Crosspost "AITA for asking my wife to dress up not down?" from /r/AmItheAsshole:

My wife and I have been married for 6 years now. My wife Grace is beautiful. She is a very girly girl liking things like pink, flowers, purses and heels. Before the pandemic, Grace would always dress for a runway. She would have on makeup, heels, dresses, perfume, smooth skin and etc. During the pandemic though my wife's job got moved to at home. She stopped her beauty routine and spent most of the days in long t-shirts, shorts, sweat pants or her pajamas. I understood it since we weren't really go anywhere. Grace also stopped wearing makeup, doing her hair, and shaving. While this bothered me cause I like having a beautiful wife I figured it was till her job got moved back to the office.

Now things are open again. My job has been moved to the office but Grace told me she didn't want to return and opted to keep working from home. Her wardrobe has completely changed in the two years of the pandemic! She hardly wears her dresses, cute shirts, skirts, makeup or anything like before. Its men's t-shirts with saying on them like I'm grumpy, jeans, sweat pants, and tennis shoes. And she has COMPLETELY stopped shaving and waxing. Now she'll dress up a bit if we go out or if we have company but thats it. Grace tells me its too much work.

So now for the part where I may be an asshole.

Before the pandemic, we went on a date night. Since we haven't done in I suggested a night out at an expensive restaurant. I did pick this restaurant on purpose. Grace said no and suggested we order takeout. When I refused she suggest a restaurant like IHOP or Chili's. Her excuse? She didn't feel like shaving her legs for one of her dresses and wanted to be comfortable

I snapped saying "It wouldn't hurt you to dress up for once!" She accused me of only liking her looks! This isn't true! I told her I was just tired of feeling like I'm living with a homeless woman. Grace ended up locking herself in our bedroom. I know my words were harsh. I ordered a pizza and tried to apologize but Grace wouldn't open the door. I slept on the couch. Right now Grace is still giving me the cold shoulder, refusing to speak to me or be in the same room as me. I know I hurt her feelings with my words however I think this is depression or isolation from the pandemic since before Grace had no problem looking like a model.

AITA?

Posted by No_Bet_4053 | 16 March 2022 | Link