Any Of Your Ex Wives Lives Get Worse After The Divorce? Tell Us The Story.

turbospeedsc · 2023-07-15T16:07:57+00:00

1st wife got the best version of me, in a way both of our lives went down a lot, but she did get the worst part.

We live in Mexico for context, minimum wage down here is about USD $1 per hour.

We had a very decent life even for US standards, 2 nice cars, 2 business, I had a up and coming career in politics.

She went from living in a beach front house, wearing ugg boots, $500 sunglasses, Burberry watches, to living in a Mexican slum in less than 2 years.

She kept most of the stuff including one of the business, she spent and sold everything in less than a year with one of her boyfriends, ended up loosing custody of both of her daughters (one was mine), selling her clothes in a flea market.

While it sounds satisfying on paper, in real life it affects everyone my kid was very affected by the whole thing, literally I had to rescue her, things got so bad that I got emergency custody in 24hrs, my daughter was 15 lbs underweight, malnourished etc.

The fantasy of seeing the ex end up with a shitty life is not as cool in real life if there are kids involved.

DicksOut4Edamame · 2023-07-15T15:41:52+00:00

Nah. She’s still with her monkey branch, who seems to be a decent dude with a good head on his shoulders. My kid loves him too. Karma isn’t real and cheating doesn’t always come around. You can cheat and come out ok or even great.

Ah well, my life has improved in every way but romantically, so it isn’t all bad

Lumptbuttcat · 2023-07-15T16:29:42+00:00

Summary of ex wife’s accomplishments

During first 13 years of marriage: - Raised 2 wonderful kids - Pursuing college degree - Beautiful home - Fulfilling part-time job - Loving husband

Last 3 Years: - Affair (Dumped by AP) - Blew entire DV settlement via AP - Small apartment - No longer pursuing degree - Laid off, now new FT job she hates - In therapy & on meds

FightersNeverQuit · 2023-07-15T19:01:58+00:00

Mine did. She went from a great mom with great career and solid moral compass to an absolute shit show.

She’s turned into a being a serial cheater, liar, and alcoholic. She’s been to rehab and struggled with alcohol and drugs. She lost a great paying job. She’s strung a guy along for years that she claimed was “just a friend” while she dated others. He was basically living there with my kids yet holding themselves out as “just friends”. My kids came home one day and they guy was living there. She didn’t even talked to them about him.

She has been telling lies about my new wife and I for years even going so far as telling my wife’s ex husband (who’s a bit on the crazy side) that we had been in a years long affair prior to our divorces (total lie). My wife and I met years after our divorces were final.

She’s lost custody of both our kids (I have them full time now). Neither want to even talk to her. It’s really sad what she’s become. She will be broke in a few months and have to sell her house. No telling what will happen then.

There’s so much more to this story I just can’t go into. To all the divorce men out there, there are happy endings after all. I’m so thankful I’m married to the woman that I am now.

Patriot0811 · 2023-07-15T20:44:53+00:00

Ex wife left me essentially because I was fat. She thought she could do better.

She ended up packing on a good 30lbs+ and ended up with another fat guy that looks like he smells (seems like a nice dude though) - I lost 100lbs, got jacked, got promoted and get dates with some pretty good looking women that I would have never imagined in my life getting.

henrysmyagent · 2023-07-16T00:48:11+00:00

She got fat, her looks faded, and the level of simps she could pull dropped precipitously after the divorce.

Now she lives with a pot-addled loser and his mother who owns the mobile home they all live in. He mows lawns and does odd jobs. She refuses to work full-time as that is "what the man is supposed to do."

The kids are grown and avoid her vortex of bullshit.

She knows I have money, and bitches to mutual friends about the gifts I give and vacations I take my kids on.

She could have come along for the ride if she had kept her panties on, but how can I compete with hot sex with hobos in the alley behind the pub?

jimsmythee · 2023-07-15T18:50:14+00:00

My exwife. Her life totally sucks now.

She had to move in With her parents after her “husband after me” left her after 6 months.

rhett342 · 2023-07-16T00:28:09+00:00

Of course her life got worse, she lost me!

Braves_Birds1985 · 2023-07-15T20:00:04+00:00

She blew her settlement money on a vacation that she claimed she needed to get away from everything. She lost the place she was living and now in her late 30s she is back in her parents home

She continues to ask I pay more than what was ordered (half of children’s day care/after school care) but my lawyer has been by my side the entire time and I haven’t paid a dime more that what was agreed on.

It did suck watching everything unfold for our children but they are happy they get to be with their grandparents mostly in our joint custody. Luckily I still have a great friendship with both her parents so that helps me mentally out knowing their are very much cared for while they are not with me.

Classic-Ad8157 · 2023-07-15T15:39:13+00:00

Following

overarmur · 2023-07-16T03:04:58+00:00

Truthfully I don't really know. I try not to interact with her at all unless it's about the kids.

dadplup · 2023-07-16T18:35:57+00:00

I think it did

After almost 19 years of marriage I made her leave the house when her second affair was discover, she made my life hell for the next 2 months, she already had the 2 boys when we met they were 6yo and 10 mon we had a daughter together

After she left the house, she found out that her ap was not who he said it was and didn't want to play daddy to kids that were not his, so they broke up, she lost her job and couldn't pay her rent or bills, (her landlord called me asking me to pay for her), she got served with the divorce papers and the temporary hearing summons the same day , the heading was a virtual hearing all she had to do was log in to zoom and that was it, she didn't show up to court so I got a default judgment on custody for our daughter and she was put on cs that I never expected her to pay and she didn't

the following week she left her apartment in the middle of the night with what she could carry with her, she was about to get evicted, went to live with my oldest stepson who he is 27 now in Indiana, the middle boy who is special needs and 21 now was left in a group home in Texas, after months of looking for him we found him and he was in the hospital with covid, I contacted her thru her brother and she called me but yelled at me for being involved I ended the call soon after it but told her not to yell at me, she sent her parents to pick him up a couple of months later he went to live with his gp in Illinois

Not sure what happened but she got in to an argument with the eldest and his gf demanded she leave their house, she went to Illinois to get parents, she claims she got sick and was hospitalized and was out of work, her mother demanded whatever money she had for rent regardless if she had it or not, nex got kicked out of their house too

Up until a couple of weeks ago she was living in a woman's shelter and middle boy (mb)was in the men's shelter, things got worse for them though I feel bad for it but that changed when she called me last month only to yell more at me when I didn't take it and fought back she hung up on me, mb is currently in police custody as she filed charges against him, not sure what she's doing now but she was saying that she had a boyfriend that was a policeman, tbh I believe nothing she says as I know she said things to rub it in, and mock me, to provoke me

The last picture I saw of her she looks so sickly, much older than she used to I used to tell her " just because I'm not getting along with you it doesn't mean I want you to go hungry, I just don't want you sitting at my table"

The last thing is this she blocked and didn't communicate or enforced her visitations with my daughter for a year and a half. She started talking to her 2 months ago and was trying to spin things, claiming I did everything she did when my daughter called her on it she got mad again and now has officially been blocked again

It seems like she been isolated from her family idk I hope she gets out of it by herself because I won't do it for her anymore

Ncfc48 · 2023-07-15T18:50:28+00:00

Yes ex wife obviously got dumped by her friends husband our neighbours she tried to monkey branch oh sorry "JUST FRIENDS!" I did want you should do in this situation hard gym training even better dad although was so close to my son already smashing work etc she obviously tries hinting flirting with apparently hot ex husband her friends words not mine! and other females wanted to take her place! no apology no accountability as usual but the work i put in my self esteem and confidence had shot up so I was able to walk the other way even though I badly deep down wanted to go back as a family but never ever do that so yes I had revenge as such She is now a struggling single mum of 48 all the best guys

jkw118 · 2023-07-16T14:25:57+00:00

So far my exs life is alot worse.

So 3 kids, descent size house.. okay life.. she caused most of the drama and essentially was queen.. and treated me and the kids crappy more then good. But it was manageable. She was like 300lbs, because she wouldnt take care of herself.. got gastric bypass Good times and bad.

She had a bunch of medical issues, i stood by her.. then she left. Was better for half a year... but still lota issues. Now she borderlines 90lbs and for the past month is existing off of chicken broth and coffee. And will probably end up in the hospital again soon.

She met a guy got engaged all within 2 months, were about to get married and he was starting to see alot of her issues.. he left.

Im leaving out alot of the mess but you get the idea.

Me and the kids r okay, and are better off.

mrg1957 · 2023-07-24T03:52:23+00:00

Mine was mentally ill and went to shit. She showed me the bullet holes in her house where she tried to shoot her new boyfriend.

Title	Any Of Your Ex Wives Lives Get Worse After The Divorce? Tell Us The Story.
Author	AlmostThere22
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Date	July 15, 2023 3:22 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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