The last photo

Melynthos1492 · 2023-08-12T08:14:15+00:00

Don’t stay friends. The wife usually wants this so she gets most of benefits of marriage while banging other men

Apprehensive-Cost496 · 2023-08-12T05:30:11+00:00

Sorry to hear man but the ILYBNILWY line is always used when they cheat. Its not your fault at all, head hugh and move forward!

lyricbaritone2 · 2023-08-12T07:09:08+00:00

Understand that women today are community property. They are not able to make longterm commitments as in for life as their feelings change. Get what you can while you can and understand she waa never yours. It was just your turn.

keencone · 2023-08-12T08:19:18+00:00

This hit home my man, on so many levels.
Impactful.
Way to put it out there, that might as well be me. To be in an epic place like that with your family while going through this shit just completely changes the entire experience.
And there she’s just there smiling like everything is fabulous. Insanity

potatotornado44 · 2023-08-12T13:44:02+00:00

From my experience, the “I still wanna be friends” and “show everyone that we can be peaceful together“ is all about preserving her self image in front of her family and friends.

It is also a manipulative tactic to control you.

After my ex told me, her final decision has been made, and she wanted a divorce She started explaining to me in a happy sing-song voice about how things were going to be afterward.

I listened for a few minutes, but then she saw the look on my face and paused midsentence. I told her “I’m not doing any of that, as a matter of fact I’m breaking up with you”

I told her that divorce is a legal process, but myself breaking up with her is ending our relationship, I don’t love her anymore, and everything I gave to her over the years, I’m going to take back as much as I can. That she’s on her own, and I’m going to find what makes me happy.

As you might imagine, that didn’t go over very well. From that point on, she was distant, angry, and trashed me to everyone she knew. I couldn’t care less.

All of her goodwill toward me was a lie, just to preserve her own narcissistic self image, and I wasn’t having any of it.

We are still civil, and we both keep the best interests of the kids in mind, but as far as she goes I am 100% done with her.

Best of luck to your brother, but don’t let her keep you trapped in her web. Go out and live your life, find joy, find someone who truly appreciates you. You deserve it.

DizcoMafia · 2023-08-12T05:21:20+00:00

Stay strong Bro.

DocHolliday80 · 2023-08-12T08:04:55+00:00

Sorry this is happening to you. Having to play happy family sucks.

Anyway, don’t rub salt in your wounds looking at old memories, photos… and such. Just get it over with, give yourself time to recover and try to live a good life.

Bipolar_investor · 2023-08-12T05:19:17+00:00

🤜🤛

henrysmyagent · 2023-08-12T19:35:29+00:00

Never give her your friendship. It is entirely for her benefit. She wants to tell people that her abandonment of your marriage isn't that bad, "See, we are still friends!"

She is utterly unworthy of your friendship. Make sure all of your friends and family know that.

Lumpy-Prior3261 · 2023-08-12T08:23:37+00:00

So what is the reason behind the divorce there has to be done thing that made this happen your wife checked out for some thing people just don't come out and say I'm done

captainchippsixx · 2023-08-12T12:35:47+00:00

Sorry man. Yeah that timeline she pushed says she has a guy already unfortunately. Don’t be friends. Absolutely!

NoConcentrate4186 · 2023-08-12T16:06:03+00:00

Seems like you have a good mindset and your soon to be ex wife has her head up her own a.. Divorce and try to keep it amicable, work on yourself as a man and move forward. Invest in yourself and don’t think about the memories of your old family because it does not exist anymore. Your spouse is probably banging some guy and your making videos. Good luck

riserobotrise · 2023-08-12T12:11:50+00:00

We all have those, brother. What is important for you to remember now is that it probably wont be too long before you have a 'first photo' with someone new. Hang in there brother.

Imsosadsoveryverysad · 2023-08-12T16:29:50+00:00

Been there man. The exact same thing down to taking stock of the last photos and videos. Feel terrible for my kids. They did nothing to deserve this but their mom made her choice. All I’ve done from that day on is be there for them. At this point, if my kids end up in therapy, I’ll be damned if it’s for daddy issues.

Kueballphil · 2023-08-13T00:13:28+00:00

So sorry. The only saving grace for is I waited for my youngest to turn 18.

Rollercoaster72 · 2023-08-16T19:59:04+00:00

Thanks for all answers!

Fyi

I didn't want to hurt her too much by sending this video without me as a last message before I would block her number.

Many friends told me I shouldn't send it. Still I wanted her to see it so I did it controlled.

There was an opertunity this morning (3 days before she is leaving and going nc from me).

She huged me early in the morning, very long, and said she doesn't know if this is all right. I said: it is a huge mistake, it went way to quick and we are throwing away half of our live.

Then I told her about the existence of the video and explained before I showed it that I am angry and I made this in the holiday and found this is all a kind of bad movie and it is the way I felt (still feel)... I also told her that I want her to see it but not to hit her with it in her face as a last kick in the back as I had planed.

She watched it controlled till the last 2 sentences came and suddendly came feeling like a vulcane explosive of tears/cry, but it was controlled within 5 seconds it was gone again. Some smaller tears fell but that was it.. She said well it is good. As if in it does what it should have done..

A bit later I asked if she wanted to have it, she obviously didn't know and was uncertain but said yes at the end...

Whatever... I am kind of really stressed at the moment and I really would prefer to fastforward to sunday, the first day were she will be gone for good.

Title	The last photo
Author	Rollercoaster72
Upvotes	29
Comments	51
Date	August 12, 2023 4:38 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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