Out of redpill but still feeling bad about my height

Ali_knows · 2023-01-23T22:15:43+00:00

Are you for real ? So many men would dream to be 5 ft 9. The world is tailor made for people 5 ft 9. You can reach the top shelf and sit confortably in the Subway. You're taller than 90% of women.

SweelFor- · 2023-01-23T21:38:02+00:00

You mentioned that you are graduating in psychology. As someone graduating in psychology, please present how to prove that men who are 5'9 can find women who like them.

How would you test this hypothesis that men who are 5'9 can be in relationships? Please say that you understand how to do this yourself

Professor_Meep · 2023-01-23T22:52:11+00:00

This post is yet more countless evidence of how RP, BP, incel ideologies totally warp the minds of young men and destroy their self-worth.

5'9" isn't even short at all. No one looking at this objectively from the outside would think you're short or that this makes any sense. But RP and the other related garbage ideologies would have you believing that you should consider leg lengthening surgery. Absolutely absurd.

Rumin8ting_ · 2023-01-23T23:26:29+00:00

Im going to give to you straight, first of all, you are not short. You are average. And there are definitely women who wont date guys below 6ft but they are a huge minority irl. You hear about them all the time online because plenty of guys LOVE to complain about it, which i get, it hurts when people make you feel bad about your body.

Hell, when i get in arguments online with men it’s super common for them to just call me fat, which is true LOL (and before you tell me i can just loose the weight at the gym, im overweight due to medications im taking which has weight gain as a long term side effect so it’s not like loosing normal body fat from eating too much, its been nearly permanent for a while now) and despite the many guys who proudly declare “no fatties” there are just as many who LOVE big girls. Its the same for men too! I adore shorter, chunky men! That’s my type 100%. Too short is probably 5’3 for me, but id be more than happy to make an exception for love :)

Im wondering if you have considered adopting a stance of body neutrality? It’s basically accepting your body is more than just something for other to ogle at, your body is a wonderful thing that allows you to experience life to the fullest. When i figured out i wasn’t loosing weight because of the medication i need to function i chose to stop worrying about the scale and more about how i was living. I adopted a healthier life style (exercise and eating well) and despite it not making me loose weight it keeps me healthy mentally and physically. I wish you well :)

tromp-et · 2023-01-23T21:53:15+00:00

Your height should not be that big of a problem in dating. You will still be taller than the average woman in your country. It’s not like you are 4 ft 11 which would limit your dating pool to a great extent. Please don’t obsess over it. A lot of women will be totally willing to date you if you have things going on for you. Are you kind? Do you have good communication skills? Smart? Educated? Decent career path? Do you take care of yourself physically and emotionally? Do you have some cool hobbies and interests?

Defekton · 2023-01-24T05:29:59+00:00

I am 6’4 and have been rejected for being too tall. The idea that being tall instantly gets you women is a myth perpetuated by the Mano sphere, incels, and tiktok algorithms. The reality is that every woman has a different opinion on height.

Please seek therapy.

thrownawaytodaysr · 2023-01-23T22:51:45+00:00

I am 5'7" and have had multiple girlfriends who I would qualify as beautiful and highly desirable. I am not rich, good looking, nor fit (though I was in rather good shape for a brief window, where I was 155 lbs of mostly muscle; I'm now 180 lbs and qualify as overweight).

I am in a happily committed relationship with a beautiful, intelligent, funny woman who also happens to earn more than I do.

Your height will never be as great an impediment to your dating prospects as your insecurity about said height is.

DreamieQueenCJ · 2023-01-23T23:41:04+00:00

Not every woman is looking for a 6'0"+ man. And those who solely focus on a man's height to date are probably not ones you want to date.

Find a woman who will like you for YOU. Many women are short and aren't looking to have cramps in their neck.

Just keep healthy, stay clean and be yourself.

rbkforrestr · 2023-01-24T03:02:32+00:00

5’9 isn’t short dude. I’m 5’9 and my boyfriend is also 5’9. The guy I dated before him was 5’6 and hot. You are absolutely average, and your height will only hold you back if you allow it to. I guarantee women aren’t looking at you and thinking ‘wow, he’s so short’.

xvszero · 2023-01-24T01:57:51+00:00

Therapy. 5'9 is a super normal height and most 5'9 straight men find women who love them at some point in their lives.

GoldenCowboyyeehaw · 2023-01-24T01:53:05+00:00

Bro I’m 5’3 and I have done well for myself in dating. A lot of conventionally attractive men are 5’9.

AffectionateAd8901 · 2023-01-23T22:32:01+00:00

I guess no one will notice one inch. It´s pretty much impossible to notice. Height is impossbile to control, and there are worse things than an inch.

jrr6415sun · 2023-01-24T00:32:34+00:00

the average means 50% higher, 50% lower. Do you think that only 50% of guys find a women?

sunny_side_egg · 2023-01-24T01:33:25+00:00

You're within the average range, so close to the middle of the bell curve most people would need a tape measure to know the difference. You are not short. You are average.

lem0ngirl15 · 2023-01-24T02:33:12+00:00

WHAT. I’m a woman and ok maybe this isn’t helpful but that’s tall to me and literally the height of my husband. Ik there’s maybe women seeking insane height but they are not the majority. Idk where you are but maybe travel a bit :) you’d be considered pretty tall by other countries standards

AssistTemporary8422 · 2023-01-24T04:21:13+00:00

You are basically average height. Stop complaining. Guys who are 5'4'' can come here and complain about their height and get some sympathy.

Naus1987 · 2023-01-24T01:19:12+00:00

I’m 5’7” and have never had a problem dating due to my height. I’ve been in a relationship every year from age 15 to age 30.

I think it helps that I’m old enough not to grow up with dating apps, and I’m extroverted not to need them.

I think dating apps judged people based on looks. But in person judged them on their personality.

Men judge women based on their looks too. Just don’t be shallow and don’t date shallow people. Never expect more than you’re willing to give.

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Meat_Vegetable · 2023-01-23T21:56:14+00:00

Find yourself a tall lady, the taller the better

Nightchanger · 2023-01-24T00:21:42+00:00

Date shorter girls than. Women avg. height is 5 feet 4.

Jenneapolis · 2023-01-24T03:42:51+00:00

Dude, I mean just go walk around target or something and see how many 5’9” men are there with wives because it’s plenty.

Gungabrain · 2023-01-24T03:47:39+00:00

I’m 5’8” and have had 2 serious relationships with men shorter than me, and 1 with a man who is 5’9”. Not once did I think their height mattered in the least. Most women are under 5’9” & if their criteria is “taller than me” you are fine. Don’t listen to the MEN who tell you it’s important to be tall. They aren’t necessarily dating men & from what I’ve read, the red pill men don’t understand women very well & it’s a wonder they ever end up in relationships. Instead of focussing on your height, focus on being a good person.

Ifhes · 2023-01-24T04:08:09+00:00

Don't worry, they exist. I've been rejected for being too tall being 6' 1''. The problem seems here to not be your height, but how you think the world perceives you. If you were taller than me, you'd likely still feel too short because taller people exist, and you might feel women would prefer those other taller guys.

The problem here is not that you're short (which you're not, you're average), but that you somehow feel you need to fill some template to be accepted by woman. People fall in love not for looks or height or shape or face, of course that is something that might attract attention, but there is so much more, you are a whole person and the only person's approval you need in this world is you. This is important because right now it doesn't matter if 10 girls go talk to you because they liked you today, because you'll still feel too short for them to like you. Trust me, my big bro felt the same for years and he's 5' 4. Now he's married.

The fact is that people can like you for what you are, but you need to like yourself first or you'll never believe it and it will be invisible to your eyes.

JennaMTF · 2023-01-24T04:56:22+00:00

I'm 6'4" and wish I had it easy with women lol.

Dr_Lovemuchmore · 2023-01-24T05:04:38+00:00

Dude if you were younger I’d sympathize with you

But at twenty three you should have enough life experience to know plenty of girls date short guys

And even more life experience to know that five foot nine isn’t even short lol

-AlwaysBored- · 2023-01-24T05:50:04+00:00

Well, first off - you're already tall. I promise you no woman would consider you to be short. Two, approach it as of its not even an issue (well, for your case it really is not, but in general height matters way less than people think) and it wont be one. Obviously also be open to women of all sort of heights. Dont discount someone because they are talller.

denna84 · 2023-01-24T05:52:28+00:00

My husband is 5’6”. I’m 5’3” so he’s still taller than me but I have dated a guy who was slightly shorter than me. Some people don’t care, but it can be hard to find them.

qonqu · 2023-01-24T06:28:23+00:00

find shorter? dude, just relax.

Academic_Type624 · 2023-01-24T10:44:57+00:00

So you are insecure about something out of your control.

Your options are; 1 surgery 2 Acceptance 3; carry on as you are

Let's break this down. The surgery will be expensive, painful and makes minimal difference. Studies show that insecure people who get plastic surgery often end up fixated on something every and they just transferred the problem. Would the money and pain be worth it?

Acceptance. You can't change your body so you work to accept it. You raise your esteem to the point you think any woman who doesn't accept me for me isn't worth it. It does take time and work, potentially therapy so some expense. There will be some emotional pain. In the longer run payoff is probably longer lasting. Is the investment worth it

3 carry on as you are. You hate yourself for something you can't control. Your insecurity keeps pushing people away. Think about how you feel and how that would be in 10 years time. Its the easy option but it doesn't sound fun to me.

Choose your pain.

Also to add I'm 5"3 I've dated a guy the same height as me. He never had a problem attracting women, many were taller. What he had going for him was confidence and a great sense of humour. He ended things with me before you ask. My current partner is 6"3 and didn't have much success with women before meeting me because he lacked confidence. And honestly I was initially put off by his height, it was him I fell for. Ideally I'd prefer a partner who was closer to my height but I'm not throwing away a good relationship over him not being my ideal height.

Final thing I want to add, insecurity isn't attractive. When I was last dating guys with things like girls don't want me for (insert reasons) I avoided like the plague. Having some small insecurities is normal but if it's a fixation someone isn't working on, no thank you. The need to constantly reassure my partner is draining.

Hajimoomoo · 2023-01-24T10:57:27+00:00

I'm 5'0. Luckily I'm gay and trans so many men just think my height is cute. So do women. I vibe with it although sometimes I do wish I was taller so people took me more seriously.

strugglingredditor3 · 2023-01-24T13:10:57+00:00

Well, there are women shorter than 5 feet 9, tons of them.

Title	Out of redpill but still feeling bad about my height
Author	ale0369
Upvotes	8
Comments	102
Date	January 23, 2023 9:30 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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