeping up with beauty standards; even the shittiest versions of the barest essentials will cost you more. EXPONENTIALLY more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 10:57 PM |
| 7 | 50/50 is BS because women are already giving 100% more…Well, I just dropped £290 on botox and another £300 on lip fillers. Later this week, I'm paying £40 to get my lashes done, £35 for my nails, and picking up some odds and ends for skincare/hygiene products, likely totalling around £50... because the standards us women are held to don't even fucking compare to some dude MAYBE washing his asshole with the decade-old crusty-ass dish soap bottle he found under his mom's sink. I completely support women who don't take part in this type of thing, but I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Moving cities for a better dating pool? Looking for advice on what to consider. (city ratio of women:men is too high)You're right, although there is a decent subpopulation of individuals who lean left politically while valuing chivalry/marriage and FDS-aligned values more generally - more than I've seen in other places - and this is the type of man I was describing. You're absolutely right, the LVM in that province tend to also be a "type" and that type is exactly what you've described. It's fair for OP to not want to live there based on that alone... I remember very well how annoying that was to deal with for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 08:24 AM |
| 22 | Moving cities for a better dating pool? Looking for advice on what to consider. (city ratio of women:men is too high)I agree that you should go wherever you'd like - of a city appeals to you, that's the most important thing! I am currently living in a progressive city in the UK - think London, but smaller (similar types of people, quite affluent overall). I'm from Alberta. If you listen to the FDS podcast, one of the hosts mentioned that she used to set her location to Alberta to date men from there, as they tend to be young, rich, and will "drive like 16 hours for a date with you" 😂 Honestly, this was my expe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 10:13 AM |
| 6 | Share your LVM experiences.That's so awful, I'm so sorry. Me ex became abusive when he started cheating too. I think it's a really common occurrence, they need some way to justify how shitty they're being so they coach themselves to hate us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 08:30 AM |
| 10 | For every caveman, there is at least one pickmeisha who thinks he is a king.UGH I was rear-ended while coming to a stop in front of a red light a couple years ago. This ass-garbage trash heap of a scrote got out of the car and immediately accused me of cutting him off... when it was obviously just his moronic driving behaviour that caused the collision. Some of these stories have happy endings though. I wasn't hurt... and managed to sue him for $120 000 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 10:04 PM |
| 7 | Late stage capitalism and unfettered misogyny in younger generations of menAgreed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 01:31 AM |
| 67 | If he wanted to fix his mental health, he would...There is also a gendered different in how men & women cope with/react to mental health problems. Women tend to internalise blame & seek to help themselves. Men externalize blame & exhaust/abuse those around them. I will never date a man with mental health problems. Jesus, I mean even most men WITHOUT will try to use you as free therapy during the first goddamn conversation. Big nah. I am so happy for you OP; I can imagine the strength it takes to pull yourself out of something like that 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/21 01:55 PM |
| 15 | A refreshing positive experience with the STD talk I wanted to share. Also curious about how others approaches to this/experiences with itYes, I was just going to say! It lies dormant in many people, but just about everyone has it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 04:25 PM |
| 41 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyThat dries up my fanny like you wouldn't BELIEEEVEEEE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:32 PM |
| 9 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyIsn't this like all of the UK though?? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:29 PM |
| 30 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyI don't date dudes with depression. Infinite emotional labour because they can't be bothered to get it together? Miss me with that shit lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 06:15 PM |
| 11 | I'm ✨embarrassed ✨Yeah I completely agree, that was the nail in the coffin after a string of ridiculous red flags. I genuinely can't wrap my mind around how they could be that fucking stupid & still somehow give themselves the moral high ground. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 01:31 AM |
| 165 | Facts!!! 🔥I just can't stand to make a shitty man happy 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 08:23 PM |
| 102 | I'm ✨embarrassed ✨Yeah and maybe once he's done he can waddle over to his boss & ask for a 20% pay cut to balance out the glass ceiling because eQuAlItY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 06:55 PM |
| 93 | Women just need to lower their standards 🙄Plus they're bitter over no one wanting them 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:19 PM |
| 86 | Women just need to lower their standards 🙄Okay but the ugly ones are literally worse... so??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 05:19 PM |
| 53 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.Yeah, 33 years of men's bullshit should've been enough to see a pattern. Smh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:40 PM |
| 39 | Ladies NEVER ignore your instincts or dealbreakers. Here’s yet another scrote having broken a woman’s heart after stringing her along for a year.... is this all the same woman? I mean, I couldn't even be bothered to read them all. It's just exhausting and I'm not even involved. Also, if a man wants you, he'll know immediately. WE have to vet, but they're simple creatures. It's an easy yes/no, and none of this shit will be a problem. Ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:37 PM |
| 30 | ‘Make sure they are invested in you first’ erm I’m sorry but as women our default is skin in the gameOh my God, you just can't win. Eye contact? She wants me. Avoidance? She wants me. No? Means yes. I want off this planet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:09 PM |
| 141 | ‘Make sure they are invested in you first’ erm I’m sorry but as women our default is skin in the gameOh, 100% sis. I suspect it's just part of the entitlement they're coddled to develop since birth, pretty much. It's so sad that it's common enough for all women to have to drastically constrict everything we do. Everything. Even smiling at someone in public or politely trying to brush off a guy who's trying to talk to you (out of fear, often) will get you victim-blaimed if they inevitably go off the rails when you turn down their advances. Paying half for a date won't save you from it either, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 12:03 AM |
| 106 | ‘Make sure they are invested in you first’ erm I’m sorry but as women our default is skin in the gameFirst half: "oNlY iNvEsT $$$ iF tHeY iNvEsTeD iN yOu" Next sentence: "Subscribe to my patreon" Like please, they CANNOT be this stupid.* Whatever. Enjoy getting ghosted after trying to corner some woman into splitting a coffee date lmao. *I know, they can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 11:58 PM |
| 10 | I have no words for this...NO FUCKING KIDDING. Tbf until like 50 years ago they'd burn us at the stake for knowing how to read and this is some pretty stream-of-consciousness typing but I think I'd just like to know why at this point we can't just launch them all into the sun | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 03:09 PM |
| 32 | Screening video chat…for a walk.Through his LUXURIOUS ESTATE presumably | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:58 AM |
| 14 | Don't Be Coerced Into Birthday BS by Friends' LVM Husbands and BoyfriendsI would literally implode lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:56 AM |
| 15 | "He never seemed to mention that he could only live those dreams because his wife was at home with the kids." I don't think many men even consider the perspective of their wives giving up their own life for them. ('Humans of New York' if you want to read the rest)Sometimes I think about how starkly different my life would be with a man like this (I.e., most men) and just despair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 09:55 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-InYes, of course! I love reading the way you describe her, it sounds like there's hope. Fingers crossed we're well on our way to getting another FDS-er! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 11:46 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-InIt's so hard because I think we all know women like this, but sometimes nothing you can say will help, you know? The desperation for male validation/need to be with someone is there and it's been socialised into them HARD. But I really think beyond a certain point of just giving it to her straight, the best thing to do is just live your own life & let her see how happy it makes you, with sprinkles of scrote-roasting in between. I think humour, confidence, and a positive attitude are such powerfu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 01:34 PM |
| 1 | The Misattribution of Arousal: Why Cliff-Dangling is SexyOnce more: there are HVM and LVM everywhere, and LVM ubiquitous outnumber HVM. Read that again. It's not a feat, it's a statement. Some women prefer not to use OLD, and for those women, getting out in the world and doing activities they love while bettering themselves is a great way to meet new people, some of whom may even be HVM - again, while vetting ruthlessly and using some amount of common sense. It's important to be aware of these well-documented psychological phenomena so you can underst… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 03:00 AM |
| 1 | The Misattribution of Arousal: Why Cliff-Dangling is SexyI agree with you about liberal men, I've seen this poorly-concealed, gaslight-ey misogyny before. It's definitely something to vet for. Again, the vast majority of men in any setting will be LV, as HVM are rare. While the vast majority of men are LV, it is possible to find HVM, and taking part in activities where you can vet an individual over a long period of time (cutting them off if any red flags are shown - for example, by taking part in said activity with different people) is a great way to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 01:14 AM |
| 1 | The Misattribution of Arousal: Why Cliff-Dangling is SexyIt's important to note that LVM outnumber HVM in all activities, hence the unequivocal need for continued vetting - further highlighted by some ladies who have had subpar experiences dating people in that circle. I mentioned this in both the original post and several comments; it's also a recurring theme in the handbook. These are great activities, and a great way to meet people & get to know them over a longer period of time. If anyone reading is on the fence but enjoys exercise & spending time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 10:56 PM |
| 1 | The Misattribution of Arousal: Why Cliff-Dangling is SexyAgain, LVM are everywhere, and HVM are rare. There are certainly both in climbing, as in all other activities. My experiences have been good (have been mountaineering for >10 years & new to climbing but with a long-term social circle full of climbers, most of whom I have known for 10-15 years), but again, I made clear in my post and subsequent comments that continued vetting is necessary, as for the thousandth time, LVM are everywhere and HVM are rare. I'd also encourage the use of common sense … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 09:06 PM |
| 6 | Got my very first Reddit post from a guy who's not a fan of FDS......Okay so I love you & am currently going through your comments liking everything hahahaha 👌👌🤏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 07:58 PM |
| 1 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.Absolutely! "Doom and gloom" IS low-value, agreed. I've noticed the change too - this sub had a more uplifting, productive tone a while back. I hope we can get back to our roots. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 06:50 PM |
| 1 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.I've noticed that too; I started reading in 2019 and I just feel like the vibe is different these days... more male separatist and just angry, to the point where you're picked apart if you post anything... encouraging dating (ironic, I know). I feel like any hopeful "dating strategy" posts that imply there are decent men out there basically have to include a rehash of the entire freaking handbook & every possible caveat to the point they're making, or the negativity in the comments just spirals … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 06:46 PM |
| 32 | They've almost got itLol oh God, I'm just S H O C K E D. /s I think at least some of the women get tangled up in that trainwreck after experiencing the leftie "woke-bros" trying to coerce them into libfem nonsense & just desperately swinging right to get away from the left, not being aware how both sides are just the same bs misogyny under a different name. ANYWAYS LADIES we at FDS are here so whenever you're ready to stop banging your head against the proverbial LVM-infused wall HIT US UP | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 02:52 PM |
| 0 | The Misattribution of Arousal: Why Cliff-Dangling is SexyMy glasses are fine - I'm just enjoying a new hobby & getting to know new people. Yes, if you meet someone doing a long-term activity that overlaps with another activity, it may be awkward if you date. I personally prefer getting to know people over several months through shared interest as opposed to jumping right into dating. Some women may agree, some may prefer a different approach. Yes, it's important to choose good belay partners and stay safe. That's correct, some people who you meet may … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 01:00 PM |
| 0 | The Misattribution of Arousal: Why Cliff-Dangling is SexyI'm sorry you've clearly had bad experiences. I'm encouraging women to pursue their interests, and if those may include the outdoors, to try a new activity. Some women have had good experiences meeting people this way, and with appropriate long-term vetting, this time spent enjoyably bettering yourself may even lead to meeting an HVM. It also might not, because LVMs are everywhere, and good men are rare. Don't like it? Don't do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 11:22 PM |
| 20 | The Misattribution of Arousal: Why Cliff-Dangling is SexyYes, being smart about it & keeping these things in mind goes without saying. Be safe and of course take your time getting to know everyone, but it is a good place to meet people & a great activity to take part in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 01:26 PM |
| 16 | Just doing pick me things, oopsie! 🤪Lol couldn't be me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 12:02 AM |
| 133 | From Bo Burnham's poetry bookSame! You really worded the way I feel about him beautifully. His (esp. male) fans are often geuine trash and I keep the fact that I like him to myself because I just can't stand some mysoginistic, Reddit-circlejerk-dumbass thinking he's found an ally in me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 10:12 AM |
| 64 | We all know Lvm can manipulate you by faking HV traits. But some hv qualities are hard to fake and make much better vetting criteria. Here's some of mine:I tested them too and all but one failed 😥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:46 PM |
| 101 | My dirty secret to dating men who are clean and tidy.Okay so hear me out for the ULTIMATE BAMBOOZLE: combine your & OP's strategies 😂😂 REALLY throw them off. Step 1: Invite them over & proudly show them your nest. Step 2: Your head explodes at a mug on their counter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 01:01 AM |
| 14 | First date failI'm from Canada but have been stuck in the UK since this started and its so nice to see other FDSers here, LOVE YOU LADIES XO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 12:11 AM |
| 27 | First date failDon't be too hard on yourself! YOU didn't do anything wrong; just gave some idiot that didn't deserve you a chance ❤ We've all been there. Also, sometimes it takes experiencing OLD yourself to realize how crap it is 😅 They're just so DISAPPOINTING. Plus, you escaped after one date. Imagine being stuck with this dude for years 🤡💩 AND ANOTHER THING: You recognised red flags as red flags. So many other women are gaslit into not even thinking twice about some guy not making a reservation or herding … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 11:59 PM |
| 108 | This 29F is scared to ask a guy to be exclusive but also is willing to move countries to be with him??ITS SO HARD TO READ THESE SOMETIMES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 07:51 PM |
| 59 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.Lol at there being 9 comments but me only being able to see three I LOVE YOU FDS MODS ACCEPT MY PRAISES FROM FAR AWAY LANDS XOXOXO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:11 PM |
| 4 | There was a post on FDS the other day on how “reverse sexism” isn’t real. It got crossposted to another sub and it’s hilarious to me that irony is something always lost on scrotes 🤣 see for yourselfPeople make up words all the time you asanine crotchrocket | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:09 PM |
| 37 | Change My Mind: Modern Feminism is a Male Insurgent MovementDon't forget splitting the bill!! THAT'S WHEN THEYRE ESPECIALLY FEMINIST | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:06 PM |
| 67 | A friend sent me a 🍤-pic out of nowhere and I feel betrayedYou know, the last time someone I knew did this to me I blurred out the image and posted the text on his Facebook timeline. Played stupid, pretending to be sooooo concerned that he was "hacked" because the guy I knew would NEVER! Tagged his family too. Anyways, I'm a big fan of consequences 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:56 PM |
| 169 | REMINDER: FDS is NOT WGTOW/OVARIT/FEMCEL etc, We're a Dating Strategy....So You Should, Ya'Know, DATE.I agree! Our power lies in not dating shitty dudes. I personally don't use OLD, and don't go through life actively trying to meet men for the purpose of romance... but I would love to find an HVM some day, so I'm open to that (despite all the human skidmarks out there lmao), and will use FDS to vet anyone that comes along (as well as the friends I make along the way). I do really think that's an FDS-compatible way to do it. Personally, I know I can't handle immersing myself in dating culture any… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 01:11 PM |
| 20 | Has anyone else had this pop up on their Instagram feed being promoted by influencers? I don't even really know what to say. It appears to be a new dating app with a "bedroom feature" where you select your preferences.SAME I was a self-identified leftie but after... well, being alive these past few years I honestly feel myself tense the fuck up as soon as I realize I'm talking to some boundary shamer and his KinkMe. Yeet me off this planet pls | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:49 PM |
| 67 | dating strategies are different for men vs womenNot just a field some of them invite you to their nest they wORKED VERY HARD TO BUILD OK | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 10:42 PM |
| 2 | To have the audacity of a white man...Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 05:21 PM |
| 38 | How could any woman sacrifice this much??Yeah so there's no way this guy doesn't secretly hate her. I was once pulled over on my way home from the lab during my Masters - 3 AM on Thanksgiving weekend. He didn't believe I was working (despite a backpack full of books in the backseat and a scientific poster in the passengers seat) and interrogated me like his life depending on it. He was out for blood. Eventually, he went down the rabbit hole of demanding to know why I had taken one of two routes home from work (the town's university). I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 03:17 PM |
| 47 | To have the audacity of a white man...Lol GURL come here a bunch 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 12:43 PM |
| 456 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?I turned 20 right at the start of a several-year-long relationship with someone 6 years older. Going back, I wished I'd focused on my career instead (I did, still ended up doing a PhD, but it took a lot longer). If I had any advice to give it would be: the second anyone mistreats you, leave. Don't make excuses, or fall or the sunk costs fallacy. Just leave! Often you'll find the mask doesn't drop until some time has passed... so you'll likely end up spending time vetting some people that turn ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 01:30 PM |
| 59 | Misogyny in leftist spheres. A Young Turks video becomes a witch hunt over a woman's TikTok video about dating standards. As a leftist and feminist this seriously annoys me.It's interesting how FDS-esque values are ESPECIALLY viciously attacked by the left. Also, I'm not surprised. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 02:48 AM |
| 87 | Horrific.Yeah. Hearing about some of these policies that DISPROPORTIONALLY affected women to the point of threatening their lives (at worst) or just plan working them into the ground (at best) over the past year and a half has been sickening. I've been so angry and disillusioned with the people making the rules over the utter lack of any effort whatsoever to mitigate this, all while the (overwhelmingly male) 1% became exponentially richer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:24 PM |
| 30 | Pregnant feminist who makes way less than bf will "pay for herself" in the name of equalityLike 50% of why I'm here are your comments lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 03:33 PM |
| 9 | Pregnant feminist who makes a lot less than bf but will "pay for herself" in the name of equality.Yeah, I saw this. I'm not going to lie, my sympathy for PickMe's was already running thin, given their aggressive campaign to enable the shitty treatment of all women... ...But this woman's lining up her own karma. She's doing everything she can to end up on a sub about broken mums VERY soon. And then she's going to have a mountain of resentment against all the HVW she knows that ended up either making bank alone or with lovely, HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:52 PM |
| 99 | Solid dating advice from seniors 👌. June is a mood 😄AILEEN GETS IT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:56 AM |
| 23 | 2 days ago our haters said we would never get Gail Dines on the Podcast and we all laughed because the episode was already recorded and scheduled to be released today. Haters gonna hate while FDS just keeps winning! 📈🚀🧗♀️Omg I got so pumped mentally cheering you guys on during my run I legit spontaneously straight-up detour-climbed a MOUNTAIN today | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:41 PM |
| 63 | Yes, by all means, walk 20 feet ahead of your wife and children, you asshole.Lol I saw this the other week on my run and managed to yell out a hearty "DUMP HIM SIS" when I turned the corner 😂🤣 DoingTheLordsWork | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:37 PM |
| 10 | This is for all the ladies going through a breakup with a LVM/NVMLmao imagine walking into therapy and getting blasted with Jordan Peterson "logic" 🤣🤣 christ give me strength | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 07:47 PM |
| 35 | When the mask comes offThen it sounds like it's even more prudent for her to get both herself AND her children away from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 12:34 PM |
| 75 | When the mask comes offHow fast do you ladies think this scrote would get over himself if she straight-up left? Let him "sit on his ass" all day with their 4 kids? Shit, even for a weekend. Just a few days to put him in his place. Would work WONDERS I bet Edit: If you LITERALLY cannot trust your children's lives not to be in danger around a man, you need to get them away from said man. We shouldn't imply that she should stay to protect them. THEY ALL NEED TO LEAVE. I'm not advocating for her to stick around while he j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 11:17 AM |
| 18 | A mantra that might be helpful for when we fall back into old ways of thinking...Haha when you're both less afraid of bears than LVM #relatable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:19 AM |
| 134 | A mantra that might be helpful for when we fall back into old ways of thinking...I just wanted to say we FDS ladies are clearly on the same wavelength, because I too was on a solo Sunday hike!! Haha Bet you looked GORG 😉🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:19 PM |
| 24 | Translation: Don’t be offended when I say something rude or meanIf someone was direct about his small dick, he'd have a meltdown. Fuck off Branden 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 09:33 AM |
| 66 | On being pedanticGod I love you people | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 09:31 AM |
| 36 | UPDATE: I got a job! (From: "I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit")I'm so glad to hear that!! YES WELCOME LIFETIME MEMBER XOXOXOXO I'm so glad you took the plunge, both with your job and this community! I can imagine how anxiety-provoking that must have been; you are SO WELCOME here 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 11:52 PM |
| 16 | More leftist pussy policing & anti-reproductive choice rhetoric. Nice try Scrotes, but you can’t use Pride month to shame or bully women into sex with you. OUR VAGINAS, OUR CHOICE.Same, exactly! "Politically homeless" is the perfect way to describe it - thanks for finding the right words when I couldn't 😅 It just SUCKS because I really did feel "at home" as a left-leaner about 10-15 years ago (living in a conservative place, no less), but I think that shitty people have just gone and twisted all that up into just another way to gaslight us and assert their superiority. I mean, I've got a friend whose ex used veganism as a cover for abuse (controlling what she ate, etc.), … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 03:48 PM |
| 7 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 13 - Roastus Scrotus Deletus + How an Early Childhood Educator Motivates Boys to be HVMI felt the same way! A bit uncomfortable listening to this episode; the same uneasy feeling you get when you see pandering to men in other aspects of life. I have three degrees in the behavioural sciences and taught children (although ~12 year olds), but yeah, I've seen a lot of early-child educators sort of pandering to non-optimal behaviour in young boys. As an aside, I've found I've literally feel afraid of boys as young as 7 due to just how rough they are and how no one seems to do anything … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 02:49 PM |
| 65 | More leftist pussy policing & anti-reproductive choice rhetoric. Nice try Scrotes, but you can’t use Pride month to shame or bully women into sex with you. OUR VAGINAS, OUR CHOICE.Is anyone else here just completely disillusioned with the left? Tired of progressive language being used to shame and manipulate women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 11:33 AM |
| 366 | Shoutout to r/FemaleDatingStratPros for doing our outrage marketing for us and bringing us more members 😂Ladiesssss I am HERE FOR IT 😂 That's how I found this place too. I remember scrolling through a sub about "datingoverblabla" on my way to work and feeling so fucking DISMAL. Kept seeing the same shit over and over and wondered if the world had just gone off the rocker. The the arch angel of scrotery descended UPONST MY FEED, probs complaining about how some FDS-er didn't like his nest, and BAM. Member for life. Xoxo, Gossip Girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:59 AM |
| 27 | Being Vegan is a deterrent of LVMsYeah, as someone who currently lives in a city full of "woke" condescending, patronising mysoginists, please please please watch out for this. As an aside, my flatmate's ex literally used veganism as a cover to put her down, guilt/control what she ate, and take up all her free time forcing her to cook his bullshit, over-the-top meals for years. It was literally a cover for straight-up abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 01:14 AM |
| 289 | Being an OF model/stripper/camgirl/sex worker is not empowering, here's what is empoweringUntil we see Bill Gates twerking in a thong, sex work is not empowering. Full stop. Freakin clown world lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 09:46 PM |
| 2 | My new tank just came in! "Know your worth, then add tax"BAE 😍😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 12:05 PM |
| 37 | I posted a video criticizing scrotes believing women hit a wall and got this comment, with a picture of him to match ☺️Lol okay but is the man-peak supposed to ft. that bushy-ass pube-beard lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 02:26 AM |
| 14 | Apps promised to revolutionize dating. But for women they’re mostly terrible | Nancy Jo SalesI can't code but I'd dig into my pockets for this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:17 AM |
| 10 | Post title says this queen asked for a proper date, but his description then labels the request as a demand. Why is this man outing himself as low effort?Okay well why don't you traditionally shove a baby out of your peen and then we can talk about overcoming gender roles, GARY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:47 PM |
| 388 | If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rulesEven his hairline's running away | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 11:19 AM |
| 26 | GhostingFDS is pro-ghosting from the woman's end, for obvious reasons (the reasons you've outlined really well above, OP 🥰). I ghosted my ex of 6 years when I found out he was cheating on me. Straight up disappeared, never responded to him again. I also left a situationship-LVM at a gas station on our way home from a hike (and blocked him promptly thereafter) because he was throwing an emotional tantrum about an argument he had with his mom/taking his misplaced anger out on me, and I decided the status … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 01:56 PM |
| 14 | If your spouse watches you suffer, then they don't care about you.My LVX once asked me to use my last $20 (poor undergrad) to buy him weed. I had strep throat and was on my way to get antibiotics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:31 PM |
| 29 | Leveling Up By Moving on UpYes! If you can swing it (with a bit extra to save each month still) it ended up being worth the risk for me 🥰 I love living in a beautiful flat close to EVERYTHING, and have managed to find a string of lovely HVW roommies to share it with (the "rowdy" types tend to go for cheaper places here). I felt like I could focus better given I lived in such a nice place, and saved so much time commuting everywhere that it improved my financial situation to a point where I can now afford it very easily. J… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 11:23 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Check-inThe end of any relationship is always so awful, and I can only imagine what you're going through, especially having to live with him (and with the kids)! The feelings you're experiencing are a huge part of the reason why so many women stay with LVM - few people have the strength to follow through and leave. I know what that's like, I'm sure a lot of ladies here do too, and I wish there were some magic words I could say to make those feelings go away, but the only way through it is time and work.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 01:16 PM |
| 40 | Weekly FDS Check-inI'm mostly prepping for two meetings on Friday - one of them is me presenting a bunch of ideas for experiments (currently a cancer researcher) to my bosses and another is a final meeting before we submit a manuscript for publication 🥳 So excited! Also have some drinks at swanky pubs planned, and am on the look out for a good martial arts place! One more thing: submitting my payroll forms today for the first instalment of a $105 000 scholarship I won a couple of weeks ago! 🏆 Things are busy with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:48 PM |
| 250 | But we know that will never happenAND ANOTHER THING: If, in these places where they're scheming and plotting to take away a woman's right to choose, if women just collectively refused to sleep with anyone ever who wasn't top-tier HVM olympic-husband material until they were BOTH married and financially ready (because that would literally be our only option, the only way to guarantee some sort of dignified, non-destitute standard of living for both ourselves and our children), we all know men would LOSE. THEIR. SHIT. Can you fuck… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 01:39 AM |
| 22 | I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit.I'm just so glad you're here with us 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:23 PM |
| 14 | Bumble Encourages Women to Talk to Men who Commit Microaggressions And Explain to Him Why They Are Inappropriate : Further Reason to Stop Using OLDI need to vent. I saw apparently there's talk of these dating apps having a vaccine certification for users. While that's great (and will give skeezy LVM one less thing to lie about), I'm pissed that they've clearly had the technology to protect us women and just straight up haven't lifted a finger (with the vaccine cert. being one sole exception). Like, why can't there be an "STI-free" stamp, or a "not married" stamp, or HELL, even a "no history of domestic violence/violence against women" stam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 09:13 PM |
| 32 | Done with my LV bossYes congrats! I got that sinking feeling in my stomach when you described having to walk away, because we've all been there before with men, knowing that nothing you say would make a difference and the only way to win is not to play. That being said, I am SO glad you contacted HR and showed this loser he cannot speak to you like that with impunity. Don't let the bastards get you down 😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 02:07 PM |
| 207 | We hit over 160k! Thanks for driving traffic here, scrotes.That's how I found this lovely place and it's been LIFE-CHANGING 🥰 DieMad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 01:47 PM |
| 57 | How is being bothered by micro-cheating connected to having low self-confidence?I think confident women are less likely to tolerate this, actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 08:40 PM |
| 6 | This makes sense. The guys on your “level” have more options and don’t want relationships. I’m done dating down, and it’s so much harder to find someone.This exactly. I'm honestly annoyed by the dude in the video trying to gaslight us into thinking the high value guys are the same ones that are gunna have the "want kids someday" on OLD at age 45, right below the world's most audacious combover. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 01:39 AM |
| 4 | This makes sense. The guys on your “level” have more options and don’t want relationships. I’m done dating down, and it’s so much harder to find someone.Um, yeah, if he's fucking around collecting every strain of gonorrhoea like they're Pokémon, I don't want him 🥰 I don't care about the money or the hairline if he's still LVM trash. A turd covered in glitter, as they say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 01:30 AM |
| 44 | My rant about the "mental health awareness" crowd on social mediaYes, thank you! I've been thinking exactly this, but haven't even come close to organising my thoughts this well. I've gotten so peeved with the aggressive "social media activism" and bullying disguised as social activism that, like you said, doesn't. Actually. Accomplish. Anything. Another thing I've noticed, and maybe I'm not alone (?): a lot of the condescending, in-person lecturing & so on I've personally seen has featured a (usually white, and also wealthy/otherwise just annoyingly fucking … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 11:00 PM |
| 22 | My rant about the "mental health awareness" crowd on social mediaI practically cheered when I read this and then cheered HARDER when I saw Lilith wrote it haha; I freaking love everything you guys say & LIVE to hear it every week on the podcast 😂 Continue slaying, you absolute QUEENS *Edit because me and my one brain cell spelled "Lilith" wrong haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 10:47 PM |
| 128 | We’re both mid-30s lawyers. This is first date offer lol.LMAO you guys: One of my friends told me she had a guy take her FORAGING. For WILD GARLIC HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA ^ ...maybe it's him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 05:12 PM |
| 15 | Ex is back. Ladies, help!I'd like to prop up everything these other ladies have said; you're getting some excellent advice here OP. I'd also like to add this: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sliding-vs-deciding/201710/is-partner-who-has-cheated-likely-cheat-again You're welcome to find the original study from the article, but essentially, if a man cheats in one relationship EVER, he is 350% more likely to cheat again (this includes future partners, I believe). I suspect it's even more grim if we're talking about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 02:54 PM |
| 6 | And this is why you demand more for yourself and set clear boundaries and expectationsI am so here for these comments haha 😂👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 11:01 PM |
| 33 | And this is why you demand more for yourself and set clear boundaries and expectationsPreach sis. Can't handle watching these women shocked Pikachu face after acting like a Pickme-supreme gets them treated like a Pickme-supreme. Stop lowering the bar for all women or GTFO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 10:59 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-InThis will 100% get lost in the noise but I just wanted to say how much I appreciate and LOVE this community!! I've been reading everyday since 2019. It's just so so reassuring to find a place where people's views lined up so perfectly with mine and makes me so so proud to stand in solidarity with you ladies 🥰❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 12:48 AM |
| 5 | Finding HVW to connect with - a struggleOhhh yes no problem at all! I'm betting we're all in the same boat. And LOL yeah getting to know people over a screen just does not cut it for me, I totally know what you mean! I'm stoked to hear you liked Krav Maga; I'm a bit nervous 😅 The closest thing I've done to a sport during COVID has been like, Olympic napping haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 12:47 AM |
| 219 | GUYS!! his girlfriend found FDS and left him‼️ 👑 😎@u/marlenemermaid you absolute BAE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 12:01 AM |
| 332 | I tried to highlight the worst parts, but it's all so bad... 😬Ew lol someone pick her already | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 03:42 PM |
| 43 | Finding HVW to connect with - a struggleIt can be a bit of a struggle, not going to lie! I'm also in STEM, but luckily found some good ones. It's tough, but once you find even one, you're pretty much "set for life" - good people tend to hang around other good people, so you'll probably meet many through them. I found it really easy to make friends at concerts... I know that's not an option now, but hopefully soon 😅 Many of my HVW friends are really active in the community, following all sorts of interests. One group is really into art… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 03:40 PM |
| 10 | It's safe to assume that every man you date only wants sex from you —until proven otherwise.Also your money | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:23 PM |
| 62 | The real reason you shouldn’t date “frugal” (cheap) menOmg you are my IDOL. I just got the biggest rush of dopamine reading that... and LOL stashed in his sock, what a loser 🤣 Please take my virtual high-five. Also felt a touch patriotic knowing this dude got put in his place in my home country (also Canadian)! Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:11 PM |
| 99 | The real reason you shouldn’t date “frugal” (cheap) menOmg did they ACTUALLY suddenly "find" their wallets? Lmao details please, I LIVE for this 😂😈 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 08:37 PM |
| 52 | PSA: Men are learning about FDS but like most things they don't get it all. Stay on Scrote Watch!Hahaha yeah I hope all his tinder matches fuck off right after they make him pay for their dinners #BOYBYE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:32 PM |
| 8 | Any other shattered women finding FDS “late” in life?Welcome! I'm so so glad you found us - we understand 🥰 You have such a beautiful life ahead of you & I'm so glad you put this all in motion so young. I've never been married, but I've left a man similar to your (soon-to-be) ex and all I can say is I'm rooting for you! Don't waver in your resolve; the healing isn't linear and you'll probably have wobbly moments well into the future... but it WILL get better! We're here for support in the meantime ❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:22 PM |
| 66 | My favorite part of being an FDS mod... 😂Hahaha D🖕I🖕E M🖕A🖕D😂😏😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 05:37 PM |
| 15 | OLD Red Flag Words & Phrasesbut its charred | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 01:03 AM |
| 33 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 7 - Where TF are the High Value Men...is Online Dating Dead?!Omg I literally live for this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:21 AM |
| 55 | The Eternal Girlfriend 😳😬Hahahaha I LIVE for FDS comment sections andalsodivorcingLVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:15 AM |
| 27 | Three German Men Market a Hot Pink Glove to Dispose of Period Products Like a Doggy Poo BagThis is so fucking patronising. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 03:15 PM |
| 28 | FDS PODCAST UPDATE: we're going to start doing interviews!Hahaha glass of wine the size of my H E A D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 01:21 AM |
| 44 | FDS PODCAST UPDATE: we're going to start doing interviews!LOL grab the popcorn everyone 😏😏😏😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:52 PM |
| 12 | Research shows that support for porn bans are dropping in the “science-denying” community while staying strong among those who understand the risks; but of course the headlines say the opposite lolOr even just common sense apparently 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 09:47 PM |
| 61 | Never be friends with them. A man befriends a woman working at a construction site. He kills her when he finds out she has a boyfriend. This is why I always just straight ignore any man who tries to talk to me if I don’t himMy mom and I were talking about that and she said something that stuck. She told me, "You might lose a few (or many) years of your life being prosecuted, but you'd likely lose all of them if he'd have his way." It's infuriating though - I live in the UK and think I read somewhere that even pepper spray is illegal? Complete lunacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:57 PM |
| 38 | Research shows that support for porn bans are dropping in the “science-denying” community while staying strong among those who understand the risks; but of course the headlines say the opposite lolI really wish my social circle reflected this, but alas I work in academic science and am surrounded by Pickme-libfems (had to listen to a "sEx wOrK iS wOrK" rant just yesterday). Please someone save me 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InLol we're twins, I moved across an ocean 6 months before the pandemic 😂 It's so hard. I splurged on a piano (used to play when I was small); I know you already mentioned hobbies but that one combined with aggressively working towards my goals helped me. I also live with one other girl now but if the lockdowns don't properly ease up where I'm at by July & socialising is still tough, I'm planning to move to a social flat with more people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InI completely understand your point of view! I've actually been thinking about this a lot lately (due to some behaviour I've seen in my own life), but I think most of the contempt for Pickme's on here comes from their tendancy to lower the bar for (best case scenario) or actively sabotage/be complicit in abusing other women. On the one hand, I used to be quite empathetic to them... but this has been changing lately (after seeing some women who would throw their fellow women under the bus for a cr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 05:35 PM |
| 7 | Welp! Now the incels on a famous greentext posting website have found us. RIP mods’ inboxes 😭"where" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:53 PM |
| 70 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.Oh, by the way, I'm 27 and spent the first 4 years of my 20's in a relationship with a guy that, despite having an MSc, was too fucking stupid to understand the concept of the clitoris. I didn't have ONE SINGLE ORGASM. How's that for fucking wasting your 20's? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 03:22 PM |
| 78 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.Yeah okay 😂 Rest assured the people accusing you of "wasting your 20's" are about to waste the literal rest if their lives trapped in a dead-end situationship with an LVM. Get that $$$ and enjoy your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 03:20 PM |
| 5 | How do you deal with friends who have low standards?You say these friends are lovely, but the pickme tendencies are reminding me of my own life's extreme examples, maybe this will help you decide how to cope in the future if any of this happens with your friends 😅 I had one like this that I lived/worked with. She was fine in the beginning, but that was pretty superficial, as it lasted presicely as long as we didn't spend too much time together. She would throw herself into situations with shitty men that would necessarily lead to her crying, thro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 02:01 PM |
| 8 | Such.. bitterness.I bet you're lovely 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 02:38 AM |
| 14 | Such.. bitterness.I can feel the tiny peepee through my screen hahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 02:34 AM |
| 10 | "That's it?" I thought instantly when I got in bed the first time with my ex and he removed his pants. I wanted to stop instantly but didn't want to offend him. How to tactfully handle getting in bed with a guy but he instantly does not have what you want (particularly in the length department)?I love you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Instead of sending this reply, I blocked him. Not spending time on guys who don’t do the basics.Omg YES!!! I'm originally from a place where "engineer" is a legally protected title that is exclusive to people with university engineering degrees and jobs in THAT field, not... JANITORS?! It feels like just an extension of a phenomenon of guys lying about their jobs to seem more accomplished than they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 08:20 PM |
| 2 | This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodgedYeah, it's just another one of those things scrotes will brag about on TRP and other similar misogynistic subs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 02:05 PM |
| 2 | This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodgedI really like the tactic of asking to get tested together (some guys will photoshop paperwork to lie and say they got tested when they didn't) - there's literally no reasonable way to squirm their way out of that and not look like a raging gonorrhea-infected asshole, and anyone who regularly engages in risky LVM behaviour is NOT going to want to (a) stick around for that to happen (probably just gunna last a few dates to begin with), or often also (b) get tested at all, because its very likely t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:48 PM |
| 6 | This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodgedOh I LIKE this!! Next time I hear that line IRL I'll bite back with, "Oh definitely! I just have to assess emotional compatibility first - and we can't rush that!" While I block the scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:16 PM |
| 4 | This is why you VET and NEVER have sex too early - bullet dodgedSame, just a big ol' flaming dumpster fire of micropenises & walking-talking herpes warts demanding to assess the sexual compatibility of someone they've known for 3 hrs, pls 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:14 PM |
| 20 | Okay 🙌🏼OMG YESSSS!!! To be honest I was a bit worried I'd pissed him off enough for him to (eventually, after his hilarioisly expensive taxi ride L M A O) confront me at my family's home, but it just ultimately felt like the biggest power move I've ever pulled on a "fuccboi" and I STILL get the warm fuzzies thinking about it 3 YEARS LATER 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:43 PM |
| 6 | Can't bring myself to use online datingI'm so glad I'm not the only one 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:36 PM |
| 33 | Okay 🙌🏼OMG! I was once hiking with this non-committal loser I had been "seeing" for several months after a bad break up (YEARS before FDS, I cringe 😂). He threw a fit about something stupid on the drive, so the next time we stopped for gas, I left him in the store to buy his coffee and went to "wait for him in the car." Yeah, I drove away. Right after I blocked him on everything. We were in the Canadian Rockies, a couple hundred kms away from the city. I mean, being non-committal was so important, can'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:31 PM |
| 29 | What is the Ultimate LVM name?J U S T I N. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 10:48 PM |
| 13 | What is the Ultimate LVM name?The only William I ever knew was basically the product of a red flag having sex with a herpes wart on a bed of unresolved mommy issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 10:47 PM |
| 37 | Pick me job hunting for her boyfriend- sis come on! As a recruiter, I see this way too often and it’s concerning....if he wanted a job he would get one.Awww! Couldn't be me 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 01:33 AM |
| 25 | Sometimes I feel like I don’t fit the standards we hold men to here.Yeah, this and you're working nonstop WHILE getting your BSc? Girl, you are the highest of value! You've got a wonderful heart and are clearly so brave and strong and lovely. Keep doing what you're doing, any man would be lucky to be with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Refusing to date a man with social mediaThere are some with a healthy amount of engagement in the online world, but not having any social media (at least when you ask him, in the early stages of knowing one another) might indicate he's got a wife or forever girlfriend he's trying to hide. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:30 PM |
| 1 | I think that’s enough Reddit for me today! This is an email a woman got from her boyfriend when she cut her visit short to attend a wedding. It has given my brain literal painLol please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:45 AM |
| 2 | I tried the dating more than one guy at a time thingMe too! Many of us have been there; you're not alone 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 01:06 AM |
| 1 | Wasting my time or will it be worth it?Yeah... this exact thing happens ALL THE TIME. This is how they try to get you to be a "fwb" - listen, if this guy straight-up told you, "I want to use you as a cock-sleeve. I don't care about you at all. There's no potential for that to change, ever", you'd run. They know that... that's why he spent the past 5 weeks setting this up, leaving some room for doubt so you can keep hoping and he can keep playing. Every single girl that's ever been played like this felt the same things you do, the sam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 10:56 AM |
| 14 | Changed my age on OLD profiles to be five years olderAnd balder! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:04 AM |
| 29 | He’s BRAGGING about being LVM...somehow people see these things as a success?No brain | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 12:27 PM |
| 2 | I am so tired of being singleThis is lovely to read, thank you 🥰 It's just anecdotal, but my mom met my lovely HVM dad at 33, roughly 35 years ago. They both knew what they wanted and he proposed two weeks later. I'm 27 and I only know of one couple whose relationship I'd be content in. She met him at 36 and he was 31. They got married within a year. (As an aside, he was hotter at 31 than most guys are in their early 20's.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 09:22 PM |
| 11 | Don't get it twisted, you're a Queen.My PhD is the biggest fucking LVM-repellant known to humanity lmaoooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 03:16 AM |
| 9 | In love with my roommate... but questioning his intentions due to mixed feelings about grey area history. Bottling it up sucks, but talking about it could suck too. What do you reckon is the best route?Oh my god, stop doing this to yourself. If he wants you, he'll make sure you know. That's not what's happening here, so STOP letting him touch you. Stop letting him use you for emotional support. Stop giving him fucking girlfriend/wife benefits without the commitment. Please, please kill that spark of hope you have if it's hidden in the depths of a "grey area" that's actually just a guy using you (and no, he's not a "good guy", decent people don't lead others on). You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 05:52 PM |
| 7 | How old is everyone and does that impact strategy?I'll just stay single then 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 05:59 PM |
| 3 | How old is everyone and does that impact strategy?Omg are you me?! I'm 27 but we match up right down to the dates (long-term thing ending in 2017 and situationship in 2018 😂)! Along with a hatred of OLD and the acceptance of possibly never being in a relationship again. Genuinely wish we knew each other irl (along with most of you ladies), swear it would be instant bffs for LIFE 😂 It's crazy how common these shitty experiences with men are, seriously. I mean, it's at the point where its getting BORING. All fucking carbon-copies of each other, b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:01 PM |
| 9 | How old is everyone and does that impact strategy?27 here & they're "extremely flawed" at every age 😂🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:55 PM |
| 4 | is my boyfriend a HVM?Oh god please leave him Did you meet online by any chance? It sounds like he's too unaccomplished for someone like you to have run into him otherwise | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 01:47 PM |
| 17 | Why is the bar so low for men in the states?Same in the UK, but they're bald & have horrendous teeth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:37 PM |
| 13 | Straight Queen Shit - Dumping her LVMYeah I fucking HATE "Karen" - stand up for yourself in any way, shape or form and people will use it to shame you back into submission (but only if you're a woman!). Meanwhile, men can throw tantrums and punch walls but they're sO lOgIcAl 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:21 PM |
| 12 | My own brotherIn a perfect world 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:59 PM |
| 27 | My own brotherI'm betting she felt pretty violated after that, which wouldn't be surprising given that what your brother did took away her ability to provide informed consent. Smells like assault to me. Just like how YOU probably wouldn't have consented to sex had you know what your shitebag husband was up to... and he knew that, too - otherwise he would've told you. Just wanted to get his dick wet. Absolute scum. Its really good that you can recognize what's going on and not rationalise your brother's behavi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 10:31 PM |
| 9 | Is this a common issue? Guys doing chores/housework badly on purpose so stop asking them to do it...SO NOT ATTRACTIVE I just can't imagine how you could be sexually interested in someone who can't figure out how to wash their underwear? Cook a meal??? Wtf?????? Have you read "The Second Shift" OP? You really should, I finished it in one Saturday afternoon 😂 It explores all the ways men will shirk domestic responsibilities onto women - derailing their careers and marriages in the process. This is such a massive deal-breaker for me. I won't live with a guy I'm not engaged to (date set). I also w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:46 AM |
| 2 | I was torn with this one.Good on you for not taking the LVM bait! But I'd usually just block/delete - we really wanna avoid giving these losers a "pretending to be HVM" handbook to trick other women with (although I'm partial to a quick pre-block "fist yourself"... 😂). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:58 AM |
| 8 | Reminder not to over-investYes! But can we scribble out the long-term cohabitation? 😂🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 02:08 PM |
| 22 | I was a pickme before, but not anymore. This subreddit is helping me be better alone.Throw him away like the piece of trash he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 11:11 PM |
| 63 | Is this lvm behavior? He's been going out but taking precautions. We've had great conversation so far so I'm not sure...This guy's not gunna want to wear a condom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:06 PM |
| 6 | How do I talk myself out of online dating?I applaud and am super happy for the ladies here that have found meaningful relationships on OLD, but looking back through life I cannot think of one single "online connection" that ended up turning into something meaningful, ever (friends, partners, you name it). My past relationships have come from meeting men IRL, and I am very much the kind of person that needs to know someone very well to be attracted to them physically (I think there's a reason for that & I don't necessarily think its a ba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 10:02 PM |
| 51 | My Sweet Friend is married to a LVM.All I had to see was that he is 17 years older than her and I knew EXACTLY where this was going. Yuck 🤢🤮 Sorry you're having to witness this, and sorry she's going through it. Hopefully she'll leave sooner rather than later. It sounds like you're a great friend & she's very lucky to have you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 02:31 AM |
| 9 | 🤡 and pickmeisha 👹looking for another 👹 to join their circus 🎪I would LITERALLY rather cook rice one grain at a time 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 10:23 PM |
| 67 | I feel so bad for this girl. I hope she finds us.Yeah he just wants to fuck around with no consequences and IDEALLY not lose her emotional/physical labour. Christ, and at 16? Nah sis, go play outside & like, buy your first purse or something. Plan your future. Hang out with your friends and family. Literally no reason to waste her youth on this human-sized herpes wart. He's being manipulative and predatory. And anyone condoning open relationships is a fucking loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:37 PM |
| 125 | I feel so bad for this girl. I hope she finds us.OMG. I was reading the comments and saw a bunch rationalising open relationships. Totally almost had a stroke thinking I was still in the FDS thread & everyone had collectively lost their minds 😂😂 LOVE YOU LADIES | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:27 PM |
| 7 | How do I make more female friends? I rely too much on attention from male "friends" and that needs to change.I would honestly say, just get involved in activities you like and the friends will come naturally. Don't worry about it - just keep yourself busy for a while, say yes to invites, take opportunities to socialize, and before you know it you'll have more friends than you know what to do with 🥰 I personally love hiking (so joined a hiking group), animals (volunteered and ended up working in an evolutionary biology lab), punk concerts, and snowboarding. I also made a friend that ended up going on Bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:18 AM |
| 70 | I asked him what he thinks about #metoo and the wage gap... These are red flags right?!Oh my god, is there a fucking myoginist handbook out there for these guys to copy + paste from?? Yes OP, a wordy denial of the systemic oppression of women warrants a block/delete; feel bad for whatever PickMe he ends up with 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 10:43 PM |
| 10 | I’m moving to NYC this fall and I keep hearing that dating in NY is awful. Is finding HVM even more difficult in a place like NY?Yeah I also moved from a small town to the big city and honestly EVERY single HVM I've met has been through repetitive, real-life, interest-based activities. OLD is an especially huge shitshow in big cities like that because theres just no accountability and very little effort required to go through the LVM cycle of meeting, using, and ultimately hurting women. Edit: typo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Where are you queens going if FDS is banned?Oh I saw the website as well you guys!! Will keep my eyes peeled for that too 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 04:09 PM |
| 20 | Just started chatting yesterday.. he's a bit vain (by his own admission) and was all about how he liked me already. I kept my cool and teased him a bit and then this.. at first I gave him props for being straightforward until I realized he was just trying to set me up for just sexFORTY FIVE WHAT THE EVERLOVING FUCK 😂😂😂 Good thing this happened over text or you probably would've been distracted by the sun glistening off his receding hairline 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 12:03 AM |
| 50 | Imagine Being 30+ And Thinking Like ThisHahahahaha the ":)" 😂😂😂 I absolutely LOVE adding a little "🥰" at the end of some SAVAGE when rejecting LVM hahahaha. Pretty sure I get a burst of happiness whenever an FDSer rejects a l0sr 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 11:23 PM |
| 13 | Your friends do not exist for the sole purpose of listening to you whine about some man you don’t plan on leaving.I just filtered out the ones in relationships and ended up with 3 fantastic girlfriends 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 04:48 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 26 2020Ahhhh yes it's a possibility! I'm just hoping I can stay here as it's quite hard to find a decent place in the city (even if you have the money), and my current flat is legitimately one of the most beautiful places I've ever stayed in... and a 15 minute walk to work! (As opposed to like, an hour by bus each way 😅) But yeah, I'll just stick to my boundaries, spread the word amongst my friends, and find a place on my own if I must. I spoke to two very close friends the other day with a spare room … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 02:48 PM |
| 34 | Man wants to "nuke" marriage so he can fuck younger women. Shocked when people call him out.HA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 11:44 AM |
| 3 | Level Up AdviceUGH same girl, don't feel like you're alone. My work's been shut down for MONTHS and I'd successfully Pavlov'd myself into only being productive in a proper office, so I feel SO behind and overwhelmed with the thought of undoing all the COVID-related career damage. It's not just you, promise! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 10:09 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 26 2020I'm not sure if this belongs here, but this is maybe one of the only places I trust to actually get good advice. I live in a beautiful flat with a lovely roommate, who unfortunately may be moving away in a few months. I'm thinking about looking for a replacement and am honestly just anxious about navigating the whole process of ending up with another good roommate - you know, basically another woman that cleans up after herself and doesnt have crazy parties (not interested in the high likelihood… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 07:15 PM |
| 11 | Level Up AdviceI 100% agree - the relationships we have with animals are some of the most pure and important relationships out there! Horses > men anyday 😂🥰 (I'm a bird person myself haha) I was in a similar situation several years ago (but in the science world - was a year into a masters in my hometown, living at home, etc.). I remember the frustration of feeling "stuck" and all I would suggest is just really throwing yourself into making your dreams happen. Once you start those applications and then intervie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 06:39 PM |
| 27 | LVMs be like...100%! No words to describe how pathetic it is to see this garbage all over social media. Only positive is it's a sure fire way to immediately identify human LVM garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 05:08 PM |
| 3 | I gained weight, he checked out, I blocked his ass. Listen up, ladies!"... made him pay, go out of his way, and never fucked him." You won. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 03:53 PM |
| 12 | Hey ladies! Thought I’d just recommend a book I’ve bought recently. It’s absolutely brilliant. Loving every page. Ye should check it out.I've heard good reviews of the book, but had taken a look at Florence Given's Instagram and she seems quite... sex-positive and lib-femmy? Is the book like this too, or more in-line with FDS? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 10:23 PM |
| 29 | Advice/thoughts on the 90 days before sex rule?27 and I realized I'm PERFECTLY happy never having sex again unless it's with someone that could be a future husband. Given that the bar appears to be in the 9th circle of hell, I'm just going through life on the assumption that I'm never having sex again. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 05:16 PM |
| 53 | Amy Cooper, the woman from the Central Park birdwatching incident, also happens to be a giant pickme that paid her now ex $65,000 to leave his wifeDid you guys see that story about a married guy she worked with also coming forward and testifying to her "crazy behaviour"? I came across it a couple of days after the Central Park racism incident, and it featured the man in question coming forward all "woe is me." I tried to look it up just now, but I think it's either been buried under piles of stories about Priest, or maybe it was about the same guy. Anyways, in this earlier article, he'd also denied having anything other than a "friendship"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 03:58 PM |
| 5 | Watch out ladiesHe thinks he's special, but he's just another anxious-avoidant with mommy issues 😂 Next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 03:30 PM |
| 21 | Am I talking to a true HVM or a LVM in disguise?Hello and welcome! We're so glad you're here 🥰 The biggest red flag I've noticed is the abundance of excuses about "not having done as well as he could have" and having "plans to be a doctor." This sounds like it could go in the same category of guys living with their parents until they're in their 30's because they're "saving for a deposit" and all manner of nonsense men will feed whatever cute new thing they're dating, when actually it's all just talk. Don't fall in love with potential. This j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:45 PM |
| 4 | Online but won’t respond?Awww, you found your first avoidant! 😍 He will spend his entire life repeating this cycle with potential partners. Block & delete (they HATE that) 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 12:11 PM |
| 8 | Downvoted for pointing out this guy didn’t bother to disclose a child to his GF until four months in - even as a “sperm donor”, he took an active role in her life, and just didn’t bother to tell GF until they’d been dating for a while. Vet vet vet ladies. And everyone’s calling this guy a hero 🙄Haha exactly! Why don't they just throw in being 3 inches shorter than they said they were, unemployed, and living with their mom while they're at it? SOOO many fun potential surprises!! Which one will YOU come across??! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 04:42 PM |
| 27 | Asking for “sexy pics”I'm sure it was definitely nothing you said or did! He's probably just trying to see what he can get away with. Hate when you think you've found a good one and then they pull shit like this 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 03:23 PM |
| 29 | Downvoted for pointing out this guy didn’t bother to disclose a child to his GF until four months in - even as a “sperm donor”, he took an active role in her life, and just didn’t bother to tell GF until they’d been dating for a while. Vet vet vet ladies. And everyone’s calling this guy a hero 🙄Yes exactly! Personally, I would NEVER date a guy with children. That is my standard and it will not change. Having children is a huge thing, and the ONLY reason a man would withhold that information is because he doesn't want to compromise his chances with whatever cute new girl he's seeing... otherwise, why hide it? It is SO manipulative. As an aside, I know it's not really relevant to the situation above, BUT... I am a million times more sympathetic to single moms. I know there are exceptions… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Guy trying to maintain conversation between dates via text but it's annoyingYES definitely this! Subtle negging and would avoid my questions (straight up ignore) to spout off whatever dumb shit he wanted to focus on. Oh, another one was making stupid jokes that I wouldn't understand, or using really obscure slang (both specific to his tiny corner of the world, knowing full well that without any context or an explanation no one here would understand him) in an effort to make me feel stupid. I was so annoyed but then would feel guilty and honestly wondered if he was on th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 12:38 PM |
| 9 | Just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. I’m typing this from the bar, drunk.Good job!! Stay strong and lean on friends/family if needed; pour all that time and energy you were spending on him into yourself. Don't backslide, even if it's tough sometimes, and hold out for what you deserve!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 09:43 PM |
| 4 | I use art to stop myself from craving male validation.This is beautiful!! Love it 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 09:36 PM |
| 5 | Don't explain, don't justify, don't reason. Give the gift of your absence to those who do not respect or appreciate your presence.Aaaahh thank you! I'll be doing this the next time I'm tempted to send ANYTHING to a scrote 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Guy trying to maintain conversation between dates via text but it's annoyingYeah I spoke to someone like this for a while - relentless annoying texting, but he'd try to control the conversation entirely, subtle negging (I wondered if it was just poor social skills). I couldn't really find the words to describe it, but I had a bad feeling so I blocked him on WhatsApp after a couple of weeks. He texts me apologizing and saying he really liked me, etc. so I gave it another go. The negging got worse and he ended up just being an asshole putting on a front. OP, it sounds lik… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 03:52 PM |
| 5 | I’m off the blame game.HAHAHA 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 03:27 PM |
| 7 | “Just ask me” but “you don’t know yet” and it will “almost never work out” anyway.Ew lol, complete with a receding hairline 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 04:58 PM |
| 8 | Me: a mentally and emotionally tired black woman; Him: a white man with no understanding of boundariesHe's literally just throwing shit at the wall to see what sticks 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Bet this guy would have 0 qualms about having sex while “hanging out”Lol bye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:26 AM |
| 8 | When I first saw the comment I thought it was a joke.... then the picture. #CancelMen2020Hahaha I once had a guy send me a creepy Facebook message, so I screenshot it and posted it on his wall, captioned "Oh goodness, were you hacked? I got these horrible messages from your account! Should probably get that sorted, don't want this freak making your friends uncomfortable x" 😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:17 AM |
| 5 | Feminist Waves happen when women collectively realize that their individual issues are actually pervasive cultural problems. Men try to prevent this by blaming women for men’s behavior and pretending like it’s solely a personal problem.Ahhh yes - there was a post (on FDS! 😔) and in the comments someone was saying that "if you're going on all these dates and having all these negative experiences, then maybe it's not the men's fault, the common denominator is you" blablabla bs nonsense. We've probably all heard that before elsewhere, nothing new... but it just INFURIATED me. Like yeah, its easy to get gaslit into questioning yourself when that happens and you're naive or new to dating or whatever, but both here and in real life,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Ivy League Liberal Feminist Nutbag Laurie Shrage advocates for “Financial Abortions” for men in the NYT. Do women like this live in reality?I got an undergrad and an MSc from a small liberal arts university (working class background; immigrant parents, worked several jobs, that whole shpeel) and a PhD from a top 20 university in the world (massive scholarship). Can confirm the top school had students that were both more lazy and less intelligent, hahaha 😂😂 Like holy shit you guys I couldn't even, it was LAUGHABLE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 12:38 AM |
| 39 | Man has sex with a stranger who he doesn’t know and she has to tell him to wear a condom. Man is shocked she gets pregnant and begs for abortion. Woman (op) refuses as this is a miracle for her. LWM and pickmes cry woman is asshole for wanting child support.bUt HiS PEEEPEEEEEEEE 😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 10:11 PM |
| 50 | Hello, r/RedPillWomen. 🎉GOOD NEWS🎉 After 9 years of dating, my Captain finally gave me a promise ring! 😊 I've never been happier in my life😊Hahaha I'll email her FOR YOU 😂 I snorted at the "balding guy that sees marriage "someday"" visual, thank you 😂😂 Really LOATHE how women are conditioned to believe our entire worth hinges on getting "picked" by ANY man. I bet she spends all her mental energy trying to keep him happy/get him to commit when she probably could've spent that doing great things with her life. Willing to bet her career/hobbies/any aspirations ground to a halt as soon as she found her receding-hairline-"prize" 🙄 Bet he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 01:51 PM |
| 58 | Hello, r/RedPillWomen. 🎉GOOD NEWS🎉 After 9 years of dating, my Captain finally gave me a promise ring! 😊 I've never been happier in my life😊Omg did you post about him before?? I think I remember that 😂 EW | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 01:10 PM |
| 28 | He also said women shouldn't wear t-shirts when they go out. 🙄Negging. Next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 09:50 AM |
| 15 | I kicked my narcissist LVM of 6 years out of my apartment after breakup and now regret it?I'm so glad you reached out; we'll always be here to support you 🥰 You are SO young, and the way you're feeling is VERY normal. He literally groomed you to feel this way, lovebombing you in the beginning and then treating you like garbage for years. If you start to slip, try to look at this relationship more objectively - you know any relationship with cheating and abuse like this is irreparably broken. There is no coming back from that... "low-value" doesn't even begin to describe it. Surround … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 06:54 PM |
| 154 | Got tired of waiting for him to plan a vacation for us, so I booked an all-inclusive vacation by myselfThe "change" in men like this is temporary, promise! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 06:30 PM |
| 5 | Reconnect to old friendThis. I've personally heard the "saving for a deposit" shpeel from so many grown men living with their parents over the years. Not a single one has bought a house. They were all just deadbeats leaching off other people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 11:09 AM |
| 7 | Always look into a man's background!Lol girl I got downvoted a couple of weeks ago for suggesting a man should want his date to get home safely. You're right on point here; probably just some scrotes and new members that still need to shake off old pick-me ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 08:35 PM |
| 6 | Kids = non-negotiable for me personallyYeah! Also... if you couldn't make it work with the kid's mom, what makes you think you could make it work with me (a woman you just met)? Fuck off, loser. Either you made shite decisions that led to a family you weren't ready for (likely abandoned at the expense of the poor woman you had said family with), or you plain old can't follow through on your commitments. Will never date a guy with kids. NEVER. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Kids = non-negotiable for me personallyYeah, he's not stupid - he was leaving that information out for a reason... wanted to get you hooked before he revealed something he knew might be a deal-breaker. I know some people are happy in mixed-family relationships. I would not be. Not interested in playing mommy to someone else's kid (whilst playing mommy-bangmaid to the dad). Fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 07:26 PM |
| 3 | NVM ignores gf who DROVE hours to see him to play some video game.Hahahaha I almost spewed out my sangria chuckling at your flair 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 10:20 PM |
| 13 | In need of some support/advice for wishy washy new guy...The dread game description is spot on! I also spoke to a guy like this last summer, but for several months - told me alllll about his childhood traumas, secrets, goals, etc. just to play hot-and-cold later. Your situation sounds much newer, but similar. To me personally, this reeks of avoidant-anxious attachment. I see this behaviour (and the guy attached) as psychologically unhealthy. I personally value consistency, and now block on the first day of silence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 10:05 AM |
| 106 | I don't know who else needs to hear this but...Blocking inconsistent guys is THE biggest power move 😎💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 08:33 PM |
| 4 | TW: description of rape. Should I Report my Rapist?Yes definitely! It's true that the process would be gruelling and traumatic and, in the end, unlikely to give you the result you want. I 100% understand your anxiety and don't blame you for being terrified of coming forward. Joining a women's group might at least let you combat sexual assault/rape in other ways, by helping other women who have gone through the same thing. It might at least help you heal, and ideally feel like you've gotten some of that agency back 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 12:09 PM |
| 3 | TW: description of rape. Should I Report my Rapist?Also I'm aware I'm just a stranger on the internet, but I'm here if you need someone to talk to 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:14 AM |
| 11 | TW: description of rape. Should I Report my Rapist?I'm so sorry you went through this 😥 It's totally normal to worry about not being the "perfect victim" during a situation like this, not fighting it, agreeing to see him again, etc., but the type of scenario you're talking about is extremely common (namely, a man pressuring, manipulating, and terrorizing you in order to trample over your boundaries). It would be very stressful to move forward with this, but I hope you do. I would probably start with contacting several attorneys in your area and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:03 AM |
| 20 | Ladies what do you think of this?is this FDS approved?Someone sent this to me months ago and I just KNEW from the moment I saw it it'd end up on here 😂👏💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 10:25 PM |
| 31 | It Seems Men Are Allowed To Have Their Financial Deal Breakers But We Aren't?Maybe if that author had a degree in [whatever]-studies, he'd be able to spell "ignore". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with someone with no car?Omg this comment makes me so happy to see 😂 You go girl! That's your gut telling you something important - if that's what you need to be attracted to someone, don't settle 😇😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Dealing with someone with no car?That's terrible, I'm so sorry 😔 glad he's in your past, what a loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 04:07 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with someone with no car?Yes, thank you! 👏👏👏 Literally PHYSICALLY cheered reading your comment 😂 I got downvoted above for saying that, at the very least, a man buying his date a bus ticket (in a city where buses late at night aren't safe) is not acceptable (should be ordering you an Uber). I can't 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 03:42 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020Yes definitely! But the saddest thing is that I'm sure if they were out with a friend or sibling or whatever that was in that situation, most women (myself included) would make sure they got home safe without a second thought. But when it comes to men, they just can't imagine holding them to 1/10th of the standard they hold themselves to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 03:37 PM |
| 37 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020I've noticed that a lot of new people are joining (yay!), but it's hard not to notice that there are a lot of comments borderline shaming basic FDS principles. There was a post in which OP asked about whether it was reasonable to expect a date to pay for an Uber home (e.g., if a date ran late) & alluded to buses in her city being unsafe. I was downvoted for saying that yes, her expectations were reasonable: an HVM should want to make sure his date gets home safely and shouldn't try to just send … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 01:32 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with someone with no car?Hey OP! If in your city, with your background, you feel as though a guy needs to be in a place in life to have his own car in order for you to be attracted to him, then you're entitled to having that as a personal standard. Don't let scrotes or pick-me's try to shame you out of that. Also... you alluded to taking the bus late at night in your city being potentially unsafe. I have NEVER been on a date where the guy didn't make sure I got home safely (if it was needed, e.g., the date ran late into… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 01:21 PM |
| 1 | Coronavirus is forcing people to take things slow with dating, pro or con, ladies?I don't even have to imagine 😅🤦♀️🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 11:52 AM |
| 3 | Dealing with someone with no car?Ugh, that's the worst! I honestly just thought it was common courtesy to get someone an Uber? I've done it for several friends before. If they can't afford to do it, they should get their financial situation sorted prior to dating. Lol @ getting downvoted for suggesting that a man should make sure you get home safely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 11:38 AM |
| 4 | Coronavirus is forcing people to take things slow with dating, pro or con, ladies?Right?! It's like this pandemic has given them a way to be even more low-effort which I DID NOT THINK WAS POSSIBLE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 10:33 AM |
| 3 | Dude seemed really nice at first and then...Hello yes just chiming in to say I got waaaay too excited seeing two more Canadians on here, HELLO FROM THE UK 😍 Edit: Where I'm living now, so I can extra sentimental about all things maple syrup-related 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 01:12 AM |
| 23 | I keep getting flaked/cancelled on. Guys making zero effortOh my god it's not just you! I feel this way too; OLD's like the LVM parade and this kind if shit happens CONSTANTLY, all the time. Just be glad you didn't waste more time on these losers, and definitely take a break if you're feeling burnt out. These guys will happily line up to drain you of a few weeks worth of attention/validation for the rest of your life, if you let them. Just keep doing you; I'm sure you'll stumble across someone HV eventually 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 11:17 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with someone with no car?From your edits, it sounds like someone HV in your city should have a car. Also, yes they should order you an Uber (I just cringed imagining a guy trying to get away with sending you on a bus at NIGHT, OH MY GOD 😤🤦♀️🤦♀️) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 10:13 PM |
| 17 | Coronavirus is forcing people to take things slow with dating, pro or con, ladies?Look, getting to know someone before ANY physical intimacy takes place is very important, and anyone following FDS has always said no to sex before several months had passed and relationship status. It doesn't matter what other people are doing or how quickly guys are trying to get their dicks wet, we stay in public for dates & we say no to anything physical. This pandemic hasn't changed that. But you can't really get to know someone over text, or even over Skype. That has to happen in-person, w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 10:09 PM |
| 31 | What do you guys think of him? We are going on a first date tomorrow in public (stores are opening up!)To me, what you've got in quotations reads as "ghost me after I pay for your dinner" 😘😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 08:26 PM |
| 65 | What do you guys think of him? We are going on a first date tomorrow in public (stores are opening up!)Yes be careful with the "don't know yet" regardless; unless you're in a relationship and it's been several months! The smart ones ALL behave in the beginning. Enjoy your date 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 08:20 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/22/2020Hello! You must be new here 😊 Give it a few weeks and read some other posts - your situation is not uncommon! This is a common LVM/emotional abuser tactic to gaslight you into believing whatever was wrong with the relationship was your fault. He'll soon treat her the same way he treated you - they don't change. It's the same shit, over and over again, relationship after relationship. If a guy's an adult and he's still broken, he's broken for life. You're the lucky one - you got away. Enjoy your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 07:22 PM |
| 39 | Dealing with someone with no car?I have lived in both a small city (spread out over a huge area) and a large, crowded (yet walkable) European city. If you're in a place with limited public transit and cars are just the default means of getting around, then I think any adult with their shit together should have one. In my hometown, most of the people who didn't have a car were just... deadbeat dusties - certainly not the kinds of people that anyone HV should be dating. To me, having a car in a place like this would be a sign of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 03:34 PM |
| 3 | Hey Queens! Please check out the official FDS Social Media Accounts!Yaaaay so excited to follow religiously on ALL THE PLATFORMS 😍🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:46 PM |
| 25 | How to deal with men who are thirsty AFHahaha "give them Pizza Hut" 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 04:37 PM |
| 11 | I am in a state of shock...and disgustYeah exactly this - and in any situation like this that I've experienced, the overwhelming initial response I've felt is immediate fear/anxiety, even more so when it's someone you know and they can potentially impact your life (& especially your professional life/livelihood). I suspect that OP's response was a knee-jerk reaction coming from a place of self-preservation - I'm sure if it was some guy she'd never have to see/talk to again, e.g., over text with someone she met via OLD, she certainly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 11:54 PM |
| 10 | After he revealed he isn't actually a welder, he's saving for school.SMH do they think we're fucking stupid?? Like, I've had this happen with multiple people; if you're that ashamed of what you actually do, level up? Suppose lying just takes less effort 😂 "Engineer" exhibit A: turned out to do maintenance at a local high school. Sweeping fucking floors doesn't count as engineering, and lying about that alone was such a turn off to me that I ghosted as soon as I found out. "Engineer" exhibit B: turned out to work at a dildo factory. 🚮🚮🚮 Get. In. The. Bin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 07:33 PM |
| 3 | If there's no ring, don't treat him like your husbandAwww that's so good to hear!! Thanks for sharing all the green flags; so glad you've found a good one 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 07:06 PM |
| 9 | After he revealed he isn't actually a welder, he's saving for school.LOLOL I actually can't get over this jaw-dropping stupid/narcissist combo, seriously 😂 Next time just be like "I'm taking steps to become the president." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 06:17 PM |
| 17 | If there's no ring, don't treat him like your husbandAccording to FDS, is living together after engagement (with a wedding date set) acceptable? I've read the handbook & want to make sure I didn't miss anything. I just want to avoid the fucktastrophe that would be marrying someone just to have them end up a slob. I think it's a legitimate thing to look out for, as I worry even men who are capable of living as functional adults independently (clean house, cook their food, etc. - all that other "bare muminimum" shit) may backside when moving in with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:55 PM |
| 16 | After he revealed he isn't actually a welder, he's saving for school.My personal favourite are the degree-less construction workers that describe themselves as "engineers". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:42 PM |
| 27 | Planned to go horse riding Thursday. First date. Did I over react?Ohhh yeah, at first I wasn't sure, but since you've already spoken to him about it and he's continued to disrespect your boundaries I'd say you absolutely did the right thing here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 01:04 PM |
| 6 | If you don't want a diamond ring...Ammolite is also beautiful! And it's interesting: basically fossilized shellfish that took an eternity to form in perfect conditions that could only be found in one strip of the Rocky Mountains. There's a truly finite supply of it, too. Always thought it'd be really nice in a ring 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 12:30 PM |
| 63 | What’s your opinion on flirtatious teasing?I find a really good way to figure out if a joke (or any interaction) is acceptable is to just out yourself in their shoes and consider if you'd ever say that to someone, and how saying that thing would reflect the respect you'd feel for that person. That being said, 11 years older?! This guy ain't it sis 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 12:00 PM |
| 45 | LVM try to turn the tables after you reject themNo I didn't! I mean, I wanted to (the AUDACITY), but pretty sure it hurt him more to be totally discarded than to have me argue back. Sticking to that FDS bible 😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:57 PM |
| 1 | What are the benefits of going no contact?Stay strong! If it was a long relationship and you trauma-bonded, our brains can respond to no contact the same way they respond to withdrawal from a drug. The only thing that will make this better is time. I also found that exercising (walks outside in the sunshine) helps in these kinds of situations, as does filling up your time with loved ones (friends and family)! Production-based hobbies (for example, playing an instrument, art) can be really rewarding too. You can do this 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:23 PM |
| 68 | LVM try to turn the tables after you reject themThis actually just happened to me! I was speaking with a guy for a couple of months, but he was an infuriating combination of dull with sprinkles of relentless negging. He tried to take up all my time with nonsense texting about the most superficial bullshit. At first I felt bad at the thought of blocking him, and wondered if he just needed some time to because less shy/awkward, or whatever (not making that mistake again...). Anyways, eventually I just couldn't take it anymore and told him I did… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:18 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 5/13/2020Ugh yes! Knowing you're straight but just feeling a mixture of contempt and disgust regardless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:18 AM |
| 3 | And that is on building self-love first.Awww so nice to see FDS women supporting each other 🥰 same, if you need someone to talk to I'm here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 02:40 PM |
| 11 | IF HE WON’T COMMIT LEAVE HIMThis!! I am goddamn incensed by the future faking, over and over again, they're so predictable 🙄 Waiting 3-4 months prior to any kind of intimacy tends to be a great first step to weeding those morons out though, thank you FDS 👌👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 01:50 PM |
| 7 | Help breaking free from internalized sexual expectations?I agree that a good female therapist is an absolute must right now. I haven't been in your situation personally, but I've found that a really good way to start dismantling the habit of objectifying yourself/truly understanding that you deserve better is to imagine how you'd feel if your daughter was going through this (or a young version of your mother, or your sister, any close female relative that you love unconditionally and furiously). I picture how my parents would feel about me entering in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 09:28 AM |
| 33 | Congrats on 70k+ Members!It's so great to find like-minded women that promote standards the rest of the world's spent our entire lives trying to convince us are impossible to meet. Love you ladies, so glad you're out there 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 04:00 PM |
| 12 | Female PhD candidate is a club dancer at night because she does not get paid enough as a graduate student, another woman calls this empowering...Yes definitely! And unfortunately there's a lot of "old boy's club" nonsense going on in research still, with credit/project leadership going to men and women getting thankless labour/less promising work thrown at them, which then of course translates to an even crappier situation with stipends, even as students. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 10:06 PM |
| 41 | Female PhD candidate is a club dancer at night because she does not get paid enough as a graduate student, another woman calls this empowering...PhD here. Nothing empowering about irrevocably destroying your career & reputation whilst catering to herpes-infested men because you can't otherwise put food on the table #glassceiling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 09:54 PM |
| 10 | He's kinda cute, but I'm not the mother type...lolIf he hadn't turned it into an Oedipus thing, for sure an instant left-swipe... but at least this one's got a sense of humour 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 02:01 AM |
| 42 | Have any of y'all ever exposed a man to his gf?Ugh this is nonsense! Sounds like she was a crap friend to begin with. A friend of my sister's had a friend whose husband tried flirting it up with her, and when she told the wife it was the same thing: she basically was frozen out of the friendship, and the couple are still together. Gross. Trash took itself out here; now you can fill the space with happy, confident women in healthy relationships (either with HVMs or with themselves) 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 01:21 PM |
| 78 | Have any of y'all ever exposed a man to his gf?I have in the past, and a part of me feels some resistance to doing so in the future as the reaction was the same as the other comments here describe. However, I have been cheated on in the past... by a man who had a full-blown affair with someone who knew about me. She took a "not my fault, not my problem" attitude with the concept that she may have been involved in hurting another woman, and hid it with him for months. She was a sex-positive, freedom-loving "feminist". She felt she had every r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 12:56 PM |
| 3 | Do LVM treat women differently based on their attractiveness level?Ahahahaha I just spewed coffee everywhere, thank you 😂😂💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 11:51 PM |
| 7 | Do LVM treat women differently based on their attractiveness level?Aww yeah exactly, just projecting your own kindness and good intentions onto other people 😔 but really though, I don't understand how it's a thing, it's SUCH a turnoff. IMMEDIATELY gives that class-A vagina-drier feeling 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 08:29 PM |
| 66 | Do LVM treat women differently based on their attractiveness level?Superficially, yes. Really? Nope! Trust me, pllleaseeee, attractive women do not have an easier time dating! LVM's are everywhere and they'll be nicer for like 2 weeks, after which they'll revert back to crappy LVM behaviour. Some of the biggest differences in the early stages include, for example, pretending not to be depraved for like 2 days of texting (as opposed to sending an immediate dick pick, or a lewd remark, or whatever), but that's literally them just trying to con you into giving the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 05:27 PM |
| 14 | In need of a little encouragementI know feelings can cloud our judgement when we're in the thick of things, but imagine yourself listening to a friend telling you this story. It's so textbook - he's obviously 100% broken, and all guys like this are good for is wasting your time. You're going to cut contact and you're going to feel sad for a while, but then you're going to surround yourself with hobbies and people who love you (digitally for now) until you stumble across someone that's going to make you wonder what you ever saw … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 11:05 PM |
| 7 | Book Review: Distancing by Martin KantorWow thank you! Right up my alley, will give it a read 😊 (Also 100% confirming my suspicions - just moved to a big city after growing up in fairly small places and LORD I just can't. Even. 😂) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 06:09 PM |
| 9 | How do you deal with shitty In-Laws of your HVM partner ?This! I was in a relationship with a guy who had a terrible SIL. Everyone else was great, but she'd make these passive aggressive jabs at other family members, myself included, and my boyfriend at the time wouldn't say anything. It reeked of cowardice and ultimately massacred any attraction I had for him. A HVM would manage his relationship with his family like an adult, and would not allow them to disrespect you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 05:25 PM |
| 7 | Professionally ambitious women really only have two options when it comes to their personal partners — a super-supportive partner or no partner at all.I know!! I can't handle gamers anymore; any mention of that to me just morphs the guy into a walking, talking vagina-drier 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:03 PM |
| 74 | Professionally ambitious women really only have two options when it comes to their personal partners — a super-supportive partner or no partner at all.Yeah... I dated an LVM who was extremely openly supportive of my schooling/achievements, but ONLY as long as he was objectively more successful. A few years down the line his career hit a snag and he essentially put all his newly-found free time into sabotaging mine. He'd become angry when I didn't give up time I didn't have to watch him play videogames and constantly made snide remarks about me "always studying" and that making him feel as though he "didn't matter". In the end, he had an affair… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:02 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/20/2020You may not want to hear this, but it sounds like you're putting a lot of emotional labour into something that's not going to go anywhere. Sure, this is great for HIM - must be nice to hang out with a pretty girl, no commitment established, right after a breakup. Probably's really helping his confidence AND it's cheaper than therapy! Guys that are fresh out of something are a red flag, in my opinion. Getting to know each other genuinely before getting into something serious is fine, but you need… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 04:49 PM |
| 24 | Dating and looking low maintenanceOh, also I've got a doctorate, work as a professional in a fairly posh city, and my style's "classy" as well - silk blouses, pearl necklaces, pencil skirts - that sort of thing. AND IT DOESN'T MATTER BECAUSE LVM'S GUNNA LVM 😂 So just be yourself and keep those standards high! Filter through the shitty ones and your chances of finding a HVM are much higher 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 05:48 PM |
| 38 | Dating and looking low maintenanceThis exactly! Mid-20's, blonde, thin, conventionally ultra-attractive woman speaking here... dating sucks for us too. My friends that appear more "plain" (still very beautiful in my opinion, but you catch my drift) are immediately contacted with those lewd, pervy, ultra-disrespectful messages, and it LOOKS different from my end because I have an inbox full of guys trying to put on this "prince charming" act... but they're usually the same guys, after the same thing. All it means is we have to pu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Giga Stacy PickmesExactly this! It's dangerous and toxic to tell girls otherwise - leads to self-esteem issues tied in with the idea that being conventionally beautiful will solve all their dating woes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 12:45 PM |
| 50 | Giga Stacy PickmesCareful with this mindset - just because you're conventionally attractive as a woman doesn't mean you will be treated better by more men, and it's very important that you don't think that's the case, as you NEED to avoid letting your guard down. If anything, your vetting process should be more stringent as it will be very likely that you'll be attracting a lot of LVMs that will tell you whatever you'd like to hear to get into your pants. If a broken guy hates women and refuses to see them as hum… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Men over 50 who have never marriedIt's possible you might meet a man like this that is actually a HVM and genuinely good person. It's also possible an older man like this that's never married is a commitment-phobe. I would also be wary if you're dealing with a never-before-married man who's had one or more long-term relationships lasting several years each, especially if you're looking for marriage. This kind of man (I call them "stringers") enjoys all the benefits of commitment/having a wife (sharing a home with a woman that li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 08:10 PM |
| 1 | If lying to women is normal to you there’s something seriously wrong with you. If you brag about tricking women, you’re a disgusting excuse for a ‘man.’ You males need a life outside of porn and penis (LOPP).Hey, I just wanted to offer some support. I'm really sorry this happened to you, and I hope you've recovered and are faring well emotionally (and physically) now. Lying with the purpose of manipulating someone into intimacy with you is absolutely sexual assault - you are taking away their ability to offer informed consent, much like poking holes in a condom, or removing a condom during sex, or lying about having an STI takes away a victim's ability to offer informed consent. Do not let anyone te… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 10:30 AM |
| 17 | Boys after you treat them how they treat youHahaha your flair 😂😂❤👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 05:17 PM |
| 10 | Is it concerning that I can't find him online?It may be fine - but I just want to add the one experience I had with someone like this (pre-FDS days). I had been seeing someone for several months and only had him on WhatsApp. I also could not find him anywhere online. He ghosted me after we became intimate and, seeing as I could not find him on any social media, I had no way to contact him afterwards. Several weeks later, I had a suggested friend come up on my Facebook feed. I did not recognize her, but looked at her profile regardless. We h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 11:28 PM |
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