Guys who try and have sex quickly with women (first date), is it because you already ruled them out as gf material?

Mrs_Drgree · 2023-04-29T16:41:01+00:00

No internal questions

TrueNeutrall0011 · 2023-04-29T15:03:03+00:00

I'm a fella and I think it's gross.

I think men that act like that promote female promiscuity and that sort of reasoning is bullshit. I see it with redpill all the time "if she makes you wait for sex... !!!!"

Like ok settle the fuck down. The misunderstanding that male/female relationships are about sex primarily is assuming sex is purely a physical thing and somehow seperate from every other area of life. Like an end goal to achieve.

The best thing you can do to have a good sexual experience with a woman imo is to vet her for a long time while still keeping her enticed. You need to see how she acts in different contexts or when faced with different issues, when asked to compromise etc.

For guys that just want casual sex... I still think that the is the best way to go about it because women primarily do thrive off attention. If you want to have several women on rotation and you're not "hey wanna bang" levels of giga Chad hot, you're going to have to manage several relationships with women that are somewhere between friendship and acquaintance. Just enough level of trust and vulnerability to feel comfortable with one another, but enough freedom and sense of seperation to work with sexual lines of thinking and questioning. These are the relationships that are ultimately the less stressful and "gamey" and women that have a tendency to be single for periods of time are the best companions for that sort of living imo.

I find the idea of casual sex to be really not viable for the majority of men. I've seen the .1% guys pulling mad women and to me personally it seems repetitive. In a few years you can experience a lot of different sexual things with different women who also want to experiment if you're just not so obsessed with sticking your dick in her.

The chicks that are super horny and want to fuck usually lack cogntive depth and are like fuck boys anyway. They will say anything to do and get your attention but ultimately follow through is shit.

globeaute · 2023-04-29T15:28:54+00:00

There are definitely men who place women in “wife” and “bangable” categories. One told me that he places women into such groups. He said that he would date women 25 and up, but that he would only smash an 18 y/o for example. It was jarring because he couldn’t or wouldn’t explain why it’s okay to pump and dump a young woman, but dating her would be out of the question.

LaloTwins · 2023-04-29T16:20:36+00:00

Steakman1 · 2023-04-29T15:13:05+00:00

I specifically don’t do this. But the main argument I hear (online) is that guys will try to have sex quick because they figure that she has probably had sex with another dude quick in the past. So if she isn’t willing to do the same with him, it’s because she isn’t as interested in him as she was with the assumed guy she slept with quick.

Amongst all the guys I’ve known to hook up with women, pretty much all of them would know before they even really talk to the girl that they aren’t trying to be in a relationship with her. Never heard of a time where they were interested in a relationship, realized she wasn’t a good match, and then proceeded to still try to sleep with her anyways.

I’ve never heard of anyone online or in person saying they ask a woman within 30 minutes of meeting her to go back to his place though.

SecondEldenLord · 2023-04-29T15:38:18+00:00

CAn;t relate unfortunately, I had only a handful of dates in my life and almost none of them went further for a second date or a hookup. Never had a hookup anyway besides having sex with escorts. I am 32, and the reason of such failures with women is my physical apperreance.

AstronautLoveShack · 2023-04-29T14:55:55+00:00

I don’t think it matters if she is girlfriend material or not, he’s going to try and fuck sooner than later.

learn2earn89 · 2023-04-29T15:09:54+00:00

Well, that’s depressing.

missionarymechanic · 2023-04-29T15:14:03+00:00

There are males who will tell women almost anything in the hopes of getting sex for free? Surely this has never happened in the history of mankind...

Although your "date" may have been nudging the conversation if she was interested and you weren't; attempting to make a self-fulfilling prophecy.

THHBHStT · 2023-04-29T16:34:11+00:00

Most the women I’ve had sex with didn’t take multiple dates or even dates at all, even the ones I had a relationship with

I try and have sex the first date because sex is fun and I’m not gonna be a completely different guy in a week/a month than I am now. If she doesn’t like me now, it’s not gonna change much later. The only real reason I can think of a woman waiting is safety which makes sense, then I’ll have sex w her the second date. Other than that if she’s not infatuated at first sight then good fucking luck, probably a waste of time

DeshaunWalt · 2023-04-29T15:05:48+00:00

In experience that's not happening where the woman smashes you within 30s mins of the first conversation

Obviously women want attention

So we apply the 3 dates rule

Which is go on three dates to try and smash, if you don't succeed then drop out and move on to the next woman

"They're not attracted enough for a relationship"

Many of the woman l slept with were attractive to be in relationships, just had no interest being their LTR boyfriend

SmolPPAcceptance · 2023-04-29T15:30:30+00:00

What's wrong with figuring out sexual compatibility?

If she's not gf material I'm not letting her know where I live.

ROBYoutube · 2023-04-29T15:11:17+00:00

Yes, the men asking for sex within 30 minutes of meeting are not looking for a life partner.

Radiant_Specific6542 · 2023-04-29T15:21:50+00:00

Your theory has no merrit. I'm married now, but I went for sex quick because that's what I wanted. A lot women personalities weren't tge time and effort without sex. I know, shocker.

Also, as an experienced man, having sex with her on the first date isn't what disqualifies a woman for a relationship. It's how she behaves after you've had sex is the make or break.

Coolio_Street_Racer · 2023-04-29T15:38:10+00:00

I try to have sex with all woman who I'm sexually interested as quickly as possible. If she expresses she isn't comfortable so soon. It just means they aren't a slut now. Doesn't really tell me much about your past.

Most woman get pumped and dumped then try to pull this shit. Like bruh you fucked a dude you met in a club randomly. Now your gonna make me take you out in 3 dates just to do the same thing some random dude in a club did with 10x less effort. GTFO.

Once a hoe always a hoe in my eyes

With all that said and done. I love sluts. But I would never take one seriously though, of course you never tell her that lmao.

pandillerodelapampa · 2023-04-29T15:45:42+00:00

i always try to sleep with girls as fast as i can. It’s kind of a test too. If i succeed i assume that - providing she gets a few drinks- any other decent looking guy could succeed. = not gf material…

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emma_gination · 2023-04-29T14:58:29+00:00

That's really sad if it were true. I have read somewhere that men have to lead the conversation sexually before the woman 's interest drop or he's going to be friend zoned or interest just withered.

Traditional-Bad-4055 · 2023-04-29T15:24:36+00:00

It’s more complicated. Like if I met a girl at a party and tried to hook up that night, I’m not thinking about her being a gf or not. I’m just trying to get laid and maybe after if we vibe there could be more

In college I thought a tad more like that. Like when I’d meet a girl but I’m not really interested in a relationship or specifically not interested in a relationship with her then I would at least try to fuck real quick with no real plans of anything else

I grew out of that pretty quickly as an adult

Lift_and_Lurk · 2023-04-29T15:41:23+00:00

I never shied away from me going “I like sex and it’s great if it happens as soon as we both want it to. I’m already ready btw: lol!”
I also got not every girl was like that and if they weren’t: that’s cool. No reason to try and force a square peg in a round hole. Let’s see where the day takes us. And if it’s not gonna happen: it not like there aren’t other women out there that don’t like sex.

Comfortable-Dare-307 · 2023-04-29T15:50:27+00:00

No, not necessarily. I had sex with my wife on the third date, but we did sexual things when we first met. We were together ten years until she cheated on me. I don't think having sex right away means she's not girlfriend material. I will give anyone a chance. I would not think less of her just because we had sex right away. But I also wouldn't expect it either. I've waited up to two years to have sex in one relationship and had it the first day in others. It just depends on what both people want.

BobtheAxieManager · 2023-04-29T15:59:53+00:00

The best way to get a gf is to sleep with a girl as soon as possible and keep fucking her.

No-Rough-7390 · 2023-04-29T16:06:39+00:00

Desire is a pre req for a healthy relationship. If it happens, it happens.

If I’m on a date with a woman, odds are I’m attracted to her. Seeing as how I enjoy sex with attractive women, I’m down for it. We are adults. It’s that simple.

stare_at_the_sun · 2023-04-29T16:12:31+00:00

Not a man, but I have experienced both. Some just wanted a fling (though I think on the same page), others tried to tie me down quick after. I think it is a test run in some cases. Either way it always makes me wonder what they initially had thought about me to think I’d be down. I am shy.

kvakerok · 2023-04-29T16:18:40+00:00

It depends. Being an easy lay with me doesn't necessarily mean good or bad gf material in general. If the girl is obviously DTF, why would I not go for it?

Kliere · 2023-04-29T16:22:36+00:00

If I go out on a date with you it's because at the very least I find you attractive so why wouldn't I want to have sex quickly? Attempting to have sex on the first date doesn't mean I ruled you out as gf material, even having sex on the first date doesn't rule you out.

Sea-Lengthiness8846 · 2023-04-29T16:34:00+00:00

Sugar arrangements can probably lead to a hookup within 30 minutes.

But if the guy is looking for a relationship, and tries to hookup in 30 minutes, he’s considered a scumbag.

Early-Christmas-4742 · 2023-04-29T16:35:45+00:00

No, i wouldn't say i ever meant i'd ruled her out if it was after the forst date. Withing 30 minutes would probably mean that was all someone was after though.

AreOut · 2023-04-29T16:40:33+00:00

"I have a theory that a lot of guys who rush to sex know they're not attracted enough for a relationship"

if we are attracted enough for a relationship we usually want sex as soon as possible and there is nothing wrong with that

nicethingyoucanthave · 2023-04-29T16:44:17+00:00

is it because you already ruled them out as gf material?

lol no. It's because sex is the thing I'm after - even if I wanted a wife or girlfriend, I'd want her for sex. Even having children would be a secondary consideration.

So, since I'm after sex, I shoot my shot and try to have sex.

It's not my job to set the price of sex. That's her job. If it turns out that the price she charges for sex is very low, then great! Free sex. If it turns out that the price is very high (some women even requiring marriage before sex) then I'll think about it.

This is the way prices work for everything. When you're buying, it's not your job to set the price. If the seller charges little/nothing for it, that's not your fault. If the price is too high, then you can just go elsewhere.

The only problem that any (reasonable) man has is if women charge different prices for different men. If you really like a girl and she says the price is commitment ("no sex until we are in a monogamous relationship where you call me your girlfriend" <--- a very reasonable price, btw) then you may well be willing to pay that, and you'll probably be very happy with the relationship. But if you discover that other men were charged a lower price, that will rightfully piss you off.

Title	Guys who try and have sex quickly with women (first date), is it because you already ruled them out as gf material?
Author	AudaciousPanther
Upvotes	9
Comments	64
Date	April 29, 2023 2:53 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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