Pressure to take hormonal birth control

OrangeyPanda · 2021-09-12T01:09:43+00:00

Also, being in a committed relationship or marriage doesn't mean they don't have to use condoms anymore. Dear women: your health and comfort is important at EVERY stage of your life no matter what relationship a man has to you.

kitnb · 2021-09-12T01:55:47+00:00

I’ve been pressured for ages to take “the pill” by scrotes that don’t want to wear condoms and share the burden of protection. I nexted those guys quickly.

But what I’m seeing now is a disturbing amount of scrotes that want to bareback out of the gate trying to get casual sex from me. GTFOH. 🤡

Nowadays, when I’m talking to men and they say they don’t use condoms or to “just take the pill”, I say:

“Your dirty little dick isn’t worth risking my life for! BOY, BYE!”

Block and delete, sis.

peasbwitu · 2021-09-11T23:14:16+00:00

More articles if others would like more info. They really aren't telling women all the long term implications. Look into the Essure cases, where doctors were shooting little coils into women's uteruses and missing the tubes.

https://verilymag.com/2016/07/side-effects-of-the-pill-hormonal-contraceptives-birth-control-womens-health-fertility-awareness

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20180822-the-birth-control-pill-can-have-male-side-effects

lansburysoda · 2021-09-12T05:22:10+00:00

Forcing the pill on millions of young women is the height of misogyny and no one can change my mind.

glowmilk · 2021-09-12T12:29:10+00:00

Men should be using condoms whether you’re on the pill or not (STIs still exist!). I’m on the pill for the sake of my own health and well-being, not for the convenience of any man. Whether I’m single or in a relationship, I’m on the pill so that I don’t have to deal with harrowing period pain and can better manage my cycle.

In Japan, condoms are actually preferred by nearly 80% of married women and only 2.2% of women are even on the pill. For those that are, it is usually for the treatment of menstrual issues (period pain, irregular cycle, endometriosis, etc) not for contraceptive purposes. The idea that contraception is the women’s responsibility is not popular in Japan at all. If the man wants to have sex, then he should wear a condom.

Honestly, no man is worth being on hormonal birth control for and there’s no way I’d be on the pill if it wasn’t for managing my cycle and not wanting to deal with the pain. I don’t experience any negative side effects, but there’s no way I’d commit myself to taking regular medication just so a man can ejaculate in me freely and avoid taking any responsibility during sex. It’s so sad to see posts online about 16 year old girls wanting to be on the pill because their boyfriend wants to start having sex. Most children don’t even get a proper sex education at school. They don’t know about consent or STIs but somehow, girls are always brought up to believe that it is solely their responsibility to ensure they don’t get pregnant.

ComprehensiveAmoeba9 · 2021-09-11T23:00:41+00:00

Being on the pill for a long amount of time can have some really devastating effects. It can really mess with your mental and physical health so feeling pressured to be on birth control because your partner claims “the sensation is not as good with a condom” is not empowering. If a partner complains about having to wear a condom, next him, he doesn’t give a shit about your health, he is putting his own pleasure above your well being.

This is another reason why I stopped engaging in casual sex and hookup culture. The majority of those men won’t wear protection, even with complete strangers! That’s how little they care about their own health and yours. I remember one guy I had a one time fling with several years back saying how he slept with 15 other women in the past year and he didn’t wear protection with any of them, he just expected them to be on the pill. I hurried up and got tested for STDs after that because I was horrified, thank god I was clean. I never did a random hookup again after that.

oceanstains · 2021-09-12T15:47:08+00:00

Woman: I’ve been on birth control for our entire relationship

Society: as you should, good for you for being safe.

Man: I’ve used condoms our entire relationship

Society: aww, poor guy! Why would your gf do that to you :/ tell her to get on BC

literal_salamander · 2021-09-12T13:55:25+00:00

Honestly, I'm torn about the whole hormonal birth control thing. It's been a HUGE boon for a few generations of women now, freed from the drudgery of multiple unwanted pregnancy and shackled to the father of the children. I dread to think of the possibility of getting pregnant and having a child with any of my ex's. The pill saved me from that fate back in my PickMe days, when I would have let a man get away with murder to be "picked".

On the other hand, now that I am firm in my standards and happy with my life single...I notice how much of an effect HBC had on me. I was on the pill for over 10 years, struggled with mild to moderate depression and blah-ness most of the time. Now that I'm off the pill, I notice I get the full range of emotions in the month - the "on top of the world can do anything" to the "blah I don't feel like doing much today". It's especially noticeable in my sport - during my period and a few days before I have worse balance, less coordination etc.

I honestly think many women don't notice the slide into blah-ness on the pill.

What's the answer? IMO, until you are not afraid to be single and celibate, enforce boundaries and drop men who don't take responsibility for birth control on their end, you probably should be on the pill or HBC. Lest you get saddled with an unplanned pregnancy. Because that will derail your life.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-09-12T04:47:37+00:00

If you're on the pill, a scrote will think: ha, I can go raw now.

There are many pregnancy cases that happened while on the pill.

Not to mention the risk of STDs is 100%.

If he wants to go barrier free but never went to the doctor and took a full panel of blood tests for STDs and STIs and HIV or didn't want to take one together, at the same time, dump his ass.

It's common knowledge the side effects of the pill on women. There are some benefits but they never thought of engineering the pill to make it better. If you open the prescription you'll see the side effects roll on 3 more pages.

That's so he can raw-dog you?

Nah🤡

The men need to take more responsibility and commit to condoms and BC for men. 100% the burden of BC fell on the woman. This is why men feel entitled not only to sex or to women's bodies in general but to go condom-less.

warinmymind94 · 2021-09-12T22:47:48+00:00

Funny how men are like "get on the pill"....

Yet they don't want to drive you to the appointments at the doctor. They don't want to pay for the doctor appointment or if you have to pay out of pocket towards birth control. I remember my friend was dating a dude and paid over $1000 out of pocket to get her IUD put in and had her mom drive her, offer moral support, her mom gave her some money towards it because she was in college and strapped financially, and her mom drove her home and made sure she was feeling okay... the lvm couldn't be bothered to do any of that and yet she was doing it for HIS pleasure

They want to ride raw but won't open their wallets, won't take time out if their day to help with appointments or pick anything up from the pharmacy or even just pick up dinner. Lol gtfo

I was a low income woman for a little. I had no insurance for a while. Scrote didn't even want to give me the $20 a month for the pill I was on to protect myself.

They can't even wash their dicks or wear clean underwear... they'll give you a yeast infection or UTI but he won't buy you a gentle wash for down there or pick up monostat

Thered311 · 2021-09-12T05:43:32+00:00

I just listened to this really interesting podcast on hormonal BC pills.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/25KOibJ2uC9QqbUST6eahm?si=g_nJbCz5RBaDM0bB8jFHAA&dl_branch=1

muiegarda1 · 2021-09-12T10:46:28+00:00

No sausage is worth taking birth control for

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-09-12T16:26:43+00:00

Thank you for this. I stopped taking the pill years ago after it gave me severe gallbladder issues (anyone remember Yaz?) I had an intensely shaming conversation with women I thought were friends once where I mentioned it and they made me feel so awful that I've never spoken about it again with friends.

VS377 · 2021-09-12T16:17:08+00:00

What scares me the most is how accepted going w/o any contraception is. I’ve been on the pill since I was 15 because of my truly awful periods, so I’m extremely thankful that it exists and is so easily accessible. However, I’ve known loads of women who rely solely on the pull out method, even with guys they just met. I’ve had way too many conversations with friends in which I was practically begging them to go on the pill or use condoms so they AT LEAST don’t get pregnant and essentially throw their life away so young. The response is always that it’s only one time (it never is) and that the risk is perfectly fine with them if it makes the guy happy.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 and 1/2 years, and even though I’m on the pill he still also pulls out. I think it’s absolutely crazy how flippant so many people (men & women) are about the possibility of pregnancy or STIs, especially when the sex is usually terrible and 100% not worth the risk.

DifferentBar6 · 2021-09-12T20:55:19+00:00

The pill has side effects.

Not using a condom has risks.

Don't risk your health for any man.

If they won't use a condom, they're not worth it.

randomgirl34861 · 2021-09-12T06:30:19+00:00

Wish we would talk about the unfair burden of contraception on women more often!!!!!

I take the Pill and I use condoms. Correctly Every time. From start to finish. When I am married and finished having children, my husband can decide to have a vasectomy if he would like regular, unprotected sex. Until then….it’s simply not an option 🤷‍♀️

I take the Pill for me. I’m aware it comes with risks, and I grew so sick of waking up every day, looking in the mirror and seeing a face full of acne that I am willing to take those risks. That’s my choice and it doesn’t have to have any correlation to my other choice to refuse sex without proper protection. I will not allow someone to disrespect me by taking my need for sex to be protected less seriously because of a pill I take.

ChocolateBiscuit96 · 2021-09-12T22:37:59+00:00

One dude always told me how much he wanted to ——in me. Never said anything about wearing a condom or even me using birth control… I would never take BC, but there were no precautionary measures taken on his side. All he thought of was sex and obviously sought to put his pleasure above my own, and he totally ignored the potential risk of getting pregnant. What a POS. I didn’t let him get any btw.

thowawaywookie · 2021-09-14T22:28:05+00:00

More men should get vasectomies.

I've listened to so many women who are done having children and they want to get off the birth control and they ask their husbands to get a vasectomy and he refuses.

I'd be furious to have gone through several pregnancies with all the possible risks that go along with it maybe having c section, but he won't spend 20 minutes in the doctor's office getting the snip.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-09-12T18:49:52+00:00

After editing an environmental health publication for 12 years (never mind my typos-- I was never a copy editor or grammar cop) and reading so many studies and anecdotes and hearing from integrative doctors, I suspect most of the health problems that drive women to take the pill-- from PCOS to depression to cystic acne to period pain-- could often be more safely treated through changes in diet, reduction of toxic exposure and professional detox.

I met only one GYN who was open to the idea that toxins and environmental exposure to hormone disruptors in plastics, household chemicals and pesticides, metalo-estrogens in aluminum and mercury and synth hormones in conventional meat, dairy and eggs could be contributing to the increase of PCOS and virtual epidemic of male fertility issues. But I guess it's not that shocking that these risks are not taught in medical training institutions that are largely sponsored by pharma and various toxic industries.

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Competitive_Bar8657 · 2021-10-27T14:22:58+00:00

I’ve noticed that lots of young-er women I spoke to said they don’t use condoms at all and she just gets on the pill. It “feels better for bf and less messy”.

Title	Pressure to take hormonal birth control
Author	peasbwitu
Upvotes	558
Comments	56
Date	September 11, 2021 10:27 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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