I believe it’s quite simple when it comes down to it as a guy.

All those things you have an instinct to do as a man? Do them, and women will be drawn to it.

As a man you naturally have an urge to accomplish and chase goals. You have that desire to go out, hunt and conquer. Do it! Build, achieve, test yourself.

As a man you naturally want to push your physical limits. You want to get stronger, test your deadlifts, run fast, push heavy weight. It feels good and leaves you satisfied after. You enjoy being exhausted and beaten, that same feeling you had as a kid after playing army in the woods all day with your friends until your body was a crumpled dirty scratched up mess at bed time? You can still do that, and as a man you want to! You want to feel drained and like your body and muscles have given all they want to give.

You want to be around other men, talking and laughing and jokingly insulting each other makes you happy, it fills an emotional hole, it lets you blow off steam and stress and be open and yourself in a constructive and fun way. You may even enjoy leading this group, but at the least your masculine urge to be around other dudes should be entertained.

You naturally want to be around women, you like teasing them and making eye contact with them and smirking at them and flirting with them. You like to escalate with the ones who reciprocate your vibe, having the confidence to take what you want, and the self assurance to laugh it off when they don’t feel the same. But it’s ok, it just means you still have the freedom to enjoy sexual tension with other women.

These are all natural inbuilt things. You’ve wanted to do them your whole life, and there’s no reason why you shouldn’t.

I think men would have a much easier and more enjoyable time in life and dating if they just allowed themselves to be the way nature made them, just enjoy it and indulge in it. You’re born male so it’s already in you!