Is there something wrong with women?

jasonb197719 · 2022-06-06T04:25:21+00:00

Read The Rational Male.

jasonb197719 · 2022-06-06T04:26:04+00:00

Also go to the gym. Quit worrying about women. Do you.

CantCopeAnymore24 · 2022-06-06T05:01:39+00:00

Now that I have a 6yo daughter, I can't overstate how much childhood and parenting factor into what a person becomes.

What I've noticed with my daughter (and ex step daughters) is how quickly they are to be amused, how quickly they find happiness and bliss, and how so much of modern life is geared towards providing this for them.

While it sounds great (and it is), there is a cost to having a strictly hedonistic start to life. There's no counterbalance. The most well adjusted, healthy people are in tune with what's realistic, what are the hard truths, and what it means to have empathy and compassion.

Ironically, men are more empathic and compassionate. Women appear to be because they spill those onto a few close people but can rip it away like nothing. That doesn't sound like true empathy to me. That sounds like someone who does things for self rewards.

My daughter probably won't be the smartest or most athletic growing up, but I'm teaching her to be compassionate towards other kids in her class and those she sees. I'm urging her to talk with the quiet kids and stand up to the bullies. I will push her in this regard as much as I can without causing a detriment.

My daughter actually calmed down a girl while she was being bullied. I was so proud because I asked her to do this to me when I get frustrated or upset (in general). I have to do this while giving her the tools to not get stepped on in the process.

Correct-Perception94 · 2022-06-06T05:13:43+00:00

Well, it sounds like you're on to something... I can't seem to prioritize anything anymore. I tried really hard to wash my socks today and barely managed to even get out of bed. I sat in one spot for 4 hours before I realized that I had been really uncomfortable for hours and didn't even notice or care or bother to grab a chair. It's dawning on me that my heart might be broken beyond healthy function for years.

akihonj · 2022-06-06T06:36:52+00:00

Hypergamy

That's your answer, check out briffaults law and you'll understand hypergamy.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Briffault

Basically hypergamy states that women will always date or marry the higher level guy, when she does, she then feels she is at that level and her hypergamous nature then tells her to seek the next highest man.

Men tend to date and marry down because women tend to date across and marry up. Depending on how high up the social or economic scale that guy is, one step and women tend to think they are actually at the higher step so look for the next highest.

Women weren't always like this, they have been conditioned socially, through education, media etc for the last 60 years and we are seeing the results of that play out to where we have to remind ourselves that there are good women still out there but it's gotten to be like trying to find a particular grain of sand on a very long beach.

Best to not drive yourself crazy wasting your life over it and focus on yourself.

MartyMcFly7 · 2022-06-06T16:01:11+00:00

I read about a study (I can find the source if anyone is interested) that said women are more likely to remember only the negatives after a breakup. They tend to "blackwash" their memories to make it easier to disconnect and move on to the next guy. Researchers theorized that this may be due to the evolutionary need to disconnect men who aren't going to stick around and help raise their children.

I've also found it interesting that lesbian couples have one of the highest divorce rates and gay men have one of the lowest (even lower than heterosexual couples!). You're literally taking men (and women) out of the equation and the result is that women are less satisfied in relationships than men. (Women are also twice as likely to take antidepressants.)

What women do have going for them is stronger and more supportive social networks. But even with this in place, they seem to struggle more than men with finding contentment in romantic relationships.

keriwyn · 2022-06-06T23:34:04+00:00

Women grow up with a dependency mindset. Most of them use men to move out of their parents house, then they monkey branch from man to man to better their lot in life. They depend on men and HATE them for it.

The best thing you can do for your daughters is to teach them to make it on their own and never need a man.

austino7 · 2022-06-06T21:40:04+00:00

Women are told by todays society that they can do no wrong, they’re beautiful no matter what, they can do whatever they want, etc. It’s inadvertently given a lot of women a narcissistic mentality. That has created a lack of personal accountability which has allowed women’s hypergamy to go unchecked. Men do this too in terms of physical appearance. Women do it with status and high value men. The lack of morality in our society has allowed these baser instincts to go unchecked in the modern era. There are still good men and women out there. But I imagine they’re not really caring to participate in a toxic social environment and just keep to themselves.

JonathanApple · 2022-06-07T14:41:49+00:00

I observed that mine constantly made life difficult. Nothing was easy for her. Ever. No idea why or why I seemingly breeze through life.

She also never apologized. That was weird too.

People/women are strange.

lordgoofus1 · 2022-06-06T11:04:02+00:00

It could be in part due to as a whole, men tend to be rational/logic thinkers, and women tend to be emotionally drive.

Once the feelings are gone, or the hate sets in, that's all they can 'see'. They think "I look at him and feel nothing, I'm done". More rational thinkers would go "I look at him and don't get the same joy I used to get. This is a problem. He's not a bad guy, I just don't feel the same way anymore. What can I do to fix this?".

Buckyohare84 · 2022-06-06T10:44:06+00:00

"hell knows no fury like a woman scorned"

mewashoo · 2022-06-06T12:25:45+00:00

Women from evolutionary point of view have to look after themselves to better look after offspring. Like on the plane. You put safety vest on parents first, then on kids. Unsafe parent saves no kids.

redveinlover · 2022-06-06T20:42:06+00:00

It’s in their nature. Some are good, but many are shallow narcissistic monsters that care only about themselves and would step over their own children’s best interests if it brings them profit.

Title	Is there something wrong with women?
Author	Correct-Perception94
Upvotes	36
Comments	49
Date	June 6, 2022 4:10 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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