She had a Bad date - the guy refused to tell her what he did for a living or how much he made. If only he assured her he would sponsor her.

Laytheblameonluck · 2022-07-13T06:58:48+00:00

Says shes only going to swipe right on men who put their jobs in their profile.

Dating Apps have become a disaster.

obunga_lives · 2022-07-13T09:31:56+00:00

"omg I'm scared I'd have to pay for a date!!" "Im no gold digger" Jesus H Christ

boomboxspence · 2022-07-13T13:27:29+00:00

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sherlocked33 · 2022-07-13T03:29:48+00:00

Basically calling me a gold digger to my face

No he didn't. He just didn't want to take the chance. Imagine you have a bowl of M&M's, and 3 of them are poisoned. Would you take one?

SweatyAdvance · 2022-07-13T11:03:45+00:00

beliefs about women dating men for their money blah blah blah.

and

if I was going to be left paying for our entire meal!

Oh the irony.

velvetpurr · 2022-07-13T02:51:34+00:00

Asking how much he makes is weird. Asking what he does for a living is fine.

barndoor101 · 2022-07-13T10:31:22+00:00

It's twoX, what do you expect. Those replies though :D

dw87190 · 2022-07-13T02:12:39+00:00

Justified. Only women are to blame for men assuming women are gold diggers, if she can't prove she isn't a gold digger, she doesn't have a leg to stand on. Also, to post about it in a misandrist sub like TwoX, is a valid reason to think she's a gold digger. Women expect men to be employed to consider him for dates/relationships, yet expect to men to date and financially support unemployed women, a form of hypocrisy that further validates the "a woman is gold digger until proven otherwise" mentality. All men have the right to be hypervigilant

Greg_W_Allan · 2022-07-13T08:40:19+00:00

I've been in government jobs I wasn't allowed to talk about even to my partner.

RedSvalin · 2022-07-13T10:56:35+00:00

She where the one pushing him to say why instead of respecting his limits and then gets angry when she gets an answer.

I am quite willing to bet she is in fact a gold digger and offended that men takes reasonable measures against it.

OldEgalitarianMRA · 2022-07-13T11:07:33+00:00

I only date women with good jobs and who intend to keep working after marriage. A small of women.

OldEgalitarianMRA · 2022-07-13T11:16:07+00:00

My job definitely indicated my income. Once a women knew my job and she was single she wanted to date me. Gold diggers. I knew it once I got into professional school. Now I'm quite happy being a bachelor.

LELO_TV · 2022-07-13T11:12:28+00:00

"I asked a guy what his income was but he refused to tell me because he doesn't want girls to date for his income."

How could he? [surprisedpikachu.jpg]

She just proved his point.

SteveorJimmyorJack · 2022-07-13T09:57:42+00:00

So typical... women must understand that if they start asking how much we earn, how are we supposed to know if they actually like us for who we are?

McFeely_Smackup · 2022-07-13T17:21:02+00:00

Brag about how much money you make - Toxic Masculinity

Be open and honest that you're not comfortable discussing money on a first date - Toxic Masculity

these women are going to end up never getting a second date

2022-07-13T16:32:31+00:00

Read it and all I got was "I deserve to know what I want to know, when I want to know and how I want to know it, just because I want to". No one owes her anything. Especially, on a date. Privacy IS an equal right.

No wonder she's still single. LOL

EfraimK · 2022-07-13T17:42:39+00:00

Look at how popular the post is. A major problem is that, whatever the kind, there are lots of people who support bigotry. Add in institutional support for bigotry and it becomes socially acceptable. Humans.

skllyskullstyle · 2022-07-13T22:18:30+00:00

You know whats funny and strange? Women amd misandrist like her constantly and unintentionally give themselves away. Or give away their position by telling on themselves. Yet they are still are free and living life on easy mode never being held accountable. Privlage at it's core.

JackeTuffTuff · 2022-07-13T08:35:29+00:00

A bit weird but he clearly was just causious and intended to tell her later but I also understand her but O think she took it too personal

StarDawg36 · 2022-07-13T16:22:30+00:00

Is it fine to ask how many guys she’s slept with?

MyBlades · 2022-07-13T17:12:19+00:00

When women treat you like a potential threat it's not personal and you need to understand that the world doesn't revolve around you, but when a guy takes precautions to protect himself he is insulting that poor woman to her face. And is also probably a bad person. lmao

PotentialSecond68 · 2022-07-13T13:48:19+00:00

1st dates should be simple, a cup of coffee or a drink. That way if the date sucks you've only wasted a few moments of your time and minimal cost. If the date is good then you can continue it somewhere

japhero1 · 2022-07-13T15:08:10+00:00

I think this is bad take considering the context that she was talking about her job i mean in the end lets be honest being financially secure is part of a long term relationship i mean if i was gona date someone i wouldn't want to date someone where their reliant on me for their income and i think its ok to talk about your job maybe she was Wrong for doing it on her first date but its still part of a good relationship.

dpv20 · 2022-07-13T16:08:02+00:00

the guy did it wrong tbh, he should just pretend a generic run of the mile job in the same area he actually work

but yeah the girl was a bitch she ask for it and complain about it

gil-galad5150 · 2022-07-13T18:39:21+00:00

If your male dating apps are a waste of time anyway

rsa1x · 2022-07-13T20:56:00+00:00

The funny part is she is criticizing him for a supposed belief that women date for the dude's money. Well, if women didn't do that, she might have been right.

Imdefender · 2022-07-14T01:13:48+00:00

I can see both sides of this..
I have always asked about what jobs my date does.

Canadian-female · 2022-07-13T16:03:08+00:00

I think you’re all reading this the wrong way. She’s not saying she wanted to find out if he had enough money to make it worth dating him. Geez! Her problem is that he obviously has some issues with women . Why would anyone want to date someone when they know the person has a suspicious,untrusting attitude right from the start? For sure, that guy’s the jealous type. I wouldn’t date him either and it would have nothing to do with his money.

RavynArcadia · 2022-07-13T16:52:51+00:00

I commented that he dodged a bullet. I wonder how long til I’m banned from there.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2022-07-13T14:48:55+00:00

Bullet dodged.

I had a policy of only cheap or free dates the first two months and dodged questions about my job or income. The goal was that any gold diggers would break up with me.

Couch_Philosopher · 2022-07-13T17:04:25+00:00

I think this is actually pretty fair on her part. It is weird to not tell someone what you do for a living, especially on a date. Needing to know exactly how much he makes is way too much, but refusing pretty basic small-talk is enough of a reason to be turned off. Requiring it in people's profiles is a bit silly, but if this "not talking about jobs" thing becomes normal I would understand it for efficiency purposes.

McSkittlefarts · 2022-07-13T19:36:10+00:00

more than 5 years ago no woman ever asked how much I make, in the past 5, it has been about 50%. And I got to the point when they would ask, I would give them my monthly instead of yearly.

jadedlonewolf89 · 2022-07-13T20:05:39+00:00

I was raised not to talk about work, religion, or politics at the dinner table.

NarutoBoy87 · 2022-07-13T12:29:42+00:00

Says about him and his life? But needs to know how much money he makes.. What else would anyone call her than a gold digger...

apmartin1991 · 2022-07-13T11:25:25+00:00

She didn't even ask how much he made. She just wanted to know his job.

There's nothing wrong with that. He asked her what job she had. Why can he ask that and she can't ask him?

This post is making an issue out of something that isn't an issue.

marks1995 · 2022-07-13T13:58:41+00:00

She asks what he does for work, not how much he makes. That is a completely legitimate question.

It's a huge part of a person's life. How many of you would feel the same if a woman refused to disclose her line of work? And then after a few months, you find out she is a sex worker.

The guy was being a douche.

Ferbuggity · 2022-07-13T05:28:53+00:00

Nah you're pushing it with this one I think. Is this really the best thing you could find to drag over here? '

The guy was acting douchey and pretty abnormal on a first date, she didn't keep seeing him. Big deal.

I just think there's bigger better things to be upset about.

jokerfriend6 · 2022-07-13T02:39:54+00:00

Quite frankly, one can say what there job is without mentioning their Salary.. Many women have been burned by having to support boyfriend or ex-husband and does not want to go through that again....

pumpkinpeopleunite · 2022-07-13T09:26:03+00:00

So a woman refused a second date with a guy who wouldn't tell her basic things about his life on their date, let's face it probably because he spends too much time in red pill spaces. This relates to men's rights how? Unless you think that men have the right to be absolute douchebags and women shouldn't be allowed to reject them for it..?

uniquemuch · 2022-07-13T13:24:50+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/vxre8v/she_had_a_bad_date_the_guy_refused_to_tell_her/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

michaelpaoli · 2022-07-13T14:25:03+00:00

Yeah, ... I think I commented on that one ... let's see ....

Yes, I'd earlier replied, and my link to that comment (keep also context in mind):

pushed him on it, he was uncomfortable but I felt like I needed to get to the bottom of this 'policy' he has.

And ... so, how would you feel, out on a date with someone you sort'a kind'a hardly know ... and they start pushing you about what you do for a living, or where you work, etc.?

Anyway, not everyone wants to be so revealing about that - especially early on to someone they hardly know at all ... and often for good reasons.

he has all these paranoid men's rights beliefs about women dating men for their money

Well, yeah, definitely that's an(other) issue - so there's that.

Anyway, reasons for not disclosing or being so forthcoming on that will vary ... a lot. Anywhere from general caution to very good reasons (e.g. might be a particularly sensitive position) ... might also want to avoid being pre-judged based upon what they do, etc. Or ... might be some stupid *ssholery reason. Anyway, lots of different reasons someone might not be that forthcoming about their particular career/occupation/job or the like.

Anyway, good that you sussed out the situation and ... alas, sounds like his reasons were pretty crud.

my earlier comment

... or ... may quite be her interpretation of what he said, but in any case.

Brisco_Discos · 2022-07-13T14:56:24+00:00

Just start asking everyone how they contribute to the gross domestic product 😉

tipying_mistakes · 2022-07-13T21:09:34+00:00

I just got back from a date, met on Bumble

Well there’s your first mistake right there

pappo4ever · 2022-07-14T03:20:28+00:00

To be honest, if you use a 'dating app' to date, you cannot then complain the person you are dating is trash. Those apps are for trash, not for decent people.

It's like ordering an escort and then complaining she might not be faithful to you.

Title	She had a Bad date - the guy refused to tell her what he did for a living or how much he made. If only he assured her he would sponsor her.
Author	NeoNotNeo
Upvotes	256
Comments	168
Date	July 13, 2022 1:44 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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