I've been experiencing this quite a bit lately (or maybe I always have but because I usually keep my headphones on and mind my own business, I don't often hear what is being said). I was wondering if other people had experienced this, and what tips you may have on coping/getting past it.
I am used to men ogling at me in public, and it gets particularly disturbing when said men are with their gfs/wives. I actively ignore them and turn away from them but they will keep ogling.
The worst is when the woman blames ME and takes it out on me as if I somehow did something to come onto her low value man, when all I did was simply exist in a public space (and I don't want their man and do not ever make contact with him). Or, they'll do some weird shit in front of me to get my attention.
There's been three instances just this past couple of weeks alone of couples (usually the woman initiates it) talking about me (right in front of me) - whether to comment in a backhanded way on my outfit (I like to dress up), or snidely commenting on me taking a picture, or me simply daring to sit down before the theater show in an assigned seat next to them. And they know very well I can hear them...like they can't even wait to get home to "gossip" about me, which I find SO weird.
I think also because I am often alone, I become a vulnerable target to pick on for these disgusting insecure couples to take out whatever misery/insecurity/projection they have onto me even though all I do is mind my own business and never say anything to strangers. The women are often PickMe and retaliate because of some perceived competition which doesn't even exist because I have shown no interest whatsoever in their man, and the men are clearly LVM, regardless of whether they're handsome or well put together because their behavior at ogling other women communicates that (although sometimes they haven't even looked at me yet and the woman anticipates that they will, so they engage in some weird behavior and stare at me like a hawk right before they do - which all it does is call attention to me).
Ignoring them is what I do, but I am getting increasingly irritated at this type of behavior. I did not do anything to these people yet they will target me, and I am sure I am not alone in this, since I've seen comments before noting similar behaviors from couples toward single women on this subreddit. Can you relate?
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