Men: what makes you want a woman?

Gtedx · 2023-08-13T23:32:58+00:00

I need to find you sexually attractive
Pretty much same as 1
I can go many directions with this one, I would say mainly you need the first two, but I need to enjoy your company outside of sex. I need to actually enjoy speaking to you and I need to really respect you as a human being and that involves having a broad set of different qualities which is rare.

The men here who say stuff like ‘’just be hot and 19 that’s all there is to it’’ are usually super deprived men with very low standards and no options. No self respecting man of any substance chooses a life partner based off such basic criteria.

KlutzyJewelers · 2023-08-13T20:33:36+00:00

My standards are simple:

#1 - don't be fat

#2 - she has to like me

I don't care about her ability to deepthroat or her career.

wtknight · 2023-08-13T20:28:20+00:00

a) I don't and didn't do hookups

b) I don't and didn't do FWBs

c) Mainly I like an attractive woman who has a pleasant personality and who I can have intelligent conversations with. I'm not that picky.

KingWhoCared86 · 2023-08-13T21:04:11+00:00

So my grandmother, mother, and sister stop bugging me to get married.

As of now I’m not actively looking for a relationship because I just don’t have that internal drive to want one. I have this one friend that I really enjoy being around a lot who has a bubbly personality and generally plays off my more cynical sense of humor with her playful style. We always do random stuff together and she someone gets me to go to places I had normally no interest in. She was very helpful with my getting out of my introverted shell. So if I were to start dating I’d like it to be someone like her.

Firm_Shirt_2553 · 2023-08-13T21:23:43+00:00

Is alive
Is female
Is not fat

MarBitt · 2023-08-13T21:16:33+00:00

A)
I am sexually attracted, so usually she is my type, has nice body and face, smells good, I like her voice and she doesn't repel me with her behavior.
B)
+ Repeated sex with her is still fun. I like spending time with her. I have friendly relations with her. She is generally interesting.
C)
++ Many things. I have to really enjoy spending a lot of time with her and we can't get on each other's nerves. We must have high compatibility in opinions, character, goals. We must manage to build love between us.

Hellknightx31 · 2023-08-13T22:29:49+00:00

Don't have a large body count. Decent looks. Not a whale. And desire me.

DerayRevan · 2023-08-13T20:40:35+00:00

For me

Physically attractive

Nice personality

Wants to please me

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SlowEffective8146 · 2023-08-13T21:03:37+00:00

A) Just not overweight. That's literally it. My standards for a hookup aren't high at all.

B) Same as above, but the sex is good. As in she's very giving, and we're compatible.

C) Needs to be as attractive as me or better, low bodycount, submissive, giving (in and out of bed), college educated is not necessary but a plus, and we need to have meshing personalities.

Correct-Warthog-9061 · 2023-08-13T21:35:49+00:00

1.pretty smile

tired_hillbilly · 2023-08-13T22:56:44+00:00

A: nothing

B: nothing

C: Not fat. Likes me. No stupid debts that I'll end up responsible for. Debt in general isn't a problem, as long as it's not stupid. Took out a student loan to study a promising subject? That's fine. Ran up ~$20k in credit card debt? Not fine. Wants kids.

Ayaka_Simp_ · 2023-08-13T23:05:09+00:00

A) a hookup

Attractive
Attracted to me
DTF

B) casual sex as a FWB like situation

Same as above + we get along / are friendly.

C) a long term relationship?

Same as above + a lot of other stuff.

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2023-08-13T23:49:19+00:00

Kindness, empathy, loyalty. Not into hook ups.

Suspicious-Bed-2717 · 2023-08-14T00:13:11+00:00

Weights less than me 2.loves me 3. No highly dysfunctional lifestyle

passportbro999 · 2023-08-14T00:19:40+00:00

For women, I want healthy/average weight or a little curvy is fine too. I have a preference for asian women due to shared values / culinary tastes.

Love language must be touch and sex. Food is also great.

For relationship pattern, I have found the best pattern is an FWB that then later turns into a relationship. This way you guarantee a woman respects, admires, and desires you while sex is already in play.

ta06012022 · 2023-08-14T00:34:07+00:00

A) a hookup, B) casual sex as a FWB like situation, C) a long term relationship?

A. In a hookup situation, she needs to be hot because it's nothing but physical. Next most important thing is that she's my "type" which is sort of co-mingled with the attractiveness thing. Also needs to be decently fun enough to spend an evening with.

B. I don't really do FWB. I've had some hookups that turned into a series of hookups for a short time, so I guess the criteria is the same as a ONS.

C. In a relationship, she needs to clear the looks threshold. Attraction is an absolute must, but looks are a little less important and other traits are much more important than they are in a casual situation. Personality, education, goals, beliefs, etc. all matter.

RandomRedditGuy322 · 2023-08-14T00:38:25+00:00

no fatties, be interested in me, and be a pleasant person.

social_mules_alt · 2023-08-14T01:37:26+00:00

A) a hookup

Be attractive.

B) casual sex as a FWB like situation

Be attractive, sane and pleasant to be around.

C) a long term relationship?

Not into LTRs.

cast-away-ramadi06 · 2023-08-14T02:15:13+00:00

I've stopped with the hookups and fwb. It's LTR or nothing for me.

She has to want kids, be physically fit (I've been lifting for over 15yrs, got good #s, and run half marathons), roughly in the top 10% of intelligence, calm, caring, kind, patient, be roughly on par with me economically speaking, medium-high degree of adventurousness, high in coonscientiousness, low in neuroticism, medium-to-high in openness, and somewhere around the median in agreeableness (I don't want a pushover)I don't care about race or ethnic background, height, breast size, etc. I prefer natural hair, nails, and no cosmetic procedures.

If she's got all that going on and she's peaceful to be around, I'd be very interested.

Ag116797 · 2023-08-14T07:01:29+00:00

For A and B, I don't care about her dreams, desires, and goals. For A, she just needs to be hot. For B, she needs to be hot and have a fun attitude. For C, I care about her looks, her opinions, values, abilities, and goals. Personally, I don't like the B category. I like hookups that are continuous with no friendship involved I just want sex then they leave I don't have an interest in having a friendship with an ongoing fuck buddy. So it's just A and C.

GodspeedHarmonica · 2023-08-14T09:27:28+00:00

A) I don't do hookups so I don't know

B) Attractiveness, good energy from her personality. Great sex

C) She has her life in order and I'm in love and all of the above

not-a-dude-at-all · 2023-08-14T11:43:47+00:00

I never looked for a woman with specific goal in mind, you never know who you'll find and how far relationships will go. 1. Kind. 2. Shared interests. 3. Interested in sex. 4. Easy to be around.

princedune · 2023-08-14T14:41:32+00:00

I'm only interested in a long term relationship. For that the most important things to me are

1) nice to me

2) not fat

3) not promiscuous

4) focused on the long term, not instant gratification

AlmostKindaGreat · 2023-08-14T18:37:07+00:00

Across the board:

7+ in looks, maybe a 6 with something interesting to me - to me a 10 doesn't excite me much more than a 7; I'm either attracted or not (FYI, these are realistic standards for me)
Passionate and adventurous sexually

Hookup - No additional items to the list

FWB

Above list, plus...
At least fairly Intelligent, interesting, and a good conversationalist
Kind, with somewhat similar values to me
Respectful with me (as I am with her)

LTR

FWB list, plus...
Curious about the world
Successful professionally or has developed other talents/passions (I can't relate to people who don't do something interesting with their lives)
Humble
Loyal - if I'm getting into an LTR I will be giving all-out, "ride or die" loyalty and I can't accept anything less

Chemical_Major_1403 · 2023-08-14T20:47:56+00:00

Submissive/ cute / love giving bj

AdComprehensive6588 · 2023-08-15T04:50:45+00:00

Looks:

Don’t really care, obese is obviously a problem but if you ain’t obese then you ain’t a problem. Race is irrelevant.

Attitude:

Just be Loyal, and all the traits that it comes with. Typically Loyalty requires traits that are inherently good for a relationship like caring and being emphatic to your partner.

I like a religious women as well personally though I don’t mind dating outside my faith.

Abilities: She either works or can take care of the house, either one is fine.

I just like hanging around and being lazy with someone after a day.

jamalzia · 2023-08-15T07:28:54+00:00

For hook ups I'm pretty open to whatever lol, but certain personality traits can definitely be a turn off. I throw FWB relationships in this category as well, neither of which I think I want to indulge in anyway.

For long term, your basic standards: fit, sexually attractive (to me), lovely, warm personality, good family relations, and overall just a good person.

My more unique expectation is I would like to find someone who has a certain wisdom about her. Not necessarily intelligent, but an eagerness to understanding.

Workaholiconew · 2023-08-15T16:12:09+00:00

She has to not be too much of a cost or danger for me
She has to be sexually satisfying
She has to not be too much of a bother and nuisance
She has to be reasonable
She has to be loyal

A) 1 and 2

B) 1 and 2

C) 1 through 5

lagartito1 · 2023-08-16T21:28:16+00:00

A brain… and reasonably good looks 😊

2023-08-18T17:18:23+00:00

Fit
Feminine
Friendly
Fun
Family oriented

Title	Men: what makes you want a woman?
Author	Mobile-Aioli-454
Upvotes	27
Comments	79
Date	August 13, 2023 9:53 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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