I need advice about workplace sexual harassment

thewetdog_ · 2021-12-09T01:55:14+00:00

OP you have a picture of yourself - full face frontal - on a Harry Potter sub.

I also see you added many comments with info that can make you easy to identify including your location and not generally, family info, work info, specific job you have, etc.

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Platipus6 · 2021-12-07T07:45:10+00:00

Go ham. Make a fuss now. He's escalated to retaliation and sexual assault (3 times). He's relying on your socialization and/or he's so far gone he doesn't give a fuck and could go even further. The stress could cause a workplace accident. Trust the management to do what they said about having your back.

Surely the news about shit going on in parliament has reached there. Men know we're onto them. Management won't allow this to go on (I hope).

DivineGoddess1111111 · 2021-12-07T08:57:10+00:00

I'm Australian. Turn him in NOW. He sounds dangerous. Men like him put me off working in the FIFO industry and I bet a lot of women have quit over men like him. He's trying to get you to quit. He's angry he got called out over his sexism and he wants to make you pay. The FIFO industry has been in the news this year because of sexual assaults and harassment and they are finally being taken to task. Please be safe. Report him now. He needs to be stood down.

subgirlygirl · 2021-12-07T09:10:03+00:00

Go straight to management NOW. If it's the middle of it night call them and leave a message, then show up on their doorstep first thing in the morning. Tell them it's no longer physically safe to work with this fucking creep and one of you needs to be reassigned immediately, or a supervisor needs to be present to ensure your safety. (It doesn't matter if either of those demands is unrealistic for the position, you need to make it clear that's a condition of your employment.) My guess is they'll have your back, especially considering their earlier comment; but if they waffle at all, suggest you'll seek out advice from a labor attorney. This fucking guy is dangerous, and he needs to be put against a wall.

top_of_the_stairs · 2021-12-07T08:42:09+00:00

Turn his nasty ass in. No one deserves to deal with that kind of skeezy nonsense at work. Do it for yourself, do it for all of the women he's very likely harassed in the past, and do it to prevent him from harassing women in the future (at least at this workplace). And personally document everything (I recommend emailing yourself so it has a date/time stamp) in case management doesn't follow through on their promises.

londochig · 2021-12-07T11:10:26+00:00

People think they're powerful till you file a police report. You were sexually assaulted and that is a crime. There's something about calling the cops that sobers people up. You're socialized not to rock the boat and not to make a big deal. You're socialized to suppress your gut instinct. Lean in to your instinct. Too many women have died and been assaulted because they've been gaslit into thinking that they overreacted. Look at Gabby Petito's case. She was gaslighting herself in the police footage before her death. She was was suppressing her gut instinct alarm bells going off because she was just socialized to do just that. You should quit and file a police report. He already has and will continue to assault other women if this behaviour is allowed to go on. No job or amount of money is worth the potential trauma this predator might cause. It's not risking your safety or mental health. I am sure there are other jobs where you'd feel safe from sexism, sexual harassment and the anxiety that comes with trying to keep dodging a sexual predator.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-12-07T12:05:45+00:00

They might let you go. But this old piece of shit rapist is escalating really fast. Your primary goal is the not get raped by this guy and you need to do whatever you have to.

I think he is doing this because he doesn't want to work with a woman. It's about control and also he's a sexist pervert.

Saga-the-fierce · 2021-12-07T11:00:37+00:00

I agree with everything above, particularly what to write in an email.

I'm throwing in my experience of NOT speaking up - management cannot help you if they do not know what's going on. This is escalating. If you do not report now, it will get worse. By the time you report, they will be wondering why you did not report this sooner. This is a defence for him - "if I was grabbing her inappropriately, why didn't she report me at the time? She's just got it in for me!"

Trust me. Report it now. Your management dealt with the first report quickly and properly. They seem like they can be trusted.

Kernowek1066 · 2021-12-07T12:50:15+00:00

Please please report him. Make that fuss

everwonderlust · 2021-12-07T13:59:05+00:00

TURN HIM IN NOW. You don’t want it to be one of those cases where they say “well why did you wait so long to report it?” Make a fuss and demand that your company supports you! And, you might want to record your interactions on your phone, secretly, from now on. Also, fucking yell at him if he brushes past you, this is NOT OK. Let us know how you go, OP! Your management told you that he was gonna go, he has to go now that he’s basically assaulting you. I would ask for someone to be sent there, this is a workplace safety issue! Also you need to get out of the dodge, why work in a remote town?

DarbyGirl · 2021-12-07T14:29:57+00:00

Listen to your gut, make the fuss. Go to your management and tell them he is continuing to make you feel uncomfortable and has "accidentally" (and use the air quotes) brushed your chest several times. Ask to be reassigned somewhere else, opposite shifts, whatever you feel is appropriate.

thewetdog_ · 2021-12-08T13:13:02+00:00

I think this man will hurt you sooner than you could ever expect. He has escalated insanely in two months. If i were you I would hit the road immediately, go back to wherever I came from (your town or family) and file both a police report and a report at work. Make the biggest stink possible. This guy isn’t just harradssing you he’s already assaulted you and clearly lives in An alternate reality of his own where he doesn’t fear management in the slightest.

First you get physically away from him, then complain to everyone, formally. But leave. This guy couldnt “just” rape you, he could very well kill you. It happens all the time.

Why wait until Wednesday? If he knows you have a deadline to leave he may act before it

Everything you wrote here should be send to management word by word, convey your desperation and fear in absolute terms but do it away. First thing is to run - you say yourself your gut is telling you this, let your body and instinct protect you and get away.

Averyhvw · 2021-12-07T11:06:14+00:00

I was going to say get a needle, with a little bit of shit on it, and start “brushing” bugs off this f*cker, but seriously you’re in danger!

I’d listen to HereForTheFreeFoodOK, and if you can, order a body cam off Amazon. Just please be careful, don’t let him have any chance to injure you in a workplace “accident.” If you’re job requires him to dangle pianos over your head, that part of the job is no longer safe to do, kwim? And make that paper trail, even posting here is better than nothing.

nothingt0say · 2021-12-07T14:51:03+00:00

Call NOW. SLAP his hands DOWN. Do NOT feel afraid to call. He does NOT have ANY plausible reason to touch you. A "bug on your shirt??" No.

Me, I'd have kicked his shins. I'd have my male friends (the guys I grew up with) jump him and I am blessed indeed that my friends would not hesitate.

ilovewinniethepooh · 2021-12-08T04:22:04+00:00

Report now. The advice on here is important and will help you.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-12-07T16:15:30+00:00

Keep a weapon with you and go MENTAL the next time this guy tries something. He's punishing you for reporting him and he'll stop at nothing next time

Also, get on the horn to management NOW and tell them how he's escalated and demand they send someone to grab him

GlitteryMoss · 2021-12-08T19:27:07+00:00

OP are you ok?

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Title	I need advice about workplace sexual harassment
Author	snowwy28
Upvotes	254
Comments	35
Date	December 7, 2021 7:32 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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