Help me stop eating!

Ok_Outside149 · 2023-07-12T13:14:12+00:00

I think the fact you’re feeling anxiety and panic shows that this is more of a mental problem, and it makes sense if you’re dealing with burnout, exhaustion and the struggles of your life! Give yourself some grace. If your mum is really sick then I think it’s okay for counting calories to take a backseat as long as you otherwise eat healthy and exercise.

Otherwise, what can you rearrange in your life to make sticking to your meal plan easier? If planning your meals for today makes you anxious, what if you plan ahead? Is there any time to meal prep for the weak ahead? Outsource the planning to a company like hello fresh? What is your chore schedule like? Which tasks are absolutely must-dos and which can be deprioritised or bumped down to a weekly/fortnightly/monthly basis? In trying times maybe you don’t need a spotless house 24/7. Or maybe there’s room in the budget for a cleaner.

Food wise - really prioritise protein and veggies. Chicken thighs are my go to for feeling stuffed. You can do all sorts with them, stuffed/burritos/gyros/pan fried/stir fry/pasta etc. Try and cut out all the empty calories like crisps, biscuits, switch to wholemeal options over white rice/bread. Lots of water. As you’ve already lost 50lbs I feel like you know all this so I do truly believe it’s the mental struggles you’re going through.

Not sure if you’re married but it sounds like it’s time to bring your captain the problem. If homemaking is your job and the finances are his, you could ask him where in the budget can things be made easier for you (meal plan/cleaner/taking time off work).

Sorry to hear about your mother, lots of hugs.

pieorstrudel5 · 2023-07-12T12:06:51+00:00

This is my very generalized advice. I am currently on a fat loss journey and very blessed that my insurance covers a dietician. I literally logged onto my insurance site and looked up dieticians and found one they covered. She is basically my accountability.

Goal weight (lbs) x 12 = sustainable calorie deficit. And then goal weight (lbs) x .7 = your minimum protein goal.

So for example.... 145 × 12 = 1740 calories a day. 145 × .7 = roughly 100g of protein a day. And I somewhat calorie cycle.... 1740 × 7 = 12180 total weekly calories. I personally never eat less than 1600 calories in a day. I also don't beat myself up if I have to bust my calories for a few days. I am not a slave to my diet. I love TheCollegeNutritionist, StayFitMom_Krista on insta for Protein forward recipes. I also love love love maykayla_thomas_fit for like real human real life not pretentious food inspo.

My fitness routine.... I aim for 10k steps a day. But happy if I get 7k (I have a sedentary job). I use the FitBod app for weight lifting. You can customize it to your gym (there are you tube videos for reviews I am sure). I get to the gym before work between 5-5:30am. If you have never lifted weights.... hire a trainer for 1-3 months. Tell them up front.... you just want to be not scared to work out with the annoying gym bros. Worth the investment, because I know what my form should look like I know how to load barbells and adjust machines. I can just walk in.... and do my thing. I will say.... the guys look mean but they have all been very nice to me. I have little gym bro buddies now. If you can't afford that, planet fitness is there for you. After work (if I don't have obligations)- I do cardio usually with LesMills+ or my LTRs peleton account (thanks babe! Haha). A walk, a spin class on my stationary bike, a dance cardio class (fitness marshall on you tube). 45 min to 60 min. On weekends.... I go to a 90 minute hot yoga class and then I have a dance fitness class after church on Sundays. Sometimes I'll take a free class at a studio gym I've never been to. I also try to go on hikes with my friends (I am not the most outdoorsy girl.... But hiking is just walking so I can make it work).

If you are burnt out on counting calories. Try eating maintenance calories (which will be somewhere around 2,000 c) and focus on your fitness. Once you get the fitness habbit in check, start going into a deficit again. I had to do that recently, I was burnt out on counting calories. After about a 3 month break I was ready to go back into a deficit and now am losing weight slowly again.

This was a lot of info, let me know if you have any questions.

throwaway253025 · 2023-07-12T13:46:14+00:00

You already know that a slight calorie deficit is the most sustainable and healthy way to lose weight. Exercise is helpful and good, but it’s not necessary to lose weight. It’s mostly about diet. You can’t put exercise a bad diet, so don’t stress too much about that. It’s totally understandable that if you’re going through a stressful time in life, you can gain weight. It’s ridiculously easy to gain weight in our modern world.

I lost 20 lbs of the baby weight last time by tracking my food in MyFitnessPal and not eating anything after dinner. I have found that “rule” helped my calories stay on track. Even if I ate more dinner because I was hungry, as long as I wasn’t snacking after dinner, I still lost weight. If you do need to eat more, eating an extra serving of chicken and broccoli at dinner time vs lots of snacks after dinner is way better. Going to bed early helps a LOT with this, and the extra sleep will have huge benefits for you in other ways too. Good luck!

pieorstrudel5 · 2023-07-12T11:42:14+00:00

Before I give food advice.... What does your fitness routine look like?

scarletcapsule · 2023-07-12T20:17:00+00:00

Take a refeed week (not a cheat week) with lots of protein and healthier variants of your favourite foods. You are in "food focus" due to prolonged undereating. Don't ignore this mental signal. Getting out of that mental state is only possible when the body feels full. Eat at maintenance for about a week.

Like others have said, it's important to start resistance training to not lose muscle along with fat. Measuring your food intake with myfitnesspal and a food scale will help you cook tasty food that fuel your body and sates your appetite.

SunshineSundress · 2023-07-12T16:25:52+00:00

First of all, congrats on losing the 50 pounds! That’s amazing progress, and our weight fluctuates so gaining 5 pounds back is not the end of the world at all!

If your issue is impulse control and hunger, then these are just some small tips. I’d suggest not having unhealthy snacks around at all that would tempt you when you get really hungry but you have actually already had enough during lunch or dinner or whatever. For me, when they’re out of sight, they’re out of mind, and when I do get hungry, I have to go make myself something like a big bowl of plain yogurt with fruits or cut up some veggies for my hummus. Portion control is a lot easier for me when I’m preparing the entire snack myself, whereas if you leave me alone with a family sized bag of chips… I probably wouldn’t be able to stop myself. I find that the time it takes me to prepare a snack or a meal helps make me less ravenous as well.

If it’s impossible for you not to have snacks around because you have kiddos or for whatever reason, I’d suggest looking for something that you can have at a high volume but for low calories. If you’re American, something like the Trader Joe’s Corn Puffs are like 130 calories for 70 pieces!! So you can have a big bowl and munch on it slowly, which satiates your hunger cues more than something that you eat quickly, for negligible calories!

I think it also helps to know your hunger cues cycle and how it corresponds to your lifestyle. I am rarely hungry in the mornings to early afternoon at all, so an 16/8 intermittent fasting diet (where I still end up eating my maintenance calories or at a slight deficit) works really well for me because I’m not hungry at that time anyways and can start my first meal at around 2-4pm without much thought. But I am ALWAYS hungry and looking for a snack at around 7-8pm no matter what I eat before, so if I structured my fast in a way that meant I ate everything early in the day, I would be absolutely miserable from 7pm to the rest of the night. It also works best with my work schedule that way, because I don’t have to wake up super early to prepare breakfast before work, and eating around 3pm gets me energized enough to go lift weights at around 6pm.

basedviet · 2023-07-13T22:35:35+00:00

Look at the video on YouTube called Hormonally Respectful Weight-loss. I would start with prioritizing protein, that will help satiate some of your cravings. Aside from that, it might not be the right season to add more stress to your body and right now might be a maintenance season. Good luck and great job at losing the 50.

tam1499 · 2023-07-14T05:43:52+00:00

Make it your identity, not a goal that you have to achieve. Eat healthy because you’re a person that enjoys nourishing your body and doesn’t overeat because you listen to your body. Idk, only thing that works for me with dieting is not thinking of it as a diet but just assuming a new identity lol. Also, others have mentioned this already but intermittent fasting is amazing for controlling cravings and I’m also anemic too and I don’t feel like my energy is lacking. I find that when I skip breakfast, I’m not thinking about my next meal all day and have way less mental fog plus more energy in the morning. I usually eat 2 meals a day (lunch and dinner) with maybe a snack in between and black coffee in the morning and just make sure that I get in the right number of calories and macros. Try to have something high in protein for your first week too! Good luck, you got this! xoxo

redskittles3605 · 2023-07-12T16:33:51+00:00

Have you tried Intermittent Fasting? It’s been a miracle for me (36f) and I don’t have to count calories. I wish I had known about it when I was younger.

The biggest thing is skipping breakfast and not eating late. But you try and eat all your food in as small of a window as possible. Like you can start out eating your food in an 8 hour window and then maybe move to a 4 hour window then maybe eventually OMAD (one meal a day). When I do OMAD, I lose almost a pound per day (and you can pretty much eat whatever you want in your one meal)

I use an app called Life to track my fasting hours. I turn it on after I eat my last meal of the day and then just go as long as I can the following day without eating.

There’s an intermittent fasting subreddit where you can see people’s results if you’re interested

Jenneapolis · 2023-07-12T16:51:46+00:00

r/Volumeeating may help you. I know you know how to lose weight but when I feel like this, that I just need to eat, I will eat large portions of low cal food - steamed broccoli, carrots, onions, strawberries, rice cakes, veggie soups, grilled chicken, cottege cheese. Eventually you will get full. Do this for a while until you get your confidence back and THEN you can go back into more of the strict CICO mode.

Also distraction, distraction, distraction. If I am doing nothing, I notice hunger. I have to keep myself busy, even if it's just doing errands, cleaning the house or other home projects, reading at a park, napping - anything that is not sitting by my kitchen and thinking about what I could eat.

FriendCountZero · 2023-07-12T17:24:56+00:00

There is tons of good, practical advice here so I'll just add the two cents that made the difference for me personally.

1) distance from my toxic family who I didn't even know were toxic until well after I moved away and... 2) getting off the birth control pill

queen-kitsch · 2023-07-14T22:32:25+00:00

Thanks you for posting this. I am trying to figure it out as well. I hate being so fat. My friends are all smaller than me and I am trying not to resent them for it

mistressusa · 2023-07-12T15:05:20+00:00

What worked for me was to minimize temptations -- no "bad" food in your environment. This starts with very disciplined grocery shopping. Make a list and stick to it. Obviously nothing bad for your diet goes on that list. Also make sure you are full(ish) when you go grocery shopping. Studies show (and I personally can attest) that shopping hungry makes junk food feel irresistible.

Sometimes I get cravings for junk, but the thought of having to put on a jacket and drive to the store... I always end up just having an apple and call it a day lol

Yougotmetripping · 2023-07-12T21:59:20+00:00

IF and very low carb did it for me. I never felt hungry, my brain fog lifted and I had a lot more energy.

Carbs really do turn to sugar in the body. Your body doesn't need sugar.

anna_alabama · 2023-07-12T13:57:29+00:00

Have you looked into Wegovy? I’ve lost 46 pounds in 4 months on it.

princess_mothra · 2023-07-12T14:30:39+00:00

MyFitnessPal is what I recommend. The free version itself is immensely useful. Very easy to track your calories, can scan barcodes, you put in your weight/height/activity level and goals and it tells you how many calories you need to eat. If you don’t exercise this is especially useful because it will tell you how many calories you can consume that will still allow you to lose weight even if you didn’t move a muscle.

Track everything you consume. Measure everything. Invest in a food scale and use your measuring spoons/cups. Don’t eyeball your creamer or the amount of cream cheese you are smearing on your bagel (I definitely am guilty of these). I think just being aware of your calories and how it aligns with your calorie goal makes you much more conscious of your decisions and will make you hesitate to eat excessively.

angelicasinensis · 2023-07-12T15:48:11+00:00

Personally I don’t eat processed foods, rice, gluten, sugar, go out to eat and only eat organic or local food- basically I have to be really hungry and actually make real food- can’t eat snack foods really and have to cook healthy meals to eat so I don’t overeat.

AutoModerator · 2023-07-12T11:36:00+00:00

Title: Help me stop eating!

Full text: I have lost 50 pounds. I need to lose 50 more. I was serious at the start of the year and dropped 15 pounds easily. Around March/April I lost all motivation. I’ve been dealing with burnout and exhaustion (anemia on top of managing a home, working, and taking care of my mom w/cancer).

I was maintaining, but now I have to be honest with myself that I gained 5 pounds back. But I am 1) feeling constantly hungry and 2) have zero motivation/drive/ability to restrain myself from eating. The moment I even think “okay this is my meal plan today”, my anxiety goes up and I seriously nearly panic about the idea of restricting my eating.

I guess if anything it feels like one more thing I have to be controlling at managing and it feels like one too many things for me to do.

I was on fire in January to March. Walking daily, tracking calories… Nothing felt like it could stop me. Now its as if I’ve hit a brick wall. The panic this morning of standing on the scale and having to be totally honest about where I am is overwhelming.

It has taken me nearly 4 years to lose the 50. I would love to not take another 4 years. At the rate I was going, I could easily lose it over the next year (or less). I felt great. I felt great about my body. Now… not so much.

Ladies, I know many of you are health minded and prioritize taking care of your bodies. I need your wisdom please ❤️

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Direct-Ad-5394 · 2023-07-12T23:59:21+00:00

I need help with that too. I'm overweight after the loss of my sibling last year due to covid. And now I have to loose weight. Where do I start:(

ResponsibleUmpire752 · 2023-07-13T01:13:01+00:00

I successfully lost weight with Weight Watchers. You can do it in-person or online. You learn lifelong healthy eating and exercise habits. Highly recommend. Hope this or one of the other suggestions here works for you!

Ruffleafewfeathers · 2023-07-13T03:26:42+00:00

I highly recommend making veggies and fruits your “free” food (minus grains and starches). If you are hungry, load up on fruits and vegetables. It’s what I do when I need to lose weight and it works super well for me.

Unusual_Marzipan887 · 2023-07-13T04:40:00+00:00

This isn’t healthy, but for quick weight loss results have 2x coffees in the mornings with low fat milk (I had oat) to reduce breakfast appetite. And I would also have a healthy protein smoothie with hemp, flax and chia seeds, Maca powder, medicinal mushroom powder, natural peanut butter, cacao (NOT COCOA! There’s a big nutritional difference aha) and protein powder, sometimes I’d add my coffee in there. The calories of my smoothie were around 400-450. And I’d just have smaller dinners and lunches. I lost about ~10kg doing this for 2-3 months. Just focus on portion control and low cals/high protein. And one thing I failed at when I did that diet was not enough fiber - which our gut micro biome NEEDS. So please have plenty of fruit and veg ❤️ Good luck ❤️

d033y35 · 2023-07-13T00:03:06+00:00

Can I ask what your macros currently look like?

Title	Help me stop eating!
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